Lack of Self-Motivation or Inspiration in Life

[hunnybunch]

Happy to read this thread…atleast hindi ako nag-iisa at may advices pa akong nakuha..thanks.

[-munchkins12-]

not trusting others and isolating myself, kaya naging sad and alone ako. Question? It's hard on my part but how to change it or at least overcome this attitude of mine?

Am facing the same problem! I am depressed. I don't know what to do now. Am on the brink of totally losing my job because of trust issues. My bosses wants me to stay i don't know if i'll consider it. Nawala kasi yung trust ko sa mga kasama ko sa office.

[lady gwenhwyfar]

this is me now. i'm relieved that i am not alone feeling this. i'm 30 single but with a bf who was married and have a 9 year old son. i'm usually disappointed with him. i wanted to travel but i can't travel with him since his son is living with him and i can't drag him halfway across the country all the time. he is usually aloof and i feel so emotionally far from him.

i hated work. but it's a good paying job so i am sticking to it.

i cry all the time especially when i find some quiet moments alone. those were the times that it hits me really hard. i don't know what i want. i don't what to do. all i know is i wanted to be happy but i don't how to turn things around.

Help!

[CityHunter]

Hi, lady gwenhwyfar.

Try to follow yun advice na ibinigay ni aquacharly.  Find something to make you happy - without going into sin of course. 

It won't be easy nga to convince your boyfriend to go with you as he has responsibilities.  Think of activities where you and he can enjoy without going far naman. 

As for being alone ay it cannot be helped yan fact.  Talaga lahat tayo dadaan sa phase na yan.  Kaya be strong and look forward to better things.  IF your mind is filled just with negative emotions ay it'll just be you self-destructing. 

For now, try to find a creative hobby or sport.  Keep us updated how things fare and if you still have problems.

[hanshellite]

Happy to read this thread!

tama nga, we can be happier if we enable others to be happy as well. By reading this thread, I was able to correct my mind about some few "akalas" in life. I'm 21, young and struggling to succeed in life. I have so many dreams pa na gusto kong ma-achieve 3 or 5 or 10 years from now. Akala ko, once andun ka na sa part na yun, yung successful ka na and you have almost everything, magiging happy ka na.. Pero hindi pa rin pala. Akala ko, ako lang ang nakakafeel ng ganitong emptiness, pero madami din pala tayo! Minsan kasi, if I feel depressed, kung ano-ano na lang negative thoughts pumapasok sa mind ko.

So thankful that I was able to go to this thread. So many insights that would really help our fellow girltalkers to realize what should be realized:) 

[muahmuahmuah]

Set little projects and goals for yourself or for others who you can help without having to shell out moolah on them or give what you can handle giving, like giving a little bit of yourself  in servvice. You'll be surprised what the little things we do can create if you open your heart to it. I'm not talking about being preachy and likes of it, just genuinely share your talents or time to others or whatever it is you can offer to give.  Maybe after all the successes and accomplishments you've achieved theres that imaginary wall blocking you from going on further.   

Always be grateful and make yourself more on purpose by finding the love again in the everyday things you do and with the people around you. If it's a struggle between relationships and situations, find what and who you value more--is it the person or the act that sets you off to be displeased...and catch yourself in every moment when you feel things are going against you. It's not easy but it sure is worth the effort and when you're able to hurdle the pro's and con's of living, and later you'll probably be surprised how finding the goodness in things and situations becomes second nature.

[craziestqueenever]

Count me in!  Although hindi pa ako successful sa life ko. I feel so empty. Wala akong Motivation or Inspiration. Di ko na alam ang gagawin sa buhay ko. Kaya ngayon eto ang ginagawa ko nanonood ng mga Korean Dramas para kiligin at ma inlove. Para ma inspire kahit konti man lang.

[iheartkulot]

napadaan ako sa thread na ito.

i'm 27 and feeling the same. ang hirap gumising araw-araw na parang wala ka ng motivation to live. naiisip ko nga, bakit ba kahit isipin ko na may nanay at mga kapatid pa naman ako and friends na alam kong mahal ako, nakakahiya man or selfish man tingnan, pero lagi kong nasasabi na kung kukunin n ako ni Lord, right at this moment eh parang gusto ko na. Alam mo yung tipong kinakabahan ka kapag pasikat na yung araw kasi parang iniisip mo kung ano na naman ba gagawin mo para maging okay ka, at kapag gabi na, dun ka pa lang ma-e-excite kasi looking forward ka na matulog para di ka na masyado nag-iisip.

