Past Relationship

[kittypowerranger]

we both know our past rel. but don't need to elaborate more on it thou

[mooncake and leaves]

yes. i always ask. i'm curious. it doesn't really bother me, i just want to know everything. i mean, i know you can't know everything but i'd like some details and vital stats please. lol kidding. i want dirt.

[missreese]

hmm si bf ko ngayon.. we've been friends for 2 years kasi, so lahat ng kalokohan niya at past relationship niya sinasabi niya pero yung last nya nakwento niya rin kaya nitong naging kami na di ko na tinatanong alam ko na man na eh.. lam na rin niya kalokohan ko dati..

[prettybarbie]

i think most of the guys dont want to talk about their past relationships....just like my husband 

[kittypowerranger]

^ not naman all yung bf ko if you would ask him he would really tell kaya lang minsan naiinis na ako i would just say stop ok i know enough about it, then change topic ewan ko ba bakit ano naiinis pero ako din naman ang tanong ng tanong

[sweetubeng]

^^most of my ex ayaw nila pag usapan ang past nila minsan ako na lang nagtatanong matipid na matipid pero ayaw ko na din itanung lahat lahat kasi parang baka maka sense pa ako ng something" basta nagtitiwala na lang ako sa kanya na past na yun at wala ng balikan

[chengkii]

Hubby's not comfortable talking about it pero makulit ako. hehe.
I have these phases kasi na I just get curious about the things he did with his ex's. Hahaha. Pag ayaw sumagot, nag iinarte ako...sasagot na din.
Not naman that I feel any envy or jealousy...pero, I just want to know. hehe

[pinkylady]

nagkwento si hubby about his past. ok lang sa akin kasi kesa naman sa iba ko pa marinig ang ganung kwento about his ex's. at tsaka tsismosa ako kaya na elaborate ko pang mabuti ang mga nangyari sa kanila noon. na curious pa nga ako.

anyway past is past. basta no more communication in any ways.

[textspeak!] saken sis lage ako tinatawag na tsismosa. sagot ko naman tsismosa o di lang ako t****? kasi till nung kami pa may communication sila kahit sabihin nyang wala na raw feelings xmpre may awkward feeling pa rin di ba lalo nat may line syang " akala ko kami na..." ang nakakainsulto kasi on my part kahit nanliligaw pa lang sya nag oopen ng SOBRA kahit [textspeak!] private. nakaka offend sobra. tapso icocompare pa [textspeak!] love na binibigay nya sa mga un pati saken na saken lang raw sya kulang kasi [textspeak!] ginagawa ng mga ex nya binabalik nya e engot sya alam naman nya na aloof ako at 1st bf ko sya mag expect ba naman ng kung ano ano. pag naiisip ko un nasasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko ang engot ko kasi di ko man lang binigyan respeto sarili ko kaya siguro ganun lang trato nya saken. nadala kasi sa looks nya.. mapupungay at brown  na mata.tsk

[sweetcupcakes]

^ sis alam ko rin nafefeel mo. 

Ako naman friends kasi kami before, then open kami sa past namin. Although madalas sya ang nagkukwento sa past nya detailed pa talaga. Madalas nya pa nga sinasabi na "para kang ex ko". Tapos naaalala ko din ex ko sa kanya kasi pareho sila ng perfume. Hanggang sa naging MU kami then eventually naging kami.

So tumagal kami ng almost 9 months, i could say na puro hurt and pain ang naramdaman ko simula ng naging kami. Nung una wala syang ibang ginawa talaga kundi icompare ako sa ex nya. haay. Lagi sya kwento ng kwento sa ex nya eh Parang almost 4 years na din sila break ng ex nya eh, tapos pinalitan naman sya kagad kaya siguro bitter ang lolo.hehe Hanggang sa ngayon di ko na mafeel yung love nya sa akin pero mahal ko pa rin sya. Gusto ko ako na lang tumapos. Kaya nakipag break na ko, ok lang naman na bumalik kami sa dating kami na friends. Then inamin nya na kaya di nya daw masuklian ang love ko sa kanya, bukod sa problema nya eh di pa rin sya nakakamove on daw sa ex nya.

Syempre, ano ba yun rebound pa rin ba ko kahit 4 years ng wala sila? Di ako bitter sa kanya, pero masakit. Iniisip ko tuloy ano ba meron yung ex nya at di nya makalimutan. Eh mukha naman masaya na ex nya.

