are u really over your ex?

[t_r_i_s_h]

@nixiquita i think you're right. once we love someone we can never really stop loving them, maybe a liitle less or a bit differently...

@sarsi_em baka nga ego lang kasi when I saw them I'm alone pa hahaha

[SarSi_Em]

miss pancake, impossible a month, lalo na pag matagal na kayo, kami 3 years kaya ang hirap, i dont think makakalimutan ko sya, pero makaka move on sguro, pero not a month o a year, kahit siguro magkaroon ako ng new bf.

@trish uu EGO daw un pag sino nauna napalitan. i wish mo na lang maging happy sya para balik karma na lang din sayo hehe.

[t_r_i_s_h]

3years din kami... but yeah okay naman kami now eh, civil. iba lang talaga yung alam mo na may iba na dun sa nakita mo mismo.

[Miss.Pancake]

@SarSi_Em - sis kami 5 years with one kid pa. Sad di ba? Kaya i think it will really take years. Kung may fast forward lang ang buhay ginawa ko na.

[nixiquita]

Ako nga affected pa rin sa new gf ng ex ko na i broke up with almost 5yrs ago. May kurot pa rin. Lalo na ansexy, haha. Tas buntis na rin!

Doesnt mean though that im jealous and i wanna get back with my ex.

with my latest breakup, idk how long itll take me to get used to beibg single again. Napakainseparable kasi namin noon. Para kaming buy 1 take 1 promo. Medyo annoyed pa friends ko why daw kai nagbreak at bakit ko daw nilet go pa. Oh well. Life's a bish sometimes.

[Miss.Pancake]

@nixiquita - sis bakit hindi nalang ikaw mag initiate ng conversation?

[sugardrop]

^^
Na-sad naman ako kasi I remember reading your posts about this guy and your relationship. I hope everything turns out well for you, with or without him.

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I am truly over my exes. Partly because some are douchebags though meron naman nice and partly because someone made me realize and understand better why it never worked out before. I guess if you find happiness within yourself or with your new relationship and you can be happy for them, no what ifs or anything else, then you're probably over them. It will always be a choice.

[nixiquita]

@sis pancake: i cant. Ako kasi lagi nagiinitiate noon. At nageefort magkabati since hindi ko siya kayang tiisin. This time, papakatatag ako. Kasi kung ilang beses kong kinalimutan pride ko at dinisregard yung galit ko para maging okay kami, why he cant he do the same just for once?

@sis sugardrop: actually i went back to that thread and searched for my old post, i was trying to remember the memories.. of the things that made me fall for him in the first place.. why i chose him.. and how i learned to love him. bittersweet. Thank you! Im not closing my doors, tbh. but then again. Hayyy. Anyway, thank you

[Miss.Pancake]

@nixiquita - Sis sige ka. For sur enag eenjoy na yun ngayon. Hahaha. Tinakot daw ba. Pero tama narin siguro yan. Napapagod rin naman kasi tayo. Ang napansin ko lang kasi, ginagawa mo yan na tinitiis siya pero ikaw rin naman yun nahihirapan.  Unless masasabi mo sakin sis na hindi ka nahihirapan? Ako kasi lately hindi na. Medyo naimune na ko. Kaya nga nun nagtext siya deadma na ko. It was too soon pa nga for me kasi expected ko hindi na kami totally mag uusap e.

[nixiquita]

^Nahihirapan ako talaga. But unlike our other breakups noon na talagang nabaliw ako halos haha, right now, i am not so bothered. Kagabi lang ako may sudden episode ng extreme loneliness na iniyak ko talaga. But syempre its really hard everyday, but i have to do this for myself Dati kasi ako lagi sumusuyo so this time, i wanna know kung  importante ako sakanya or not. Mukhang hindi, so carry. Push lang sa pagmomove on. Atleast alam ko im walking away from someone na hindi ako pinapahalagahan.

I wont deny na syempre deel inside i cant help na im waiting for his call or text or paramdam, but i wont go as far as chasing him na ulit. Alam naman niya where to find me. And where to contact me. The best times na free ako. Its so easy for him if wants to. But yun nga, wala. So nganga.

I feel better this way. Kesa yung lalo ko pa saktan sarili ko, dun ako lalo mahihirapan. hehe

[Miss.Pancake]

Ok sis. Pero piece of advice lang, after a week ikaw na mag initiate ng closure. Kasi hindi healthy yun ganyan na nagpapataasan kayo ng pride tapos you leave things hanging. Hindi ka tuloy makamove on sa buhay mo. Kung hindi ka parin talaga niya kinausap then ikaw na ang kumausap at magtanong kung anung gagawin nyo diyan sa relationship nyo. Atleast maclear nyo sa isa't isa kung itutuloy nyo pa o hindi. Siguro naman enough na yun 3 weeks na clear na yun mga minds nyo from kung ano man yun naging cause ng tampuhan nyo.

