hidden facebook account ni hubby!!!

[bluefrost]

i recently found out that my husband has another facebook account that he used to communicate with girls?? he said he will delete it, and i said do it infront of me.. which he didnt... and i came across again that account, when i asked for the pw.. ayaw ibigay!! wala ba daw akong tiwala??? duh.. to the point mgsigawan na kami. kung wala sabi ko then good isampal mo sa mukha ko ng mapahiya ako.. di ba sis?? mahilig sya gumawa ng mga accounts like this that he used to.. i dont know.. sobrang bad trip at siya pa ang galit!!! help!! kung wala na un account bakit di ibigay sakin un password?? parang at the back of his mind he'll activate it again pgnakalimutan ko na.. kapal grabe!! [textspeak!] gagawin nyo sis pgnahuli nyong me ibang account pa sya that he use for kalokohan?

[lablab002]

that also happened to me with my so called "boyfriend" before.. (we're not committed to each other but we have that special thing between us) basta.. so here's the story.....he left me his wallet and i saw his friendster accs. and passwords (friendster pa before uso eh haha) but i didn't want to open those because i know it's not right. so what i did was, i told him that i saw his other account. and i asked for the password which i already knew na naman but then i just wanna know if he will really give it to me. and then he said it was a private thing. and it wasn't important naman daw. so i said, okay. since then, i never really trusted him..

[kettlekorn28]

Sis, your husband is hiding something from you. Kung walang dapat itago, bakit ayaw ibigay ang password? Di ba kasya sa isang account ang lahat ng friends nya at kailangan pa talagang gumawa ng isa?

Sis, hayaan mo muna yung issue. Palipasin mo ng ilang araw para isipin ni hubby mo na nakalimutan mo na. If you two are sharing computer, you might want to investigate. I'm not saying this para magulo lalo kayo. My point is, gather evidences muna. Don't bring up the subject again if you're not sure kung may infidelity issue ba. But always, always, always trust your instinct.

[changelessme]

kung ako ikaw sis, never kong magtrust sa kanya, he is hiding something talaga.

[trinity94]

have you ever once considered that maybe, just maybe, youre the reason why he had to hide this facebook account?...

he is hiding something from you, and that is the reason for the creation of that FB Acct...  when you first found out about that account, what did you do?... did you immediately ask him to delete it?... why, or why not?... how did it come about na umabot kayo sa sigawan just because of this account?

does he have a 'legal' FB account?... do you know the password to that?... do you monitor the people he adds and do you delete the ones you dont know?... do you have control over some parts of his life?

we all need space... and you owe your husband some leeway when it comes to social networking... while he may or may not use this account to meet other girls, you owe him some trust that he is not doing anything that will hurt your marriage... many people create fake FB accts to add neighbors in the games, have you asked why your husband had to make this FB acct?... fact is, the more you doubt him, the more he is inclined to do something about it... but if you let him know you trust him, the more likely he will make a conscious decision not to do anything behind your back...

madali manggatong esp pag sensitive issues like this... madali din sabihin mali ang hubby mo... but then, you should first realize kung ano yung ginawa mong mali that caused why your husband had to do this... if you dont trust him at all, what's the point of staying in the marriage?

[sexyvamp]

nangyari na samin ni hubby yan, pero di naman secret account, and not in facebook, yung main account nya sa frienster, as i was checking on his friends list i saw ang daming mga na ka add na kung sinu sinong girls na may malicious pose sa profile pic, when i open that account daming mga teasing photos, and said there na view her private photos if wants to see more. di lang isa yun daming naka add na ganun sa kanya. akala nya siguro di ko na titingnan friendster nya bec di na ko nag uupdate ng fs ko.
i confronted him ask him why need to add those girls na di naman nya kilala, he said naman na may nag pa add sa kanya and naaliw sya so he add some other girls pa. siguro naaliw sya tingnan yung mga photo just like watching porn pics and movies.sabi ko naman kung ganon gusto nya mag aadd din ako ng kung sinu-sino sa account ko, nung nagalit na ko he immediately deleted his fs account. lam ko naman yung mga pw nya sa fb, fs pati sa yahoo mail nya, sinasabi nya sakin.

one time din i saw him using camfrog, may mga girls dun na nag sshow on live cam, nagpapakita ng body, it seems na nag eenjoy pa yung girl sa ginagawa nya, at first ok lang sakin pero nung napapansin k na lagi nagbabad doon sa camfrog, nainis at nagalit na ko, i told him na gagawa din ako ng account sa camfrog and show my body in live cam. again he deleted and uninstall camfrog sa laptop nya.
buti nalang asawa ko madali takutin.

