MERGED: Pintas na na-receive ni baby -How to deal

[Mai]

Btw, if that's your baby sa avatar mo, he's cute!

[evylora]

thanks sis mai.. si baby nga nasa avatar... pero now he is 4 months na..

pati tuloy sa panaginip nadadala ko ang sinasabi ni tita kay baby...masyado yata akong naging affected. siyempre baby ko to ayoko ng may makaksakit sa kanya.. naawa din me. pero masaya me dahil may forum na ganito nakahanap ako ng kakampi

thanks and god bless!!!

[grumpybear]

you know, i think it would be more harmful to your baby if your baby sees you being too affected by what other people say about him.
Your baby needs to feel secure with the people who are closest to him (most importantly with you). If you raise him with enough security and love, he probably will grow to be a self-assured young man. If you show him na affected ka with what people say- and these are people who should not even matter to begin with- he will start being affected too.
I've tried to refrain posting on this thread because I knew I would come off as unsupportive. But honestly, I'm more concerned about your reaction to your tita than what your tita actually said.
You cannot control what everyone will say about your baby so kung alam mo naman ang katotohanan, na cute ang baby mo, it really should not matter what everyone else says. Lalo na people like your tita. Why that tita is even in your life iis really puzzling.

[ebiko]

don't be upset motherhood evylora ... atleast mismong tita mo, kadugo mo ang nagsabi niyan at hindi ang mga ILs mo ... mas masakit yun. ang mahalaga is, healthy si baby at walang sakit. don't mind your tita's comment.


dati si baby, at 2 months, altho breastfed, hindi siya mataba, tapos hindi rin sia natutulog ng matagal, 30 minutes lang lagi ang sleeping time sa day time niya, e nung makita ng MIL ko si baby, ang comment niya "ang payat naman ng anak mo" -- i was really hurt, pati mama ko, kasi nga dalawa kami ng mama ko ang nag-a-alaga, tapos yung comment niyang "ang payat naman ng anak mo" -- parang we were not doing our best. e kasi yung mga naging ibang apo niya, bilugan nung baby pa sila. [e kasi naman yung genes ng mga napangasawa ng mga anak niya, healthy]

 e paano nga din naman tataba si baby, e para rin silang palito sa kapayatan , e on the healthier side kami. tapos yun ang sasabihin niya sa anak ko. hay kakairita.
 

[evylora]

affected ako kasi si tita ang nagpalaki samin ng kuya ko. and i was'nt expecting na sa kanya ko pa marirnig ang ganung comments. to a person who is really important to me...

pero ngayon as what i've said, i don't care na what people says as long as we show baby our love, i think that would be enough for him to live happier...

proud mommy of not so cute but healthy and smart baby!!!
God bless!!!

[mistiqshannen]

Hi sis alam mo ang baby ko nun lumabas ang itim ako na ina sabi ko bat maitim e maputi kami both ni hubby. inisip ko nga baka nagmana sa kuya ni hubby pero after few months unti unti nagbabago ang kulay nya at now mas maputi pa sakin.

alam mo naku wag ka amsyado paaffect dyan e ano kung ma sgusto ng tita mo ang ibang babies na anak ng mga kapatid mo or others.. basta ikaw be proud na anak mo yan it is a blessing. hayaan mo sya.. tsaka haller color blind ba yan tita mo at metaas na ba grado ng mata nya cute naman ng baby mo ah!

[trustingsoul]

don't be upset sis cute kaya ng baby mo.
yung brother ko ang itim itim nung pinanganak.. hehe, pero ngayon maputi naman na siya at pogi (without glutathion ah..lols)  meron pa nga tawag sa kanya dati, di ko lang maalala yung word pero something na ang definition ay panget. pag naaalala namin yun, tinatawanan na lang namin. meron lang talagang maitim pag pinanganak pero wait til lumaki na sila makikita ang tunay na kagwapuhan o kagandahan. at saka ano naman kung maitim man?? there's nothing wrong with that

[pinkpotato]

proud mommy of not so cute but healthy and smart baby!!!

hey sis, baket naman not so cute? i think you should believe that your baby is soooo cute talaga.

[hunny_ally]

my dad always say "power of word". if you always say that you're baby is not cute, then people around you would think the same. worse, your baby will not grow cute.

[Jiane]

hi sis, ignore mo lang ang bad comments ng tita mo..lahat ng baby cute kahit ano pa ang complexion niya. Mas mganda nga sa boy ang moreno parang hunk ang dating..ako nga my baby girl is morena mana sa dad nya while ako chinese looking maputi ako kaya imagine pag karga ko siya ni wala kaming resemblance.  marami nagsasabi sana kamukha ko na lang daw si baby but i love her face kahit morena siya at kahit ano pa sabihin ng iba she's the prettiest baby for me.. that's how proud i am..

[evylora]

hi sisses!!!

im very proud na ngayon sa baby ko. kanina inulit na naman ni tita ang sinasabi niya kay baby. kausap  niya si hubby kasi kasi karga ni hubby si baby. sabi niya alam mo  nung sa ospital while si baby mo is buhat ni nurse, di ko gusto kasi ang pangit niya nuon... but now, nagiging kamukha na ng mommy niya. meaning baby is getting cuter everyday!!! well whatever she says, i will always be and forever proud of my baby!!!

thats the spirit!!!

thanks sisses narealize ko na hindi ako dapat paapekto sa sasabihin ng ibang tao or whoever. ang importante, mahal namin si baby and napifeel niya yun!!!

god bless!!!

[qt_ben17]

i guess taklesa lang talaga ang tita mo, with no regard sa feelings ng ibang tao. learn to accept it that way, and you must be strong for yourself and your baby.

[aien]

naku yang tita mo maraming ganyan...ang pamantayan ng ganda ay puti....wag mong intindihin un...baka maitim cya nung bata cya...

[evylora]

tama sis!!! afro ang buhok ni tita nuon and maitim din siya!!!

[Cheesecak3]

your baby is cute. wag kang paapekto sa sinasabi ng tita mo.

[qt_ben17]

^ LOL. kaya naman pala eh. kirara ba? siguro madaming nanlalait sa kanya nuon kaya unconsciously nasabi niya yan against your baby.

[maryodette]

ako din maitim din baby ko... girl pa naman...pero ok lang, eh ganun talaga...di ko na lang sila pinapansin...

[hapi_prego]

my eldest is morena, not like others who has the same age with her (playmates) even her lil brother is sooo much whiter than her, We're joking nga na pag laki nila mamagalit siya sa amin kasi "bakit mas maputi kapatid nya" But we love her bits, for me, for us, she's the cutest and adorable kiddo 

[LovingMom]

People who say bad things about a child's physical qualities are nakakaawa. And to say that to a kid's mother makes that doubly annoying.

[byutijunkie]

why care?  whether maputi or maitim pa kay clottey ang anak mo, it shouldn't matter.  ang importante, he's healthy. 

you cannot control what other people will say about your kid, what you can and should control is how you treat your son.  you're the mom.  kesehodang itakwil sha ng lahat sa paligid mo, ang importante naman is that you accept and love him just as he is. sorry pero i don't get how you can let something as st*pid as that affect you =/