Dating Someone na Hindi Pinoy --- Share Experiences

[pan.ian4ever]

＾you are right sis. This is what I do now. I have a Danish boyfriend and we are in a long distance relationship. Bago pa lang and i must admit di ko talaga maiwasan mag isip kung ano ba, kung ako ba dapat mauuna magreach out and everything. Minsan nga hindi ko inuunahan to see if he is really into me. Mahirap naman kasi baka hindi pala seryoso tapos hindi magreach out sakin. Pero salamat naman,  hindi nya nakakalimutan magmessage at mag i love you. Hopefully, in God's grace, maging successful yung relationship namin and of course nating lahat.

#lovehard#prayharder

[oshiawase]

@renda08, what happened with you and the Egyptian guy?? Update mo naman kami. Haha

[renda08]

Hello oshiawase!!

Oh well, thank you for asking.

No major developments happened in the past two or three months, I haven't seen him in a while due to shift patterns, I felt sad somewhat kasi ako mismo sa sarili ko know very well na it won't push thru, it is not just at all possible.

He is still around though, trying to reach out, well,  sometimes... hindi pa rin consistent eh. Maybe because nagsusuplada na naman ako, or dumededma sa mga da moves nya? Takot na takot ako ma-fall. arrggghhh He asked for a Christmas dinner with me (kht muslim siya), I said no due to other plans, kilig na kilig ako at the same time asar na asar sa sarili ko.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

It's unfortunate but Pinoy men do have that reputation na nga of being mujeriego (womanizers. i always use this word, loves it ). It has been perpetuated so much that even non-Filipinos i've met are aware of it. Howell. Kasalanan nyo yan, Pinoy guys lol.

this is true but arent westeners (americans and europeans) are more liberated when it comes to sex? di ba mas rampant ang cheating sa kanila? this is my observation based on what i see sa tv lang naman so i cant really judge but i would be glad to be enlightened. tia!

[Shadow Angel]

^iba kasi sa atin mas talamak at proud pa mga lalaki ang mga babae naman madalas may 2nd chance dito most of them no 2nd chances. Wala pa ako nababalita dito sa circle ko na f to f na cheating.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ ah ganun pala sis. so mas talamak pa rin talaga sa mga pinoy.
it's really hard pala to be talking/interacting with someone na hindi pinoy. it's like i'm walking in egg shells kasi idk how they approach the whole dating game. good thing merong thread na to. kasi ang alam ko lang is yung dito sa pilipinas. so if like a british guy says na he likes you, i should just take it for what it is? para kasing lagi nalang akong subconsciously thinking na "he's lying/only saying that to get in my pants" because of my experiences.

[kvandenhaak]

this is true but arent westeners (americans and europeans) are more liberated when it comes to sex? di ba mas rampant ang cheating sa kanila? this is my observation based on what i see sa tv lang naman so i cant really judge but i would be glad to be enlightened. tia!

Naku, hindi rin! Mas matindi talaga ang mga Pinoy, as in nagmamalaki pa. Ang daming mga puting sobrang conservative. I have met a lot! At least kasi sa kanila, they are not proud of it. Parang kasing level kasi ng pedophilia ang pangangaliwa, nakakahiya for them. So, don't believe everything you see on TV. Kasi for entertainment ang pinapabalas sa TV, so mas sensationalized. So, kelangan me shock factor. They don't show the normal everyday family. Yung mga nakilala ko nga, mas conservative pa ang values kesa sa mga Pinoy. Yung tipong pag nag-asawa na sila, stay at home lang talaga ang mom. Katwiran nila, dapat parents ang nagpapalaki sa mga anak, tapos ang dami nilang mag-anak...LOL! They go to church every week tapos they visit friends or their parents regularly. The husbands help in household chores pagkadating galing sa trabaho kasi daw pagod na raw ang mga wives nila working in the house the whole day.

[Shadow Angel]

^tama ka dyan si hubby ko mas conservative pa kesa sa akin. Madami rin dito halos every week visit ang parents. Kami naman every month. Siguro meron talaga hindi close family pero hindi lahat. Sa atin kaya nasasabing sobrang close kasi kahit may asawa sa bahay ng parents nakatira or kaya naman hindi talaga pwede hindi makakasama or kalapit kasi dun  kapamilya umaasa o humihingi ng tulong palagi. Hindi ko sinasabi lahat pero marami sa atin ang ganyan. Which is I find it na may mali kasi hindi nagiging independent kahit may asawa na. Nakasanayan na may tutulong. If offensive sa iba na opinion sorry pero ganyan talaga napapansin ko.

[Shadow Angel]

^tama ka dyan si hubby ko mas conservative pa kesa sa akin. Madami rin dito halos every week visit ang parents. Kami naman every month. Siguro meron talaga hindi close family pero hindi lahat. Sa atin kaya nasasabing sobrang close kasi kahit may asawa sa bahay ng parents nakatira or kaya naman hindi talaga pwede hindi makakasama or kalapit kasi dun  kapamilya umaasa o humihingi ng tulong palagi. Hindi ko sinasabi lahat pero marami sa atin ang ganyan. Which is I find it na may mali kasi hindi nagiging independent kahit may asawa na. Nakasanayan na may tutulong. If offensive sa iba na opinion sorry pero ganyan talaga napapansin ko.

