are u really over your ex?

[sugardrop]

^
Learn to live without him in your system. By doing what you're doing, you'll find it harder to move on. If you really want to be over him, start by doing things without him. It is but natural to have thoughts about him and the usual what ifs but it's not healthy, not especially for you who "wants" to get over him. HELP YOURSELF GET OVER HIM.

[SarSi_Em]

sugardrop, thanks sis.

heto after ng last post ko dito, ginawa ko na. one week no communication na kami..

di ko na rin kaya maging meantime girl nya so lumayo na ko, iba na rin number ko, binura ko na rin number nya.
nag papaka busy na lang ako and by next year lipat na rin ng bahay.

nagising na ko. need ko na lang bumangon.

matapos din to. makalimutan ko rin sya.

[guia01]

30 days of no communication! I feel a lot stronger now haha! Siguro 85% nakamove on na ako since may konting galit pa hehe

[you_love_me]

Mahirap pala mag-move on pag may communication pa din kasi meron kayong baby Any tips mga sis?

[callmemissj]

I know someone na may baby na rin but his ex is not talking to him for 3 years already. Since may sama ng loob sa guy, dinisregard yung anak and pinaburden sa grandparents. I think for you, try to think what is good for your child. Instead of moving on, why not fix things. I do not know the entire story but whatever is your reason for trying to move on, sama mo sa decision si baby. Ikaw na nagsabi na mahirap because maybe something keeps on getting in the way. If di talaga kaya mafix, do what's best na rin for you para masupport mo si baby like a full grown mother and woman and as a single parent. Kaya mo yan! Mahirap pero it is possible to be happy despite all the relationship problems with the guy

[FayeP]

answer: super over....kaya nga ex eh, wala na cya puwang sa present at sa future, maski sa isip ko....

[SarSi_Em]

unti na lang.. naiisip pa rin pero keri ko na unlike months ago. nakaka losyang lang!

[kaiz]

yes. and everytime nalalaman ko na may new girl sya, natatawa na lang ako and naaawa sa girl.

[Girltalker2]

Mahirap pala mag-move on pag may communication pa din kasi meron kayong baby Any tips mga sis?

Ganyan din ako dati, nahirapan ako mag move on kasi married kami tapos andun yung "hope" na maaayos din eventually.

Pero it really all starts in you.  Acceptance. Yung na-accept mo na never na magiging kayo because he is simply not good enough for you.  Anticipation.  Looking forward ka na sa future na "free" sa kanya na walang inaalala kundi sarilo mo at ang baby mo.

Pray. Ask for your family's support narin.

[Queen Chokolah]

Sa lahat ng naging ex ko, sa isa lang ako nahirapan mag move on. 4 years mantakin mo eh 4 mos lang yata kami naging mag on. On and off pa. Turns out, hindi ko pala talaga sya mahal. Ewan ko anong matatawag ko din siguro because of ego na rin because he was the very first guy na nakipagbreak sakin. Sobrang shock ako haha then makikipagbalikan sya. Then break. Like, what the frog. Pa ulit ulit na pain pero never akong nasanay. Then one day napagod ako hinayaan ko sya. He was still reaching out to me after the "final" breakup pero hindi dahil nakikipagbalikan. Siguro uhaw sya sa pag ibig na lahat ng naiinlove sa kanya ayaw nya pakawalan, ayaw nya din naman makipagrelasyon. A total jerk. But I was really stupid we still see each other every week kahit me gf na sya. And that went on for 2 years but I still was not over him. Ampalaya much ako nun hahaha. And then.. sumali sa networking. At syempre sinubukan nya ko i recruit. Nung una miss nya daw ako blah and blah tapos aayain lang pala ako mag networking. Lol dun ako tuluyan naka move on. As in naging ZERO ang feelings ko sa kanya. Thank you networking.

I know it wasnt love because I never cried for him. Or for anyone before him. Inisip ko lang mahal ko sya pero hindi pala talaga. Then I met my current bf then I knew what love really is. At wala pa pala sa 5% ang nararamdaman ko sa mga ex ko before. Akala ko hindi lang talaga ko iyakin dati. Hindi lang pala strong enough yung feelings. Kasi ngayon napapaiyak naman ako paminsan.

[baliwsayo]

Me and ex broke up naman not because of a third party. LDR kasi kami and we have unresolved issues. Lately all out pagpaparamdam niya. Of course I don't feel anything for him anymore kaya nga nagkaron na ako ng bago eh. Pero ewan ko, parang ngayon naguguluhan na ako. Lol! I am not sure kung mahal ko pa ba siya o naaawa na lang ako sa kanya (madami kasi siya problema ngayon eh mapagkalinga pa naman kasi ako) o misery loves company lang din talaga. I am deeply touched dun sa recent song na pinadala niya (dami niya ng pinadala na song sa kin).. wanted you to know yung title (by david law) tsaka  yun want you back ni cher lloyd (funny kasi he knows mahilig ako sumayaw kaya upbeat daw yun song na pinili niya para daw mapasayaw ako).

Oh well..

[killbill]

Honestly, not really. I tried entertaining other guys but i don't think i'm quite ready.

[Filipinasadhart]

Over na..... Yun Lang di ko pa nakikita yun right partner ko sa buhay... Kaya nakakabitter Lang sila mga ex ko nakita na nila yun partner nila sa buhay.

