would you date a separated man?

[cristylove]

Tell him to get an annulment. Unless your ok with live-in na lang forever.

[empress]

there are 2 kinds of Separated Men:

1. Separated guy with a kid/s --  I WOULD NEVER EVER DATE! why? may kahati at kahit anong gawin nyang patunay na kaya nyang iwan lahat, imposible yan! dugo't laman nya yan. papiliin mo, mas pipiliin nya ang anak nya coz for him, he will still meet another girl who would take him as he is -- plus his kid/s.

2. Separated guy (period) -- YES, I'd date this kind of guy coz he's separated & no excess baggage. Just make sure separated talaga & in the process of getting a divorce.

[prettykhae]

it's complicated... and it wont work well if makipag deate ka sa kagaya nya... gind another one na lang.

[blatherina]

I'd say it's risky. *scratchscratch*

I'd ask myself if the connection is that deep, and I mean serendipity-deep, because you're betting a portion of your heart and soul into this relationship. Kung tiwala ka naman sa pagkakahiwalay nila at sa sinasabi sa'yo ni lalaki, at tingin mo super-soulmates kayo... I'd still say it's risky. 

[justgirl]

Sis ako prefer not to date separated man. [textspeak!] kasi i don't wang complications. like if may kinds na etc.

[tennisgirl]

yes as long as annulled na marriage nya. regarding his kid/s, ok lang na mag-meet sila, syempre anak nya pa rin yun wala akong magagawa. basta di na sila ulit magmi-meet ng ex-wife nya. and if ever na makasal kami, di dapat kasama ang kid/s nya sa bahay namin. i want to start a new family with him.

[whitetulip]

given the option i would date single men.. 

[simplekitty]

yes date lang naman

[babyjapnurse01]

NO, never again. whether may kids or wala, whether anulled or hindi, regardless of the reason ng paghihiwalay, NO padin. I agree with everyone who mentioned na risky ang ganitong klaseng relationships.

    [cheesy]  I want my guy to value the sanctity of marriage, na whatever happens, both parties will do their best to make it work. In the first place, hindi naman sila dapat nagpakasal kung hindi sila siguradong sigurado about whats stated in their vows and about wanting to be together till uhmm... their hair turns grey. [/cheesy]

     Especially for guys na may kiddo with the ex-wife, ibang level ang attachment ng guys pag may anak eh, except nalang siguro if the guy is super irresponsible and inabandon as in hindi talaga nirecognize the kiddo as his own. Mas magdadalawang isip na ko sa ganung klaseng lalake. Nyahaha!

[det060403]

there are 2 kinds of Separated Men:

1. Separated guy with a kid/s --  I WOULD NEVER EVER DATE! why? may kahati at kahit anong gawin nyang patunay na kaya nyang iwan lahat, imposible yan! dugo't laman nya yan. papiliin mo, mas pipiliin nya ang anak nya coz for him, he will still meet another girl who would take him as he is -- plus his kid/s.

2. Separated guy (period) -- YES, I'd date this kind of guy coz he's separated & no excess baggage. Just make sure separated talaga & in the process of getting a divorce.

Ditto!
Seperated with or without kid(s) - most probably not! Its way too complicated! Will keep my distance bago pa ko mainlove ng bongga! Mahirap na, baka kainin ko lang mga sinabi ko! LOL!

[rastagurl11]

No. Whether may kids o wala, annulled or not. Been there, done that. I want it simple. No complications.

[honeylet04]

Glad ive read this thread. Right now hindi pa naman ako nakikipagdate but currently nagpaparamdam yun guy he's my supplier on my business. May problem sya on his wife he found out na may affair wife nya may 2 kids sila and im single mom with 1 kid. Lahat ng qualities nya he's too perfect na hanap ko sa isang guy nasa kanya na lalo na when it comes to business. Nandun yung fear ko hindi naman sya annulled nagsasama parin sila ng wife nya dahils sa kids nila. With the help of this thread napaisip ako lalo na im single mom, hindi ko nalang papansinin pagpaparamdam nya.

[nessy]

i dated and still am with a married man. he has kids as well. wala akong problema sa mga kids niya.pero sa mom meron. well, its a different story. wala naman kamingproblema except for some petty things. and yong recently, i just realized that i am just PMS-ing. 

i never had an issue dating him  before.they are separated totally (may anak na sa ibang lalake yong girl noongtime na yon) when we started dating. and we are together 3 years and counting.   

