How to deal with this pain alone?

[whitelady17]

sis miel, try mo mag enchanted kingdom, tapos doon sa rides, doon mo ibuhos lahat ng anger mo, frustrations, isigaw mo, iiyak mo. It will be better sana for you. or dapat mag abang pala tayo ng magandang promo sa groupons tapos girl bonding walang kasamang lalake. It will make your circle wider sis

[jasive51]

sis miel, try mo mag enchanted kingdom, tapos doon sa rides, doon mo ibuhos lahat ng anger mo, frustrations, isigaw mo, iiyak mo. It will be better sana for you. or dapat mag abang pala tayo ng magandang promo sa groupons tapos girl bonding walang kasamang lalake. It will make your circle wider sis

ayyy sis...ginawa ko to nun araw mismo ng birthday ko...with my one and only best friend...grabe binuhos ko lahat ang galit ko diyan...and i feel better after what i did...

[kutingkulilit]

^^ good idea yan ha. gagastos ka nga lang, ahaha. pero ok lang, at least nag-enjoy naman. well make sure fun din yung taong isasama mo, hehe.

pero ang topic, how to deal with the pain alone daw. sakin, iiyak mo lang ng ilang araw... labas mo lahat. pamper yourself. magpa-spa ka, haircut, mani pedi, facial. run... very inexpensive way to release negativity sa katawan. maeexercise ka pa. most important of all, pray. aside from kamily and friends, si papa J lang talaga ang makakapitan mo talaga ng bonggang bongga.

[iam_miel]

sis miel, try mo mag enchanted kingdom, tapos doon sa rides, doon mo ibuhos lahat ng anger mo, frustrations, isigaw mo, iiyak mo. It will be better sana for you. or dapat mag abang pala tayo ng magandang promo sa groupons tapos girl bonding walang kasamang lalake. It will make your circle wider sis

Enchanted Kingdom? Its gonna bring back all the memories kasi si EX ang unang nagdala sa akin sa EK last year around June & sa EK din kami nagcelebrate ni EX ng 30th birthday ko last July 24..If I go back there baka lalo ko siya maalala 

[whitelady17]

sis Miel, sabi ng iba, para daw mas madali kang maka move on eh puntahan mo isa-isa ang mga places na pinuntahan ninyo, and don't go there para ma remind sa iyo ang ginawa ninyo, be happy, make your own happy memory, para pag nabanggit ang Enchanted Kingdom, ang happy moments mo sa sarili mo ang ma alala mo, hindi iyong time ninyo ng ex mo. One way lang rin iyan ng mag erase sa memory mo.

Have fun sis, mag solo traveler ka for a change, kapag solo mo, marami kang ma rerealize sa sarili mo eh, sometimes papasok na lang bakit ba ako nagpaka eng eng sa taong iyon etc.

[jasive51]

^^ tama si sis whitelady17..i started doing that yun puntahan un mga napuntahan namen para mapalitan ng memories

[iheartkulot]

It has been nine months and andito pa rin ako...

naunahan na ako ng lahat maging okay.

ang hirap. araw-araw bago ako matulog, pinagdadasal ko na sana wag n ako magising. gusto ko na lang umuwi kung saan man yung sinasabi nilang pupuntahan nating lahat sa huli.

habang tumatagal...instead na gumaan...lalong bumibigat.

hindi ako okay. pagod n ako sabihing kaya ko pa, tapos sa huli, iiyak pa rin ako dahil sobrang namimiss ko na siya.

[whitelady17]

sis iheart, hmn, have you tried na mag iba ng place? either workplace, or magpunta sa lugar na wala kang  kilala, so that you can explore the area since hindi ka familiar para most of the time hindi mo na siya maisip. Hope you will be okay soon

[kutingkulilit]

^^ sis, 9 mos, ang tagal na nun... have you been doing enough effort to get out of that rut? i'm sorry ha, pero it seems to me you're not helping yourself enough. though di namin alam details ng nangyari at kung gaano kabigat ang pinagdadaanan mo, there's always another person in this world who's going through so much more, believe me.

go out with friends, surround yourself with happy people, and meet new ones... explore different places,  make drastic changes, get out of your comfort zone. super dami mo pwedeng gawin sis. hindi ka talaga magiging ok kung ayaw mo maging ok. kahit na sabihin mong gusto mo, if you're not acting on it, that's as good as the opposite. cliche man, madami pang lalake jan. stop living in the past. if you're not gonna snap out of that, wala talaga mangyayri sayo.

pray... pray a lot. pray for strength. hindi yung ippray mo na kunin ka na ni lord, sige ka. baka pagsisihan mo pag pinakinggan ka nya. chos hehe...

i hope maging ok ka na sis... ikaw lang makakatulong sa sarili mo...

[miming]

sis i heartkulot,parang ang tagal naman ng 9 months. ako in 3 months time naka move on na ako. 8yrs na kami dapat. 1st namin ang isa't isa. High school sweetheart. Then one day he decided to end things. What I did, pray, always look on the brighter side and love your self. saka tama yung sinabi ni sis gurlzat03, ikaw lang talaga makakatulong sa sarili mo. Maraming mag aadvice sayo pero at then end of the day its up to you kung anong gagawin mo sa situation mo. Kayang kaya mo yan sis. Binigay yan sayo ni God dahil alam nyang kaya mo yan. Mahirap kung mahirap sa umpisa pero nasasayo kung gusto mong forever kang malungkot or masaya.

