Living Arrangements After the Wedding

[momentum]

talagang nakakainis na mga sis, kaya ganito na ako .. 
sis, hindi na ata madadaan sa usapan..ilang beses ko na itong inopen..un na nga eh, nagasawa pa diba?
hays...kaya nga parang nagdadalawang isip na ako sa marriage namin, kasi bukod dito may iba pang problema..feeling ko nasa akin lahat ng bagsak ng major decisions, sakin lahat ng diskarte..

sorry, OT na ata dahil sakin..paxenxa na kau 
I just feel that this dream of mine ay magiging reality nalang kapag kami lang ng anak ko nalang.
Ayoko kasi na sa akin lang siya aasa parati at ako lang may determination. i don't want to be taken advantage of..bahala na si God

[sistah!]

when my husband and i got married, we moved into our own house. it was a gift from my parents. yun nga lang, it was a huge adjustment for me because he tends to be a slob sometimes. so nakakainis kasi wala naman kami maid. talagang kailangan magsungit ako para maisip nya na ligpitin ang gamit nya. now that i'm pregnant, we decided to move back in with my parents. mahirap kasi kumuha ng yaya and we really need the help. baka manganak ako at pareho kaming walang alam sa pag-aalaga ng bata. ok na rin sakin. syempre parents ko yun. i will never move in with my in laws so buti na lang madali din na-convince ang asawa ko na bumalik sa amin.

[patriciaheart]

mga sis, getting married in a week here at na didissapoint ako. naggets ko [textspeak!] point ni sis momentum, hirap, ikaw na nga babae, ikaw pa dumidiskarte.. parang yan [textspeak!] nagyayari smin. kung di lang naninigas tyan ko eh (kasi 6 mos preg ako) di ako mag leave sa work at makakaipon para sa monthly rent etc..

[kiz_me1109]

In our case we are living with his parents house. Wala naman akong naging problem while living with in laws. Maybe I am just lucky na mabait sila. They treat me as their own child kahit pa noong mag bg/gf palang kami. There was just a little adjustment with his sister since hindi naman kami close dati. But we are in good terms and she was also nice. :-) Being a wife I have to submit myself to my husband and tanggapin kung ano lang ang kaya namin for now. We have a 2 year old toddler so mas convinient if we live with his Parents. Why?

1. We both work. And since we leave our son sa yaya niya, it's much better kung merong naiiwan sa bahay to look after them. Mahirap kasi na iwan nalang basta sa yaya yung bata.

2. His father cooks for us kasi nga busy kami pareho ni hubby. So malaking tulong din yun sa amin.

3. We already tried renting a place in Makati pero hindi ko nakayanan. Iba talaga yung nakatira ka sa bahay and hindi sa isang maliit na apartment lang. Dati, we live in an apartment with his Tita. Pero nahirapan din ako so we decided to go back to Cavite with his parents.

Hubby wants to move to Iloilo naman since malaki naman yung house namin. Kaso, sa hindi ko maipaliwanag na dahilan e ayaw ko dun. I want to be with my family also but not moving their for good. I don't want to cause any burden to my family kasi I already have my own. Plus, I didnt have a good childhood life there. So parang umiiwas na ako. Hindi ko lang masabi sa husband ko. :-)

We will be having our church wedding next year and we are thinking of buying the house beside his parents house. Duplex kasi yung house nila and hindi pa nagagamit ng Tita niya yung bahay sa kabila. At least, If dun kami, we will have our own place pero andun parin sa kabilang house lang ang parents niya to look after our son kapag nasa work kami. :-)

[patriciaheart]

^ sis u have a point. ang priority namin ngayon is si baby, kahit ano pang hiya o ano dapat tiisin kasi aminado ako ngayon kaya ko mag renta pero mauubos din ang fuel dahil naka leave ako sa work, dahil rin naman tumitigas tyan ko sa stress.. no work no pay, sabihin na nating may savings pero di rin tatagal dahil is h2b eh haging pa ang work opportunity at most defiinitely ayoko ng umalis sha paibambansa na hinde kami kasama.

[geekchiq]

agree din ako sa point ni sis kiz_me1109. kasi i got pregnant before getting married. am 7 mos preggy now, and since first baby, i only know few things about newborn care. tsaka may takot din, so best decision for us to stay with my mom since she's usually alone lang sa bahay. tsaka para may kinalilibangan na siya. i don't want to get yaya sa first year ni baby, i feel safer with my mom taking care of my little one. but of course, there are times na asa mga in-laws din kami, which is fine with me since am close naman with them.

but of course, we are still saving up money for our house, siguro in 3 years. at that time, siguro i'll be ok na with a yaya.

