Do you allow your husband or bf to go to a bar or club (boys night out)?

[prettybarbie]

Do you?

[kusinera311]

For me sis I allowed my husband for a boys night out.First of all in a marriage we need a billion of trust to our partner.My hubby's best friend is certified babaero as in kahit san siya mapunta may ka flirt ang loko.But I let my husband goes with him at boy's night out because i trust my hubby.Kasi nag usap na kami before,i don't have against kung gusto niya mangbabae kasi tao lang siya pero huwag na huwag na siya magpakita sakin kasi i told him once mambabae ka it was the time you ended our relationship as a husband and wife..natakot siguro kaya never naman siyang nakipagflirt.. and if ever my type siya or nagandahan siya sinasabi naman niya agad sakin..its a matter of trust and communication sis.kasi ako vocal ako sa kanya he knows my limitation about diyan sa inom inom na yan.

[wonderland1]

i allow him to bond with his friends paminsan-minsan pero definitely hindi sa bar or club.
may limit syempre kung anong klaseng bonding with the boys. limit with a good purpose--that is, CLEAN FUN. pwede naman silang kumain together sa restaurant, yun madalas ang ginagawa nila since mahilig sa food yung sweetheart ko. so good thing wala naman ako prob sa kanya.

[kho_leen]

I dont mind as long its only LOOKING and NO TOUCHING. 

[grumpybear]

I don't think "allowing" your husband to go to clubs is simply a matter of whether you trust him or not.
The question is, is it showing the wife respect if the husband goes to places like these? Or for that matter, is it showing women respect?
Is this the kind of example that you want to show to your kids?

[binlaten]

payagan mo tapos sumama ka

[berna15]

yes boys night out, sometimes napupunta sila sa club un iba kasi single friends namin niyaya siya. np with me naman kasi alam ko hindi papatol si hubby sa mga babae dun. 

[angel_eyes_2nite]

Yes I do. Ayaw ko naman na higpitan siya and kahit pa noong di pa kami married,open kami sa mga lakad ng isa't isa with friends. Ayaw ko namang higpitan siya this time. He knows naman I trust him and I know he'll not try to break that trust.

[aquacharly]

Yes, I always did let him out nights.
It is necessary for our businesses, for his old friendships.

He  was always the envy of his other married friends.. sabi nila:  Aba!  May pass ka pala!  suerte mo!

The past  years, he prefers we go out together nights with friends or just the family or families.

[prettybarbie]

payagan mo tapos sumama ka

boys night out nga daw hindi ako pede sumama

[prettybarbie]

I dont mind as long its only LOOKING and NO TOUCHING. 

ang problema how will you know naman kung looking lang and no touching wala ka naman don sis.

[twelvth_goddess]

When i was in highschool, my older brother and his friends took me to a club near our village so that I'd know what happens daw inside these bars. There were 'shows' but no one was really touching the girls since it was not allowed.

If my husband were to go to a bar, it would depend kung sino ang kasama nya. He has friends whom I don't trust particularly because masyadong mga garapal and bastos. I trust my husband, it's some of his friends that I don't.

[wonderland1]

sabi ng asawa ko minsan lang naman daw sila magkitakita and mag bonding, sobrang upset talaga ko that time kasi parang feeling ko di ako nirespeto nung steps nya, kasi alam naman nila na andon ako tapos isasama nila yung asawa ko sa ganong place. Yung asawa ko naman super excited first time daw nya kasi makakakita ng ganon. Pede naman sila mag bonding sa ibang paraan at sa ibang lugar. Tell me sisters may karapatan ba ko magalit? selfish ba ko dahil hindi ko daw sya hinahayaan mag enjoy? Sa panong paraan ko ba maipapa realize sa asawa ko na hindi katanggap tanggap sakin yung mga gawain ng mga relatives nya. Sa twing mag uusap kasi kami nauuwi lang sa pagtatalo at sigawan.

you are not selfish, it's just normal you feel that way kasi asawa ka nya, and it's normal that you want your hubby to behave like a married man, not a carefree single man (although hindi ako against sa pagbo-bond nila with friends, ang point is, pwede naman magbond sa ibang way na hindi nakaka-sagasa sa feelings ng asawa).

and besides may karapatana ka magalit. you are the legal wife.
You are your hubby are ONE. dpat i-respect nya yung feelings mo at kung di ka comfortable wag sha tumuloy kasi yung feelings mo dapat nagma-matter sa kanya yun dahil nga ONE na kayo. 

kausapin mo sya sa magandang paraan. it's just a matter of proper timing and clear communication. if he truly loves you, he will respect your feelings and will prioritize you over his temporal pleasure.

