Baby na o wag muna??

[RuChe]

Agree to most sisses here.  You will know if you're ready.  Mahirap pag anjan na si baby hindi mo na maibabalik pa yan. We also decided to have baby after 1 year of getting married. Pero nung ika-6th month namin, we agreed na we're ready na. But at least we we're able to enjoy each other for 6 mos. And no regrets na kase ready na kmi when we decided for it.

Wag ka makinig sa ibang tao. It's between you and your husband. 

[a_y_e_n]

add ko lang. nung bagong kasal pa lang kame, before pa namin mag-usap ni hubby ng masinsinan. akala ko gusto na nya magkababy agad. sabi nya yun daw pinapakita nya saken kase kala nya yun ang gusto ko. eh yun din pinapakita ko sa kanya kase feeling ko gusto na nya.

kung dipa kame nakapag-usap nun di namin malalaman yung real feelings namin. kaya sana sa mga bagong kasla or ikakasal pa lang, usap muna with hubby kung ano talaga gusto niyo PAREHO. kase in the end, kayo pa din makakapagdecide. having a baby is a BIG responsibility, baka kase nadadala lang ng kasayahan since newly weds, excited pa sa lahat.

[[-c-h-a-]]

Hubby and I have been married for almost 2 yrs now, pero we still don't have a baby and not trying to have one din naman...

plan namin is mga late next yr pa, so by the time I give birth, we would've been married for about 4 yrs na nun.

We wanted to enjoy each other's company kasi talaga na kami lang dalawa.. so having a baby straight away was a NO-NO

[AnneMP]

We just had our 1st year anniversary and we have a 3 month old daughter... do the math!  heheh! 

Our love became stronger now that we have our Via.  It's hard pero we can't really wait to have our own complete family

[chayeeng]

agree ako sa mga sis

I'm almost 5 months married now. I have 2 kuyas who are not married. yung youngest namin is 25 at ako pa lang ang married (at 27!) Si hubby naman is an only child. So imagine the pressure.  Kasi ba naman, inuna namin ni hubby magpakasal before anything else (I forgo my board exam to get married and sya naman on hold yung work dapat nya abroad). Ngayon we both decided na it's not the right time for a baby (board exam ko on August; ang alis naman nya for work abroad is on June).

Pero even before pa, we talked about having a baby after a year of marriage na...When we are both ready physically, emotionally, mentally and financially! Gaya nga ng sabi ng mga sis, mas maganda if mabibigay lahat kay baby. And magagawa lang natin yun kung may enough funds (which we lack as of this hehe.underway pa kasi ang renovation ng house!)

Both our parents are willing to help us with the baby daw. First apo kasi for both sides kaya yun. Willing na willing talaga! Pero di talaga yun ang concern ko...Andami ko pa kasi gusto mapuntahan before adding "mother" to the list of responsibilities. (Di pa ako nakalabas ng Pinas, and I'm ashamed to say this: wala pa akong passport! hahahaha!)

So bottom line is...plano, plano, plano. Hopefully by end of this year makakasunod ako sa kanya abroad to start our family. hehe

[snooky]

Pagsawaan nyo ang maging couple only. Pag sawang sawa na kayo na kayo lang 2, then think about having a baby.

It's a BIG responsibilty.

[wat_evah]

tama! pag-sawaan nyo muna isa't isa.. dati bagong kasal lang kami ni hubby gusto ko ng mag-baby.. sabi nya ipon muna kami..ngayon naman na gusto na namin mag-anak di pa rin kami nag-kakababy dahil nasanay na kami sa stress hehe.. married na kami for 5 years.. first 3 years ayaw pa namin.. ngayon seryoso na sa baby making..

kaya masasabi ko lang, wag nyo nalng pa-aabutin ng matagal, 1 year is enough.. tapos baby na.. baka kasi masanay na si body system mo na lagi tayong stress.. kaya pahirapan na ma-preggy

[donutaud15]

were getting married in 2 years and ill be 21 and he would be 23. weve talked about kids and i think we'll try to have one as soon as were married. i dont know how we will be financially then kasi wedding would be just after i graduate and he would only be working for a year. but our situation is diffrent naman kasi we lost a baby few months ago (we live together at the moment) and we realised that emotionally we are ready to be parent. so its up to couple really when would be the right time to have kids..

[iristacey]

our set up was to have no baby yet. we are now 3 years married, 2008 kame kinasal but no baby yet. we're still young naman, both going 27. it will really be upto you kung ano ang preference mo and kung kelan ka magiging ready sa tingin mo. i feel ready na ngayon though.

[Msfi]

if you're still young it's ok not to have a baby yet. but if not so young na eh pag isipan mabuti ang di pag baby agad, biological clock kasi ng babae ang kalaban dyan.

and for the ladies, if you decided not to have a baby yet, i ready nyo din yung katawan nyo like taking vitamins at healthy lifestyle para mas madali magbaby kung gusto nyo na.