[unsophisticatedme]

Hi, i wanna know your insights. May kachat ako taga london. He is very vocal na he likes me. He opened up na single parent sya, he has a 3yr old son and divorce na daw sya sa mother ng son nya. Pano ko ba malalaman na nagsasabi sya ng totoo? Ang hirap pala no pag sa online mo lang nakilala  ang dami kong doubts. Hahaha! He's coming over here in PH sa august for work and he wants to meet me.

[Shadow Angel]

^if comfortable ka sabihin or iask ang divorce paper nya para maverify mo kaso off un dahil lalabas na wala kanh tiwala. Better if nagvivideo call kayo pinapakita sayo daily life nya and meet his relatives and friends kahit sa video lang.

[unsophisticatedme]

Hindi kami nagvivideo call e, puro chat lang tapos nagsesend lang sya ng pics nya pag nasa office sya ganyan pero hindi everyday. Tapos pansin ko pa, hindi sya nagrereply sa last message ko pag yung time na pauwi or nasa bahay na sya kaya nagdodoubt talaga ako. Pero pag magkachat naman kami lagi sya nagtatanong about sa family ko.

[Shadow Angel]

^mahirap ang ganyan based lang sa experience ko anytime kahit nasaan pa kachat ko nagrereply naman. Red flag din sa akin kapag ganyan. Better ask him direct to the point. Ako sa mga nachat ko dati sinasabihan ko na ayoko ng G*aguhan if something na red flag or rude at hindi address ang issues ignore ko na. So far pinalad naman ako sa husband ko ngayon na nakilala ko lang din online/chat.

[kvandenhaak]

Hi, i wanna know your insights. May kachat ako taga london. He is very vocal na he likes me. He opened up na single parent sya, he has a 3yr old son and divorce na daw sya sa mother ng son nya. Pano ko ba malalaman na nagsasabi sya ng totoo? Ang hirap pala no pag sa online mo lang nakilala  ang dami kong doubts. Hahaha! He's coming over here in PH sa august for work and he wants to meet me.

I can already sense scam here. But to be fair, let's give him the benefit of the doubt. Unang-una, DO NOT BE SCARED to ask questions.
1. Make sure you know his cell number. To verify if it's legit, check it here: https://www.textmagic.com/free-tools/phone-validator. It will tell you if it's a legit carrier. Kapag VOIP, red flag yan.

2. Ask for his Facebook account and do not be afraid to snoop around. If he is legit, he won't mind. And I will make friends with people he is friends with there.

3. Ask for his address and home phone number and reverse look it up.

4. Google his name. And see what comes up.

Meron akong na-encounter na ganyan na ganyan ang story. Tapos, the day na aalis na kuno he needed to cancel kasi meron daw kelangan na bayaran sa airport and said he didn't prepare for that kind of money. And then he told me if he can lend me money so he doesn't have to cancel the tickets....chuva eklavu. Eh ako, nag-research na ako prior so alam na alam ko na ang mangyayari. I took the guy for a ride though for a little while. Then I told him later on I know exactly what is going on. Galit na galit sa akin. Tapos he insulted me. Puro mga katulong lang naman daw ang mga Pinay...LMAO! I will be very careful. He will play with your emotions. And for all we know fake yung pictures.

[rarity]

^tama ka dyan si hubby ko mas conservative pa kesa sa akin. Madami rin dito halos every week visit ang parents. Kami naman every month. Siguro meron talaga hindi close family pero hindi lahat. Sa atin kaya nasasabing sobrang close kasi kahit may asawa sa bahay ng parents nakatira or kaya naman hindi talaga pwede hindi makakasama or kalapit kasi dun  kapamilya umaasa o humihingi ng tulong palagi. Hindi ko sinasabi lahat pero marami sa atin ang ganyan. Which is I find it na may mali kasi hindi nagiging independent kahit may asawa na. Nakasanayan na may tutulong. If offensive sa iba na opinion sorry pero ganyan talaga napapansin ko.

True, I had a European ex and he said sobrang rampant and parang acceptable na dito ang cheating the guys are very good liars and women tend to be naive and too submissive. In our culture men like that for them it seems it is a flaw it shows your lack for self-respect and self -love   

[Shadow Angel]

^Dito paranh nahihiya pa na ipakita or ipaalam na may kabit. Sa atin iba na ngaun lantaran at ang lalakas ng loob ng mga kabit na magpost ng photos with bf nilang may sabit.

[unsophisticatedme]

Thank you shadow angel and kvandenhaak. Ayun confirmed he's just playing with me. I asked him e na mag video call kami aba he wants too daw kaso his phone daw dont have front camera! Naku wag ako!! Haha! Kaya yun alams na.

[Shadow Angel]

^ haha tama scam ang ganyan.

[kvandenhaak]

Dati kong co-worker na-scam ata yun. Mga late 90's pa yun, wala pang Facebook at social media. Pupunta nga daw ng Pilipinas and they will get married. Tapos biglang naaksidente daw tapos. She was already telling everyone that she is getting married. Sabi ko lang that time, mag-ingat. Tapos napansin ko na lang palagi na syang malungkot at walang kibo and then wala na akong balita sa kasal nya. Mukhang naperahan sya ng malaki. Sigh...

Ako, basta ang greetings may "My dear!", block agad...LOL! Mga Nigerian scammers usually ganyan.

[Shadow Angel]

^korek ka dyan sa mga unang bati pa lang na hi sexy or beautiful kaloka profile picture ko hindi kita ang face tapos ganun ang bati dedma ko rin lahat ng mga pasweet message.