sensitive,matampuhin,looking for sweetness? is this normal for girlfriends?

[syl]

i wan to know your opinion...i know there's a lot of girls here in this forum..i am very much bothered...just tell me your comments...sa mga girls....are you also matampuhin when it comes sa relationship. yung timpong kahit simple things nagtatampo kayo kasi gusto niyo lambingin din kayo? do you also feel that way? please reply kayo...thanks

[luisacart]

when i was really young, oo. madali akong nagtatampo sa ex-bf ko. gusto ko lagi akong nilalambing. kapag hindi siya nag bibigay ng attention sa akin feeling ko kaagad neglected na ako. i think nasa maturity level ng tao ito. i was 21 that time kasi and he was my first bf.

[tinytins]

ako rin....nung bago pa lang kami ng bf ko....sensitive at matampuhin.  1st bf ko rin kasi sya.  Di ko rin maintindihan sarili ko kasi normally hindi naman talaga ako sensitive or matampuhing tao.  Yung mga friends ko nga sabi sa kin lagi para akong deadma or NR.  Pag inaasar ako, hindi ako pikon.  Pero sa bf ko, ang sensitive at matampuhin ako.  Eventually nung matagal tagal na kami, hindi na ganun. 

Minsan din siguro masarap lang din pag nilalambing ng bf.   

[hairt mini]

I'm guilty!!!

matampuhin and super like ko yung nilalambing ako..=)

[ms.gemini]

ahmmm for me its normal na mag tampo para lambingin to the point na dapat nasa lugar din tayong mga gurls diva

[aquacharly]

O my,  ako lang ata makapal ang mukha dito eh.

With my BFs before (o teka, hindi ganoon ka kapal my face ha ... just naman 2 before hubby  LOL)  ...

     I sure wanted loving attention as much as possible
                  of course!  I needed validation I was The MOST IMPT ONE
      Of course,  I measured it in terms of TIME SPENT in my company --
                  (immature pa nga ako noon)
      Of course, I expected to be The PRIORITY  (immature pa nga noon)

Did I make tampo?  Heck no!  I made demands.. come here now!
I want to go there, I want to do this.. now, or a little later.
I just found it more effective making my wants very clear, and being demanding about it all.... instead of like what my older sisters did... nag aantay, nagpaparamdam,  eh nakaka inip!

Might as well spell it out, demand for it/whatever, para malaman ko agad if I was gonna get it or not.

[stacies83221]

I think it's normal for gfs to make tampo and gusto nilalambing... It's part of being a female, all goes back to history, anatomy, sociology, psychology, etc.. hahaha

The degree on how much one is matampuhin is relatively proportional to one's level of maturity. We all started with our first BF's and we naturally crave for attention, sweetness and we easily get offended. I think as we grow older, we still have this tampo bouts but we develop a way cope with it; to dissipate it or rationalize with ourselves or find a more acceptable way of "feeling the tampo". So instead of waging wars with our partners, we simply tell it to them in a mild, less threatening way. or we delay it and find a more suitable time to bring it up to our BFs in such a way that they get the aftershock of our tampo and not the raw, full-blown rage we usually throw at them. hahaha

So my dear, I guess to answer the question, YES, it's normal to be sensitive but it's how you deal with it and express that to your partner. Try to also get a feel of how your partner reacts... if he's mature enough or not.

[vangie88]

hi sis syl, i'm thinking you're young pa  these things are normal naman, but not too much na you'll look too needy and clingy na. ako kasi when i was young i think mas matampuhin ako about petty things, not bec gusto ko ng away, but bec nagpapalambing lang. masyadong sensitive and minsan i'm thinking bakit si bf hindi sensitive enough about things, esp sa feelings ko. now, thinking back, minsan natatawa nalang ako kasi medyo mababaw talaga yung iba. but i'm not saying na now hindi na ako ganon, of course there are times parin nagtatampo ako and nagpapalambing, that's very normal, esp for girls, nature natin yan e  parang as you grow old lang or as you mature, nababawasan siguro pagiging mababaw in some ways 

[fairy777]

guilty rin ako dito. looking back from my past relationships, i don't think i was that matampuhin compared to how i am now. geez... am i going backwards and becoming childish na?

before kasi my exes were sweeter than how i was with them. ngayon, parang baligtad na, so parang hinahanap ko yung sweetness. maybe i am expecting too much from my current relationship kasi hindi ako sanay na taken for granted. sweet din naman si bf kaya lang feeling ko lang hindi ako priority compared sa past relationships ko na ramdam na ramdam ko na lagi ako yung priority. gosh.. sana maging manhid na lang ako ulit...

