Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[angelzero]

i agree with brandi too. when i underwent a break up prepared nako na maging single for life. kasi ang tagal ko inantay magka bf tapos masusulot din pala ng iba. pero kung tadhana talaga makahanap ka ulit ng bagong mamahalin eh di maganda. kung wala, ok lang din. magiging masaya naman tayo sa ibang bagay.

[brandi]

I broke up with my 8-yr bf, first bf din actually, 4mos ago. ang daming factors. I wanted to broke up with him 4yrs ago pa. kakaisip ko na baka may magbago pa hold on naman ako. wala naman siguro masama umasa di ba hehe. then i had this realization na, eto ba ang makakasama ko at pakikisamahan ko pagdating ng panahon. yung tipong puro tiis na lang?and ang hirap pala talaga pag wala ng trust. ang masaklap pa, wala ka na ngang tiwala, hindi ka pa makahanap ng rason bakit pa siya pagtifiwalaan ulit, and wala ka din naman makita na effort sa kanya pra mag trust ulit. yung bang alam kasi na kahit anong gawin niya andyan ka lang. yung kahit may mga nasasabi ka or comments, hindi siya magbabago kasi feeling niya hindi mo siya iiwan. then i called it quits after years of hoping.

[jaemi33]

^sis brandi-I'm so happy to hear that! Thank you for sharing your experience I'm sure it was tough but what's more important now is your happy! 

[Shiecg]

@ Sis Brandi, same story pala tayo... pero ako 6 years lang tiniis ko then nag give up na ako. Hindi na nga nagbago nag worst pa.  3 years na rin akong nag ta try maka recover, i know in Gods time i'll be free from the pain.

[brandi]

Thank u sisses! sa totoo lang, breaking up with him was effortless!didnt even cried or whatever. siguro kasi naging manhid na ko?sobra na kasi. After i told him im breaking up with him, i felt free and happy afterwards. Yung bang parang may nawala o natapos kang problema? 

[FOURever]

No.

^same tayo sis. Never ako umiyak nung break up kahit ngayon. Indifferent na ako sa kanya and i can say nga na sana masaya sila now at super bagay sila. Parang nakawala ako sa hell. Never akong naging masaya with him ng kagaya ng happiness ko now as a single. More than 5yrs kami. Kahit papaano at least bata pa ng naghiwalay kami.

Nung bago kami mag 5th anniv medyo pinag isipan ko na pano makipag break. My first bf was there for me to support me (nanliligaw kapag cool off kami or temporarily break kami ni last ex, good friend sya but i dont entertain yung panliligaw nya kasi bawal) so i planned everything kaso pag andyan na di ko magawa.. Then few months after anniv, di ko na mapigilan so i broke up with him. Few weeks after. I found out by myself na nung 5th anniv pa lang namin meron na syang ibang girl. As in official sila and kaya pala 2 ang fb accts nya. Yung marami syang friend, andun yung girl. Yung new acct nya yung akin i asked him bakit gumawa sya ng new acct. wala lang daw and stuff. Ayun. Nung nalaman ko, nashock ako for a second pero nakahinga ako at napasmile ako after kasi i realized i dont have to feel guilty na parang iniwan ko na lang sya because fall out of love na peg ko.. Ayun i told him that i knew, deny pa sya at gusto makipagbalikan. I said no..

[heaven_charm]

im not fond of recycling things 

[Shiecg]

^ astig sis, he he. love that!

[kiz_me1109]

My ex bf cheated on me. I was so weak that time and I continued with the relationship. But I cannot put back the trust I gave him. We ended up hurting each other because I cheated on him for revenge.

[ciacia18]

I did, pero he cheated on me repeatedly. Haha.

[vanessa v]

I think you will all disagree with me .. but my ex boyfriend.. cheated on me, but he told me the truth and was sorry.. i was kinda shocked and broke up with him.. You can forgive but you cannot forget..  the healing process is soooo long.. The funny thing is.. i've always been thinking.. what if he didn't said anything to me.. like a white lie.. will we be still be together? Hirap 

[jaemi33]

I think white lies and the saying ignorance is a bliss are sometimes good.

This is my personal theory to the people who admit cheating on their partners.
They will say they needed to tell you the truth for your own sake and love you and all other sweet excuseses they can come up, but the fact will still be there. They still cheated and most of the time, they admit the crime kasi they feel guilty about it. The guilt is usually winning than the love. You can feel guilty doing bad thing to other people even though you don't love them right? that's the same thing. They admit it to feel better. Para mawala na yung guilt sa feeling nila and for their part, good feeling right? But for your part who just received the worst news ever? I don't think so at habang buhay mo pang dadalhin yan sa relationship niyo.

