Dating Someone na Hindi Pinoy --- Share Experiences

[Pink_Sugar]

^korek medyo career driven nga yung bf nya, pero itong statement ng bf nya sa kanya na "don't get pregnant, you're gonna regret it"? Parang ang insensitive naman nun parang yung bff ko lang may kasalanan if mabuntis sya. Ayaw daw kasi gumamit ng condom nung guy.

[lovemeagain30]

I know some American friends because of my hubby's work and I would say hindi sila galante! 

yes western people are more open and straight forward pero if you are a typical Filipina who would like to be pampered not just you but also your family or friends let's say when going out.. hmmmm.. isang malaking ahmmmm yan! mahilig yan sila ng kanya kanyang bayad. akala ko nuon hindi yan totoo pero ilang beses akong umatend ng despedida party sa restaurant na ang host ang nag invite sakin pero we end up paying our own bills. magpapabirthday pa mga yan at kung sa resto nila yun gagawin, goodluck! make sure you have money with you. I've attended also a lot of their house parties din nila, mas madami pa ang booze kesa sa pika pika food. hindi katulad ng pinoy pag nagpakain sa bahay nila eh buffet!

with dating naman, what can you expect,, of course, stingy pa rin sila.  they will just spend money on you but they make sure they get you into bed din. observation lang eto ng asawa kasi he is the only pinoy in his work now. casual sex for them is very common. kapag swerte at ginastusan ka ng mga yan on the first few dates, abay don't expect that they like/love you that much. most of them just want something in return. kaya I told my pinay buddies ingat ingat sa mga yan at baka ikaw na topic nila with his friends kinabukasan. if ever, galingan narin nila ang performance at least hindi sila nakakahiya sa kwentuhan.. biro lang!

Pinoy kasi usually are karinyoso at malambing. true may ibang pinoy na mayabang pero naranasan ko naman sakanila before na usually when you go out with them kahit sabihin chaperon or sabit ka lang kasama ka narin sa libre kain at sine! 
mahilig din sila manuyo sa mga in laws as much as possible. sa ibang lahi, hindi sila mageefort ng ganun. they will even call your parents by their first name. kasi ganun ang nakasanayan nila.

by the way, kung sa kulturang pinoy, kapag nag asawa kayo eh your husband will surrender his monthly income to you,, on their side, you cannot expect it from them or else hihiwalayan ka. shared expenses but you don't have a say to his money other what he is giving to you.

observation lang namin eto ng mister ko regarding sakanilang culture. specifically American culture kasi dun kami expose ngayon. of course, hindi eto absolute.  meron din namang pinoy probably ganito din ang ugali kapareho nila. masyado lang siguro ako na focus sa financial part kasi I was raised in our pinoy culture naman na women/wives should be pampered by their men. hindi ko kasi kayang ihandle ang mga kuripot na tao!hahaha. swerte nalang ng mga pinay who married or dated foreigners na galante at hindi controlling.

by the way, I have some American friends who also visits our house and if my parents are present during their visit, they pay their respect by calling them Mam or Sir. I told them initially not to call my dad by his first name "Antonio" or else hindi ko na sila papasukin ng bahay noh! hehe..

[lisse]

^sis, san kayo sa US? dito kasi sa midwest, galante mga Americans. and they still call their elders "sir" or "ma'am", even the teenagers. sa work, first name basis pero when addressing the parents, grandparents or any older relative of a friend, sir or ma'am sila. marunong din sila manligaw and gagastusan ka talaga. siguro nasa upbringing and environment yan. dito kasi sa place namin, old fashioned pa din mga tao when it comes to values and socialization.

[lovemeagain30]

hi sis!  I cant mentioned our exact location because of my husband's work. country is outside US but are place is considered US ground. I hope I didn't get you confused. our friends here are mostly Americans coming from all parts of US assigned here. meron din ibang lahi pero dahil US ground considered ditto sa location namin so mas madami lahi nila.

I hope not to offend other people dating Americans ah. sabi ko nga, hindi eto absolute sa lahat. its an observation lang based sa experience ko or exposure ko sakanila. sabi ko swerte ng mga ladies who would marry guys na opposite ng mga kakilala ko.hehe.

