Do you allow your husband or bf to go to a bar or club (boys night out)?

[junepets]

I allow him. Sabi ko lang, ayoko na magsinungaling pa sya para lang punta dun. At yun nga look lang. How would i know di naman ako kasama? Nasa kanya na yun.

Pero sabi naman nya sawa na sya. Di na raw sya single para mag ganun pa.

[chinitababe11]

ok [textspeak!] pro pminsan minsan [textspeak!],

[c0oki3witch]

yes I do

[lady_anika]

Fortunately for me, my hubby and his friends are very "conservative", hehe! Parang ako pa nga ata nageencourage sa kanila before we got married na magkaron ng naughty stag party. Haha!

But now that we're married na, I always tell my hubby, if they want to go somewhere - like bars or clubs, it's fine with me. I trust him and napatunayan na naman niya sakin yung commitment niya sa relationship namin. I think it's really best to maintain a good and open communication with the hubby. Minsan pa nga pag nasa labas kami, and nakakita kami ng good looking person, tuksuhan pa kami, "uy crush niyaa"

Going back to your question, I don't think it's selfish naman to say no, but you have to be clear why you're saying no. Wag lang yung "Eh kasi ayaw ko", tell him how it makes you feel uncomfortable. Trust is vital in a relationship, ngayon kung gusto niya magtake ng step na siguradong magkaka-lamat yung trust, it's his call.

[mijasan]

For an all boys' night out - YES but on one condition - no clubs/bars. I guess I'm lucky that his friends are also mine so we know each other well.  They're the bunch who just drink and joke all the time so no worries. 

[pretty_cavitemom]

Yup, kasi he's not much into it. Kapag lang hindi talaga makatanggi like our balikbayan kumpare/friends are here at medyo nagyaya.

My hubby is very honest din kung saan talaga sila nagpunta, and he's the one who keeps on texting me na malapit na siyang umuwi and where his exact location is. That's one reason why I trust him so much.

[jellybeans_verycherry]

I do! I dont really trust his friends but I trust him. Work at home kasi si hubby and bihira lang lumabas kawawa naman.

[queenie06]

yes..reverse psychology din yan eh. if you put him in a leash he will try to get out talaga..pero if yo give him the feeling that he is free, d na yan gagala pa. usually naman kasama ako sa mga gimik..sa mga club naman alam ko naman yong mga lakad nla kasi magkakasama kami sa work.lol tapos nag stag party lang din cla mga 3 times na this year.maaga man din umuwi.lol

[sylvester_jmc]

For me kung bf siguro okey lang kasi gusto ko ma enjoy niya yung youth niya at yung company with his guy friends. At siyempre dapat magpapaalam at tatawag once in a while just to make sure na okey siya at okey pa ako. lol..
Pero kung husband dapat kasama ako lagi. Maswerte ako kasi si hubby simula nung kinasal kami nag stop na siya sa mga ganyang bagay sabi niya enough na daw siya dun at hindi niya hahayaan na magkaron ng temptation or mabuyo ng mga kaibigan...which is true, diba? minsan kasi may mga friends ang mga hubby natin na di maganda ang maidudulot sa iba. Bad influence nga.. Kaya thankful ako kasi kay hubby mismo nanggaling yung decision. Pag pupunta sa bar or club kami ang mag partner lagi. Enjoy pa kasi we get to spend time together and have fun.   

[fegloria1954]

When my husband was still with this so-called prestigious men's group/club, they would go for a night out after their meeting.  My husband would bring me along, and we would both sit there nursing our drinks while we watched all those men - most of them married - prance and flirt around with those club girls.

I eventually told my husband that I couldn't have a quiet conscience as I knew the wives of those married men, and that I would rather not go anymore.

My husband quit going with the group for those night outs.  He eventually also quit being a member of that group/club.

Mommy Fe

[ayami]

bar - yes, why not?
night club / girlie bar - meybe yes, for as long as he would allow me to go to a gay bar with my girl friends! LOL

haha I love this! maganda nga ang ganitong proposal

[kwinchesters]

A big NO for beerhouse or bar, yes if dinner lang or swimming out of town.
I do believe in imposing rules of BOTH partners in a marriage, i can accept everything about my husband, his attitude and ways but allow him to go in a girlie joint,the HELL with him, ano ko kukuha ng ikakukunsumi ko?

[pinkstone]

DEFINITELY  NO. before when he was still single,naka pasok na sya ng night club na may hubaran talaga,active din yung nightlife niya. but since we got married,never na sya naka punta nang night club,or even just go out with his friends,unless if kasama ako. buti nalng mabait naman si hubby parang wala narin syang interes na sumama sa mga friends niya. hindi rin niya ako maloloko kasi alam ko  ang time ng in and out niya sa office,my number din ako sa office niya so from time to time tinatawagan ko sya,so i will know if he's in or out in the office,kapag out na niya estimate ko narin ang time kung kailan sya darating sa bahay.kapag may overtime naman sya,talagang tumatawag ako sa office ng madaling araw to check if he's really there. maybe you think im too possessive or strict,minsan nya na kasing sinira ang trust ko sa kanya so,yun parang punishment niya na rin yun,di rin naman sya nag rereklamo

[lady_sunscreen]

pwede.. wag lang sila pupunta dun sa mga may nagsasayaw na kakaiba at naghuhubad.. 

[GeRi Sp!cE]

I allow him to go out with his friends to drink. But he always tags me along. Ako kasi ang alibi niya na if ever magka-ayaan to a nightclub. "Pare di ako pwede hatid ko pa gf ko" LOL

[openmindedsoul]

oo kailangan din naman nila yun. nakakasawa din naman kung laging kami lang ang nakakasama niya. kahit dun pa sa may girls okay lang umuuwi naman siya pagkatapos ng inuman, lol! ibang usapan na kapag hindi siya umuwi! 

[still_hoping]

yup.. we need to grow individually din kasi kaya I give him time with his friends talaga.. wag lang lagi..

[design21]

^ true. as long as clean fun why not?

[Nuna]

YES. only because we own the bar that he goes to.
Walang girls don ha. Hangout, bands, inuman lang meron don. Kaya ok lang.

[gleek]

oo naman. i trust him well enough na magbbehave lang sya while having fun  he deserves his alone time (w/his peers etc) like I deserve my girls night out