Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[killbill]

Been there - done that. Once nasira na talaga ang trust, impossible na maibalik.

But of course nung time na yun kasi feeling mo love mo pa. Eventually puro na away because of trust issues. Na pag siya ang nagseselos feeling ko takot lang siya sa sarili niyang multo etc.

[kukii]

No. Old habits die hard.

[diann28]

yes!!! hehe 😂 3 yrs kami in relationship.  sa 3 yrs na yun ako una nag loko nag ka hiwalay ng 8mos. nag kabalikan at naging unfaithful na sya. on and off kami ng 3yrs. parang roller-coaster relasyon namin. madalas ko pa sya nahuhuli may gf di ko na alam kung sino ba samin ang legal na gf. ibat iba gf. may ng yayari pa sakanila. at may ng yayari din samin. pero kahit ilan beses nya ko niloloko faithful ako sakanya. kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na sya na gusto ko mapangasawa ... pero may time na sumuko na ko. kasi lagi nalang ganon. kami pa din at faithful pa din ako sakanya. pero di nako yun nakikipag away sa mga gf nya kung nahuhuli ko sya. hinahayaan ko nalang sila. dumating na nabuntis nya ako. dun na nag iba lahat. never ko sinabi pakasalan nya ako. pero sya nag sabi pakasal kami. tapos yun na. nag bago na sya. never ko na sya nahuli. 5yrs na kami kasal ngayon.

*tinanong ko na sya nun buntis ako na bakit nya ko niloko noon mag bf/gf kami. sagot nya lang gusto nya daw mag sawa at ma explore ang buhay binata. mag ka bisyo at matukso. basta lahat lahat na. para pag nag ka pamilya na sya. masasabi nya sa sarili nya. bakit ko pa gagawin yan . eh naranasan ko na yan. nagawa ko na yan.

*sa tiwala syempre di ganon katatag nun mag bf/gf kami. pero yun kinasal kami ( Christian wedding ) binalik ko ulit tiwala ko sakanya ng buo ... sabi nga sa bible "love keeps no record of wrongs"

* masaya kami. 5yrs na kasal wala pa kami pinag awayan na babae. mahalaga past is past.

[gwyne21]

No... kilala ko sarili ko. it wouldn't work out kasi mahihirapan ako makalimot sa nagawa niyang kasalanan. Sira na rin ang tiwala kaya NO na talaga

[zelda]

Seeing one of my closest friends devastated after her bf cheated on her twice is a living proof na cheaters most of the time cheat.

They broke up before right after her ex-bf cheated w/ a co-worker. After 2 years, this ex made some moves to have them get back together. In fairness sa efforts nun. So, she gave him a chance. All was well for 4 years. But when she followed him to SG, and those months of living in together, he cheated on her again w/ another co-worker. LOL

So, no to taking back a cheater. Nunca en mi vida.

[SexyHenessy]

Never. Mapapraning ka lang kakaisip. Araw araw mo dapat sya papatawarin dahil kahit anong pilit mo gawin, hindi madaling makalimutan yung ginawa niya. >_<

[Miss Taken]

No way. Thank God I've never been cheated on but somehow I already know what it feels like because my dad cheated on my mom. I have 2 younger brothers that's why I'm quite close to my dad. We all felt betrayed since my siblings and I thought that everything was going smooth and we were like the "perfect family" in other people's eyes. I saw how my mom got depressed and I would never let myself get hurt like that.

So if my bf decides to cheat on me then we're definitely over. I don't deserve to be treated like that.

[khalee]

No. Learned my lessons. Been there done that. Experieced this with two different guys. Paulit ulit lang din na magcheat sila. Plus there's no peace of mind for me because of the trust issues. Now, I have learned to respect myself and don't wanna be in that same situation again.

[Ms.Cacao70%]

kung boyfriend mo pa lang... the answer is a big fat NO. habang may chance ka pang kumawala, bat mo pa babalikan ang cheater?! kung hindi pa nga kayo kasal nag-cheat na sa yo...so what more kung kasal na kayo?

kung asawa mo na at may mga anak na kayo that's another story. you have to consider many things hindi lang feelings mo. tama yung iba dito, iba ang pasensya at sacrifices to make a marriage work. oftentimes its worth it to give your marriage a second chance pero sometimes it doesn't.