[iam_miel]

@ sis iheartkulot

i totally agree with them, sis..mahirap sa mahirap pero love yourself naman..dont take the easy way out coz hindi ka talaga papakinggan ni Lord sa hiling mo na wag ka na magising..tama sila na you have to pray for strength, that's what i always pray for: strength, ang ma-heal yung puso ko, na maging happy ako in the Lord's comfort & find happiness with the company of family & friends..somehow, kahit namimiss ko si ex at nalulungkot ako, everytime i pray nawawala talaga agad yung bigat ng nararamdaman ko..always bear in mind na you are a valuable person & the Lord loves you..Lean on Him for strength & guidance so you can face each day with the courage to move on & live happily again..

i know how you feel sis, ive been there before pero because of my faith, im really feeling better & better..i hope your heart will heal soon..help yourself & trust in the Lord, He will never let you down..

[gurlzat03]

musta ka na sis iheartkulot? hope you're better now.. Ber-months na starting tomorrow, and believe it or not, christmas is the most wonderful time of the year! Come-on! move on and have a life!

Remember that God is with you always... Keep on praying and stay happy always! aja! 

[iheartkulot]

sisses..salamat sa lahat ng messages ha.

tama kayo, kailangan tulungan ko ang sarili ko. mahirap pero i'm praying na kayanin ko...

dadating din [textspeak!] araw na pagtatawanan ko tong kagagahan ko.

sana minsan makapagbonding tayo

[whitelady17]

Way to go sis, one step at a time ka lang muna, don't look back yet kasi hindi pa masyadong solid ang defense mo sa sarili mo, pain will be there, lahat naman nakaka move on eh, pana panahon. 

[gurlzat03]

^^ gora ako sa bonding natin mga sis! just let me know when.

[charmed30]

it's been 4 months since the breakup. i thought ok na ko, na nakamove on na ko. hindi pa pala. naging busy ako with work during the past few months and i haven't got the time to really focus on the breakup and myself as well. but now, hindi na ko masyadong busy, nagsstart na magsink in na naman sa kin ang breakup. i can feel and impending depression to hover me. i need to divert my attention again para di ko maramdaman masyado. natatakot ako, sobrang masakit. been together for more than 6 yrs, and then he left me.

[whitelady17]

sis charmed looks like kailangan mo mai release ang pain kasi baka mas matagalan ka maka move on kung i ignore mo lang mas tatagal lang diba, better yet face it na muna mga week or so then  slowly go on na

[gurlzat03]

hugz sis.. i've been there, done that.. not realizing na its turning a year na pala when we broke up. pero I might say na I'm nearing the acceptance stage na considering na mag-7 years na kami when we broke up.. okay lang yan sis, cry if you need to.. mahirap na mag-divert ka agad into other activities at hindi mo napagdaanan ang mourning stage lalo na that you've been from a very long time relationship.. sis, keep in mind na magiging okay ka rin in time.. just what I always said, time heals all wounds.. pray a lot sis, don't forget yourself.. what I mean when I said don't forget yourself is don't let other factors stop you from getting your goals.. life is too short to live a miserable life.. goodluck!

[rhia9lam]

what my advice?

i have been hurt, first bf and he left me with a kid. he got other woman pregnant and he chose her. kasal din ako sa kanya. siguro mas mahirap situation ko.

years have passed (almost a decade) before i can tell myself now na wala na kong nararamdaman sa kanya. now ko lang naprove sa sarili ko na WAPAKELS na talaga ako sa kanya.

wag mo nang hintayin umabot ng ganito katagal. alam mo ba kung bakit ang tagal?
kasi EVERYTIME HE COMES OUT OF NOWHERE AT HANAPIN AKO (simple text & fb mesg) EH I GO LOKA AND GAVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE.

but then paulit ulit akong iniiwan at bigla na lang din sya nawawala...

THEN NAPAGOD NA KO. I GAIN PRIDE & RESPECT TO MYSELF....

SOLUTION: ACCEPT THAT HE IS NOT REALLY FOR YOU. He must be meant for someone else. BELIEVE THAT SOMEONE ELSE IS JUST WAITING FOR YOU...
KNOW WHAT YOU REALLY DESERVE. DONT SETTLE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESNT TREAT YOU WELL...

CUT ALL YOUR MEANS COMMUNICATION WITH HIM. You can delete him on friends list sa fb. Stay away muna sa mga situations na pwede mo syang makita, even makarinig ng balita sa kanya. If you go to the same church, then attend at different schedule. Or other location. Exert effort to these. Ako, sinasabi ko sa common friends ko na wag muna akong kwentuhan about him. In case they see him.

PRAY, GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK & PRETIFY WHILE WAITING FOR THE GUY WHO IS MEANT FOR YOU...

Give yourself a chance to fall in love again. And if it does not work again, this time YOU SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER...

LOVE YOURSLEF & LOVE AGAIN UNTIL YOU FIND YOUR ONE TRUE LOVE.


 

[gurlzat03]

^ very well said sis.. we should always be thankful talaga sa mga nangyayari sa 'tin.. God has planned everything for us, and he makes sure na okay tayo palagi.. we might know the reason now why it happened, pero in time tatawanan na lang natin lahat ng bad things na nangyari sa 'tin.. you're so strong sis!