Do you allow your husband or bf to go to a bar or club (boys night out)?

[mbeeyap]

no. pero me magagawa ba ako kung talagang gusto niya? 

[abbhie]

I am fine if he goes to girly bars s long as there is not touching or any exhange of fluid hehe.. When he goes and I know the people he goes out with then its ok.

I am just worried about this one weekend when his friends sponsored and event and there are going to be "models". These friends he will be with has a bad history on girly bars so I am really worried. He has been friends with them since HS and I am worried if they tease him and then finally give it to take one girl

[mbeeyap]

^ ay oo. depende talaga sa kasama! pag mga BI hindi talaga pwede! 

[princeszheng]

Oh, while backreading.. nakakarelate ako.
Dati, I allow him to go out with his friends the first time they went out, nagsinungaling pa kung asan talaga sila, yun pala asa hooters lang. Where in fact wala naman problema sakin yun. He thought daw na magagalit ako kaya daw sya nagsinungaling.

LDR kami ni hubby, so pag andto sya mahaba na ang 3weeks na vacation nya. Nun last na uwi nya, I felt guilty kasi I nagged at him in front of his friend. E nakainom na sila sa isang house ng kaibigan nya, which is malapit na sa bahay namin. Tapos lilipat pa sa ibang bahay na mas malayo. Sabi ko sama ako, ayaw, sila  sila lang daw. Tapos sinabihan pa ko ng madamot, kaya nasaktan rin ako.

Kilala ko naman si hubby, I'm not after the girls or whatever, pero I'm just being too overprotective lalo na pag mga ganon sitwasyon kasi. Lasing na magttravel pa, e paano kung may mangyari sa knila along the way. Yun lang naman ang iniisip ko.

Reading all your posts made me realize na kailangan talaga sila payagan. And let's have an open communication with our hubby. 

[onlygirl]

it's easy to say na ok lang payagan, it's part of men's life kahit once in a while.  but the truth is, girls would rather say no to that.  kaya sana alam na lang ng guys na girls won't really into it especially if married na, para di na mag ask ng permission, just say no to their friends db. dapat magpakasawa na sa mga ganon pag single o no commitment pa para pag in a relationship na, di na hahanap hanapin pa.

it's better also to communicate ano ba yung mga bagay na your partner won't feel good about para alam na ng partner ang gagawin if that situation may arise.  yung luvs ko minsan pakwento ang style like yun daw workmates nya maghahappy happy, niyaya cya but not necessarily nagpapaalam ang tono, kase alam nya ayoko ng ganon.  pero ako kunwari tatanungin ko pa kung gusto ba nya pumunta? sabay sagot, "bakit papayagan mo ba ako?" pag "bahala ka" ang sagot ko alam na nya ibig sabihin non. lagi ko lang remind sa kanya yung effect sa health nya kaya bakit pa cya sasama. ang ending di talaga cya pupunta.  i'll just make up to him if ever he felt bad about it na parang may miss out cya with friends

[brendzy]

i allow my hubby too, because I know clean fun talaga. his guy friends are more into videoke lang talaga 

[Crazylabel]

Before, maluwag ako sa mga ganyan and nagsawa na din hubby ko accdg. to hm, then once nahuli ko sya nag hire ng psp and may nangyari sa kanila kasi sa motel sila nag meet. It was so depressing kasi I trusted him for like 4 yrs. muntik na kami maghiwalay but I gave him a second chance and told him na it will be the last chance I'll ever give. Ngayon sobrang lahat ng galaw Nya pinapaalam Nya sa akin, it's easy din malaman kasi we have a business so lagi kami magkasama. He's doing everything to bring back my trust kahit di na mababalik 100%

[Girltalker2]

Payag ako basta sabihin lang nya where sila exactly para matawagan ko ang pulis to raid the girlie bar at makita ko nalang sya sa TV news na nagtatakip ng mukha! Hahaha

Hindi ba bawal ang naghuhubad at prostitution satin? Bakit parang ang dami dami nilang establishments na ganyan?

Ang hirap naman sa kanila gagawa gawa sila ng mga ganyan, yung may ari ng bar at mga clients na asawa/bf nyo, tapos kung naraid mahihiya sila.

[Girltalker2]

To answer the question if I would allow my bf/hubby to go to girlie bars...
Sakin kasi it is not a matter kung papayagan ko, it should be in him na hindi nya kelangan pumunta doon.

I am just thinking of valid reasons for him to go. Ano ba, peer pressure. Then he is with the wrong set of friends? Maybe it's in the culture? Then we are in the wrong country. Or may kulang  ba sa pagkatao nya such that hinahanap hanap nya yan? Ano immmature pa at naghahanap pa ng babae? Am I not enough for him?  Ego booster?

