Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, I agree so much with you. 

If I was younger, my answer could have been yes lalo na pag mahal ko yung guy.  But then now I am older and wiser --- advise ko talaga sa mga single sisses natin dito - PLEASE SPARE YOURSELF FROM A TORTUROUS RELATIONSHIP.  DO NOT take him back if you are single, even if it means being single for the rest of your life. 

No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship and you wouldnt want to be in one. Hindi ko ma describe kung gaano sya kahirap, pero wala syang kasinghirap.  Sa buhay kasi natin maraming dumadating na problema, pero if I am to think about financial problems, and other family problems, ito ang pinakamahirap ma-overcome.  OA man, but I would equate as being crippled na walang solution (ie walang crutches or wheelchair to save you) unless you got the guts to move away from it.

[cute1022]

Well, I did... Sinabi ko before NO,but I just did. He's a certified playboy... But I was not the one that was cheated kase, ako yung "other girl", but I didn't know about his gfs (plural ) before, when we were together 5 yrs ago. I broke up with him when one of the girl that he's with got pregnant and revealed to me that they're still together. But last Oct 2010, due to FB, we were able to communicate again...and the rest was history. We are together for more than a year now, and in fact, we are now living together. May mga trust issues din, siyempre di maiwasan, kase nga habulin tlaga siya ng girls  But somehow, naprove niya na faithful pa din siya. And he's more responsible and mature now. And the best thing of all, he was not afraid to face my family, knowing na im the only girl and my brothers are super strict. Honestly, til now...i'm still afraid to settle with him because of trust issues. Pero I'm really praying for both us. Im hoping na sana sumday, mawala na paranoia ko

[Nuna]

I did. And now we're happily married and we have a beautiful baby girl. Super bow ako sa bait ng asawa ko.

[momentum]

i still took back hubby after finding out through his FB that he cheated on me months ago with a GUY.
yes, a GUY. and also found some messages telling to some girls na taga-school niya before na iniwan ko daw siya for another guy with our baby  which was not even true. he was chatting sa fb with that girl during our roller coaster times. i left him bringing our daughter 1yr. 8 months ago kasi i reached the edge na ng pangaabuse niya sakin.

even if physically hindi kami magkasama(i went back home to my mom till now), we tried and tried and tried  and tried to make things work but we end up bringing the worst in us. i still have trust issues with him because of that. kahit last communication niya with that GUY was last Aug.2011 and with the girl Jan.2011, it still hurts to be cheated and lied to.

ayoko na. suko na ako.
i want to take care of myself na and not allow him to hurt me anymore

[rannastillero]

Forgive and forget...

Merong mga times talaga na nag che-cheat ang guy...
Pero it doesnt mean na hindi na sila pwedeng patawarin or yung sasabihin natin na kaya nga nilang gawin ulit yon...

Aminin man natin o hindi merong mga times na magiging down ang relationship naten..
Minsan ikaw yung magsasawa minsan sya. o kaya sa araw araw nyung tampuhan, selosan, at sagutan makakkaramdam din kayo ng pagod..

At sa mga time na yun naghahanap tayo ng attention...

Naloko na rin ako once.. pero yung guy na nanloko saken was my hubby na ngayon...

I gave him a chance na patunayang hindi sya ganong klase ng lalake...
ngayon ok na kame..
masyado syang honest to the point na sinasabi nya saken lahat..

even yung pagtingin nya sa ibang babae i know..

and i trust him...

hindi dahil sa martir ako kundi he's honest with me...

kaya pag sinabi nyang mahal nya ako.. i believe..

[sakura_bloom]

Never.

[faithful and loyal]

more than 8years na kame,sa 8 na un puro pangbabae,puro pagpapatawad! Ngayon  pinakamatindi [textspeak!] girl i treated her like my sister,bestf,daughter..lahat ng lakad ko kasama ko sya shes only 13, im 25 my husband is 26 but were not married. 3 times kami nag hiwalay. Nakipagbalikan hihiwalayan nya na daw,only reason bakit nya daw binabalikan is sa case,hello!! Ano magagawa nung ahas na un?! E [textspeak!] bata mismo nagpahamak sa kanya,kasi sinabi nya name asawa ko kase gusto na daw nya makasama,asawa ko,malanding un! Nag alaga ako ng ahas! Ngayon akala ko wala na nahuli ko patuloy pa din sila.pinigilan nya ko umalis bigyan ko daw sya ng 1 week hihiwalayan nya daw? Ano lokohan? Katapat bahay ko lang [textspeak!] bata,now dito nako sa asawa ko nakatira..pero gusto ko ng magescape pagod nako e,super lambing nya sakin ngayön pero ayoko na magpadala! Kapagod,napaka babaero!

