Middle Child: Questions, Issues, Stories, etc.

[kinkytinch]

hi sisses and bros, im curious...how do you see yourself or your sibling being the middle child? what do you think is your/his/her role in the family?

ako, i thought i was the glue..pero ngayon parang wala akong lulugaran.. hmmm... sige lang, share lang... baka makahanap ako ng inspiration from you 

[liyapot]

pwedeng sumagot?
di ako middle child..ako ang bunso sa family of 2 sa bahay namin
but my husband is
in his case he is the glue..the mediator..the go between.
masyadong mabait ang hubby ko.. pasensyoso sa pamilya nya at sa amin/akin.
kahit na dehado na sya ok lang.. kasi sa current setup namin..yung older bro nya nasa province nila..yung younger sister nya nag migrate sa canada..kami na lang ang naiwan sa manila.
dun kami stay sa bahay nila with his parents.. most of the time we do errands for them.. we keep house meaning maintenance ng bahay..kotse.. taga bantay sya ng plumber, electrician, driver, houseboy whatever..
minsan aangal na si hubby sa akin..pero wala din sya magawa..masyado kasi mabait.
yung 2 kapatid nya maski dun pa nakatira sa family home di tumutulong sa pag-"keep house" meaning they use the car whenever wherever.. iwan lang gamit kahit saan..if something breaksdown they call my hubby..pag tumulo ang bubong they call my hubby..pag nasira faucet they call my hubby,  hahahaha!! patawa nga eh na nakaka-frustrate kasi matatanda na sila lahat 30's na

[coco_CRUNCH]

hmmm napaisip din ako ha.. middle child kasi ako.. parang both... kasi yung older brother ko masyado inaasa saken lahat. pagkuha ng gamit niya sa kwarto.. same with my mom.. tapos ako di yung taga bantay ng kapatid ko na bunso. may times din na ako napapabati sakanila.. mahirap kasi nga wala ka malulugaran hay....

[messe.besse]

i am 2ndth sa eldest of 5; of which eldest sister ko does whatever she wants and napaka irresponsible (among other things) so, my parents made me the eldest.  pati dito sa work sa problem na ginawa ng eldest, pinasalo sa akin (same pa kami ng sweldo).

nagka prob yung isa pang sister ko sa us, pinapunta ako duon para ayusin yung problem niya.

at their early 60s tinatamad na sila maging parent so pati pag alaga ng the rest of my siblings, pinasa na sa akin.

magtayo daw ako ng biz para sa mga kapatid ko.


pag may kulang sa bahay, takbo sa akin para maggrocery. pag may utos (kahit kukuha lang ng spoon), ako pa tatawagin. 

pag umihi yung aso sa luob ng bahay, kasalanan ko pa at ako ang taga linis.


the rest of my siblings naman napaka tamad, and sobrang happy go lucky na wala sa lugar.  inconsiderate at hindi nila naiintindihan kung nahihirapan na ako.

huwag ko daw dibdibin.

[liyapot]

sa bahay nila hubby..sya nag-iigib ng nawasa.. he gets up at 1am to make sure the motor is running para makakuha ng nawasa gets back to bed and wakes again at around 3 or 4 am para patayin ang tubig.

his mom asked him to check her shower.. he tried to look into it and tried to fix it himself  eh di nya pala kaya kasi may iba sa pagkakabit ng knob ng shower..anyway nagalit ang mom nya sa kanya....bakit daw kasi pinakialamanan nya hahahahaha!!! super frustrated na si hubby.

[mdy]

My younger brother, middle child, is our family's glue. He does everything just to make sure our family stays together. Pag may problem, we consulted him. Parang sya ang taga-solve ng lahat problem, mediator sa lahat ng bagay.

With my husband's family, feeling ko yung husband ko ang glue. And aminado naman ang father in law ko don sa bagay na yon. Kasi my husband wants na palagi sila magkakasama. Kaya everytime na umuuwi sya, palaging may mga lakad na kasama mga siblings nya and even his parents. With problems, yes sya din ang takbuhan. He's the eldest.

I think in every family, talagang may isang tao na will try his best to keep his family intact and it doesn't matter kung pang-ilan ka, just the same, may black sheep din diba

[independentgala]

middle child so ibig sabihin gitna ka sa magkakapatid.

pansin ko lang mas close ang panganay at bunso.mas nagkakaintindihan sila.

pag middle child gusto mo maging bunso, pa-baby..pero gusto mo rin maging magaling at sundin ng ate mo mga gusto mo...

parang kapag middle child may sarili kang mundo.natututo kang mabuhay magisa, maging strong at maggrow magisa.

anyways, masaya naman ako sa pagiging middle child ko.

