Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[pinkbubbles17]

willing ka ba sis dumpee.013 na magpalit ng number?

[derkunstler]

no girl deserves to be screwed-up on. It's not fair to take someone like that back, so no.

[dumpee.o13]

willing ka ba sis dumpee.013 na magpalit ng number?

^ iniisip ko na yan sis, kaso kabisado ko rin # nya. matetempt lang din ako, ayoko namang lokohin sarili ko. hehe' sabi ko nga sa sarili ko, di naman ako hihinto, siguro magpapahinga lang kasi nakakapagod na e' we talked last time, he said sorry if nahihirapan na raw ako sa situation namen. Nahihirapan at naguguluhan din daw sya kasi mahal pa din daw nya ko at mahalaga daw ako sakanya. Ayun, we both decided na maglielow na muna. breather lang.. thank you sis!

[asia]

For this kind of issue, it is really easy to forgive, especially if mahal mo yun tao. But you can never ever forget the pain.

Happened to me with an ex-bf, and I never took him back.

[pinkbubbles17]

~~, iniisip ko na yan sis, kaso kabisado ko rin # nya. matetempt lang din ako, ayoko namang lokohin sarili ko. hehe' sabi ko nga sa sarili ko, di naman ako hihinto, siguro magpapahinga lang kasi nakakapagod na e' we talked last time, he said sorry if nahihirapan na raw ako sa situation namen. Nahihirapan at naguguluhan din daw sya kasi mahal pa din daw nya ko at mahalaga daw ako sakanya. Ayun, we both decided na maglielow na muna. breather lang.. thank you sis!

pero sis isispin mo toh, kung MAHAL AT MAHALAGA ka saknya bakit siya may gf ngayon..ano yun for fun lang..kawawa naman yung gf niya kung ganun..tsaka sis malabo utak ng ex mo..maya nyanpabago bago ang isip niya..urong sulong..tama yan na maglielow muna kayo para makapagisip ka rin pati siya kung sino ba talaga at kung ano ang dpat..kasi sa ginagawa niya parang niloloko niya kayong dalawa..goodluck sayo sis..

[dumpee.o13]

pero sis isispin mo toh, kung MAHAL AT MAHALAGA ka saknya bakit siya may gf ngayon..ano yun for fun lang..kawawa naman yung gf niya kung ganun..tsaka sis malabo utak ng ex mo..maya nyanpabago bago ang isip niya..urong sulong..tama yan na maglielow muna kayo para makapagisip ka rin pati siya kung sino ba talaga at kung ano ang dpat..kasi sa ginagawa niya parang niloloko niya kayong dalawa..goodluck sayo sis..

^ oo nga sis e' and i think we're better off this way, lielow talaga kame ngayon. di ko sya tinetext or tinatawagan, kahit email. last nite, nagkausap kame sa Twitter pero sobrang civil lang ng usapan. mga 3 palitan lang ng tweet after nun, di ko na nareplyan kase nkatulog nako. hehe' pero ayun nga, siguro mas okay nato. and tama ka, if he really love me, dapat narealize nya yun dati pa. bata pa kase ex ko sis kaya at one point naiintindihan ko din yung confusion nya. anyway, bahala na sya. magfocus nalang ako sa mga taong anjan for me. salamat sis! Ü

[tipC_shoegal]

Did it and wouldn't recommend it. It's too difficult to regain full trust. Ang sakit kapag binabalik-balikan ko yung episodes and all the sh!t I did for him and for the relationship to work out. Thank God lumuwag ang turnilyo ng helmet na nakakabit sa ulo ko kaya ko narealize na it's not worth to keep him and think that he won't do it ever again because at the back of my mind, the truth still remains, that he did it and with that, there's still that tendency. Mahirap pag gwapo talaga, lapitin at mas mahirap kung hindi marunong umiwas ang karelasyon mo sa mga umaaligid na halip@rot!

[ettevyvi]

If someone cheats, we accept who s/he is before. We send that kind of message to them.

Wouldn't it be better if we just have this one shot mentality? Na, cheat on ke, get lost? Kasi hindi sila natututo eh.

[dumpee.o13]

Wouldn't it be better if we just have this one shot mentality? Na, cheat on ke, get lost? Kasi hindi sila natututo eh.

