pano malaman if that guy is true enough para sagutin ?

[tiggerlily]

you will never know if the guy is true enough. kahit kayo na. kahit asawa mo na. when you love him, he will always have that power to hurt you. lahat ng bagay sa buhay sugal. same with love. you risk winning or losing. advice sa kin ng friend ko, seize the moment. enjoy. pero don't forget to think about the consequences.

[mooncake and leaves]

i'm actually with yujin. but only because i don't believe in courtship talaga. i'd rather call it "dating" lang. only because i really want to be comfortable in knowing someone. i like to know everything and i don't believe that's ever possible when someone's pursuing me and it seems one-sided.

also because well, no one does that actually. well not where i am haha.

but i think you also need to establish what you want from someone. yun muna. the more you know what you want and what you don't want, the easier it gets for you to decide.

[akthung]

This is easy. I'm a guy. Sagutin mo na, then if he shows his true colors that you think you really don't like and will make your life miserable, cut him. Dating and courting are just "best foot forwards" and kinda superficial. my 2 cents.

agree ako dito.

[pikapika2501]

question is, would you even know? tee hee!...

i had simple advice however I'm not sure if you should rely on this.

Like
nike says: "just do it!"
paddocks says: "face your fears live your dreams paddocks jeans"
star struck (yaks): "dream, believe, survive"

hahaha... seriously, I just wanted to suggest just go for it. You'll know it when you get there.

*Note: Be sure you know how to get out of the things that you get into...

[ana mimi]

kapag pinakita na nya yung mga bad attitudes nya.. pakita mo din yung mga dark sides mo and see how he will react to it.. kapag yung result is not good, alam mo na.. goodbye. ako kase kapag pinakilala na ako sa parents, nakilala ko buong angkan, kaibigan at pets.. ayun.. may malaki na syang chance.. kase alam ko he takes me seriously and not just for fun..

[sugardrop]

You'll never really know him and what goes on inside his head up there until you get into a relationship. Do not be afraid in taking risks. You'll never truly know if he/she's worth taking that risk until you finally do. Win or lose, you end up learning something.

[chaichikay]

^haha! nice one sis. magaya nga! 

[ms.gemini]

hi guyz..

Its been a long time na din bago ko mag open ng femalenetwork.com, kamusta na kayo... thanks sa lahat ng nag reply on my question.... mga sis mahalaga  talaga [textspeak!] courtship in terms of  getting to know of each other...........

[17arci]

Of course it depends on you. For me it's about taking the risk. You can't really know a person fully during courtship, since it's always the best foot forward.

[akthung]

question is, would you even know? tee hee!...

i had simple advice however I'm not sure if you should rely on this.

Like
nike says: "just do it!"
paddocks says: "face your fears live your dreams paddocks jeans"
star struck (yaks): "dream, believe, survive"

LOL... seriously, I just wanted to suggest just go for it. You'll know it when you get there.

*Note: Be sure you know how to get out of the things that you get into...

tama..sa akin lang...better a 4 month relationship than wala...at least alam niyo na hindi pwede kayong magsama.

[shopaholic18]

get to know the guy first, if you think he deserves the chance to be your bf then go, i still believe in courtship, iba ibang klase nga lang yan, what i like is not the best foot forward type of thing, no pretensions, call it dating/courtship pareho lang yan dapat you get to be the real you and the other way around. yan ang mahirap sa typical filipino courtship, puro pretensions, mag iigib and stuff like that, di na practical kasi pag nakuha ka naman niya mag iiba na ugali niya eh. kaya somewhat you're risking something yet think of it as part of life nalang, mag work out man o hindi. you'll be wiser naman the next time around. don't go all out too fast nalang siguro and alalay sa feelings.

[jhenrheign]

for me, i don't believe in long courtship, kasi i believe a guy will not show his true colors hanggat nanliligaw sya sayo.... i prefer to be in a relationship stage na agad... some of my relationship last a week, a month, a year.. but i learned a lot of things sa mga relationship na yun... ay meron din pala nanligaw sa akin ng matagal but it didn't last din... i don't go din for guys na bubusugin ka sa material gifts...

yung last relationship ko, nanligaw lang sya for 2 days... then we're in a relationship stage na, and mas nakilala ko sya ng mabuti, he never took advantage of me... he respects me... it lasted for 3 years, nalaman ko din na serious sya dahil sa mga friends nya, his friends told me na hindi sya ganyan dati, he changed a lot simula naging kami... and now, im so proud to say na we're 5 years married na... 'til now parang bf/gf pa din ang sweetness namin and never kami nag cool off or naghiwalay all throughout ng relationship namin... sobrang nagkasundo kami kasi we both show the real us...

im not saying ganito din ang mangyayare sa inyo mga sissies pag di nyo pinatagal ang courtship, it really depends naman sa guy and pati na din girl on how they will handle the courtship and relationship... i just want to share my story...

