Baby na o wag muna??

[cindylulu]

my advice to those gt sisses who are getting married: wag magmadaling magka baby. enjoy your hubby first. sarap ng feeling na nasa honeymoon stage pa lang kayo. be financially smart too. invest in assets like house and car. para pagdating ni baby, maginhawa na kayo, and kayong magasawa, nagkakapalagayan na ng loob (mature na). that way, si baby naman ang eenjoyin nyo.     

[ms_ldr]

i agree with most of the ladies, enjoy each other and prepare muna bago mag baby.
ako dati i wanted after a year ng wedding mag baby na, pero my husband ask for extension another 6 mos, gusto nya makamove sa mas stable na work, hinayaan ko sya. Thank God binigyan agad kami after 2 mos.
gusto ko rin idagdag na at the end, hinde tayo ang gumagawa ng bata, Sa Dyos pa rin nakasalalay ang lahat.
 

[twelvth_goddess]

^Agre. It's better to enjoy your time with your hubby first -- travel, go out on dates, adjust with each other's annoying habits, and the works. It's not easy din to have a baby, it entails being emotionally, mentally, and financially prepared.

[pabel]

We're going to wait 3-4 years before mag baby.  Dami pa naming gustong magawa at mapuntahan.  Magastos mag ka anak and pag andyan na kailangan family friendly yung mga pupuntahan nyo.

[maman]

Agree, wait it out till well-adjusted kayo sa isa't isa. And dapat financially stable na kahit papano, kasi nga malaki ang gastos sa baby. Sa amin ng husband ko, talagang we decided not to rush. Bumili muna kami ng sarili naming bahay and nag-travel bago nagdecide magstart ng family. Now, we're actively trying na. Sana bigyan kami ni Lord this year. 

[yaskulet]

^yan din plan namen sis. nag pundar muna kami house, nag pakasal, tapos balak ko travel for 1 year. then next year mag baby na (kinasal kami dec 2011). masarap pa lang yung walang responsibility habang nag aadjust kami sa isat isa. Balak ko din muna mabawi lahat ng nagastos namen and mag put up ng business bago ako mag baby kasi gusto ko pag nag baby ako stay at home ako muna.

[[-c-h-a-]]

Hubby and I are married for almost 3 yrs na. We were able to travel, buy our own house and naenjoy talaga namin na kami lang for 5+ yrs (since boyfriend and girlfriend palang kami).

Now, I think pwede na... pinagiisipan na namin at inaayos ko na rin yun budget namin to prepare for the pregnancy and ultimately, the baby.

[kkaram]

thanks mga sis!..:-) pag iisipan ko mabuti yan..:-) malaking responsibility nga naman talaga mag ka baby.. dapat isipin maigi..god bless!

[nursingsexymom]

mga sis, ako 2 months palang kami married, nabuntis na agad! plan sana namin, 2 years muna kming husband and wife lang. pero ayun, nahuli kasi yung appointment namin sa OB to consult birth control techniques. kaya tsaran! baby na kaagad. i would say, if given a choice, maghintay talaga kami according to plan, kasi gusto naming magtravel travel, at gusto kong maging wife muna sa hubby ko for some time. pero ngayon, pag nakikita ko ang baby ko, naiisip ko na its all worth it naman. at pwede namang magset kayo ng time pa rin for each other na kayong dalawa lang. that way, palagi pa rin kayong maiinlove with each other.

[chielen22]

Hi mga sissies..

I need your help advice, violent reactions, comment..

Kasi na pressure ako sa mga taong naka paligid sakin specially my close friends.. Kasi lagi nila ako sinasabihan bat di pa ako mag Baby since I am not getting any younger. I'm 28 yeah medyo late na nga talaga.. Kakasal ko lang last December.. Lam mo kasi yung di ka pa ready di pa kami stable. May work kami pareho ni Hubby pero feeling ko kasi di enough yun to raise a child.  Di naman kasi biro ang bata diba.. And lagi nila nakikita yung mga aso ko, mahilig kasi ako mag breed ng mga aso imbis daw na doon ko inuubos yung pera ko bat hindi pa sa totoong tao. Pero ang aso dog food lang at konting himas okay na sya ang bata pag tapos mag gatas mag aaral pa yan.. Sino ba naman ang ayaw mag baby diba. Madami daw akong worries sa sarili pag daw nag baby na ako everything will follow at malalaman ko kung ano ang mga dapat ko gawin. Pa help naman po.. Na sad na ako.. ng iingit pa sila sa mga babies nila.. huhuhu..

[evilwoman]

^ sis, di pwedeng daanin sa peer pressure ang pagkakaroon ng baby. kung kailan ka ready, saka ka "gumawa". mahirap yung nag-anak ka lang dahil sa kakukulit nila. di naman sila ang gagastos at magaalaga sa bata. 