@ bluefrost, kung wala tinatago sayo si husband sana sinabi nya sayo reason bakit nya ginawa yung account na yun and ipakita man lang sayo yung laman ng fb account na yun and erase na nya. my husband's reason kasi to me is hanggang tingin lang naman daw sya dun sa mga pic and girls on live cam, kaysa naman daw mambabae talaga sya (LDR kasi kami) but i told him naman na, ganyan lang yan sa simula but what if they started communicating and nahulog loob nya dun or natukso sya, so to avoid na may magawa syang kasalanan better stop it na. he understand naman kaya he deleted that account na.
now, kung talagang ayaw nya sabihin pw to the point na nagsisigawan na kayo. hayaan mo sya, kung kaya nya, kaya mo din, first asikasuhin mo sarili mo, magpaganda, ,magpasexy, or gawa ka din ng account mo na secret  sometimes takot din mga guys pag alam nila na kaya mong gawin kung ano yung ginagawa nila. pero sis panakot mo lang naman. sabi nga gather more evidence kasi kapag wala  di yan aaminin ng hubby mo ganyan mga lalaki e, lulusot hanggat makakalusot, minsan nga may evidence na tinatanngi pa din e.
also ask yourself "bakit kaya ginagawa yun ng hubby ko?", whats wrong with me?", "ano pa ba hinahanap nya?" pag nasagot mo nayan, gawin mo yung sagot jan, if he wants more excitement sa relationship nyo then bigay mo sa kanya kung ano hinahanap nya.

[bluefrost]

Thank you sis sa mga reply!!.. korek yun ang sabi ko why the need to hide it from me? i was even the one who told him why dont he add his ex gf/s sa fb... I think it's not right for women na pgnagkamali ang husband isisi natin sa sarili.. buntot nya yun hila nya.. sis, parang unfair na  parang aku na nahurt and sya na nakasakit.. i should blame pa myself??? ugh    i think, kung sa tingin ng husbands na mali ang wives nila they should open it up and not resort to doing another mistakes.. i dont know, if its their nature kasi dami ko din nakausap na males.. hayyy.. they do have separate accounts.. aside sa orig one na alam ng wives nila ang pw...

[aquacharly]

All I can say is:  boys will be boys
                        Men will be men, but some men never grow up and remain boys with Arrested Development.  What they are is never enough to themselves.

TRINITY is right -- men do things because they want more.  Whether what they want is good or bad... is a very subjective matter.  But I feel BLUE FROST's frustrations.. ako na nga unsettled, ako pa may pagkukulang?  Well, a healthy dose of self-examination is always productive.  But, know when to stop -- it is destructive to beat one's self up.

SEXYVAMP, I agree with you too.  Why put yourself in danger?  Yan nga, if a man goes out to present himself as single and looking for a meaningful relationship  (kuno, let us stretch our patience and imagination) --- teka ha BLUEFROST, this is not your husband we are talking about... just an illustration... tama nga si SEXY VAMP, if a man puts himself "in danger" (actually it is the marriage/relationship put in harm's way) --  the probability increases there will be Foul Play nga dealt on the marriage/relationship coz well.. as SEXYVAMP says.. 1 thing leads to another kasi nakikilaro eh.

What constructive thing can I tell BLUEFROST?
Tell your husband why what he is doing unsettles you... but say it in such a way that you are "certain may kalokohan ka!"  because they will always deny, and you will find yourselves fighting over the wrong thing.. you know,magaling sila mag deflect ha  .. sila may kasalanan, ikaw pamukhaing maldita or "madumi naman isip mo" 

And then, BLUE FROST,  hope and pray for the best.. but prepare for the worst..  And I am not talking just about a FB account ha.   Teka, ang dami naman nya nga naman oras mag alaga nang more than 1 FB account.