[a_y_e_n]

recently nagkita-kita kame ng mga friends ko, some of them were married na din, and eto yung napag-usapan namin. yung isang friend namin na nagka-baby agad after a month of their wedding, sabi nya masaya naman daw sya sa mga anak nya pero nagsisisi daw sya na minadali nila ng hubby nya yung pagkakaroon ng baby kase di daw nila na-enjoy yung isa't isa, di sila nakapagtravel as a couple.

[bitt3rswit]

^ yan rin ang isang reason kaya nag dadalawang isip ako kung mag baby ba agad.

[ClaireMarthe]

Maybe if I get married at 31, baby kagad due to health risks.  Pero kung nasa 20ish pa, enjoy muna as a couple.

[a_y_e_n]

^nagulat nga ako nung sinabi nya yun eh. sabi nya nga, atleast daw kame ni hubby nakapag-galagala pa tsaka madami nagawa before i got pregnant. now i know we made the right decision. but still, depende pa din talaga to sa couple. what worked for us may not work for the others.

[jhenrheign]

i agree sis a_y_e_n kasi in our case naman we have a baby agad... para na din kasi mag asawa ni hubby nung gf/bf stage pa lang kami, though di pa lang officially married... kaya nung kinasal na kami konti lang adjustment ang ginawa namin... and we make it a point na kahit may baby na kami eh we still have time for each other... we don't have any regrets, actually mas fortunate pa kami kasi mas naging blessed pa kami when we have our baby sa start pa lang ng married life namin... 5 years na kami married but i can say na di pa din nawawala ang spark and super happy kami kasi naaachive  namin lahat ng dreams namin ngaun...

and oh, btw, we're not a perfect couple may mag fights pa din and madame trials pero nalalagpasan namin lahat yun kasi we never give up...

depends lang din talaga sa couple on how they will handle their married life...

[17arci]

To all married and soon  to get married, na pag usapan niyo ba kung mag baby na kayo agad?

I'm getting married soon and napag usapan lang namin ni H2B kung mag baby na ba agad or hindi pa. Gusto ko sana ienjoy muna ang pagiging married life. once na may baby na kasi ang dami ng bawal. at dagdag responsibility.

Ang sabi sa akin ni H2B, nasa sa akin daw yun kung gusto ko na or ayaw pa kasi ako naman daw ang manganganak. Kaso haller! ang laki naman kasi ng age gap namin. so kailangan baby na aga para naman hindi siya mag mukhang lolo pag lumaki ang bata.

Parents ko naman mukhang gusto na rin mag ka apo kasi magiging first time nila kaya excited ang mga yun.

So what do you think? Gusto ko kasi inejoy muna ang pagiging no baby yet stage. hehe

Napag-usapan namin ni boyfriend na mag-eenjoy muna kami as husband and wife after the wedding, pero we'll still leave it up to chance. Naisip ko din kasi we're not getting any younger - I'm 26 and he's 25 and we'll be married siguro after 3-5 years pa, so I'll be 29-32 years old - and hirap na mabuntis nun, tapos I have PCOS pa.

[cosmochick]

We're getting married this year.. gusto ko sana baby agad since I'm not getting any younger na..( I'm turning 30 this year..aheeem) hehe but after reading your replies, I'm thinking of postponing it for a year.. I wanna be my hubby's only baby muna..=)

[jenwei]

i remembered asking this question sa ob k.
for her opinion, mas ok enjoy muna each other. at least wait for 6 months to get pregnant.
start taking folic acid and eat healthy para anytime ready magconceive.
pero it depends in couples tlaga.

[purplesassy]

December 2010 kami kinasal, nagkahoneymoon baby kami. Sobrang saya namin magasawa siguro dahil well adjusted na talaga kami sa isat isa. YUng pagbubuntis ko ang nagiging bonding namin kase siya nagaalalaga talaga sa kin, siya nagluluto ng kakaini ko, bonding namin yung pagreresearch about childbearing and stuffs like that. Happy kami na when we reach our first anniv as husband and wife, may baby na kami Ang restrictions naman now eh maselan pagbbuntis ko kaya no
travels muna pero hubby is just too sweet na ngayon pa lang pinaplano na nya yung mga lakad at gagawin namin after ng pagkapanganak ko na mga dapat namin gagawin kung di pa ko nabubuntis

The bottomeline is, it's still your call. Weigh the pro's and con's kami akse we made the right choice na nagbaby agad, otherwise di namin malalaman na maselan pala ako magbuntis eh turning 30 na ko. Regret ko ngayon in a way sana maaga ako nagpakasal kase iba pa rin pag maaga magka baby, baka kase di na masundan tong bulinggit sa tummy ko. God's will

[purplesassy]

Yung travel btw eh nasa plans namin magasawa kase may yaya naman and inlaws na pagiiwanan kaya talaga wala kaming problema kahit magkababy kami agad.