Ganito kasi yan sis, I get naman yun point na lagi nalang ikaw yun nag iinitiate ng usap o communication every time na may tampuhan pero you not talking to him in the same way he's doing it is like your stooping down to his level. Hindi porke ikaw ang unang nag initiate ng usap ee ikaw na yun weak or bumibiay senyong dalawa. Actually it's not. If you're the one to initiate the communication you're actually the one who's brave enough to make that decision. 

So this time, in case that you talk to him first, it's not because hindi mo na kaya na wala siya. Kundi dahil gusto mo ng decision kung ano na mangyayari kasi you have a career and you have a life and you don't deserve to be left hanging.

Piece of advice lang naman yun.

[nixiquita]

Ay i get you point sis and thank you. And yes, siguro in 3wks time hindi na ako as emotional or hysterical. Siguro for closure nalang din, isang matinong usap.

[t_r_i_s_h]

^ hugs! kaya mo yan! 

I have friends din na sinasabi bakit ko hiniwalayan, some naman mas okay na hiniwalayan ko. Not to brag pero lahat nagsasabi mas maganda daw ako yun nga lang magkamuka daw sila. Eh diba theres a saying na pag magkamuka daw sila na magkakatuluyan hahaha oh well!

I think I really need a support group. Medyo mahirap pala talaga lalo pag tumatagal na and narerealize mo na mag isa ka nalang talaga.

[SarSi_Em]

nixiquita sis, di ko alam whole story ng break up nyo, pero sa case ko kasi nagpataasan kami ng pride, ending heto napalitan na ko.

nag away kami ng March, kahit anong paliwanag ko di kami magka intindihan kasi thru text lang and fb chat, ayaw nya mag meet kami para pag usapan, so ako na ang napagod at sinunod ko un mutual friend namin na space muna, akala ko yun ang gusto ni ex, di pala, gusto nya habulin ko sya, kasi past months nag away kami sya ang naghahabol sakin pero dahil sya ang may sala, ako ayaw ko aminin ako may mali kasi di ko makitang mali talaga ako at kahit anong sabi ko wala ako intention dun sa isang guy na ex ko na rin pinipilit nya na meron.

pride ko na rin na ayaw ko pagbintangan ako kaya hindi ako nakipag bati o kinausap sya, pero sa 3 months na yun nag try ako ilan beses at lagi nya ko inaaway kaya napagod na rin talaga ako, then last month pinilit ko na sya makausap, too late na, may bago na sya, sagot nya sakin bakit ngayon ko lang daw sinabi mga bagay na gusto nya marinig from me.

my point is, mas ok pag usapan nyo ano talaga problem baka pede pa ayusin, lalo na pag wala naman 3rd party, kung talagang ayaw nyo na, closure na lang. para di ka naka hang.

[Miss.Pancake]

Tama sis. Give it time muna. Collect yourself first before you confront him. Para pag nag usap kayo e hindi na mainit yun ulo nyo pareho. Kasi wala rin mangyayari kung pareho pa pala kayo hindi nakaget over sa tampuhan nyo.

Ipunin mo narin yun sasabihin mo. Praktisin mo yun balak mong sabihin sa kanya para malibang ka. Ako kasi ganun ginagawa ko. hehe

[SarSi_Em]

ganyan nga ginawa ko space and time pero di rin naayos, pinalitan na rin ako kasi napapagod na daw sya. so instead mag usap kami, ayusin, ang sa kanya palitan na lang ako at ako engot na naghihintay sa wala na pala.

nixiquita, yun nga di ko ma gets sa kanya, kasi last na sinabi ko same din nun  time nag uusap kami, pero parang now lang nya naintindihan at sinabihan pa ko too late na daw. actually, mali pa rin sya, parang ako na lang nagbaba ng pride kahit na mali sinasabi nya kinain ko na lang para magkabati na kami pero un nga lang too late na daw ako, tagal daw nya bago nya madinig yun gusto nya marinig from me.

[Miss.Pancake]

That's the reason why need talaga na babaan yun pride at ikaw na mag initiate ng conversation kesa yun nag aantay ka na mag initiate ka yun pala napalitan ka na.

[t_r_i_s_h]

tama, mas okay makipag usap pag ready ka na talaga. but come to think of it no one is ever ready for a closure right? just pray na maging okay yung usapan nyo, minsan mahirap lalo na pag sobrang emotional ka pa eh. chances are mag kasagutan talaga kayo which will make it even harder. hayyyy

[nixiquita]

Come to think of it, theres never a wrong time for things na meant to be talaga.

Never too late or wrong timing. Ang true love, lahat nagffall in their right place at the right time. Mali niya is di siya ganun kadesidido. Gumiveup at nagpalit agad. Maybe hes not really for you.

KAYA NATIN TO SIS. haha

[t_r_i_s_h]

i thought so too sis. its just weird coz first few months kami na break okay lang sakin it was just the other day nung nakita ko sila na naging sad na ko. its been 9months gaaahd.

tama, kaya natin to! mas tough kaya mga girls