I really cannot see any valid reason why one would want to go there - maliban nalang kung gusto mo yumaman yung girlie bar para tangkilikin mo, o di kaya continue exploiting the women there o promote promiscuity. Sige, pumunta sya at tangkilikin nya if he wants to do all those. At kung  bf ko sya, sasabihin ko sa kanya, magpakasawa muna sya at alamin ano ang kulang sa personality nya tsaka na sya lumapit sakin kung buo na loob nyang hindi sya pupunta sa mga ganyan at kung mahal pa nyako.  Pag hubby naman, kelangan kami mag usap kung ano pang hinahanap nya na kulang at bakit nya kelangan pumunta dyan.

[contented]

before ayoko.. pero one time pinagbigyan ko siya and after that hindi na siya umulit, actually madalas naman siya napupunta dun before kasi sa boss nya pero nung nagresign na siya sa work nya gusto daw nya ma-try pumunta sa ganun na barkada nya naman ang kasama, lagi nya ko kinukulit at hindi talaga ako pumupayag, iba kasi kahit na faithful siya iba pa din kapag na temp na! Yun nga one time pinagbigyan ko oks naman hindi na daw siya uulit. Iba daw pala kapag voluntary siyang nagpunta sa ganun para daw nakakababa ng pagkatao nya.. kaya ayun happy ako at least maganda naging resulta ng isang beses na pagpayag ko.. 

[Girltalker2]

^  there is something fundamentally wrong about it.

Sabi nung isang friend ko, yung mga naghuhubad daw na babae, ni hindi nga daw makatingin ng direcho  sa audience, so meaning napipilitan lang din sila.

Kung hubby ko mahilig magpunta sa ganyan na may striptease etc, hindi ko talaga makuha isipin ano ang tumatakbo sa utak nya. Enjoy ba iyon na nakakatingin ka ng hubad na babae - hindi ba kahit sinong babae hindi papayag na ma violate ang katawan nya kung may choice sya sa buhay.  Parang naiisip ko na lumalabas ang sungay ng mga lalaki by going to these bars tapos happy happy pa kamo sila.  Pagkatapos nun, in being intimate naman with your husband, how can you be, kung alam mo he thinks that way?  As waht sis contented said, parang nakakababa nga ng sarili, hindi lang ng lalaki, pati ng sarili mo at damay ka din.

[k_heart]

No,baka tadyakan ko pa sya sa mukha nya pag nagpaalam sya.

[jamila_19]

para sa akin... okey lang payagan ko ang asawa ko as long as kilala ko ang mga kasama niya at tatawagan niya ako from time to time...

[ayka]

^^LOL! 

yes, i allow him to go hang out with his buddies only because he rarely does so. he's a health buff (trying to stay away from alcohol) and he'd rather stay home with me. so pinapayagan ko siya kasi madalang lang siya lumabas with his friends, say, once every 3 months.   

[sarsingkit]

I know he used to go to places as such pero hindi madalas but ever since we are married, we always go out together. I've been to a gay bar a couple of times pero okay lang naman kay hubby. Pero we're here in canada so bawal hawakan talaga ang dancers. Papalabasin ng bouncers so if ever he ask kung pwede sya mag girly bar, ok lang. Plus i give him a show, once in a while

[Girltalker2]

^^LOL! 

yes, i allow him to go hang out with his buddies only because he rarely does so. he's a health buff (trying to stay away from alcohol) and he'd rather stay home with me. so pinapayagan ko siya kasi madalang lang siya lumabas with his friends, say, once every 3 months.

Pag lalabas lang naman with friends, wala naman issue yun kasi. kahit naman tayo, we go out with our girl friends.

sis! I like men who are health buffs!  well, at least nasa criteria ko iyan. kasi based on my readings, men who stay away from alcohol and smoking has higher libido than men who drinks and smokes. kaya mas ok talaga kung healthy ang partner mo. good for you sis! 

[Makeupholics]

Yes... Minsan... haha. I trust him naman eh I know di sya gagawa ng ikakasari ng family namin

[shegie_285]

Pasali... for me girlie bars - yes, i allowed him nung bf pa lang kami and until now siguro na mag-asawa na kami. he goes lang naman to those pag tipong may stag party. last time he went to one was in the Philippines for his stag, he asked permission if he could go kase his friends were putting pressure on him. he told me it wasn't a good one kase wala namann daw topless! i know hanggang tingin lang naman sya. and he normally wont waste his money for those things.

Boys night out - he goes to  football matches regularly  and okay lang sa akin. after ng match, inom un after. ayaw ko naman sumama most of the time so he's with his friends lang and sa bahay lang ako (we live abroad and he's a foreigner). pero he doesnt stay late naman, he's home na around  11pm, minsan na lang ang talagang late sya umuwi.

[Trianna]

yep, it's okay. since i already know the guys he goes out with and what gigs they prefer to go to. he's usually the person who helps his friends drive home safe after drinking too much. 

[ayka]

sis! I like men who are health buffs!  well, at least nasa criteria ko iyan. kasi based on my readings, men who stay away from alcohol and smoking has higher libido than men who drinks and smokes. kaya mas ok talaga kung healthy ang partner mo. good for you sis! 

i know, right? hehe. he's athletic and a bit vain. he doesn't want to develop a "beer belly" (he's got nice abs as well). mas ok naman talaga kapag walang bisyo, diba?