Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[qtme27]

For me, it's a big NO NO talaga.

Kasi "Cheating is not an accident, it's a Choice"
bakit pa siya makikipag flirt sa iba if he's happy with you naman.

Sabi nga sa movie na Secret Affair
"Pag may mga bagay na gagawin mo dahil iniisip mo walang makakaalam, don't do it, chances are may masasaktan. Betrayal and infidelity and secrecy is still betrayal and infidelity.

Flirting is cheating no matter how you define it.

Kaya girls wag nalang siguro cause we deserve someone better na tayo lang yung mamahalin.

[swtgrl_bee]

Hindi ko siguro kaya.

[SexyHenessy]

A big N-O. As in never.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I do believe in second chances naman pagdating sa ibang bagay, pero cheating?
Those na nagawa manloko ng partner, lagi silang may CHOICES.
At if ang pinili nila ay manloko, kasalanan nila yun.

Saka karamihan ng mga tao, pag pinatawad mo sa una, sunod sunod na. Mga abusado.

[angelic_daphne]

Just my opinion: In my experience I did that to one person I really loved who cheated but I realized it's the biggest mistake of my life. I mean, I have already moved on from it but what made me resent that decision was the wasted time that I could have spent with someone who is more deserving of my love, time and energy.

[tisaygirl123]

No, a big NO

Nag try ako, I accept him back. still, masakit pa din talaga saakin yung ginawa niya eh. wala ng trust kahit anong gawin niya. I just accept him it's because feeling mahal ko padin siya after all pero love is not enough pala talaga to accept those hurtful things that he did.

 
so, for me its a NO. Mahirap pag trust ang nasira. I dont think I can still trust him anymore.
and about the healing process? hindi na niya maibabalik ang dati.

[erosiastic]

Sabi ko noon, HINDI. Pero ginawa ko din. Yun lang parehong pareho ang kwento. Uulit ulitin. People never change talaga. Kumbaga sa libro, nabasa mo na, binasa mo pa ulit yun lang pareho ang naging ending.

[Pink_Sugar]

Yes and happy naman kami ngayon, mas naging hot and romantic relationship namin. Siguro nadala din sya sa mga nangyari kasi kahihiyan talaga inabot. Hehe

[redhead69]

This past few month me and my ex tried to fixed everything. We started dating April until this first week of October. 6 months. At first i can tell there's a possibility but as time pass. I can see that we both changed already. In a good way or in a bad way. Over na ako sa nagawa niya. Pero trust? Its really hard to fix and i-gain. We already start talking about our future. But we ended up giving up easily which is di pwede ng ganon if you really want a stable relationship. Dapat both of you are fighting for ur relationship. Pero what if parehas na kayong pagod lumaban? What if its not worth fighting for anymore? That's what ive learned sakanya. Na if he cheated there will be always a doubt in everything.what i really needed noon na i wish he did is reassurance.

[Girltalker2]

It depends on the level of how he cheated, I guess.

When you have kids, it's not easy to just think of yourself alone e.

Cheating is cheating. Walang level level iyan. It is betrayal of trust.

As to thinking of kids din,  it is better to separate kung may kids involved kasi ayaw mong lalaki din ang mga anak mong sinungaling gaya ng tatay nila. So best na hindi sila lalaki sa guidance ng isang sinungaling at isang tumatanggap lang ng kasinungalingan.

i thought kasi masakit pag iniwan ko sya, pero mas masakit pala yung nagstay ako. 

This is so true!  In fact, you will never know if staying is the right decision kasi hindi mo sinubukang wala sya. And dun mo talaga malalaman na napakasarap ng feeling ng walang kinikimkim na kaba at sobra kang at peace with yourself.

If once pa lang naman, and he feels remorseful forndoing so, then maybe, yes I'll take him.

Pero this is the trick eh. You won't know if he is remorseful indeed. Puede kaawa awa itsura nya, sasabihin sayo loyal na sya, pero in reality, hindi pala. Kasi sanay na sanay nanga magsinungaling, so ang lies nya parang nagiging truth na sa kanya.

Kaya pag 2nd time, talagang hindi na talaga puede, unless gusto mo ng buhay impyerno.

No. Cheating is a choice. Pinili nya yung iba, dun na sya. Pag trust ang nabali, ang hirap na ibalik. Parang nakakaparanoid na lang pag nagkabalikan kayo na he might do it again. Nakaka-stress.

Yes, sis.  I believe cheating is always a choice. It is never an accident.  Isipin mo nalang how you established a relationship with your partner.  Di ba unti unti nagprogress. Di naman 1 day lang ang ligawan, dating, getting to know tapos kayo na.  It took SEVERAL meet ups, discussions, times together bago ninyo na-decide na kayo na.  So ibig sabihin, iyang cheating na iyan, took SEVERAL events/moments para sila makapag establish ng relationship behind your back.

So CHEATING CAN NEVER BE AN ACCIDENT.  Hindi puedeng "hindi ko sinasadya". Whoever said this, all the more it makes him a liar.