[lablab002]

eh pano kung malayo siya? How will you know na nagsasabi ng totoo?

[xta]

if you are doubting it, then it might not be true. so wag mo sagutin!

[Girltalker2]

I am seeing this guy and we have been going out for a few weeks and mag-colleagues kami for 6 months.  Since I am interested, I really want to know kung ok ba talaga sya o hindi bago sagutin.  Sobra bako mangilatis?  Ganyan din ba kayo?

Ito nangyari. He went on a 3 day out of town trip.  He said he is to call once he comes back, his plane lands at 5pm.  Sakin, kung tumawag sya, ok, kung hindi, he is not obligated. ok lang din.  Hindi sya tumawag (I assumed he must be busy kaka land lang ng plane, pagod din yun pihado).  I happen to be online when he arrived home but deliberately switched my stealth setting as invisible.  Mga 9pm.  When I saw him online, I waited for 30min before chinange ko ang setting ko from invisible to available (kunwari syempre not waiting for him)  . Then he suddenly went offline.  So I thought to myself, maybe he is busy and does not want to be disturbed.  o di kaya hindi stable ang internet connection. Benefit of the doubt ba.  Then after an hour or so (mga 10pm na), biglang nag-t-text na he just landed. plus of course yung ibang pangungumusta nya.  Then after an hour ulit, nag iwan ng message sa messenger chat at nangungumusta.  Hindi ko sinasagot muna kasi I want to see how his reaction will be tomorrow.

Is this a red flag that the guy is a potential liar?  Or kelangan pako mag gather ng mas maraming evidence na prone sya sa ganyan?  My ex kasi is a liar, kaya I want to be careful this time.  Or baka overly analyzing lang ba ako? 

[sakura_bloom]

^Akthung may point din ang sagutin mo tapos i-break pag-alam mong wala kayong future together. But in the span of time that you two are bf/gf alot of things may happen. It's scarry for a girl sa sumagot sa guy. May kalakip din kasi itong privileges and responsibilities kahit "trial period" lang ang bf/gf nyo totoo and valid siya for the time being. For a girl mas secure knowing na yung sinagot mo ay "worthy" of you. Lalo na kung wala ka pang bf before. Ang pangit naman na yung first bf mo ay trial lang para malaman kung ok siya. Sana you can elaborate on how this can work in context. Thanks.

[ri-anne]

@Girltalker2: tama lang ganyan sis..but that single incident is not enough for us to gauge if he's true enough or not...ikaw mas nakakainteract nya..however if your gut instinct is telling you somehig, don't ignore it.....

@sakura_bloom: maybe "trial period" may work... As long as during that period, s3x or other physical intimacy is not included... nnot even a kiss, until you're sure.... Kung nangulit ang guy, edi alam mo na!


On topic:  Isa sa tinitignan ko sa isang guy if he's sincere is yung pagiging CONSISTENT - in words and in actions...
kaya importante ang listening skills mapa-trivial things...yung paiba iba sinasabi.... at lalo na malaking lie, a big NO...
tapos yung inconsistencies in action, parang palitaw...one day bibigyan ka ng 100% attention, sweet, other times naman, indifferent or walang [textspeak!] or call ...i also consider that a warning sign....

[jojo2978]

Re: paano malaman if that guy is true enough para sagutin?

A complicated question like the one given above has an easy answer:  sagutin mo muna

Generally, the first 6 months you are together, super sweet stage or the like.  More than 6 months to a year, sweet pa rin.  After a year, nagsisimula ng makita either flaws mo or flaw nya.  This is the exciting part, dito papasok ang lahat.  Kaya mo ba siya baguhin or vice versa.  Kaya mo ba magbigay or magtiis or vice versa.

[Serena.]

If he completes you. And change you in a better way.


xo

[pinkmallowpie]

it's really really hard to tell if a guy is true/sincere. i think only time will tell.