Kaya mga sis pag ganito na kwento ng kwento si bf nyo about sa ex nila na parang laging nagrereminisce pa, naku trust me di pa nakakamove on yun.

[ysa.belle]

we both know about our past relationships. halos lahat ng kwento about sa mga past naman eh both namin alam. pinagusapan namin talaga. as in kwentuhan tapos pag nasasaktan na yung 1 eh enough na.

open naman kasi siya about his past. we became friends muna kasi kahit short period of time lang. tapos napapagusapan ang mga past namin and nagcocomment kami about each others past. para bang makakarinig ka ng opinion from an unbiased person. until now napapagusapan and sinasabi niya lagi sa akin na i do not need to compare myself from his past relationships dahil daw kahit pag samasamahin yung mga past relationships niya eh hindi papantay yung ginagawa niya for me sa ginawa niya for them. yung level ng love niya for me eh ibang iba sa kanila. 

[lady_sunscreen]

yup.. we're super close friends bago naging kami.. And some stories were too detailed talaga.. ayun okay naman.. pero minsan hindi ko maiwasan i-compare how he was to them and how he is to me now.. pero syempre sa kin na lang yon.. ayoko na gawing big deal yung mga ganung klaseng bagay..

[hidding]

akala ko ako lang ang ganito. Pano nga kaya pipigilan ang sarili not to compare yourself sa past gf ng bf mo. Madalas kasi dyan nagmumula yung pain ko sa bf ko. Parang naiisip ko bakit sa ex nya ganito ginawa nya bakit sa akin di nya magawa. Parang ganun. Hayyyy kaya ngayon ang ginagawa ko everytime na maiisip ko yun iniistop ko agad sarili ko at dinidivert ang mind ko. Pero sana dumating yung time na dedma na lang sa past nya para no pain 

[roxybaby]

Yes. And yan ang naging issue algi ng away namin..

[tsokolatebox]

Yes. Open and honest kami with each other or so I thought. He asks me about my past, so I ask him about his. Yun lang, he lied about one thing. When I asked him how long ago was his last relationship, he said, "Matagal na, mga a year ago or so." So ngayon medyo war kami kasi he just admitted to me na his last relationship which lasted for three years ended about 3 months ago. Eh, hello, we've been dating for 3-4months pa lang (including courtship period).

One week pa lang naman kami. The Past has already passed. Sabi nila taboo topic yung mga exes kasi it usually ignites a fight. But I prefer to talk about it talaga, kahit misan nakakaselos. I think it is okay to talk about the past, as long as you are completely honest with each other. If there are information about the past you'd rather not tell your partner, e di don't tell her/him. Just do not ever lie about it.

[lilmissprettydiva]

Iisa lang naman ex ni bf and he's very open about everything. Almost 2years yung naging relationship nya sa ex nya and I know almost everything. Reason nya kasi since madalas kaming lumalabas kasama mga friends nya at least aware ako about his ex which is also part ng group nila.

[rapids]

Sa kain, we are open naman about  each others past.. minsan nga talaga di maiwasan masaktan yung tipong may tumusok ng karayom sa puso ko. pero mas maganda na ring aware ako kesa naman ma caught off guard na lang ako.

[Joycy]

Oo naman. Ako pa, i'm a talker.  I talk to de-stress and it's really a good feeling to know na he can share with me his past. And that he trusts me with it. But for me, wala na din kasing importance yong past in our present life so we talk just for the sake of sharing.

Another thing, i wanna know the names of his previous relationships and the reason for the break-up. The names kasi i don't wanna name our kids with his exes name.  Gusto ko rin alamin yung reason for the break up to protect myself. Papaano na if they broke up because of his drug addiction, for example? Knowledge is power, di ba? I need to know that so i would know what i will be dealing with.

Well, of course, the guys would not  volunteer this info themselves...but...  I would always ask for the reason.

[xoxolat]

i don't think its necessary to know every detail about your past relationships.  There will eventually be comparisons between him/her based on how they acted.  And more than likely, jealousy can come out of it .... "am I better than her?"  ... "do you like it more when I do this than she did?" ... its just not good 

[tunaynalalake]

Women, historical.. LOL

[Marquita]

when we were not together nakwento niya sakin past niya,

and me too. the great move on moment for us. then when we became together suddenly ayaw niya na pagusapan kahit ano about sa relationships sa past