would you date a separated man?

[miss_girl]

I'm in the situation right now, but would like to hear your opinions about this.

[luisacart]

what do u mean by separated? like annulled/divorced? i did and i would again. kaso be careful make sure that u are not dating someone who just got out of a serious (they got married then of course it was serious!) relationship within that past 6-8 months.

[FoxyPhoenix]

i would, coz i'm in this sitch right now. 2 years na kami. he has 2 kids, custody nya.
annued na ba sila sis miss_girl? or separated pa lang?

[sybil08]

yes, i would... yeah, like the other sisses question, annulled na ba or what?

[too_blind]

NO! im in this situation now May anak sila and its like killing me everytime His with them..


f*** im praying na sana maka kawala nako sa stituation nato..
i love him but i know deep in me i cant stand this pain inside me..
coz of no assurance and no right about everything.
its like para kang just for fun lang. kahit for him hindi.!


ang sakit sakit...
waaaaah....

[charlottemarie]

As much as possible , no. Pero depende kung gano ka- ok yung guy. Not all separated men are bad, but almost 100% of them have extra baggage. If you can accept that extra baggage, why not??

[shahram2010]

a big NO NO for me...been there,than that...
its so hard..i get jealous everytime he mentioned his past and his child..and sa time din mahirap kc hen needs to spend time with the child..and sa lahat lahat ng bagay may kahati...
 

[miss_girl]

grabe mga sis, i thought ako lang nasa situation na to.. i didn't know you were feeling the same thing din pala.. nagseselos ako.

he's not annulled with his wife, i think hindi na un possible..
but what he's willing to do, leave everything completely to be with me.. he's unhappy with his wife, but they have a child..
but this guy would give up everything to be with me. i even joked once, kung ako, ako lang, walang kahati, walang kahit sino, and damn he almost did it. he said to me, if you want me to completely leave everything, i would. just say so.

and i have plans going abroad, and i asked him, what if i take you with me, hindi mo sila makikita, pati child mo din, he said, well, may facebook naman diba.. i said, are you kidding me, matuto sya gumamit probably 10 years from now, he said, well atleast it's just 10 years from now..

ang hirap umalis sa situation na to, sobra.. but i would want to, but i just love him so much.. minsan sinubukan ko syang iwan, but it didn't last a day, because he won't stop doing stuffs just to have me back.. sobrang nagmamakaawa sya, and the way he loves me, wala na ko mahihiling pa.. he has so much plans for me, he even thought of buying a condominium for us to live in, put it under my name. do a franchising business, but still under my name. everything is all about securing me.. ganun.

[stacies83221]

by this you mean, a guy with kids and ex? well yeah.. i would. I'm dating a single dad right now.. hirap nga but but the thing that i learned is that in this kind of relationship, priority ang kids talaga. Plus you also have to make it work with his Ex. I mean it takes soo much patience and understanding. Nakakaselos nga pero keep in mind that you're in this sitch that you have to "share" him with his children... If you can't handle this, then there's always the Exit door.

[rinapie]

yes because i tried dating one already. pero di ko kaya yung fact na hindi pa siya annulled eh kaya kailangan itigil.

[miss_girl]

by this you mean, a guy with kids and ex? well yeah.. i would. I'm dating a single dad right now.. hirap nga but but the thing that i learned is that in this kind of relationship, priority ang kids talaga. Plus you also have to make it work with his Ex. I mean it takes soo much patience and understanding. Nakakaselos nga pero keep in mind that you're in this sitch that you have to "share" him with his children... If you can't handle this, then there's always the Exit door.

I agree sis.. but that exit door is somewhat hard to find when you're so inlove, huhuh. hirap nga.

yes because i tried dating one already. pero di ko kaya yung fact na hindi pa siya annulled eh kaya kailangan itigil.

I'm glad sis nakayanan mo, i so wanted to do this na.. kaso hirap pa talaga ako eh..

[rinapie]

^iniyakan ko din naman. part of me parang ayaw ko talaga i-let go kasi he's fine talaga. pero iba pa din kasi he's still married. kaya siguro kung annulled na e pero hindi pa kaya i have to let go. naintindihan naman niya... sabi niya. di na kami naguusap for 3 weeks na yata. its okay...na sa iyo naman yan e.

[miss_girl]

NO! im in this situation now May anak sila and its like killing me everytime His with them..


f*** im praying na sana maka kawala nako sa stituation nato..
i love him but i know deep in me i cant stand this pain inside me..
coz of no assurance and no right about everything.
its like para kang just for fun lang. kahit for him hindi.!


ang sakit sakit...
waaaaah....

  sis, I agree.. ang sakit na talaga.. he's willing to completely leave everything behind just to be with me.. but still, hindi ako ang asawa nya, hindi ako ang unang babaeng ginusto nya makasama habang buhay. ang sakit. it's unfair..

nwrong send sya ng text sakin ngaun lang, and it's meant for his wife talaga, something for their baby sana, damn it's so painful. ilang beses na ganito, nahihirapan na ako.. i told him ayoko na, i called it over.. i can do this, i know i can move on.. he's still pursuing me, i know he won't stop for a while, 

[stacies83221]

^sis, ano ba ang hindi mo maaccept na fact about him? Zero in to one issue. Is it may asawa at anak sya and that you cannot fully accept? To be honest, when you found out that he has excess baggage, naisip mo na ba na you're gonna deal with this everytime, all through out your life together with him?