[sarsingkit]

its alright sis. i feel the same way. we got married last september pero hubby went to canada ng october and i'm currently processing my visa now. yung wife ng cousin ko (na hindi nag-iisip) asked me kung bakit hindi pa kami nagbaby agad and even saying na "hindi man lang kayo nakabuo bago sya umalis". uhm hello gusto ba nya maiwan ako dito sa pinas ng buntis at mag-isa. plus it would complicate the papers na inaasikaso ko for the visa if ever buntis ako. nakakaasar na hindi nag-iisip. whenever people would ask kung may baby na i would just tell them, "iniiisip ko pa kung gusto ko ng baby eh" tapos titignan nila ako na as if makasalanan akong tao or weird ako. tapos titigilan na nila ako. hehe

[irissng]

You better think about it properly. Having a baby is a huge responsibility, really.  You stated that you're sad  due to the comments and pressures from other people. If you think what you're doing is right, then you won't be the least bit bothered about what they're saying.  Could it be that you see some truth to what they're telling you?  Better ponder. The older we get, the riskier it is for us to conceive.  Just pray for guidance.  Good luck Sis!

[Kady_14]

Nasabi na nila halos lahat, Kung hindi, wag ipilit. it depends talaga kung kung "kaya" nyo na ni husband mo, but also just my POV, if you are considering having kids, take into consideration na raising kids would include 20-21 years of sending your kids to University and a lot more gastos. hehe I don't wanna add on to the pressure 

Maaga kami nag-anak, we were 21. Hopefully when we reach 43 years old ni hubs, (our youngest will be 21 then) graduate na rin kami sa pag-papaaral (hopefully ng dalawang bata.)

[Msfi]

May mga consequences ang ating mga decisions, ideally it is better to have kids when you're ready talaga financially & emotionally plus nakapag-adjust na din kayo both sa married life bago mag-anak. But you have a body clock to consider, if magpatagal pa kayo andyan na yung possibility na di kayo magka baby.

Siguro while thinking of what to do, go visit your OB para ma assess nya yung fertility mo at ng husband mo at mas maka decide ka ng maayos.  You can ask na din what you should do kung magdecide na kayong magbaby. Kahit na kasi  advanced ang technology ngayon may mga factor pa din kasi na nakaka affect sa  fertility na di na kaya ng science.

[ikaela]

Hay nako, kala mo naman sila magpapalaki ng bata! If not ready, don't! Ngitian mo na lang sila or daanin mo sa biro.

I think asking people about why they don't have a baby yet is very rude, but alam niyo naman sa atin, accepted yang mga bagay na yan. If only it were also just as accepted to ask people why they had a baby in the first place. Dami ko kasi kilala na hindi pa talaga ready magka-baby or hindi naman fit maging parents. I want to say, "Bakit ka ba nag-anak? Eh sarili mo nga di mo mapakain". Haha. Joke. But true.

[KaraVT]

If you have a choice, later na is best

[sarsingkit]

^^correect sis ikaela. bakit pag pregnancy out of wedlock ang sensitive issue at careful pa magtanong ang mga tao pero pag magtatanong kung bakit wala pang baby, napaka tactless magtanong.

[chielen22]

Thank you mga Sissies sa advices nyo.. I really appreciate it.. Medyo nabawasan yung burden ko.. kasi parang feeling ko ang sama kong tao just because di pa ako ready mag baby..

[hot_chili]

^ sis ikaela, very true! mas maraming sarap pamukhaan ng pagiging iresponsible dahil anak ng anak although walang trabaho. palibhasa yung mga kids ang nagsusuffer hindi sila 

To TS: hay naku sis been there done that. were married for 6 yrs. im 30, hubby is 32 and yes we also have a dog that we treat as our baby! lahat na ng pananakot/insult/sarcasm/threat narinig ko na...
-baog ka ba? baog yata asawa mo e
-baka naman di kayo nagchuchurva kaya di mabuo?
-yan na pala anak nyo (referring to our dog)
-bakit kasi di pa kayo mag anak mahihirapan ka na manganak pag 30s ka na
-uugod ugod na kayo bago pa mag high school magiging anak nyo

Haller!!! its OUR choice na wag muna magkababy, di naman sa pagbrabrag pero we both have a job,we have a house and car, may 3 kaming paupahan, and fairly enough money sa bank pero ewan ko ba... we feel that we can never be ready enough, nkakaworry kasi yung mga kwento ng friends namin with kids and they are the ones who really understand. minsan nga parang naiinggit pa sila dahil di kami nagbaby agad.

Its your decision, mas mahirap kung di pa kayo mentally ready tapos mapipilitan lang kayo dahil sa pressure ng mga tao na di manlang tutulong magtimpla ng milk ni baby sa madaling araw! And habang wala pang angel enjoy your time as husband and wife, go out and have fun