[wonderland1]

^ sa paanong paraan mo sasabihin?

i belive that TIMING is EVERYTHING. i-timing mo kung kelanmaganda ang mood nya. e kung ipagluto mo sya ng msarap at paboritong ulam nya for dinner, tapos pag natuwa sya, unti-unti mong i-open up pag katapos kumain?  or do something for him na alam mong matutuwa sya, like hulihin mo kilit nya, do that favor for him and then at saka mo sabhin yung gusto mong sabihin?

there are self-help books for marriage tips. u might want to buy and invest on those.  there are tips for the art of communicating to your spouse effectively.  ayaw ng mga lalake na mag-nag or mag-sermon ang girls, lalo silang di nakikinig pag pasigaw ang boses. dapat may lambing na kasama.  isa yan sa mga tip na natutunan ko from reading books.  what else?  dapat win-win situation kayo. tell him what bothers you, payagan mo syang lumabas, pero dapat he meets you halfway, yung lalabas sila na hindi masasagasaan yung feelings mo bilang asawa. 

i suggest you read "men are from mars women are from venus" lots of tips for understanding men and women's diffrences and how to cope with that.  tapos you may also want to read "happily married for life" by LArry Koenig. and then yung "The Five Love languages" by Gary Chapman.  minsan kasi yung love language na ginagamit natin, hindi nagwowork sa tao kung hindi mo gamitin yung tamang love language para sa kanila.

para di kayo magsigawan, dapat maunawaan nyo ang isa't isa at mag communicate kayo ng maayos. 
basta, do your homework on that and you'll get the idea how.

good luck sis, sana nakatulong ako kahit papano.

[prettybarbie]

thanks sis bibilhin ko yung mga books na ni-recommend mo. Mali kasi ata yung mga books na binabasa ko "Why men love Bitches"  LOL

[seduce_me]

I allowed him to go 3x, boyfriend-girlfriend pa kami. We went out with my friend and cousins. I trust him, and he knows his limits naman. We're married now, no more clubs for him. And besides I could be his bar girl whenever he wants to .. haha

[kettlekorn28]

My hubby is not fond of going to bars and the likes. But when he goes out, I'm very sure that he is with his boss and and his officemates (men & women). They do that once a month pero hindi sa mga bars na may GRO huh.  Dun sa may mga live bands/disco. Alam ko yun kasi I used to work sa company nina hubby. Naku mga good boys ang mga officemates nya. 

[cream_puffs]

sabi ko sa bf ko sa oras na pumunta sya dun e sabihan nya ko para pupunta din ako sa gay bar tapos magkita na lang kami pag tapos na. hahaha 

pero eto seryoso, sabi ko sa kanya, pwede siguro look lang. sa oras na may touch. di nya na malalaman kung sino sa mga magiging anak namin ang tunay nyang anak 

[silveronfire]

yes, i allow him... i trust my hubby naman so i've never had a problem with it, even nung mag bf-gf pa lang kami... kinukwento din naman nya sa kin e... now that we're married, i still allow him pero very rare na din sila magpunta ng friends nya... i know din naman na hindi magtatable si hubby kasi takot sha dun heheeh (that i knew when we were still friends pa, hehe) ;-P

[prettybarbie]

sabi ko sa bf ko sa oras na pumunta sya dun e sabihan nya ko para pupunta din ako sa gay bar tapos magkita na lang kami pag tapos na. LOL 

pero eto seryoso, sabi ko sa kanya, pwede siguro look lang. sa oras na may touch. di nya na malalaman kung sino sa mga magiging anak namin ang tunay nyang anak 

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