It really is acceptance.. good read din ang CLOSING CYCLES by Paulo Coelho which helped me moved on:
http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/12/31/closing-cycles-eng-espa-port/some of my favorite lines:
~ One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.....
~ You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved......
~ Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away......
~ Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them......
~ Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else. Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
~ Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. I would also like to share with you something in my file folders and it's about God's plan, something that is a good read too:
GOD’s PLANSome things are beyond planning.
And life doesn't always turn out as planned.
You don't plan for a broken heart.
You don't plan for a failed business venture.
You don't plan for an adulterous husband
Or a wife who wants you out of her life.
You don't plan for an autistic child.
You don't plan for spinsterhood.
You don't plan for a lump in your breast.
You plan to be young forever.
You plan to climb the corporate ladder.
You plan to be rich and powerful.
You plan to be acclaimed and successful.
You plan to conquer the universe.
You plan to fall in love - and be loved forever.
You don't plan to be sad.
You don't plan to be hurt.
You don't plan to be broke.
You don't plan to be betrayed.
You don't plan to be alone in this world.
You plan to be happy. You don't plan to be shattered.
Sometimes if you work hard enough, you can get what you want.
But MOST times, what you want and what you get are two different things.
We, mortals, plan. But so does God in the heavens.
Sometimes, it is difficult to understand God's plans
Especially when His plans are not in consonance with ours.
Often, when God sends us crisis, we turn to Him in anger.
True, we cannot choose the cross that God wishes us to carry,
But we can carry that cross with courage knowing
That God will never abandon us nor send something we cannot cope with.
Sometimes, God breaks our spirit to save our soul.
Sometimes, He breaks our heart to make us whole.
Sometimes, God allows pain so we can be stronger.
Sometimes, God sends us failure so we can be humble.
Sometimes, God allows illness so we can take better care of ourselves.
Sometimes, God takes everything away from us
So we can learn the value of everything He gave us.
Make plans... but understand that we live by God's grace.. =)
