Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[ettevyvi]

If those b*st*rds just know this.. and by the way I confirmed this to a friend..

Cheating is like an anesthetic, kahit Propofol pa 'yan, it wears off. And when it does, you're in deep s*. Natanggalan ka pala ng puso at utak, di mo pa alam.

[JINJIN:*]

If those b*st*rds just know this.. and by the way I confirmed this to a friend..

Cheating is like an anesthetic, kahit Propofol pa 'yan, it wears off. And when it does, you're in deep s*. Natanggalan ka pala ng puso at utak, di mo pa alam.

hindi ko nagets sis..paki explain hahaha..

[ettevyvi]

hindi ko nagets sis..paki explain hahaha..

Sorry sis may ginamit akong hindi layman hehe. Propofol is one of it.. I think eto yung ginamit kay MJ... very potent.

Like what I said, parang anesthesia ang pagloloko. Sa una, masaya lang talaga sya... Nakakamanhid na kasiyahan na parang wala kang nasasaktan. Pero kapag nawala na yang feeling na saya.. Dun mo marerealize na doble ang sakit na makapanakit, magpaiyak at mangga** ng taong hindi naman dapat sinasaktan.

[sakura_bloom]

Never.

[jenybasti]

Like what I said, parang anesthesia ang pagloloko. Sa una, masaya lang talaga sya... Nakakamanhid na kasiyahan na parang wala kang nasasaktan. Pero kapag nawala na yang feeling na saya.. Dun mo marerealize na doble ang sakit na makapanakit, magpaiyak at mangga** ng taong hindi naman dapat sinasaktan.

[/quote]dahil bago pa lang,mukhang nasa anesthesia level pa si partner.sana mawala na agad epekto nun para mawala na yung pagkamanhid nya..

[tipC_shoegal]

sis thanks ha alam ko naman na kahit di tayo magkakilala personally eh concerned ka sakin bilang babae.ganito kasi nasa isip ko.pag hinayaan ko sila eh di magpapakaligaya sila dun.ang gusto ko lang eh maramdaman nila ko kahit nasa malayo ako.para di sila magpakakampante.pinararamdam ko sa kanila na may tao silang sinasaktan dito.makonsensya man lang sila.sa asawa ko,sumagi naman na sa isip ko na baka hindi na kami magkaayos basta ang gusto ko lang eh malaman nya na hihintayin ko pa din pagbabalik nya.hanggang di kami nakakapag usap ng personal.
sis,salamat talaga sa advice.kailangan ko pa ng madami kaya sana wag ka magsawa.naappreciate ko lahat ng sinasabi nyo.thanks.

Anytime, sis. Bilang babae, ayoko na may kapwa akong nasasaktan. Part of me is really Feminist. I can't help but really let the opposite sex understand that women aren't the weaker sex. Most men are a$$holes and unless we let them know, they wouldn't be aware how disgusting they are most especially when they mistreat us.

Now, going back to your situation. Sis, it's better to work things out without them in the background. Regardless whether you let yourself be felt or not, those two sinful people will still continue their relationship. Nakita mo naman na pinakiusapan mo na nga, wala pa rin silang ginawa to break their affair e bakit mo pa papagpatuloy yang agony mo? The more you do that, the more you're gonna feel hurt that the day might come when you don't even know how to heal.

Take action now, sis. Let them be. Karma is a huge B!tch, believe me. They will soon get it and if you lift everything to God, things will fall into place. Have you thought about what will happen if your hubby decides to stop the affair and then go back to you? Are you sure it'd be that easy for you to go through life after all the cheating that he did to you? That's too tough. Really, it is. Better heal first on your own and then don't highly expect that your hubby will return. Just fix yourself. Don't think of other things but recovering from that mess.

[jenybasti]

^ thanks sis...

[tipC_shoegal]

^Anytime, sis. God bless.

[ettevyvi]

Sis, I think it's time to really let go now.

Let go of your expectations, the hurt, the hopes and dreams, of him and the relationship.

JUST LET IT ALL GO.

When I realized this, mas nakahinga ako ng maluwag luwag.


I am doing mine.. We will be well.

[tipC_shoegal]

^It does take time to muster all the strength we have left before we could really drop all the good things especially the love for that person who've hurt us but the thing is, if we really love our self more, I guess it will be a bit easier to take the better choice.

You're right, sis ettevyvi, mas nakahinga din ako ng maluwag when I finally realized that it was really better to heal and to concentrate on myself rather than continuously hope and pray for my ex to change when in truth, I've already exhausted myself in the process. Parang nabunutan ako ng tinik kumbaga, that was how it felt.

[ettevyvi]

^It does take time to muster all the strength we have left before we could really drop all the good things especially the love for that person who've hurt us but the thing is, if we really love our self more, I guess it will be a bit easier to take the better choice.

Yes. Ang hirap maglet go lalo na mas minahal mo sya more than yourself. Hindi naman huli ang lahat di ba? We can always love ourselves back. It might be a long process, but it doesn't mean we won't get there.

[manang02]

Lurker ako dito.
Ako yung TS nung thread na " i think my fiance is falling for someone else".
And now na na-confirm ko na he did cheated on me.
Eto na ang tinatanong ko sa sarili ko.
Pero ngayon wala pa rin akong konkretong sagot. 

[nicoletta]

manang02

Omg, I read your post.  So the officemate who is also engaged is cheating with your fiance?  What a mean mean girl, nagmamaganda ha. 