So that year in and year out,   BLUE FROST -- you do not get disatisfied with yourself,  you do not feel more hopeless  or ever feel inut1l about your marriage... kahit na ba ilang FB accounts pa meron yang hubby mo.

SELF EMPOWER yourself.  If sh1t hits the fan, you may be heartbroken but you won't be a Loser.  If that does not happen.. good, your husband finaly has no need to look beyond your family for his happiness.
Sometimes,  a man mends his ways coz he finds himself frightened of losing his better half.  Boink!  pag nawala ito sa akin, malaki mawawala sa happiness ko.   something like that does happen a lot of times you know.   

Whatever he does, BLUE FROST ... mind what is in your best interest.  Things do not happen overnight... you either slowly drop it, or you work on it every f*cking day.    Plus, you really cannot control or watch anybody,  it is hard enough watching yourself through the day di ba.   

So there, BLUE FROST ... make each day  1 wherein you advance your interests and work on your strength of character.  1 day... your husband will reap what he sows;  sam with you.. that is a universal truth.    So make the most of yourself,  give people space to hang themselves hehe   and then you will never regret your years you look back on,  and you will be in a good position to weather with grace and belat!  whatever crisis or heartbreak life throws at you in the future.

Ika nga, BLUEFROST ... do not mistake the trees for the forest... that goes for good and bad things ha.

Pray for Divine Guidance.
Take care of yourself...  God bless

[pinkypop_30]

I can relate with this thread ... though not in FB  ... but in other social forum site at mga blogs.

Sis, like what I said above ... maraming internet media na pede salihan at gawan ng ganyang scenario. Like what happened in my case ... ang dami kong pinuntahan na sites na connected sa kanila (Good thing I am super mausisa sa mga pinaggagawa niya sa internet ... specially dun sa pinag-ugatan na site). Dami ko nalaman ...

Ayun what I did ... I joined in dun sa pinag-ugatan na site and posted my rage ... as in super ang galit na post/responses ang pinaggagawa ko.  In fact dun sa blogs eh pinagbubura yung mga replies nila ... as in the next time I check eh erased na. Hay naku pag naaalala ko talagang umiinit ang ulo ko coz I never expected that other half of mine to that ... susme.

Hay nilayasan ko siya ... almost a week din. Dun muna me and my kid sa house ng parents ko. No communication at all ... pinapatayan ko siya as in ng cellphone. Until siya rin ang nagpaubaya ... he texted me na ndi na siya join dun sa site na yun at nagpaalam na siya. So sige ... but every now and then I still checked on to that account of his ... madali naman malaman if ever nagsisinungaling siya ... pero so far he kept his words / promise naman ... sana nga kasi pag hindi abay makikilala niya uli si Gabriela Silang 

[rachel09]

sis social networking account lang yan
what more can he hide

in the first place di ba maraming mga couple who shares their accounts?
dapat kung di man share e wala tinatago
if wala talagang dapat itago

alam mo sis yang mga simpleng bagay na yan
dyan magsisimulang masira ang trust mo sa kanya
tsk tsk tsk hay nalulungkot ako sa mga ganitong scenario
kasi ganito yung mga ayaw kong maranasan

[GeRi Sp!cE]

I guess he uses the other FB account to flirt with other girl/s. Maybe there is something lacking in your relationship that he gets from them. Could be that sexual excitement he no longer gets from you.  I'm not saying you no longer give him satisfaction. But maybe he is missing the flirtations, seduction, etc.

Or your husband has some problems and gets advise from these girls he doesn't know. Could be a total stranger or an ex.

The more you restrain him, the more he'll resist. Whatever it is. Asses yourself. When was the last time you had a romantic dinner date? When did you last watch a movie together? When did you last cook his favorite meal? Are you being a mother to your children? How about being a wife to him?
Win him back. Bring back the excitement you had during your boyfriend/girlfriend stage. Before he gets snagged by somebody else.

[isobel]

report him para madeactivate yung secret account nya.

[GeRi Sp!cE]

^brilliant idea!