[jesrora]

hi guys, finally we have our own place (we rent lang ha) and been living in it for the past 6 months? we have our stuff together na, complete. most of them hand-me-downs from my mom and my old room but we were able to purchase some items na like aircon, air cooler, ref, tv, pc.. etc. and have a some savings.

nakakatakot sa umpisa yung gastos pero kung iisipin ko nga naman masgusto kong gamitin sa pamilya ko yung pera ko at magkasama na kami with our place of our own rather than maimbyerna with in laws and own family/relatives. naexperience ko at napatunayan na hindi maaring 2 ang reyna ng isang tahanan. mahirap makisama!!

so kahit i dont have my savings anymore i am happy and contented. ^_^

[izabelle]

^ nice sis.. mas malaki talaga gastos kapag nag sosolo.. iba din ang pagbubudget.. pero sarap sa feeling eh.. kasi you have your own rules. walang makikielam at pwede gawin kahit ano.

[ishko]

sis, kaloka si hubby mo.. bumalik sa nanay nya..

kung ako sa iyo, magplan ako para sa sarili at lalo na para kay baby.. mag-effort ka na magkabahay kahit wala si hubby... wag mo na siyang pansinin, basta isipin mo lang si baby na dapat may bahay para sa kanya 

[jesrora]

^ilan beses na din sa loob ng isang taon bumalik ang hubby ko sa nanay nya, ang ending babalik din samin kapag nagaway naman sila ng nanay nya. di ko na iniistress kasi sino ba mapapagod pabalik balik hakot ng gamit nya diba?

[patriciaheart]

hi guys, finally we have our own place (we rent lang ha) and been living in it for the past 6 months? we have our stuff together na, complete. most of them hand-me-downs from my mom and my old room but we were able to purchase some items na like aircon, air cooler, ref, tv, pc.. etc. and have a some savings.

nakakatakot sa umpisa yung gastos pero kung iisipin ko nga naman masgusto kong gamitin sa pamilya ko yung pera ko at magkasama na kami with our place of our own rather than maimbyerna with in laws and own family/relatives. naexperience ko at napatunayan na hindi maaring 2 ang reyna ng isang tahanan. mahirap makisama!!

so kahit i dont have my savings anymore i am happy and contented. ^_^

buti kapa sis, nako sana marealize ng bf ko yan lalo na yung part na "maimbyerna with in laws and own family/relatives. naexperience ko at napatunayan na hindi maaring 2 ang reyna ng isang tahanan. mahirap makisama!!" huhu pray for us pls. pinipilit nyang dun ako sakanila after I give birth oh my!! i dont want.

[patriciaheart]

mga sis pwede bigyan nyo naman ako ng tips on how to make my h2b agree na bumukod kami. or kahit na wag lang sakanila tumira,, lagi nya kasi kinakatwiran na, "bakit di ka ba marunong makisama?" hayyy, sa totoo lang marunong naman pero diba, kahit gaano kabait ang in-laws, may masasabi at masasbi at pa meddle yan kahit katiting..

[m_lim]

1 week palang kami married and sobrang totoo na ang sarap ng nakabukod. walang nakikialam sa inyo, pwede maghabulan ng nakahubad. LOL!

[yaskulet]

ako 3 days pa lang married right after wedding doon na kami sa newly built house namen. Super saya! Kahit kutson lang ang laman ng kwarto namen ang saya saya! Sarap pala talaga ng may sariling bahay. Kahit humiga kami sa sahig at manood ng dvd non stop, di maghugas ng pinggan etc etc walang nakikialam Saya saya! Miss ko na tuloy bahay namen, andito na kasi ako sa manila ulit back to work na

[katrinac]

kami mga sis, sa bahay muna namin titira after the wedding namin ni h2b next year.gusto ko bumukod, pero di ko maiwan mother ko kasi may sakit sya. si h2b naman okay lang daw yun at least mababantayan namin si mother ko. may katandaan narin kasi sya, kawawa naman kung sya lang mag isa sa bahay. di na namin naisip maghanap ng titirahan na iba, afterall, yung bahay, ipapangalan nalang daw saming dalawa. kaya okay nadin yun. sayang lang kapag maghanap pa kami ng sariling place.

[jesrora]

after naming bumukod parang di ko na kaya talagang makitira so hopefully makasave kami in a couple years ng money pangdown namin di ko talaga kakayanin makisama sa ILs.

[aubrey888]

A day after the wedding, bumukod talaga kami ni hubby.  Two years kami nangupahan then nung nakaipon, we finally built our dream house    Sarap umuwi sa sarili mong bahay, lalo na at alam mong walang makikialam ano or what time ka gigising   

[yaskulet]

^true. keber kahit tanghali na magising! or kung may pagkain o wala hahaha!

[jesrora]

sis how did you save kahit you were renting? ako nagbubudget kasi, may nasasave kami pero parang ang hirap for a new house.

[Periwinkle25]

kami ni hubby, after the wedding, we rented out..i loved the freedom and intimacy.. We just spend one night with my inlaws and one night with my family in a week. but that was just for 1month coz we are in LDR now. It's just so depressing that I need to go back abroad. I'm so excited to be with him again for 50days, my vac will be in 4month's time! It's a month now since I left. I'm so looking forward to be with him everyday and sadly, we still have to wait til feb 2013. We're still planning to rent out coz he works in another place where I'm planning to work too. Accdg to his parents, their house would be ours since he is the youngest. But then again, verbal agreements will remain unrealistic unless they're in the papers already.