Just my opinion: In my experience I did that to one person I really loved who cheated but I realized it's the biggest mistake of my life. I mean, I have already moved on from it but what made me resent that decision was the wasted time that I could have spent with someone who is more deserving of my love, time and energy.

Spot on sis!  The earlier you move on, the earlier you can find your Mr right.

[purple.strawberry]

^Spot on sis. You'll find pa that your life is better off without him. No more lies and lingering suspicions. And you're giving room for the right people to come into your life.

[Ms. Right]

Big NO. Why would i? Dami pang iba dyan. The mere fact na nagcheat sya, di na sya takot na lokohin ako. Who, in his/her right mind would keep a cheater back? it would only cause a never ending paranoia on my part, thinking he might do it again. Stress pa yan.

[lovely_carrot]

I have a crazy relationship with this guy.

He was my former live in partner and the dad of my daughter. Nakipaghiwalay ako sa kanya when he cheated on me and a few months after that nagka BF ako na bago. After 4 years nag break kami ni BF and former partner and I were both single at that time. He said he wanted to try it out with me again, and I agreed thinking he came around. So we did try, looking back back siguro dahil malungkot lang kami pareho, and we were not in a very good place to start with, we broke it off after 3 months. Pero we were in good terms, despite what happened.

Then etong si BF, nakipagreconcile ulit, ayun na naman, parang same story, nakipagbalikan ako, working sya as seaman, pag bumababa sya sa akin sya nakatira. Little did I know, he was reading my messages with former partner - the usual conversation about our daughter, kwentuhan pero no flirting. This BF did not know anything about my "reconciliation" with the former partner pero when he broke up with me, yun ang sinabi nyang reason, nagseselos sya dun sa isa.

Former partner and I were both single, again! Hindi sya nag GF after our brief encounter 2 years ago, when we met ulit, seaman din kasi sya, nagpasundo sya samin ng daughter ko sa airport, we checked in sa hotel, sort of family get together. Pumayag ako, I took advantage of the chance talaga kasi hindi naman namin to pwedeng gawin kung may respective partners kami.

Ang ending, we're in a sort of FUBU relationship. Pag nagyaya sya go ako. Sabi ko sa sarili ko good times lang while I'm still single. The people around us don't know about it, I explained to him na no false hopes for them. Mahirap pa i-explain.

[Girltalker2]

^ wow, that's really hard sis.  I mean hindi ko mapicture how can you allow this guy to be in your life now, kahit pa FUBU lang.

This guy cheated on you. Manloloko. Sa every day dealings natin, sa trabaho, sa labas, ayaw na ayaw natin na may ma encounter na manloloko di ba?  Why give him the benefit of even being a friend to you?  Have some sense of pride and self worth, sana kusa ka nang lumayo sa mga taong ganyan. Well, opinion ko lang naman ito.  It is your decision anyway, whatever you think is best for you and your daughter.

Good luck sis.

[iamlili]

Never.

Kahit ano pang klase ng pagmamakaawa yan, kahit pa sabihin niya na he will change. No and never na. Ang daming lalaki dyan na mas worth it.

[mebpa]

big NO. once a cheater, always a cheater!

[bluestocking]

I did and I regret it

[cjb]

Tinry ko yan before, kaso wala, nagloko parin. After which, sinabi ko sa sarili ko na once magloko yung guy, no na talaga, as in kalimutan na. I know mahirap yun, pero nakaya ko siya, it's all in the mind. Kasi of course ayaw ko na mafeel yung nangyari sakin noon.

After 3 years of having this principle, I gained respect for myself, pati ibang tao nabilib and rumespeto narin. I found someone na alam niya na alam ko worth ko, so he's afraid of losing me as well kasi alam niya na keri ko mag move on pag nagloko yung tao. I am happy now

I am not saying na lahat ng manloloko e hindi na magbabago. Pero I just got traumatized with that ex of mine. Pero ngayon, nagthathank you parin ako sakanya (ex) kasi kung hindi niya ginawa yun, malamang lamang iyak mode parin ako ngayon.

[ajang]

no. once is enought twice is too much. ayoko maging part ng cycle ng pagkatao ko ang lokohin ng paulit ulit ng lalakeng wala namang kwenta.

[vanilla]

For me, this is a non-negotiable. It all boils down to respect. If he values you enough and the relationship he should have thought about it twice before sacrificing your relationship. If you respect yourself you would never take back a guy who cheated on you because if you do, he would lose respect for you and think that whatever he did wrong next time you would still forgive and take him back. You should set the standards and never settle for way less. And besides there are other fish in the sea. Just my opinion mga sisses.

[Pink_Sugar]

Yes, I would give him a chance if I love him pero pag diko naman ganun kamahal, no chance na. Been there done that at kinain ko lahat ng sinabi ko, mahirap pala pag mahal mo. Good thing lang eh na feel nya sobrang nakakahiya kasi nalaman ng mga tao na nagkamali sya at dinikdik ko sya, naramadaman ko ang trauma nya. I will not shut up until aminin nya ang pagkakamali nya at kung ano gusto nya mangyari sa relationship namin before. May nagbago sa akin at naramdaman ko na tapos na din sya sa kabuwangan nya. Lol