I just think if you want to cheat, don't expect your partner to accept your wrong doings from admitting it. If my bf cheats on me and admit it to me, that's the worst combination. Hello ex na yan lol

[melabshim]

my bf cheated me also, daming beses na.. andun na yung pagtatago ng sim para lang malaya syang makipag flirt sa iba, nakipag meet  one time pa nga naisip ko na pagkatiwalaan sya ulit kasi nakonsensya na ko na puro na lang ako hinala kahit wala naman na syang ginagawa then ayun sinubukan ko sya hoping na makapasa sya dun sa gagawin ko para mabalik yung tiwala ko sakanya..

gumawa ako ng bagong fb, ginamit ko yung pics ng friend ng niece ko.. super pretty niya and i know na magugustuhan sya ni bf kaya ng message ako sa kanya gamit yun.. dumating pa nga sa point na yung account na yun and yung akin ang pinang mmessage ko pero mas inuuna niyang kasuapin yun sinubukan ko din makipag meet sakanya and pumayag siya.. ako naman nun kinonsensya ko sya na parang may nfefeel akong something na iba sakanya pero todo deny padin.. niyaya ko sya magsimba then sabi niya masama pakiramdam niya pero i know naman na makikipag meet sya then yun pa yung niyaya niyang magsimba ouch diba  then nakipag meet ako . syempre gulantang sya nung ako ang nakita niya

9 months ng nangyari yun pero till now di ko pa rin sya napapatawad lalo na pag na oopen yung mga issues na nagcheat siya saken kami pa din naman ngayon martyr na nga siguro ako hehe.. 9 months  naman na niyang pinapatunayan na nagbabago na siya pero di na talaga siguro mababalik yung tiwala ko sakanya.. naging paranoid na ko. sobrang TH, sobrang insecure  sinasabi ko na lang isa pang ulit niya di ko na siya mapapatawad.. and sana pag nangyari yun magising na lang ako na wala na kong feelings skanya puro hatred na lang

[FOURever]

^same tayo ng naexperience pero umabot kami ng more than 5 yrs.. but i am happy na nakawala na ako..kung di mo kayang makalimutan yun sis you better decide as soon as possible kesa maubos time at youth mo sa kanya..

[melabshim]

nahihirapan nga akong kumawala sis siguro nga kasi mahal ko pa minsan naiisip kong if ever na maghiwalay kami kaya ko na kasi pagod na din naman ako pero pag andun na sa point na yun di ko pa din talaga kaya.. sa kanya lang kasi ako naka depende, di kami ok ng fam. ko and wala akong friends pero kung may iba akong napaglilibangan siguro makakaya ko

[FOURever]

^ganyan na ganyan ako nung kami pa.. di ako makapag open sa family, wala akong friends kasi seloso naman sya.. pero nakayanan ko.. i feel for you sis.. mahirap talaga makipaghiwalay when you think you have nobody other than hm but once makawala ka sa ghost ng ginawa nya, you can start fixing stuff with others. It's not healthy na kayo lang kasi.. if you really love him and you think you can be happy with him and forget what he did, then stay but fix your relationships with other people dahil pag dumating yung time na iwan ka nyan, wag naman sana, mahihirapan ka lalo kung walang ibang andyan para sayo.

Before, nung naghiwalay kami wala akong friends masyado. Friends lang sa school pero iwas ako sa kanila. Pero nung nagbreak kami, syemore inupdate ko fb ko nun, nakita ng classmates ko. Nagulat ako kinabukasan they were cheering me up. I realized kahit di ko sila nakakausap lagi, andyan sila for me.. what im saying sis is, be ready for whatever that might happen. As early as now, fix your relationships with others.. teka, bakit ka naman walang friends and may prob sa family?

[melabshim]

Thanks sis  super nakaka relate ako sa sinabi mo .. tama ka siguro nga time na para mag enjoy naman ako hindi yung puro na lang sya ang inaatupag ko.. as of now kasi parang sakanya lang ako naka depende  kaya pag dumadating yung point na maghihiwalay na kami para kong baliw kasi di ako maka bitiw  dumating na nga sa point na halos magmakaawa ako sakania wag niya lang akong iwan  hehe

war kasi kami ng ermat ko 7 months na so 7 months na kong nakabukod sakanila .. ako lang mag isang umuupa pero sinasamahan ako ni bf ..
bagong lipat lang kasi kami ng fam ko dito sa laguna, pagkalipat pa lang namin dito si bf lang ang naging tropa ko hanggang sa naging kami kaya di na ko nagka chance magkaron ng friends dito, may mga friends naman ako dati mga classmates ko pero nung nagstop ako nawalan na din kami ng communication..

[tough_guy]

Guy here. Don't take him back. You shouldn't take him back no matter how much he begs. ^^ ito lang yan sis tell him that you have to go and that you hope that you and your NOW ex-boyfriend can still be friends. This is the nice thing to do. okay? ^^

[melabshim]

bro @tough_guy
hirap kayang tiisin lalo pa pag nagmakaawa na sya kahit ano pa naging kasalanan niya, ang martyr ko no ? haha .. kami ni bf if ever na magkakahiwalay man kami parang di ko din kaya na maging friends padin kami  pwede siguro pag wala na kong feelings ko sakanya.. pero hangga't meron pa baka mapatay ko lang maagiging gf niya or ka flirt niya.. di ko kayang makitang may kasama syang other girl    sakit nun 

[choco_banana08]

Siguro first time ko lang pinatawad mga sis then naulit kasi ulit.. Of course the second/last is the hardest to get over with. Almost a year of recovery, then now I'm happily married with my hubby! totally worth the wait