afraid of breaking-up with him..

[chengkii]

Hindi kailangan mahal ang hobby sis. Kung Catholic ka, you can join iyun mga Singles for Christ activities nila. Or kung sa Christian ka, meron din sila cell groups, ok din daw iyun. It will help you reflect on your life and appreciate your life more.

It will also be an opportunity for you to meet people...and find people who can help u move on. di ka magiging old maid...

Baka mamaya dumating si MR RIGHT, hindi mo makita kasi busy ka pa malungkot.

[pinkylady]

Hindi kailangan mahal ang hobby sis. Kung Catholic ka, you can join iyun mga Singles for Christ activities nila. Or kung sa Christian ka, meron din sila cell groups, ok din daw iyun. It will help you reflect on your life and appreciate your life more.

It will also be an opportunity for you to meet people...and find people who can help u move on. di ka magiging old maid...

Baka mamaya dumating si MR RIGHT, hindi mo makita kasi busy ka pa malungkot.

waaaaa ayoko maging old maid >.< wala na ako kakilala na member ng singles for christ basta sana worth it etong mga sacrifices ko.

[sharks]

Hi calin22, i've been in that situation..sort of. When my bf and I first became a couple (April 2005), I was working already while he's not. He graduated earlier than me but was not that lucky to land a job. When we were to go out on dates, I would be the one to spend because obviously he has no money to do so. Eventually, I got tired of our situation and I broke up with him..for only over a month, but we were still communicating at that time. I did not tell him my reason for ending the relationship but he was miserable during the period we were not together. One incident made me realize (i won't mention it anymore, cause this might become a novel..lol) that, he's not having money/job, is not reason enough to give up on him if i really love him. if i really feel something for him and i am willing to make the relationship work, i should support him and be there for him when things are not going our way. From then, i helped him in his application for an internship in a maritime agency (he's a seaman) so that he can serve for a period of time before he can board a ship. It all paid off, came January 2008 he was able to board his first ship and now i'm very thankful that I was with him during those times. Sure there'll be times when you feel like giving up or finding the easy way out, but as they say...nothing worth having comes easy.

On the other hand, we have our differences...what works for me may not work for you..it really boils down to whether you both want to make it work or not. Goodluck!

[chengkii]

sis calin22 - if you know deep in your heart that it will never work anymore...try finding other ways to distract you. All the times you habitually spent with him will become idle - which would then lead you to remember him - which will not help you when you're trying to move on.

What to do? Look for hobbies. Busy yourself. Make over. You will discover things about yourself that will amaze even you.

Good luck.

[michipoo]

Aug 8, 2010 - the day i will always remember..

-anyways update ko kayo.. well after may 2010, kami padin.. he said he'll try.. nangyari namen ang pagbawi niya.. pero ganun talaga eh.. its just repeating lang.. now, i know na hindi talaga ako ang priority niya.. he loves me but masyado na daw siyang nasanay na andyan ako.. so wala na siyang effort.. it hurts pero hindi ko talaga masinked-in sa utak ko.. bakit good things never comes back to me?? pero sa mga friends niya.. nababalik.. yeah it seems parang paranoid na ko.. i really need directions..

same here. alam mo yan din sitwasyon ko ngayon. i tried everything para umayos pero parang once nasira na talagang mahirap na ibalik yung dati. parang hindi ko kaya na wala siya, masakit pag wala siya lagi ako umiiyak, pero sa totoo lang mas masakit kapag anjan siya kasi lagi niya ko sinasaktan lagi binabalewla at di iniintindi. i dont know where to start.

[michipoo]

para na kong sirang plaka paulit ulit. i keep on trying na ayusin kahit alam ko wala ng patutunguhan. ang hirap lang isipin at parang di ko kaya na tuluyan siya iwan.

