Past Relationship

[rylai143]

Hi mga sis!

[miss_girl]

well they won't normally open up unless I ask him to. I dunno, most of the guys i've been with, they don't usually make kwento ng kusa. puro kapag tinanong lang. which i prefer naman.. minsan nakakselos on my part na kusa sya magkkwento about that girl.

[aquacharly]

I laid down 1 rule at the start of our marriage:    I don't want to listen to history... but I sure want to be warned  if the person you or I or we are dealing with or socializing with shared a "past of interest" with you once upon a time.

[changelessme]

pahapyaw lang.. wala naman akong care kasi past na eh, ako na ang present

[hersmart4ever]

Hindi siya masyadong nakukwento tungkol sa past relationships niya. Ang importante daw kasi sa kanya e yung ngayon.

[spacemonkey]

i know of his past relationships. when we were friends, we used to talk about them.

but he got real detailed on me when one time, i couldn't sleep, so he just kept on talking about his past girlfriends. funny choice for a bedtime story, but, whatever. never really bothered me.

[orangerain]

Yes. We were reading this book for couples together and it required us to talk about our ex's. I had no problem 'cause I don't have an ex (haha!), but he had to talk about his ex's. Hindi ko maexplain how I felt while he was talking about them, though. Happy to know that he's sharing something to me and sort of uncomfortable at the same time.

[bongoko]

A bit. Mga simpleng tanong lang, but agree rin ako na mas ok nga minsan pag di mo nalang alam e. Kasi nakakaselos (kahit past na) at hindi maiwasan magcompare meaning unhealthy.

[isobel]

yah, alam ko na rin naman yun eh kasi my now boyfriend and i had been friends longer than they've been a couple. but i still asked about the nitty gritty and he told me naman, albeit begrudgingly at times.

[akthung]

I laid down 1 rule at the start of our marriage:    I don't want to listen to history... but I sure want to be warned  if the person you or I or we are dealing with or socializing with shared a "past of interest" with you once upon a time.

tumpak ka diyan sis. a fellow gtalker once told me na hindi na daw dapat. i disagreed. i would want to know kung isa siya sa mga nakakaharap namin once in a while or in day to day activities.

[babyhon19]

i can't help it eh.. sometimes kze i think i need to ask.. though we've been barkada's for so long since 1998.. even his past gfs were my xfriends.. i asked him about the girls i havent meet.. but sometimes if he does things which i really appreciate i'll ask him if he ever done it before.. xempre kilig if hindi.. hahaha.. i think once in a while ok din pagusapan para atleat yung mga mistakes during the past relationship hindi na mauulit though i agree sometimes my mga nakakaselos na part.. but pag cnuyo ka naman mas nakakakilig... hehe

[boaVista]

nagkwento si hubby about his past. ok lang sa akin kasi kesa naman sa iba ko pa marinig ang ganung kwento about his ex's. at tsaka tsismosa ako kaya na elaborate ko pang mabuti ang mga nangyari sa kanila noon. na curious pa nga ako.

anyway past is past. basta no more communication in any ways.

[bu-bu shine]

i ask lang konti about their past relationships..who, when and what happened wrong but i don't bother to know all the detail.. i think it's not that necessary.. masasaktan lang ako and baka i'll just can't help compare my self and our relationship..

[riandrew]

^ infairness, that's the only thing he asked:
what went wrong to my previous relationships.

I never asked about his. Di nya rin sinabi. It doesnt matter afterall.

[lovemeagain30]

me and may bf now talks about our past alot of times! nagiging favorite past time na nga namin yun if we want to have a good joke at the end of the day or something na pwede paghanguan ng lesson. ako ang may pinakamaraming ex at siya madami naman niligawan. minsan binibiro ko siya sa kalokohan niya nuon at siya din sinasabihan niya ko bakit ako nagpakatanga nuon din.

siguro dumating na kami sa kumportableng stage ng relationship namin na kung saan secured na kami sa feelings namin sa isat isa. wala na yung selos tungkol sa nakaraan.. sabi ko nga, minsan ginagawa nalang namin biruan.

siguro pag bago pa lang ang relasyon normal na may selos or kurot pag pinag uusapan ang mga ex. pero eventually you will realize wala ka ng magagawa dun sa nakaraan niya. ang importante ikaw yung ngayon. sabi ko nga kanina dumating na kami sa point, secured na kami sa isat isa. hindi na big deal ang ganun bagay.

[chrisann]

yup. dadating talaga sa point na mapag uusapan ang past relationships nyo which is important din since you get to learn why it didn't work. i guess mas makikilala mo din partner mo based sa kwento nya. but of course, digging down into the details is a big "no".

[rianne_mallows]

i tried asking him before, kasi nagtaka ako dun sa sinabi nung papa niya nung pinakilala ako.. "sa wakas nagpakilala ka din sa akin" it was his dad talking to him.. na curious ako kaya tinanong ko dad niya bakit po? kasi daw wala pa pinakilala si bf(h2b na) sa kanya.. ako pa lang.. eh 21 na siya nun

tinanong ko tuloy yung mga past gf niya.. at bakit hindi niya pinakakilala.. wala naman daw kasi siya sineryoso..

ayun hindi ko na inungkat.. heehee.. enough na sakin yung sagot niya.. 

[miss resilient]

oo naman. for me dapat kong malaman yun dahil walang ngayon kung walang kahapon.

isa lang yung minahal niya ng totoo sa mga naging gf niya yung kapitbahay nila noon.

first love daw niya yun. the rest parang churva chenes lang

[phurple0515]

yes. he also knows about my past.

[frankikay]

ayaw niyang pag usapan yung mga past relationship niya. although nagsabi din siya dahil sa kakulitan ko pero hindi naman detalyado. pero alam niya past ko..