How did you overcome fear of driving?

[mommyniuja]

Pa-join...

Kailangan ko nG sandamakmak na lakas ng loob.
I know how to drive pero lagi akong natatakot and mas pinipili ko pang mag-taxi. Help!

[OD]

hehe... you know guys during the first week that I drove alone, there was never an instance that my legs weren't shaky after I reach my destination. Eh kasabay ko ba naman are PUVs (buses and jeepneys). Add to that the throngs of people crossing the streets nonchalantly and carelessly. Btw, I usually drive along Novaliches and Commonwealth area. If you're familiar with how pedestrians behave along Commonwealth (QC) esply near Manggahan area, you'll know precisely what Im saying here. Buti nga they capped the speed at 60kph along this vast highway, it just happens to be the deadliest thoroughfare in the metro outstripping EDSA of its title for so many years na din.

But little by little, as I hustled and slogged it out with every pasaway PUV driver, I eventually got acclimatized to driving defensively. Nun una I was always wary of being sideswiped coz secondhand na minamaneho ko so walang insurance plus it's such a huge inconvenience to be involved in an accident, even just a fender bender will require an atrocious amt of time and effort wasted. So naka-mindset na'ko to be highly alert, the key really is to practice. drive lang ng drive, nakaka-frustrate talaga minsan esply if the one who's coaching you happens to be equipped with unsupportive and discouraging coaching skills, then he doubles up as the partner too. hehe... tinuruan ka pa eh no.

I suggest you look for a friend or kin who you believe drives responsibly and skillfully and is the least person to undermine you. If you have to pay for the favor then do so, you just need the company of someone who can guide you in tackling main roads just so you know if youre doing it right. Then try na agad to drive alone. If you have to drive slower bec youre unfamiliar with a given area, dont mind the hecklers. yun iba nang-gitgit pa if they spot na female driver and seemingly a novice at that. Lalo mong bagalan hehe! Eh mga naging bagito din naman yang mga yan. Just stay within your lane and stay mindful of the road ahead, whilst keeping an eye on either sides from time to time for bikers and motorcycle riders. Ang bibilis kasi nila, minsan magugulat ka talaga. And one great tip from my dad, when trailing another car on a slow pace, keep at least 2m distance or just enough room to maneuver  so you wont be stalled when he does. wag tutok sabi nga nila

[jhaney]

@OD, sobrang encouraging yung advice mo. Malakas ang loob kong madrive pag automatic ang dala kong car. Problem ko naman ang pagpark ng car sa garage namin mejo nahihirapan pa ko. Another thing kaya sobrang maingat ako kasi hindi sa kin yung car. Pag nagasgasan or nabangga ko lagot ako sa may ari.  LOL

[mommyniuja]

Hi sis OD! Thanks sa advice! Magdadrive na talaga ko. hehe!

[OD]

anytime gurls, glad that my experience elicited enough motivation i dont consider myself an ace rubber burner yet hehe.. siguro pag naka-akyat na'ko ng Baguio, or kahit Tagaytay lang pwede na. But of course, as what ive always been told and i hope you guys do take a cue from it is that to never ever be complacent even though you've become confident of your driving skills. Remember, not all road users are as diligent and as cautious as you/we are. My father would always remind me that accidents happen when you least expect it (but usually due to undue laxity), and even when you try level best to avoid it.

^^ ako din sis, my ears and nose used to bleed sweat whenever I park in our garage. It's a sloping drive way eh plus space's a bit cramped  so pag-arangkada patay makina. Again, practice made "patay makina" happen only after Ive parked the car suitably inside Tip imparted by my Dad that made life easier, dahan-dahan lang daw at first when parking esply in a narrow space so that you have full control when you steer and maneuvering would be easy. Btw, I practiced parking in malls. Trinoma's parking lot is a good area to develop this skill, try nyo. 

[Myealexis21]

I've enrolled myself in a driving school pero since I'm going for a vacation, sa July pa ako magstart.

Not excited though

[rychel07]

tama si sis OD, practice lang ng practice mag-drive. lahat naman kinakabahan sa una. pero ang sarap ng feeling pag nakarating ka sa destination mo ng walang problema, at walang road-kill, joke.

just be careful lang and tama, wag nyong pansinin yung mga nang-aasar na porke obvious na you're a newbie driver, andyan yung mag over take sayo or minsan slight takutin ka pa or yun nga titignan ka pa ng alangang pang-asar or parang feeling nila super galing nila magdrive amf.