[euwie]

sis manang02, ako naman. kung pwede lang bumalik sa time na engaged pa lang kami, laking tuwa ko. kasi eto ako ngayon, kasal na, gusto ko na makawala. pero mahirap kasi wala kami pinas, hindi ako makalayas basta basta. mas ok na rin na ngayon pa lang nalaman mo na. kasi ano man maging desisyon mo sa sitwasyon, yun na talaga yun, wala kang kung maibabalik ko lang moment. kasi yan na e. chance mo na magdecide na walang naghohold back sa yo kasi di ka pa kasal. kung ano man desisyon mo, i hope buong buo loob mo. goodluck sis

[manang02]

@nicoletta: yup sis. di ko akalain na me ganoon ngang mga babae. kaya ansakit talaga..
@euwie: yung mga sis natin na nag-comment dun sa thread ko ganyan din ang sinasabi. maswerte nga daw ako at di pa kami kasal.. though i still hoping na magka-ayos pa pero at the same time takot na din ako na makipagbalikan kasi parang di ko na alam pano pa sya pagkakatiwalaan.

[ettevyvi]

@nicoletta: yup sis. di ko akalain na me ganoon ngang mga babae. kaya ansakit talaga..
@euwie: yung mga sis natin na nag-comment dun sa thread ko ganyan din ang sinasabi. maswerte nga daw ako at di pa kami kasal.. though i still hoping na magka-ayos pa pero at the same time takot na din ako na makipagbalikan kasi parang di ko na alam pano pa sya pagkakatiwalaan.

Alam mo minsan kahit feeling natin pampalubag loob lang yung linyang "buti nga at di pa kayo kasal AT LEAST nalaman mo na kung anong totoong ugali nya" Tama naman eh.  Kasi may mga naririnig akong "sana di ko sya pinakasalan, hindi sana ganito ang buhay ko..."

Seeing someone for who s/he is, is a HUGE wake up call. Why should you take him back if you have that nagging feeling he can do it again? What's with the person that eventhough he cheated, you will still go back? If you don't have boundaries, you'll alaways go back to that someone who cheated on you. No matter how grave or petty the reason is, if someone cheats and is not remorseful - one should bounce out. FAST. Trust me, they'll do it again. You're not a higher being to prove themselves, - let them redeem their character elsewhere.

In a perfect world, no one cheats. But the hard, in-your-face truth is there are people who does. The more we accept this one fact, the more we understand how not to take them back.

[tipC_shoegal]

Alam mo minsan kahit feeling natin pampalubag loob lang yung linyang "buti nga at di pa kayo kasal AT LEAST nalaman mo na kung anong totoong ugali nya" Tama naman eh.  Kasi may mga naririnig akong "sana di ko sya pinakasalan, hindi sana ganito ang buhay ko..."

Seeing someone for who s/he is, is a HUGE wake up call. Why should you take him back if you have that nagging feeling he can do it again? What's with the person that eventhough he cheated, you will still go back? If you don't have boundaries, you'll alaways go back to that someone who cheated on you. No matter how grave or petty the reason is, if someone cheats and is not remorseful - one should bounce out. FAST. Trust me, they'll do it again. You're not a higher being to prove themselves, - let them redeem their character elsewhere.

In a perfect world, no one cheats. But the hard, in-your-face truth is there are people who does. The more we accept this one fact, the more we understand how not to take them back.

Love it, sis! I super agree.

[manang02]

Alam mo minsan kahit feeling natin pampalubag loob lang yung linyang "buti nga at di pa kayo kasal AT LEAST nalaman mo na kung anong totoong ugali nya" Tama naman eh.  Kasi may mga naririnig akong "sana di ko sya pinakasalan, hindi sana ganito ang buhay ko..."

Seeing someone for who s/he is, is a HUGE wake up call. Why should you take him back if you have that nagging feeling he can do it again? What's with the person that eventhough he cheated, you will still go back? If you don't have boundaries, you'll alaways go back to that someone who cheated on you. No matter how grave or petty the reason is, if someone cheats and is not remorseful - one should bounce out. FAST. Trust me, they'll do it again. You're not a higher being to prove themselves, - let them redeem their character elsewhere.

In a perfect world, no one cheats. But the hard, in-your-face truth is there are people who does. The more we accept this one fact, the more we understand how not to take them back.

Yes, I do have the nagging feeling that he can do it again.
But i'm confused as to let him go or give him one last chance.
I saw how sorry he was, he explained to me why it did happen, and he understood his faults.
he said that this incident just only re-affirms his love for me.
that it is I that he wants to spend his life with. 

[ettevyvi]

Yes, I do have the nagging feeling that he can do it again.
But i'm confused as to let him go or give him one last chance.
I saw how sorry he was, he explained to me why it did happen, and he understood his faults.
he said that this incident just only re-affirms his love for me.
that it is I that he wants to spend his life with. 

In relationships, there is what you call a deal breaker. Sa akin, one of it is cheating. I don't care if it is done once, as long as you cheated, it automatically qualifies that you had chosen to break my trust. Therefore, we're done, baby!

Now, if you think he does deserve that, with his actions, then go. Everyone deserves a second chance if they really do deserve it. Words are empty sis. Ang daling sabihin ng sorry, I won't do it again na ang ibig sabihin talaga eh, "I'm just apologizing because I get caught". Know when to walk away when it's time. I hope you'll make the best decision. After all, you're the only one who can weigh your options.

[manang02]

^agree ako sis!