[Tatrix]

Ang mahirap sa akin, kapag nasira na ang trust, mahirap ng ibalik, mahirap ng mawala ang pagdududa. But then I do believe in second chances, kaya siguro I will still try for second time. Pero kapag naulit pa ulit, ako mismo maglalaho ng parang bula. Hindi ko na hihintayin pa explanation/excuses niya.

[sarsingkit]

I did and I guess the Universe is now rewarding me for the immense forgiveness that I have given. hehe.

[Pink_Sugar]

^me too. Mas masaya ako ngayon sa relationship namin. Mas na feel ko ang love at kilig lalo ngayon. Pero syempre yung trust dipa fully healed pa rin.

[Ms.Cacao70%]

^^ yes meron ding rewards na makukuha sa pagpapatawad. You will discover many things sa sarili mo at i feel na mas magiging matapang ka pag naranasan mo magpatawag at magtiwala muli.Your partner will also learn to become a better lover lalo na kung one time cheater lang. Hindi madali, its a big process kaya nga nga bilib din ako sa mga babaeng nagagawang magtiwala muli very brave. pero pag niloko ka na naman, you can easily walk away knowing na ikaw ang nanalo this time dahil you tried.

[sarsingkit]

^^Me too. Mas masaya ako ngayon and may peace of mind. It even manifested in my physical, emotional and mental health. I used to smoke and has less sleeping hours, almost became alcoholic dahil sa dami ng tension because of a toxic relationship. When the time came and I learned to forgive, not just my bf (now husband) but myself, mas maayos na ang lahat.

[bloody_venus]

If dating/bf then never

If we're married but no kids, 80% no

If we're married and have kids, difficult to answer, but might ask to go counselling

[bubbles_sandy]

I did. Still in the process of healing and honestly hindi na buo trust ko sa kanya. He is also hurting sa mga naging outcome kasi sobra ako na hurt and very hurtful din mga nasabi ko sa kanya.

I gave him another chance kasi he deserved it din naman pero pareho kami nahihirapan ngayon.

[honeybunny]

hell to the NO.

[honey.mae]

if mag bf/gf/dating pa lang: 100% no!

[mysterioza_me]

I did and I regret it big time.

[yasbabyangel]

depende sa sitwasyon... pero pag si current bf siguro "oo". nakakahinayang yung 7 years na pinagsamahan namen e. tsaka kung sincere naman yung paghingi nya ng tawad why not. pero thank God, never naman sya nagcheat. ako yung nagcheat samen once. hindi naman totally cheat pero fling fling lang with my prof. text text lang regularly at kain sa labas once. pero wala namang kahit anung nangyare na more than that. may time na nagpalit kame phone ni bf. ayun. nakalimutan ko na sinave ko sa isang folder lahat ng convo namen ni prof at nabasa nya lahat. as in galet na galet sya. pero yung galet na umiiyak at nasasaktan. sabe nya saken sa buong relasyon namen never sya nambabae tapos sabay ako ganun. sobrang iyak ko nun. naisip ko nalang na di ako deserving sa love nya kase naging unfaithful ako kaya ayun nagdecide akong makipagbreak nalang sa kanya after a week since iniiwasan nya narin ako at maiintindihan ko kung ayaw nya na saken kase kasalanan ko naman talaga e.  pero nung nakipagbreak ako tinanong nya ko bakit ako agad sumusuko. sya pa yung nagsorry kase baka may pagkukulang sya kaya nangyare yun. after namen mag-usap pinatawad nya ko. at lalo ko syang minahal. at never ko na sasayangin yung chance na binigay nya saken. palagay ko, everyone deserves a second chance naman. siguro pag pangalawang panloloko na yun ang diko na matatanggap. pero I pray na wag syang gumanti! 19 palang naman ako nung nagloko ko e. hehe