[you_love_me]

Ganyan din ako dati, nahirapan ako mag move on kasi married kami tapos andun yung "hope" na maaayos din eventually.

Pero it really all starts in you.  Acceptance. Yung na-accept mo na never na magiging kayo because he is simply not good enough for you.  Anticipation.  Looking forward ka na sa future na "free" sa kanya na walang inaalala kundi sarilo mo at ang baby mo.

Pray. Ask for your family's support narin.

Thanks sis. Hoping pa din kasi talaga ko. Pero sya, sinara na nya. Good thing, we're not married. Gusto ko lang kasi muna umiwas/no communication hanggang maging okay na ko. Na lahat ng concern nya sa bata, mother ko na lang kausapin nya. Kaso matigas sya. Wala daw sya ibang kakausapin about sa baby namin kundi ako. Kaya tama ka, it really starts in me. Ako lang din ang mas makakatulong sa sarili ko. hay...

[you_love_me]

I know someone na may baby na rin but his ex is not talking to him for 3 years already. Since may sama ng loob sa guy, dinisregard yung anak and pinaburden sa grandparents. I think for you, try to think what is good for your child. Instead of moving on, why not fix things. I do not know the entire story but whatever is your reason for trying to move on, sama mo sa decision si baby. Ikaw na nagsabi na mahirap because maybe something keeps on getting in the way. If di talaga kaya mafix, do what's best na rin for you para masupport mo si baby like a full grown mother and woman and as a single parent. Kaya mo yan! Mahirap pero it is possible to be happy despite all the relationship problems with the guy

Thanks sis. Kaso sa part nya, sinara na nya lahat. And sya pa ang madaming conditions kung babalik at mag-aayos man. To think na sya naman ang may kasalanan (nambabae, na hanggang ngayon sila pa, at pabaya sa anak, priorities ang pag-gimik at barkada, etc). kaya ko naman suportahan alone yung baby ko. And kahit ganun nangyari, di ko naman nilayo anak nya sa kanya. Masyado pa nga akong mabait sa knya. Kaso kelangan ko din maka-move on at maging okay.

[twix01]

alam ko talo ako dito. wala. di ko pa rin mabitawan. hope someday makaya ko na.

exactly what im feeling

[callmemissj]

Thanks sis. Kaso sa part nya, sinara na nya lahat. And sya pa ang madaming conditions kung babalik at mag-aayos man. To think na sya naman ang may kasalanan (nambabae, na hanggang ngayon sila pa, at pabaya sa anak, priorities ang pag-gimik at barkada, etc). kaya ko naman suportahan alone yung baby ko. And kahit ganun nangyari, di ko naman nilayo anak nya sa kanya. Masyado pa nga akong mabait sa knya. Kaso kelangan ko din maka-move on at maging okay.

Oh dear. I will not say na nakakaawa yung sitwasyon mo but more like say that I really adore persons like you. That kind of people just prove to us na we are stronger than we think we are. Sana naman kung ganun rin lang wag na wag ka papayag na magsubscribe sa conditions niya because that will be unfair on your part. I really pray na kayanin mo. Guys like that do not deserve to manipulate or even be a part of your life. Parang ganun rin yung sa kakilala ko na kinukwento ko pero I really pray lang na wag ka matulad sa friend ko na pinabayaan yung baby and all. I hope you grow as a person from this experience. Though I am a stranger in the internet, you have my support. 

[you_love_me]

^ super thanks sis callmemissj! Nakakagaan ng loob makabasa ng mga ganito. Don't worry sis, [textspeak!] akong balak pabayaan ang anak ko. Ang tagal kong pinag-pray na ibigay sa kin yung baby ko. Dun nga lang sa hindi natin inaasahang tao, sila pa ang nakapagbigay. May reason for everything na nangyari. And ako, I'll do my best para maging mabuting ina sa anak ko. God bless!

[khaleesiCersei]

hmm... i'm really not sure. he was my first love. we were together for 7 years.. it was intense. and the break up was bad pero now more than 10 years since we parted ways, may kanya kanya na kaming buhay and masaya naman ako sa buhay ko. masaya rin ako para sa kanya. but somehow, he's still in my system.. hindi na sya maalis. ewan ko ba kung bakit. wala naman na kaming communication. meron lang random moments na i can still hear the sound of his laugh and even his voice in my head but that's it. doesn't mean anything.. i don't long for him. i don't want him back. i don't wish for the what might have been either.. he's just a part of my history na lang talaga siguro. oh well, i wish him well hehe

[twix01]

hmm... i'm really not sure. he was my first love. we were together for 7 years.. it was intense. and the break up was bad pero now more than 10 years since we parted ways, may kanya kanya na kaming buhay and masaya naman ako sa buhay ko. masaya rin ako para sa kanya. but somehow, he's still in my system.. hindi na sya maalis. ewan ko ba kung bakit. wala naman na kaming communication. meron lang random moments na i can still hear the sound of his laugh and even his voice in my head but that's it. doesn't mean anything.. i don't long for him. i don't want him back. i don't wish for the what might have been either.. he's just a part of my history na lang talaga siguro. oh well, i wish him well hehe

i feel you sis bakit nga kaya nauso pa ang random moments na ganon na may maalala ka talaga argh! nway sana maging better din ako i know it will take time.