[freelancer_babe]

No problem with me. I'm a single parent anyway. Those separated men (especially the ones with kids) would probably be more understanding with the time with my kid than the singles (and the comments left in this thread further confirms that a lot of singles admitted their jealous over a separated man's kids, which is something that I do not really want).

Yun lang I stay away from those who are still legally married. I'll go for those who are annulled or divorced para walang sabit. Even those are legally married who still yet have to get the results of their annulment are a still a no, no to me - walang kasiguruhan ang annulment sa Pinas!

Besides, here in the Philippines I can be put in jail if I have a relationship with a still-married man!

I'm old enough to understand that kids are a priority, and I don't mind, since I'm raising a kid myself.

* A VERY understanding single guy would still be nice to have.

[Kady_14]

My friend is in this situation now. Yun lang hindi pa annulled yung guy. Pinagsabihan namin sya pero wala SUPER INLOVE sya. Now they have a kid and hindi umuusad ang annullment. May kaya si Guy so ayaw makicooperate ni ex-wife kasi they (her and kid) get sustento from the inlaws pa din.

Ngayon my friend's stressing herself. We really wanted to help her overcome her anxieties but wala na kami magagawa kasi nuon pa di kami ngkulang ng pangaral sa kanya. Kulang na lang iumpog namin sya sa pader. Nakakaawa din kasi nga her kid is lumalabas na illegitimate.

Make sure malinis na before getting in...

[freelancer_babe]

^ Yup ganun nga. Married men are always trouble. They can't really give all the world they have to give and all the love they have to offer even if they are living separately with their wives and have stopped loving them. Legally hawak pa rin ng legal wives ang buhay nila, assets and all.

Better go with true singles, divorced and annulled. Much less headache. Everything is defined legally. Yung mga nakakuha rin ng legal separation status aren't also allowed to married I think.

Tapos crime pa ang adultery dito. Having a kid with a married man further proves it. If a married man lives with another woman that is not her wife, then that's a crime too - concubinage.

Mahirap makakuha ng annulment. You can just read the annulment thread here in GT, maraming mga frustrated. Having another relationship is not a valid ground for annulment.

[Kady_14]

Haaayy, nakakalungkot.

True enough sinabi mo sis, they can't give their entire world. Lalo na tong boylet ni friend since he has a son kay wife, wala magawa si friend if wife demands the husband to be there sa mga school or important events ni kid and kahit hindi na nagsasama si wife and bf nuon pa, parang ang dating ni friend sa son eh atribida sya. To think na di naman santa si wife. Minsan sabi ni friend parang sinasadya pa ata ni wife yung nakikisabay ng mga events. So last minute na hindi makakasama si BF kasi me event sa school echos. So forever kang makikihati.

Never namin naimagine 'to na mangyayari sa friend ko, kasi she's beautiful, sexy and very smart. (double degree holder) Pinag aagawan ng big engineering firms, yet nasira sa pag-ibig. Ang cute cute ng anak nya, nakuha ang pagkasmart nya. Wala pang 2 yrs.old dati can identify na the Alphabet and Nos.

I just pray that she finds peace.

[Kady_14]

^ buti nga yung sa friend mo pogi eh. Yung sa friend ko kamukha ni Psy yung si Gangnam. Kaloka.

[Ladee_16]

this is a difficult situation kasi you'll never know until when ka ok sa fact na talagang may kahati. been in the same situation before, annulled naman na but nagkikita pa rin at lumalabas sila - kid, guy, at ex wife. then natutulog din si guy sa house ni ex wife. ang reason - for the child. parang laging nasa losing end tapos walang guarantee. kahit gusto ko pa rin si guy, parang hindi ko na ma-take. feeling ko kabit pa rin ang labas kasi parang di pa settled si guy na pangatawanan yung annulment nila. tama ba ko mga sis?

[huggykaye]

I did pero hindi ko talaga magawang ipakilala sa family ko. Hindi din kami nagtagal.
Hindi naman ibig sabihin hindi na ako mag date ulit ng separated man pero depende din siguro yung sa sitwasyon, sa timing, at kung [textspeak!]-ano pang dapat i consider. Sobrang complicated. Hindi ko din kasi masabi sino ang dadating at magugustuhan ko, mapa single or separated man sila. =)