Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[Miss Taken]

^ Glad to know na lesson learned sayo yan sis. Pero para saken what you did was considered as cheating since you hide it from your bf at diba ang isang bagay kaya lang naman tinatago dahil we know sa sarili natin na mali yun. Naalala ko tuloy yung quote na "Cheating isn't always, kissing, touching or flirting. If you have to delete text messages so your partner doesn't see them, you're already there." I applaud your bf for being sincere when it comes to forgiving you. Stay strong na lang sis.

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As for me, no. Ayokong magsisi sa huli at matulad sa mom ko na ilang beses pinatawad yung dad ko pero ayun nagloko pa rin. Once a cheater, always a cheater (most of the time). I don't want to take a risk.

[mikaelavhan]

para sakin.no..(pero wag naman sana dumating yung time na yan).parang kasing pag niloko na ng isang beses..mawawala na yung trust eh..mahirap na ibalik eh.
lagi ka ng my duda.na baka ulitin nanaman.
saka parang di ko kaya na isipin na may nangyari sa kanila at gagawin niya sakin yung ginagawa nila.baka di ko makayanan .

[Miss Taken]

^ Yes sis based on your story I can see naman na talagang pinagsisihan mo yun and you two are still together and going strong kaya I'm glad na nalagpasan niyo na yung problem. You're blessed to have someone like him cause he doesn't even think about revenge. May mga ganun kasi na tao di ba na they want to get even.

Hmmm somehow yung nangyari sa mom and dad ko naging lesson saken to guard my heart. Although kahit dati pa naman strict talaga ako when it comes to loyalty eh. Cheating is a huge no-no for me.

[reighnyielle]

If I really love the guy who cheated on me then yes I may take him back if he's really genuinely sorry about what he did to me but if I feel like he just wants to feel less guilty by making bawi to me then I won't take him back and show him what he lost. I want to be that girl that he'll regret losing over infidelity.

[seven82]

i did but nahirapan na ako to trust him again so the relationship did not work.

[euwie]

After i accepted my husband when i found out he cheated on me, it was a very rough road for us. Lagi ko inuungkat yung nangyari. Inabot ng years bago ko maovercome yung galit sa kanya. Now that we already have a baby, i feel na lalo lang kaming naging malapit sa isa't isa. Mahirap magpatawad. Pero kung ang taong humihingi ng tawad sa yo e makikita mo talaga ang pagka sincere, mas mapapadali yung healing process.

[kizz2kill]

If my girl did this... hmmm... I dunno. But my general rule is; If someone does something bad once, he/she MAY do it again. If he/she did it twice, it will DEFINITELY happen again.

[writergal27]

Nope. Im a firm believer of loyalty and trust. I saw how my mom suffered because of my dad's infidelities and I don't want to experience that.

[glowing00]

if married to the guy and have a kid- yes i'll give him a second chance for the marriage and for the kid but hanggang dun lang, no third chance, so on, shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice.

bf/dating- no i won't, i can't, even if i like/love him so much, kahit ilang years pa yung relationship namin, why, because it's hard for me to trust or open up to others so if i put my trust on you, it's a big thing already and if you'll break it, goodbye. im sure it will be difficult but i can handle it, dating pa lang manloloko na lalo pa siguro pag naging mag asawa na kayo.

[megansmomma]

The MAN who broke me, left me shattered and nothing after almost like 10 years appeared back and asking me to be his again even if he knows I have a child already. the answer i gave him? "F***IN NO"

So there, why accept someone who cheated you back again? when that person given any chances will repeat it all over again. no sense.

[ashley_0713]

NO!!!!!!!! it's really hard for me to forgive those people who hurt me. I'm sorry.

[akosimaiatot]

you can't teach an old dogs new tricks so its a BIG NO!

[fuzzycatnip]

Hi! New to this forum/thread. I'm just looking for an outlet and I was browsing through and found this thread. I'm interested kasi I've just experienced being cheated on for the first time in my life (and the last, I hope) and I took him back.

From the beginning kasi we were live in na ni current boyfie. I'm a very independent woman and during my younger I did play around lang with my relationships. After my a relationship with my physically abusive ex (the first one I took seriously), I just decided to go with the flow and meet new people. I met BF sa workplace and he was one of the guys interested. Later, I decided to be in a relationship with him (yes, I'm not a fan of ligaw.. Too much hypocrisy) and he asked me to move in with him. A few months later, we moved to another company and another home (now our own kasi before we were sharing an apartment with another couple). Relationship started August last year and I found out about his cheating last March.

It was really accidental how I found out about it. I don't use an advanced smartphone kasi I'm not a texter talaga. He has an iphone5c which we kinda share na because he has his own net. I've never touched his messages/facebook/etc. kasi I'm this person talaga that people don't cheat on. One day while browsing through his messenger app bigla na lang nag-freeze yung screen and I tried scrolling down, ayaw. Nung gumana na uli I was back sa september messages niya. Lo and behold, sobrang dami niyang ka message. As in. Like 20+ girls he would message every now and then, yung iba pa nga kasama pa namin sa previous company nung andun pa kami. And I found out na he was asking them all out and asking for dates and meet ups. There's this one girl that he actually brought sa bar with his HS friends and I learned na nasa office ako nun and it was like his dayoff. The world crashed down on me. I was, literally, everything any man would want in a girlfriend (or even wife). Since nagseryoso ako I was all love and support and I didn't reply sa lahat ng nag-attempt to flirt with me. Nada. I fell into a depression and I had to quit sa job ko and all that. He was saying pa nung una that since October he didn't message other girls na but just last May he was looking for a woman pa on youtube (na one of the girls he messaged) and that he never f***ed anyone anyway.