[sweetcupcakes]

Naku sis ganyan din ako takot makipagbreak noon. Pero patagal lang patagal ang relasyon namin patagal din ng patagal yung sakit na nararamdaman ko. Then one day nagdecide na ko makipagbreak sa kanya. Wala eh, di ko na magawang maging masaya pa kasi sya naman ang may problema. Di nya gawin part nya para magwork ang relationship namin. Yun pala, until now di pa sya moved on sa ex nya. Haay.... masakit pa rin hanggang ngayon.  Pero  sana makaya ko at kinakaya ko din naman..

[banana10]

ako nasa 2 years and 7 months na relationship. nung 7 months pa lang kami parang ayoko na, pero i keep on holding on.minsan super love ko siya minsan ayoko na. 1st boyfriend ko siya, hindi alam ng parents/ brother/cousins ko na may boyfriend na ko.super hindi ko siya mapakilala kasi hindi siya college graduate tapos hindi pa maganda buhay niya ngayon nakipagbreak ako sa kanya last year kasi nga hindi na ko masaya pero hindi ko kaya, ako din nakipagbalikan sa kanya. mabait naman siya pero ewan ko. super bagay yung song ni juris nda "di lang ikaw"  tinitiis ko lang to. j=kahit hindi na talga ko masaya. i can't break his heart anymore...sad sad sad

update mga sis 
i broke up with him last week of june 2010. my mom had a major surgery back then and i thought we're going to lose her. i had this feeling that maybe my mom got sick because I was a bad daughter, ayun di na ako nagdalawang isip, i broke up with him na, di an rin naman ako talaga masaya. since then I'm single, I'm kind of worried that I might not have a bf ever,  but I'm crossing my fingers and praying...sana makita ko na love of my life...

[dsylle_18]

congratulation miss banana10!Im so happy na nakawala kana.. Me, now parang nasa situation mo pa year ago. I know hindi na ako masaya sa  kanya pero tinitiis ko lang kasi ayaw ko syang saktan. As you said..i can't break his heart

i don't know what to do..

Ano ba pwede kong sabihin or gawin para hindi nman masyadong painful ang breakup..

[whitelady17]

sis, wala namang madaling break-up eh, wala namang painless na break-up, mas masakit siguro kung mas pinatagal pa ang relasyon tapos hindi na pala masaya ang isa. The earlier the better, para maka move on agad.

[aquacharly]

^ say you need to find yourself.

Sometimes, the kindest thing you can do to a person you no longer love enough, is to let go.  Kasi malamang, kung hindi ka na happy -- hindi na rin sya happy but he cannot make himself take the 1st step towards a break-up. 

Pray for Divine Guidance, He will give you the right words. 

[thestargazer]

Sis, mahirap yang situation mo. Sasabihin ko sana na, love is a decision. Kaso early stage pa lang ng relationship medyo ayaw mo na.

Sabi mo rin sometimes you feel that you love him, sometimes wala - dead stars. Try mo ire-discover sya yung mag focus ka sa mga bagay na hindi mo alam about him or nagbabago. Baka nawala na yung sense of mystery sa isa't isa kaya parang boring na. Try mo muna na maging exciting kayo ulit.

Pero kung talagang natry mo na ito at hindi ka na talaga happy at di mo na sya mahal, it's time to move on. Palaging meron masasaktan, pero kung ikaw naman ang parang unti-unting namamatay if you stay. I-let go mo na sya.

[piatos]

ganto din ako takot makipagbreak kasi mahal ko sya tapos inunahan lang ako mas masakit harhar 

[x-y]

I just ended a 4 year and 9 month-relationship. I feel like I've done the bravest thing in my life. I'm done with it.

[Ishasophia]

^ I admire your strength sis..

Im in a place where I my mind says give up but my heart says "konting tiis pa". I love him.. so much.. but I don't know if he feels the same way or I'm just one of his collections. I've been praying that someday he'll prove to me that he truly loves me. I hope if that will happen, I'm still there to see it..

[jane2]

yes, i'm afraid because i really love him and he's my happiness.