^ AGREE!

[ettevyvi]

Some people don't learn kasi. Kung alam nilang may second chance sila, di na nila gagawin yung first.

I better adapt that kind from now on. So people would behave better and invest their all. especially guys!

Isa pa girls, wag tayong magstick at umasang magbago sya kung hindi natin nakikita na nagbabago talaga sya. Mahabang intayan yan. Tapos ang ending, magbago sya, hindi din pala ikaw ang gusto. Mas masakit yun. Kaysa ngayon pa lang, ireject na natin sya, move on and believe that really, someone is out there better.

[FOURever]

My mind says no. My heart says it depends.

[tipC_shoegal]

^Used to have that kinda thinking, too but if you've already exhausted all possible efforts and bled out all the emotion within, you're sure gonna grow tired. I guess if it's a one time big time thing, and he NEVER had a record of any type of flirtation with other women and the like, then I might consider but ahhh, that still would be the toughest thing to go through after all the bullcr@p I've experienced...

[ettevyvi]

^ you're right. It's hard to trust someone again. And when they still cheated, you'll be like, "sabi ko na dapat di ko na sya binigyan ng chance ulit eh! " Tsk. I won't. That's one of my boundaries. You cheat, you're out.

Let us remember that love is in line with logic. We just can't let emotions override what is proper just because we let it.

[carmilina]

NO! eto lang yan, willing ka ulit, mag pa uto? uutuin ka naman, mag papa uto ka...cycle repeats again! that's BS!

[meisaia]

come to think of it. if you do this... the question will not really be if he will do it again. the question is will you be able to trust him not to do it again?

if you can answer that simple question with a resounding "yes" then by all means, take him back. otherwise find someone else.

[tipC_shoegal]

^ you're right. It's hard to trust someone again. And when they still cheated, you'll be like, "sabi ko na dapat di ko na sya binigyan ng chance ulit eh! " Tsk. I won't. That's one of my boundaries. You cheat, you're out.

Let us remember that love is in line with logic. We just can't let emotions override what is proper just because we let it.

I like the last part of your comment, sis. That is one thing I learned in this relationship that I got out of almost a year ago. Logic has to play a huge role when love is involved. We can not rely on emotions all the time.

[ettevyvi]

^ako nga, ngayon ko yan natutunan after a failed cheating relationship. pero, it's never too late to learn things!

[tipC_shoegal]

^True that. Sometimes I feel that we really are given numerous heartaches because we simply don't learn from those episodes.

[FOURever]

my mind says no but my heart says it depends.. So I gave him another chance though yung last na pinag awayan namin is yung time for each other.. Pero nagkaroon sya ng ka-chat na girl way before kami magbreak gamit ang isang ym nya na di ko alam na nag eexist.. At sabi nya dun wala daw syang gf.. Nung time na yun, hindi ako pinanigan nya kahit na naghinala na ako. Di ba dapat kung hindi totoo, i-assure nya sakin yun di yung sakin magagalit at parang yun pa mahalaga sa kanya. So I consider that as cheating.. And also, nabasa ko dati nag i love you sya sa bestfriend nyang girl.. At madami siyang classmates na girls na masyadong close na inaaway ako sa di ko alam na dahilan.. Gumagawa sila ng kwento against me na ako daw nang aaway.. Then i told him na pagtanggol ako pero nalaman ko na lang super close pa rin sya sa mga yun, lalo na sa isang girl..

So when we got back together, masaya naman pero never nawala sakin yung doubt.. Stable na dapat kami kung tutuusin pero hindi. Aanhin ko kung ilang years na kami kung masaya nga ako pero never nawala doubts ko at parang nasisira confidence ko dahil dun sa doubt.. So there, i decided to stop na yung kahibangan last night lang ako nagkalakas ng loob to say no this is enough.. So there. Fresh na fresh pero less pain dahil nawala na sakin yung magdadoubt ako every now and then.. I need to focus on my studies kesa mainsecure ako pag wala sya sa paningin ko..

[klengmorales]

I tried... not to nag, not to let him see the pain,

we tried to work it out pero d ko maiwasan na maisip.I thought love is sweeter the second time pero hindi pala..... so kailangan ko ng mag move on