[ms.gemini]

I hate that man na kala ko ok sia ayun pala hindi i hate na.akala ko right frm the start its normal pero di pla

[Joycy]

I think this is normal for Filipinas to be like this.

[BoleynGirl]

ganito ako noon.. ganito pa rin ako ngayon 

[annie_barzaga]

even now, ganun pa rin ako, gusto ko lagi ako nilalambing, not  a demanding person... pero syempre ayaw ko kasi mawala yung kilig factor when it comes to relationships, gusto ko palagi andun, hindi yung time lang ng ligawan kinikilig tapos pag kayo na, wala ng kilig... gusto ko may kilig pa rin... 

[syl]

ako din naman..gusto ko yung di mawawala yung kilig, yung sweetness kasi for me nagpapastay yun ng masayang relationship..kasi pagwala ka ng gana parang dun ng sisimula ang mga problems.Parang i always want to feel na special ako na di ako taken for granted.i know na sa mga babae normal lang...feeling ko i will always be like this yung gusto nilalambing..na minsan kahit konting bagay eh nagtatampo ako..kunya-kunyari lang para lambingin...diba? gets? pero sa totoo hindi naman talaga galit.gusto lang lambingin..hay..sana boys know how sweet girls are. kaso sanay na kasi sila na sweet ang girls kaya once na sweet ang boys eh sobrang sarap ng feeling nun.. sana alam ng boys kung paano ba dapat itrato ang isang babae noh...

[travelwhore]

As for me naman, it's the other way around. It's boyfie who's matampuhin. As in! he easily gets annoyed pag me katext ako iba or may tumatawag sa kin. Or if im spending too much time at work or with my friends.

Ayun, nagttampo din [textspeak!] pag di [textspeak!] nilalambing. gusto kasi nun sweet ako lage.. yun lang...

[lovemeagain30]

noong bata pa ako, mataasan lang ako ng boses..nagmamaktol nako!
tapos di lang niya na order yung paborito kong food.. madelay lang siya ng text or call sakin.. mauna lang siya maglakad sakin.. hindi lang niya hawakan ang kamay ko pag naglalakad kami..
asus lahat yun mag aaway or magtatampo nako. ngayon hindi na.matanda nako eh. yung level ng understanding ko hindi na katulad nuon na simpleng bagay kailangan pang palakihin.

[chrisann]

hindi ako masyado matampuhin but i definitely crave for lots of lambing. pag hindi makahint si bf, ako nalang naglalambing sa kanya. but yeah, it's normal i guess. sometimes, a nice conclusion to a resolved misunderstanding is a hug and a kiss. haha!

[books_mags]

narealize ko recently na i am looking for sweetness.  matampuhin... no! siguro that's the hard part, i cant understand myself and i dont want him to know that i am missing something.
nasanay kasi ako na sweet yung ex ko.  na i dont have to demand anything and i get enough attention and sweetness. now, parang hindi talaga siya sweet. sobrang reserved sa feelings niya. pag nahahalata kong nagseselos or affected siya, parang lalo siyang nagiging distant.  siguro he wants to put up a cool front, so gnun din ako.  nagpapaka cool.  masaya pag magkasama kami kasi may nakakausap at nakukulit ako pero may times na hindi talaga ako masaya. nakaka depress.

[boaVista]

yeah, coz in such a way na fe feel natin na love talaga nila tayo at important tayo sa mga bf natin.

[sonncza]

normal. i think