[faithful and loyal]

nagsisisi ako bakit pintawad ko pa sya!!

[monmon009]

i believe na pag nagawa n ng guy na magcheat malaki yung chance na gawin nya ulit to.

[tey_roch19]

NO! naniniwala ako sa kasabihan na  "Once a cheater, always a cheater."  Cheaters can't be changed.

tama sis! totoo yan!

[momentum]

nagsisisi ako bakit pintawad ko pa sya!!

had that same feeling. kaya talagang once nag-cheat sila, bigyan na ng ultimatum and STICK TO IT

[pixiegurl]

hi everyone.. newbie here.. gusto ko lang din magshare.. 

actually, i already did dati.. ang dahilan ko kasi, mahal ko eh.. kaya kahit lahat ng tao eh against sa pagtanggap ko ulet sakanya.. go pa din ako! pero mahirap pala, since i discovered him cheating on me, nawala na talaga yung trust ko.. sobrang paranoid ako everytime.. di na healthy eh.. hanggang sa isang araw nagising nako kasi inulit nanaman nya.. cheater talaga! mahirap pero tinigil ko na.. medyo ilang buwan din ako depressed.. pero much much better nung naka move on nako.. now mas masaya ako sa current boyfriend ko.. kasi andun yung trust eh.. wala na [textspeak!] paranoid feeling buti na lang di ako nagstick dun sa cheater ex ko.. hehe

[goshness]

another question guys, do you think emotional cheating, like having a strong connection with another girl is the same or worse than physical cheating? if your husband or bf is closer with another girl than you are but they are not having sex, what would you do?

[justin3]

^again! panindigan ko pa rin... iba ang situation pag bf-gf pa lang kesa married na.

pag bf pa lang, DITCH HIM!
   - ang lalaki, kung nanliligaw pa lang, lahat ng magaganda at ikakasaya ng sinisuyo nya, gagawin nun
      di nya magawang saktan, bigyan ng sama ng loob  o pagselosin ang babae.
   - kung naging "intimate" na kayo at lumalandi pa rin sa iba... you bet, di aabot sa kasalan kayo not
      unless magpabuntis ka o pikutin sya

pag married na, again, give him a chance
   -  talk to him. kaya nga mag-asawa na kayo eh. tell him na nasasaktan ka na nakipagharutan pa sya
      sa iba. tell him how uncomfortable you are, that you are jealous, etc.
   -  pag ayaw makinig, hambalusin mo ng dos por dos minsan.

[koolitai]

pag married na, again, give him a chance
   -  talk to him. kaya nga mag-asawa na kayo eh. tell him na nasasaktan ka na nakipagharutan pa sya
      sa iba. tell him how uncomfortable you are, that you are jealous, etc.
   -  pag ayaw makinig, hambalusin mo ng dos por dos minsan.

i agree. alam mo sana mabasa to ni guytalker. you are given a second chance and sinayang mo. now, ang alam ko, you are going to be granted your third chance. sana wag mo namang sayangin. consider mo din sana yung mga anak nyo. 2 girls kaya yun....

peace.

[momentum]

bigla akong nacurious sino si guytalker 

[koolitai]

bigla akong nacurious sino si guytalker 

yes, yes! actually ako din. i want to know his side. as in now sana. hihi! 

[momentum]

lam ko na sino tinutukoy mo sis koolitai

[hot_chili]

In my mind Id say, Hell no!

BUT, it happened to me before and I forgave him. bf-gf kami and I found out na may other girl sya, I took him back dahil he said he will end it and honestly I was surprised that he cheated dahil he wasnt the two timer type, as in di talaga sya mahilig sa girls.
Now we are married for 5 yrs, and never na naulit. no female facebook friends, no female contacts on phone (aside from the ones we know mutually), rarely goes out, sa bahay lang umiinom.
But still after 7 years, di ko makalimutan parang yesterday lang nangyari - ito lang yung downside 

[bear_touch]

Just try giving him... another chance