[delisyus]

if this ever happened to me, i doubt i'd be asking for his password... or for us to go over his account

i would ask hubby though why he has another account, and why he's not adding me in his friend's list... i may also ask him what he's using the account for... and for sure, I would tell him how the incident makes me feel

hopefully though, i won't treat him like a child (insisting he deletes an account in front of you, ehem)

it's not like he can't create a dozen more accounts behind your back... so FB isn't the issue, nor social networking... if you suspect he's philandering, even if only flirting online, discuss that instead... correct the RIGHT wrong

[hot_lalai]

hahaha... syempre natuwa ako at may nakita akong ganitong thread kahit super luma na. i just found out 5 days ago na may fb account pala si hubby. i asked him before kasi kung may fb sya kasi di ko sya makita. sabi nya wala. so i didn't insist anymore kasi sabi nya di naman daw kasi sya mahilig sa social networking.

we bought a new desktop a few weeks ago at kakakabit lang ng broadband. at abah! ayun nga, nahuli ko si hubby na nagllogin sa fb!

napa-HOY ako! Sabi mo wala kang fb!!! and it can't be a new acct since he has almost 500 friends na.

sabi nya he was just using his fb acct to play castle age and that would be it. ay jusko naman, yung pics na nakita ko sa mga profile ng friends nya e mga sexy photos. yung alluring talaga. at ang daming post sa home page na nag-comment pa sya-- mga videos na di kanais-nais...

ayun, nag-away kami. sabi nya wala daw syang tinatago. alam ko naman daw passwords sa lahat ng email nya ultimo pin ng mga atm at credit cards nya. kaya wala daw ako dapat isiping masama.

e kahit na! the fact na tinago nyang may fb sya, naging big deal na tuloy sakin!

out of curiosity, at since alam ko naman ang password sa everything nya, i tried to login. at yung password nga pala ay wedding date namin. hehe  found out na yung mga sexy pics pala ay form Axe and yun nga, yung mga friends pala nya ay mga players din ng castle age all around te world. hehe..  buti na lang talaga... at least, natahimik isipan ko. wehe...

lesson: wag mag-jump agad sa conclusion. mag-investigate muna. dahil sayang ang powers...

[mommy kim]

lesson: wag mag-jump agad sa conclusion. mag-investigate muna. dahil sayang ang powers...

haha tama ka sis!!

ganyan din [textspeak!],i always jump into conclusions na later on eh marerealize q na mali pala, naaawa 2loy [textspeak!] k hubby dahil inaaway q sya at kung [textspeak!] [textspeak!] cnasabi q for no reason nman pala!!
ayun ang ginawa q pinractice qng pagkatiwalaan sya inspite of the "things " na pinagdaanan namin (although minimal [textspeak!] naman [textspeak!] mga pinagdaanan namin and [textspeak!] pang sobrang foul),mahirap ibgay ang buong tiwala,but thats the risk that we all have to do,kasi love natin,so pagkatiwalaan natin,para din harmonize ang buhay natin,hirap kasi ng laging tamang hinala..

[hot_lalai]

oo nga. nadala na rin ako jan sa tamang hhttp://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/Smileys/default/sad.gif ::)inala na yan nung boyfie ko pa lang si hubby. hehe... at ako din yung napahiya!

[norms]

hi sis. im a hard core facebook gamer. im a girl by the way and i also have a bf.

for hardcore gamers, it is really necessary for us to make a different account cause we dont want the feeds to be spammed with game requests and posts.

so, i learned my lesson, i made another account, but i dont post real pix, just cartoon photos only. also, because i want more neighbors and members, i tend to add random strangers, from different parts of the world na nga. i join facebook game forums and pages and repeating posts nothing but "ADD ME AS YOUR NEIGHBOR".

its like separating my private life from my game life. my bf knows this and he approved it naman cause he knows i love facebook games and i dont fool around. but of course, im not your hubby sis. im just giving you a reason on why hardcore facebook gamers make a different account.

God Bless

[hot_lalai]

hehe... thanks for the testimony, sis!

[wingding]

count me in mga sis! si hubby din, i found out na meron syang ibang account which he created specially for his ex-gf who's married and in canada now (hubby and kids are back here in manila)! kala nila hindi ko sila mahuhuli! but just the same, syempre, mega deny yung dalawa! so now, deadma na! hayaan ko nga sila!! ayokng tumanda kakaisip sa kanila o sa kung sino mang babae nya pa! mahal yatang magpabanat ng wrinkles! lol