.. he's willing to completely leave everything behind just to be with me.. but still, hindi ako ang asawa nya, hindi ako ang unang babaeng ginusto nya makasama habang buhay. ang sakit. it's unfair..

Any guy, or father to that matter, choosing you over his child (wag na yung asawa), it's a big deal for them so I don't think that's unfair in his part. I think your issue is that you are not legally his WIFE and you can't deal with the fact that someone got that title ahead of you..  Because frankly, if yun ang habol mo, then we all know for sure that it takes time to annull a marriage. If you are willing to wait and endure everything just to be officially called his wife, then I guess that's the way to go. I think it's not wise na you two will just run away from everything.. Mas ok ata na get in terms with the ex and settle an arrangement for the kid. Para in the future, if for example, may chance na maannull yung marriage nila, eh di, it think it's an advantage. Since you two had been living together... You can't fully demand that you get every bit of him because HE IS STILL MARRIED. but if you can live with that fact, na he's married and has a kid BUT is very much in love you, making you happy, is living with you... then I guess win-win yung situation.

[boracay2862]

I been in that situation before. I would even go out with her daughter. Naintindihan ko naman na nauna iyong anak nya kung sa akin. So naiintindihan ko pinasukan ko. I never got jealous with her daughter but with her ex wife yes! Wala naman kasing kasalanan yung anak nya for me to feel bad about it kung kasama nya. Kung kasama nya siguro iba pang babae nako that will complicate matters between us LOL!

[too_blind]

Kagagaling ko lang sa stituation nato.
and to tell you sobrang hirap umalis sa sitwasyon nato.
lalo na kung minahal mo ng sobra [textspeak!] guy na alam mo ndi naman sayo.
ang masakit pa dito ang alam [textspeak!] sa office namin eh ang reason eh dahil ayaw ko daw na makasama nya anak nya. umm?? masakit kasi ndi naman totoo.


as of now im still mending my broken heart. kinakaya kahit sobrang hirap. ang lagi ko nlang iniisip im doing the right thing para. kung ang iniisip nya is ayaw ko makasama nya anak nya well now na wala na ko atleast he can have all the time in the world para sa son and wife nya.

hihi.. i know may dadating pa for me na matatawag kong akin at akin lamang! kya have to wait lang.


and lots of praying talaga para kayanin ko ang everyday living ko.
god will never abandon me. and i know love can move mountains.
i just have to wait for that strong someone who can move mountains for me!


just be strong sis stick in what you think is right.
god love us and god will give us what he think is the right one for us. ndi [textspeak!] nakikihati tayo sa pag aari ng iba. we deserve to be the first.



Kaya mo yan sis..
just belive.

[hersmart4ever]

Kung dalaga ako, why not. Wala naman sa status yun. Nasa personalidad niya.

[LoSiNGGRiP]

i was in that kind of situation since 2 years ago when we were working overseas, his wife in the philippines was having an affair with other man that was proven true by everyone around. i was with him, we fell in love and out of plan i got pregnant. we went home na magkasunod, i told him to settle everything with his wife before sya pumunta sa bahay namin. but when his wife knew about me (excluding my pregnancy), she crammed and did everything to win him back. i anticipated it to happen but it still hurts big time i kept my silence coz i know my place. with the help of my family, nakaraos ako, gave birth to a healthy baby girl.my family doesn't know about his real status even until now, i just told them that he is away and we didnt keep in touch. but his family was discreetly communicating with me. all along i knew what was going on, til after 1 year of not talking to him..he called me one day and told me na they have decided to call everything off,he said he did his best but still it wasnt enough..he told me that few days before christmas and even new year's day his wife was gone without a word, didn't come home and left their child to him. he even begged her to stay when she was leaving him on his birthday january 6. it was already one month ago since the last time he saw her when he decided to call me. i must admit, after hearing his voice all the pains got melted, i still love him just the same. presently, nagtyatyaga na muna kami sa call and text everyday, making things possible by globe super150.kailangan ni baby ko ng ama at ang sarap pakinggan whenever he giggle dahil tinatawag syang papa ng 11 months old naming anak. i know he loves me eversince he knew me,everything to us was worth remembering. i understand that he was too young when he married his wife na nabuntis nya nung college days nila. one thing that hinders us now is my family...they have someone better for me. better because unlike the other guy wala syang kayamanan at di sya tapos ng college sorry for this long post. thanks for reading, mga sisses!

[kutingpie]

Kung dalaga ako, why not. Wala naman sa status yun. Nasa personalidad niya.

i agree but dapat physically SEPARATED na sila, hindi yung they are still together para sa anak nila KUNO..regarding if annulled, if nasa process, ok lang din but what if hindi na-grant yung annulment? i guess kung ikaw naman talaga ang mahal niya and sa hindi sinasadyang circumstances, maybe i can

[suikorayne]

yes. im in this situation right now. 12 yrs na sila separated. nagloko un girl. may anak sila pero nasa custody ng babae and wala balak un girl na ipaubaya kay bf [textspeak!] anak nila. as of now, 7 years na kmi ni bf.