Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[buchi]

i love this thread. i feel i would be able to relate to the ladies, its been a month since i discovered my bf "cheated" on me.
set up was the girl habol ng habol sa kanya tawag ng tawag nagbabanta na din to let me know what's going on, etc. he got scared of me finding out, he tried to get rid of the girl unti unti ( parang text mates ang dating nilang dalawa, i guess)

hirap mag tiwala. pero mahal ko siya, i never loved anyone as much as i did sa kanya... not with all the exes i had. i thought i can give him a chance.

i once said that i will never take back a cheater, and then it happened to me! =( kinain ko lang sinabi ko...  mahirap magsalita ng tapos talga. =(

I feel sincere siya, i feel this time wala nang lokohan.. he's trying... pero siguro it will take time, totoo yan.

[^Vain_Chiq^]

Nope.if he cheated on me once,he can do it again.

[PrincessC]

ang nakakatakot sa ganyan, you can take him back and then what? you might end up breaking up all over again kasi you'll never be able to trust him again or be so paranoid about everything...

[phoebe1811]

for me..i wont na.

i just can't trust him...in my situation..i know he's checking if i would take him back pa since we have 2 children. But how can you take him back if you knew he's still with that b****.

they've cheated you and they could always do it next time when there's a chance

[khymmmm]

Maybe?
Besides, tao lang tayo, nagkakamali rin..
Sa unang beses siguro matatanggap ko pa. Pero dapat iassure nya na ako na di na mauulit and mag-effort syang mabuo muna yung trust ko..
Pero kung naulit ulit, aba ibang usapan na..

[viellemacey]

never.. if he cheated on me, he cheated on me.. hindi na mababago yun. its just that there are things that a girl can never forget. 

[sistah_mom]

definitely no! i value trust so much na kpag nwala na yun prang wlang sense na ang relationship. so in the end mgsu-suffer din ang relationship namin.

[blanchejbv12]

as of the moment di ko pa masabi kasi di pa nangyayari sa akin pero i think di na kasi i believe in the saying na pag ang baso nabasag na pwede mabuo pero may lamat na. and i dont want to enter into relationship where i cant trust my partner 100%. Ano mangyayari sa akin everyday paranoid ewww.

[viellemacey]

^agree sis. lalo na kung mabigat yung reason kung bakit naghiwalay. 

[simplecathy143]

para saken NO.. kasi nga pwede nia ulet magawa yun..

kahit sabihin pa na forgive and forget hindi pa rin maiiwasan na
maging isyu ulet yun.. at baka mag end up din sa break up..

[ecnarfoj]

No... hindi pa nangyayari saken pero mukhang No talaga ang sagot ko. (At wag naman sana).

Parang masisira lang ang ulo ko sa paranoia. Plus mahirap ako makalimot.
Kaya kong magpatawad, pero kung tatanggapin ko pa ulit baka maging "hell" lang ang pagsasama namen.

[fides00]

the right answer is NEVER. but this is not a perfect world. so, my real answer is, I DID (multiple times  haha) because i didn't know better. pero past tense yan ah. kasi i will never do that again. hindi worth it. if there's nothing wrong with him or the relationship, he would not stray. eh ndi naman ako nagkulang or never naman ako nagcheat so i'm assuming that nasa kanya ang problema. yung mga ganung klaseng ugali, naniniwala ako na ndi na mababago eh. ang mangyayari eh magiging sine lang yung relationship niyo. kahit ilang beses niyo pa sikapin to start over, ganun at ganun pa rin ang ending. nakaka-exhaust kaya. so kahit pa mahal ko, i got over it. for the sake of my sanity, principles and dignity.

[viellemacey]

^

if there's nothing wrong with him or the relationship, he would not stray. eh ndi naman ako nagkulang or never naman ako nagcheat so i'm assuming that nasa kanya ang problema. yung mga ganung klaseng ugali, naniniwala ako na ndi na mababago eh.

korek sis.. i believe that guys who cheats are psychologically incapacitated to handle or even enter a relationship. they're self centered not adventurous. 

[fides00]

^ check. problema talaga yun sa sarili nila. it's hard on the relationship if the guy has issues within himself, kahit pa gaano ka understanding at symptathetic yung babae. he'll find it hard to settle with one person kasi kulang siya ng kumpiyansa sa sarili niya. eh kung malala ang insecurity mo, shempre hindi ka mag-sesettle sa isang tao lang na nagsasabi at nagpapamukha sayo na you're a great and loveable person, lalo pa kung ndi naman ganyan tingin mo sa sarili mo. kaya maghahanap ka ng validation ng ibang tao na sa tingin mo ay ndi "biased" or "in love" sayo para masabi o mapakita yung ganung idea na worthy kang mahalin o loveable ka. so ang nangyayari, these cheaters find ways to stroke their egos by going after other women. titingnan kung mapapasagot o kakagat yung babae. this is not always the case but mostly, ganito naman.

[khymmmm]

^ Big check!! nako sis, may kilala akong ganyan.. pero kasi, lagi nyang sinasabi na by the age of 30, saka lang siya magtitino and magpapakasal.. titino lang daw sya pag kasal na.. Eh I doubt that..
Kasi diba, kung nakagawian mo nang gawin ang isang bagay, there will be a time na magagawa mo yun ulit.. and hindi imposible yun..

[fides00]

^ super tomooo!

[simplecathy143]

once a cheater, always a cheater 

[viellemacey]

^tama.. 

[buzzhang]

No....if he really loves me in the first place, he wouldn't cheated on me.

[[-c-h-a-]]

NO. I can never forget things and it will haunt me lang.