I do pray, mas napapadalas nga ang prayers ko kasi parang andami tanong na naglalaro sa utak ko. At parang humihina yung trust ko sa Taas.

[**gurlash**]

One more thing to add, we really have to be consistent on making effort in each and every task we do. Kasi ako ngayon parang palitaw, lulubog and lilitaw. One season okay nako then another season iba na naman ako. Mahirap and nakakapagod but at the back of our minds, we know that we have to. Big thanks to all the sisters who keep on supporting us. Hope we have face to face gathering noh, para mas effective.

[mameejhy]

Sa totoo lang, I'm bored with my job! Kasi parang walang improvement, walang challenges, walang new... Ang iniisip ko na lang, kelangan ko mag work para may pang invest sa mutual funds at sa properties na gusto ko ipagawa --> for kids education and retirement.

Sigh.

[**gurlash**]

Hi Sisses! Im back again now after a long period of time. Sad to say a drastic event happened to my life that lost my motivation and inspiration again.
My BF moved to another place far away from me and I felt more alone last year. Naging long distance relationship kami until 2 months ago we broke up after 4 years of relationship. Hay buhay, talaga naman...
Now I'm back to zero again, lots of fears, inhibitions and insecurities.

[SPECIAL_BRANDY]

Hello everything under d sun can talk thread in here pala....nakakarelate ang lola and thanks ha now i know im a kind normal being human pala. hehe totoo palang dumadaan tayo sa ganitong stage of life specially for those ages 30s. well siguro nga difficult to find true happines pero ako lagi ako nagpapasalamat whenever i feel sad, lonely hurt. ashamed of me kung magreklamo kasi ako sa buhay despite of what i have given. kaya much much much pray lang ako.

charity is best also.

[franc1sgmp]

Maybe it's time to become poor in spirit.

being poor in spirit means that you continue to have wants but you stop having expectations. Expectations kasi ang cause of frustration naten, and this is especially true among affluent people.

affluence is a kind of 'mental set-up' --- it's the mentality that the world owes me a living.

here's my opinion about your problem (not an advice):

I'll be more thankful about life,and i'll try to give more of my time (not just money) to things that really matter, such as family, health and spirituality. 

[abby1511]

Been down and out lately and this thread inspired me to reclaim myself. Thanks so much.

[Cocoyow]

Im glad i found this thread..

[pinklilac]

very helpful thread..hope si TS ay ok na..

[u8mypinkcookies]

i lack this now esp. sa work. sobrang pagod na ko sa ugali ng boss ko... imagine parang 4 months palang ako sobrang drained na feeling ko. nakapa-bossy & know it all nya kasi so even if you work hard on one thing tapos di nya feel, reject talaga kahit if you ask others eh sobrang ok naman yung ginawa mo. i really drag myself to work everyday, never ako naging eager & excited pumasok. i'm praying na magkaron ng new offer soon, super ata na ko lumayas sa company na 'to.

[iheartkulot]

nafeel niyo na ba [textspeak!] parang wala ka ng drive to live? u no longer know what u want. no hopes, no dreams, no aspirations? Parang ayaw mo na lang mabuhay.

andun ako sa stage na to. ang hirap i pray everyday. kasi talagang dun ako kumukuha lakas to go on, magiging okay. then the next day, hindi na ulit. nawala na ulit lahat ng positive energies. ang hirap

[pastek898]

I sometimes want to be not so happy kasi in the end tremendous pain or sadness ang mararamdaman mo. I always end up disappointing others, im not informing people about a certain task kagad. Kasi nga walang nangyari sa lakad ko. Complexities nga naman ng life.  Cant people see how im exhausted, looked foolish.so much for asking assistance from them

[jtansanco]

nafeel niyo na ba [textspeak!] parang wala ka ng drive to live? u no longer know what u want. no hopes, no dreams, no aspirations? Parang ayaw mo na lang mabuhay.

andun ako sa stage na to. ang hirap i pray everyday. kasi talagang dun ako kumukuha lakas to go on, magiging okay. then the next day, hindi na ulit. nawala na ulit lahat ng positive energies. ang hirap

I feel you. My life is based on regular routine. I'm the type of person that does a specific action at a specific time. Everything has to go according to plan. But the thing is, it's so boring already. You wake up knowing that you'll just do the same old things you did last yesterday/last week. There's just no drive anymore.

How I wish that what happens in the movies do happen in real life. I'd even sacrifice a zombie apocalypse in exchange to this reality.