[freelancer]

atsaka tip din kahit binubusinahan na kayo wag nyong pansinin hayaan nyo lang sila.. ako nga minsan kapag binubusinahan ako bumubusina din ako para lang hindi halata masyado na ako yung binubusinahan. lol!

[pinkk]

i tweak my mindset.

[gingersnap]

hi sisses, pa join lang. i was once a super duper takot matutong mag drive. i even said to myself na hindi mo ako mapapahawak ng steering wheel para mag drive. i'm always at the passenger seat. hubby did the driving and sometimes un mga eksena sa kalsada made me really nervous so i vowed not to learn and worst drive. however, due to some unexpected changes, i have no choice but to learn  how to drive. umalis kasi si hubby to work abroad, kaso ni hindi nya ako naturuan mag drive man lang bago sya nakaalis. i said i'll enroll in a driving school pero di ko naman nagawa.

so yun nga nakaalis na sya at lahat di pa rin ako marunong mag drive. then after a few weeks naaawa naman ako sa mga anak ko kase hindi kami makalabas at makagala kase hassle naman mag commute. so i told myself i'll give it a shot, mage enroll ako. i told my dad about it and he said not to enroll, he'll just teach me how to. so ayun nga, every weekends for about 3weekends yata yun pupunta sya sa amin early morning para turuan ako mag drive dun lang sa subdivision. during our 1st day ng turuan pag drive, sinabi lang nya yung mga dapat gawin, pero hubby already told me some of it like pano mag start, gears, break etc.pero nahawakan ko lang yung steering wheel nung turuan na ako ni daddy. unang ikot namin 1 block then sabi nya sige stop muna. tapos sabi nya dito ka na, ikaw mag drive. my gulay na shock ako kay daddy, nanginginig ako sabi ko di ko pa kaya, sabi nya, kaya mo yan, sige start mo. then ayun halos pawisan ako ng husto kahit malamig naman sa loob ng car sobrang nerbyos. then after 3 ikot, sabi ni daddy, stop mo, park mo muna sa tabi. stop ako akala ko may titignan lang daddy ko sa labas,then biglang sabi, sige ikaw na mag isa! wahhh ano ba halos maiyak ako. sabi ko naku san ako pupulutin nito. pero sige eto na eh, so drive naman ako, sobrang bagal habang dad naka masid lang. so parang sige lang ganun every weekend, minsan dun naman sa mga road na pataas hanggang sa naging excited na nervous ako pag dumadating ng weekend. siguro mga naka 5 session kami ng ganun hanggang sa sige ok na.

kami kase every sunday nagpupunta sa house ng parents ko so hindi talaga pwedeng lagi na lang commute at magastos. so eventually yung pagda drive papunta dun which is next subdivision lang from our house eh ayun natutunan ko na. then ngayon nakakapunta na kami ng mall hahaha. so next target ko na hindi ko pa alam kung kakayanin ko eh yung papasok sa office naman. in short, kahit takot tayo pag ginusto natin magagawa. kinakabahan pa rin ako pag nagda drive i just stay focused and syempre pray before ako mag start ng car. pero mga sis, automatic yung car namin so mejo madali talaga aralin. but still achievement na para sa akin yung ma overcome ko yung fear ko and slowly getting there.HTH

[Glam21Vylet]

sobrang kabado ako pag si papa ang kasama ko kasi parang lagi nalang pinupuna lahat.. until nag decide ako na iwan si papa pag magddrive ako at isama ko nalang yun sister ko (hindi sya sanay mag drive) ayan kaya ko na 

[mishmish]

Waaahhh di ko pa din nao-overcome anf fear na to  siguro kasi I don't get to drive everyday. Usually sunday lang... Natatakot ako pagka-traffic, parang feeling ko anytime pwede ko silang mabangga o ako ang mababangga nila LOL!