    

[Juricks]

middle child syndrome ba tawag dun?  Can't remember.  But I used to have that when I was younger.  Pero in my case kasi, kapag nagkaisip ka na talaga and you are now the one deciding for yourself, parang wala na din yang syndrome na yan.

[ishko]

pag middle child, hindi ikaw ang paborito, in short, walang masyadong pakialam ang magulang mo except kailangan magbigay ka ng pera sa kanya...

[aquacharly]

IMO, the Middle Child is always  the most practical, reliable, realistic and hardworking child.   Unfortunately,  kulang sa pansin kadalasan...but that nurtures their inventiveness, keen observation, flexibility and adaptability
   

[chengkii]

^ Agree with you, sis.
But I've seen some middle children who grew up otherwise. hehe. Pero their number is far lesser than the successful ones I've met.

[laviere]

middle child here, and admittedly, i have the so-called "middle child syndrome".

agree ako with middle kids being stronger, more independent, and individualistic. minsan medyo kulang nga sa pansin, but with good reason. we're so independent our parents kinda just leave us to fend for ourselves.

[baby michael]

i read a study before na middle children daw turn out to be the most successful among the brood..esp. yung 2nd child.. totoo ba? ewan ko, i'm not a middle child e.\h

[lilmissprettydiva]

middle child syndrome ba tawag dun?  Can't remember.  But I used to have that when I was younger.  Pero in my case kasi, kapag nagkaisip ka na talaga and you are now the one deciding for yourself, parang wala na din yang syndrome na yan.

Pansin ko lang pati sa mga middle child bukod sa papansin eh may pagka-gaya gaya sa mga kapatid. Kung ano yung nakikita sa nakakatandang kapatid ginagaya.... based on my personal experience.

[pampolinous]

Middle child here.

Based on aquacharly's description I will have to say yes to all of them.

I'm so reliable and independent that my mom told her masahista "Never akong nagkaproblema diyan" (referring to me). I just do what I need to do, and rarely bother her. I think this stems from childhood too, kasi sanay na ako na hindi pinapansin lagi, and siyempre in order to "survive", I have to learn to be independent.

And that is why I went abroad by myself since I was 20 and started living and studying in an entirely different culture from Manila (even the language).

And yes, papansin din ako, cause lagi ako nagtatampo sa bf ko when he doesn't have time for me 

[Stellar27]

yung middle child ko napapansin ko matampuhin and mas gusto niya lagi mag isa. keeps herself busy, nasa sulok lang nagbabasa, pag gutom na siya kusang nag sasandok ng food. pag gumawa yun ng homework di na siya nag papaalam, (yung panganay ko kasi nagsasabi pa na mama gagawa na ako homework ko) lalapit na lang yun na mama alam mo tapos na homework ko. honor student nga yung anak ko na yun...

[numonorean]

i agree with being independent.  i've been deciding things on my own for as long as i can remember.  sabi nga ng mom ko, hindi ako high maintenance na bata.  kahit nung first day ko sa school, hindi ko iniyakan parents ko.  i jumped out of the car and waved bye.   at the same time, since i decide for my own, i don't like it when my decisions get questioned.  hindi naman ako sure kung naga-apply sakin yung papansin.  kasi, i dislike standing out.  pero there may be things i do na papansin na hindi ko lang nare-recognize as such. 

may nabasa ko na middle children deal best with last born/youngest children.  i don't completely agree with that, because most of the people i work well with are first borns.

[independentgala]

i agree i dont want others questioning my decisions.

but sometimes i find myself difficult to deal with. i have high expectations to others and myself and when they fall short i get diasppointed.

[design21]

yung middle child brother ko siya lang ang hindi close samin 4 kami magkakapatid. close nga kami nung panganay bunso ako. Inggit yang kuya ko na yan sakin at sa kuya (eldest) namin. Malalaki na kami married na 3 samin. Isa nalang single pa about to be married kaso nagbreak sila. He wants to feel superior kasi malaki ang kinikita niya pero deadma lang kami ni eldest, not affected  he tends to compare his family to my family and our eldest. second brother ko pala siya but he has some issues. I expect nga ang maging middle child samin is yung pang 3rd. Kasi 3 sila then me youngest na only girl pa. Pero si 3rd brother didn't mind ano position niya kasi mas gusto niya hindi napapansin

[j27]

middle child din ako, at napansin ko din yung mga yan nung bata pa kami. mas pinapaburan yung panganay at yung bunso. ako naman nakasiksik sa lolo at lola. :-)

pero ngayon na married na kami lahat, parang mas close kami ngayon ng parents ko. kasi busy yung panganay, pasaway naman yung bunso. :-)