I gave him another chance but glob damn him if he ever cheats on me again. I now hold control over all his social accounts and everything is linked to my gmail as well. All the women na he messaged before blocked na and I've even included exes. I still cry every now and then about it. I never forgive talaga once my trust is broken but I love him enough to give him a chance. So far he's doing good. He knows what a heartless b**** I was before I met him and alam din niya ang gagawin ko kung mahuli ko uli siya. Siya na din naman nagsabi na he's not gonna f*** up the best thing that's ever happened to him again.

Sorry for the rant. So far, 3 people lang kasi nakakaalam ng nangyari sa amin. I just had to let it out. Maybe I should even start a thread re. scorned women. Lol. Peace y'all. Keep rocking the world, my fellow queens. 😘

[junetwentythree]

^ fuzzycatnip, love your name!

Anyway, I think you have the right attitude to deal with someone like your boyfriend and I commend you for it! Too few women know their worth so high five!

[fuzzycatnip]

^Hihi. Thanks. For someone na independent talaga and sobrang ma-pride, it was and still is very hard for me. Dati nagaaway pa din kami kasi minsan nagagalit ako bigla sa kanya pag naaalala ko and then he's gonna say na I should let go and all that. I told him na hindi naman ako yung naglagay sa amin sa ganung sitwasyon. Hindi naman ako yung nagloko and siya naman yung humingi ng chance. I told him na if he wants to earn my trust back dapat he would allow me to vent out and allow me to set some rules para sa ikakapanatag ng loob ko. So far, he's been doing okay naman. Kahit gaano ko siya kamahal, he knows na I won't hesitate to leave him talaga once he makes those mistakes uli. A second chance? Yes. More chances? Never. So many people out there na hindi mag-hesitate maging faithful sa akin to settle on a guy who can't keep it in his pants. And before I leave him, I'll cheat on him as well at talagang ipapaalam ko sa kanya. A taste of his own medicine.

[honeybunny]

I've been there. And yes we all believe na we are the best woman in the whole wide world that this guy will ever meet blah blah blah. so let me share my story. we were on our 3rd year when we decided mag live in. The night before moving in i found out about his cheating, i forgave him pero few years later it happened again. Marami din mga chismis and suspiscious stuff happened before i finally found out that he didi it again. So iniwan ko na talaga. Yeah i thought din na he wont do it again but i was wrong. Hawak ko all social media and even cellphone. Pero hindi pa rin effective yun. Yes We all wanna believe na we are the exception. Na dahil we are this and that (prettiest, smartest, etc etc woman he will ever meet) e hindi na sya magloloko ulit.

I think if a person wants to cheat on u, he will cheat on u regardless pa if u know their social media accounts. Kung gusto may paraan. He can just Create another social media account, etc etc. para magawa yung cheating. And to me the more na bantay sarado sila the more nasasakal at magrebelde. so you can just trust them that they will not do it again. Isnt that what we all want naman.

[khaleesiCersei]

Yes. Pero para sakin may hanganan yun pagbibigay ng chance. Hangang masaya ka pa sa kanya eh di go, pero pag dumating yung time na nararamdaman mo na nauupos ka na or parang feeling mo naman eh nagawa mo na lahat pero parang  hindi naman pinapahalagahan yun. Let go na. Magtira para sa sarili. Hindi mo kelangan maintindihan kung bakit nya nagagawang lokohin ka. Para sakin walang explanation para dun na makakapag panatag ng loob ko.

[Queen Chokolah]

No. I'm too beautiful to be cheated on. I don't deserve that.

[honeybunny]

^like! that is true. beautiful in all aspects, hindi lang physical. once a girl knew her worth, she wouldnt ever ever settle for anything less.

[Queen Chokolah]

^yes! daig ng confident ang maganda! hahaha. Hindi man ako mala Dyosa, at least loyal ang boyfriend ko sakin

I realize, minsan depende din sa babae (o lalake), you see, my boyfriend was a repeat cheater with his ex girlfriend. That is because she lets him, always forgives him, and takes him back with open arms. He cheated on her at least 5 times. In the end, di rin naman sila nagkatuluyan.

Pero sakin, di pwede yan. From day one I have told him, if you cheat on me, it's over. No second chances. We have been together for a few years na din, may baby na kami and we're getting married in 2017, not one episode of cheating. I also made it clear na kahit we're living together na as family, I will not hesitate to throw him out once nagloko sya. Kahit pa ikasal na kami, walang magbabago sa rules ko. Marriage won't entitle him a chance to cheat.

And besides, I love him too much. Hindi ko kaya na iisipin ko everyday na may iba syang hinalikan, niyakap, sinabihan ng i love you,ka date or whatever. Kahit pa tapos na. I'd rather just forget all about it.