[[-c-h-a-]]

I'm still learning how to drive Here in Australia, I'm on my L plates pa rin. I dont need kasi to learn how to drive before cuz my husband drops me off and picks me up anywhere, anytime

at first, nerbyos rin ako... ayoko magdrive sa may kotse na place! Tapos yun 3rd time ko na magdrive, ok na medyo confident na ako. Nitong saturday, may mga sumusunod sunod na sakin, etc... basta may mga kotse na, wala na ko pake sa kanila. LOL! Confident na! Pero di pa rin ako lumalabas sa mga main roads kasi gusto ko pa maperfect ang control ko sa kotse. Sa mga roundabouts kasi natatakot ako baka iakyat ko ang kotse namin. Patay!

Pero practice practice lang. For sure magiging confident din kayo.

Hubby is confident na sa akin and he wanted me to take the main road na nitong weekend, pero ayoko pa kasi gusto ko pa nga maperfect ang turns ko.

[betty]

huhu di ko pa din maovercome to pero i have to. hanggang loob lang din ako ng village.
parking is really a problem.
trinoma parking as practice?  waah kaloka nagsuggest nun dont even dare if you do know the basics of
parking, katakot kaya dun, exact kung exact

[pink_blush01]

Kapag paulit ulit mo na siyang ginagawa at kapag tinry mo. Dun ko na overcome yung fear ko sa pag park sa in between ng kotse, sa pag sa mga masisikip at matataong lugar. Then masasabi mo na lang, ang dali lang pala. Lolz. Just be alert lang, First Rule! 

[chefytine]

 i have no choice kailanagan talaga magdrive..  back in college kc we live in taytay, tapos  sa taft pa ako pumapasok. super hassle kc 7am lagi ang pasok ko so 5am palang umaalis nko sa bahay kc kinoconsider ko [textspeak!] [textspeak!] na pagaabang ng fx papunta ayala tapos kadalasan puno na fx after one fx another taxi .. sobrang hassle! hirap pumasok at hirap umuwi!ang mahal pa ng fair tapos pagod pa ako... so nung ng18th birthday ako  binigyan ako ng  VIOS ni father kc naawa na saken kakacommute.. nahalata nya [textspeak!] na nahaggard nko ! haha  so ayun ngdriving school tapos ngaattempt nko magdrivemagisa pero ayaw pa ng parents ko practice muna dw hanggang sa di ko na natiis ngdrive nako magisa papuntangschool ayun paguwi ko sakit ng katawan at ulo ko dahil sa stress! kinakabahan! haha so ayun tinuloytuloy.  so ngyn asensado nko kc lumevel up sa matic mas madali magdrive!

[mommyniuja]

Hi sisses! Im back.

Nakakapagdrive na ko ngayon pero malalapit na distance lang, kasi hatid sundo na ko sa mga kids ko papasok ng school. And nakakapunta nako ng mall basta patay na oras or maaga pa para marami pa available na parking slot.

Tinatandaan ko lang advice ni hubby na wag daw pansinin yung ibang sasakyan kahit anong busina ang gawin kasi lahat naman daw ng magaling na driver na ngayon, nag-start din na katulad natin.

[super bratinella]

Mga sis, I also want to learn how to drive, nakakapagdrive na ako ng first gear pero hindi ko pa kaya ang multi tasking, kasi nalilito ako sa break at pag clutch tapos di ko masyado kabisado ang pagtitimpla, hindi din ako masyadong eager matuto kasi nauunahan ako ng takot, but I need to learn how to drive na talaga. Kahit sa subdivision namin na magisa ako then sa mall na.hehe. Hirap nga lang siguro mag park.

[Myealexis21]

Ako din super takot magdrive..even in my dreams haha..if ever nightmare yun!

But as most of us...kinailangan na matuto so I had no choice.  Ni-require kase nung big boss namin.

Before my first class grabe ang nerbyos ko.  Bale nag-meet kami nung instructor dun sa isang branch ng driving institute and I thought sya magdadrive papunta dun sa place kung san talaga ako tuturuan. My gulay! ako pina-drive! Sabi ko pa nga sa kanya na wala akong alam, kahit yung right and left indicator di ko alam kung nasaan hahaha!

At first ang sakit ng katawan ko after.  Sobrang tension kasi, ang higpit ng kapit ko sa manibela! But afterwards mawawala din pala yun.  Magiging comfortable ka na.

Right now I'm almost finished with my 40 classes.  Hopefully makapasa!  Mahirap kasi masyado ang process to get a license here in UAE.

[OD]

^ Hi! Why is it more difficult to secure a license there?