[lisse]

^It's okay, may idea na ko sa location mo. And I agree with you. Pero if there is one thing na napansin ko na very common sa mga American men, whether kuripot or hindi, is ayaw na ayaw nilang matawag na cheap, haha! ALthough may mangilan-ngilan akong na-encounter na more accepting pag tinawag na cheap, siguro 2-3.

[kwang sun]

sis lovemeagain... i agree to all of the things you said !!! ibang iba sila sa pinoy kaya nakakawonder if mahal ka ba talaga nila o hindi .

[Lady Blue]

So ang swerte ko pala dahil the Americans I dated are galante.

Re: calling the parents by first name, so far, I never experienced that. My recent ex called my parents "Nanay" and "Tatay" because that is how I call them. And he would make "mano" pa whenever we visited. My family is never the type na magpapalibre pag may kain sa labas. My father ang usually mag-o-offer to pay kaso my ex would tell the restaurant's staff beforehand to never accept payment from anyone in our group but from him. So end up eh gastos nya din.
And I am not the kind of Pinay na iniexpect ko na maging galante sya sa family ko or friends, hello, ang hirap kumita ng pera noh!

And I was very pampered haha.I'm into crochet. So lahat ng yarn at tools na magustuhan ko, kahit di ko hinihingi eh sige bigay. Pati sister nya pampered din ako sa mga gamit sa craft ko.

Yes, he wasn't vocal about his love, pero when we were still together eh I really felt it kasi kita mo naman sa actions nya. Kaya pag sinasabi ang ILY, eh mega kilig LOL

Another thing I like about them, straightforward. Ayoko kasi ng paligoy ligoy. Pag ayaw ko ayaw ko, kaya naaappreciate ko ang ugali nilang yun.

At sobrang gentleman nila, kakilig lang haha. (Or sinwerte lang ako sa mga ex ko?)

[little_princess]

My husband isn't American but it's pretty common for Western people to call inlaws by their given name. My husband doesn't because I already tutored him on how to call the elders of the family and it's not really an issue with us.

And when we go out with friends, KKB talaga. Even during my birthday, they didn't expect to be treated and we paid our own meals. Ganun talaga culture nila eh. But when we are out with family (his or mine), our respective parents usually food the bill.

Generosity wise, I think it depends on the individual. My husband luckily is very generous and would buy me this and that. I've had local bf's who would be generous too but it was breaking their bank and I don't see that as a sign of maturity and financial intelligence

[lovemeagain30]

glad to know that some Americans are not the same with the people i'm exposed with!  di ko lam kung bakit naging friends ng asawa ko eto.hahaha. medyo matagal na kami naka assign dito, nag iiba iba man ang mga kanong na assign dito sa location pero iisa ang observation namin, kuripot.    kaya swerte ng mga sisters natin who experienced different kind of treatment. madalas nga napapansin ko mas generous ang kano na may asawa or may gf na pinoy. siguro kasi natuturuan natin sila. kahit din sa pag uugali, iba kapag ang karelasyon or asawa nila ay pinay parang mas warm sila.

just now may nag invite samin ni mister ko ng 'going away' house party (despedida) na kano kaibigan namin. bring your own food at bring filipina friends if we have.  mga babaero talaga. nagluto lang ako at di ako sumama. sabi ko sa mister ko, ayan na naman mga yan. magpapa house party, pustahan tayo puros pika pika food na naman yan at alcohol! 

tapos may isang invitation din kami, filipina na may asawang kano dati, birthday naman niya. sabi ko sa mister ko duon ako pupunta! kasi hindi na nga ako obligado magdala ng pagkain, pagdating ko dun busog pako. madalas talaga kapag sabay invitation samin mag asawa, pinipili ko kapag Filipina ang host, masaya kasi ang pinoy magpa party sa totoo lang. ibang iba. bukod sa pagkain, may kwentuhan, kantahan at sayawan pa minsan. sa ibang lahi, nabobored ako. nauubusan pako ng kwento.hahaha

minsan naikwento ng mister ko sakin during sa mga casual na usapan nila ng mga katrabaho niya, may tingin din ang ibang lahi, again sa point of view eto ng 'ibang' kano ah (i'm sure hindi lahat ganito mag isip!), na kapag pinay ang dine-date ang habol sa lahi nila ay 'green card'. kaya daw may mga pinay na kahit mukhang lupa na yung kanong lalake ay pinapatulan pa at pumapayag anakan.parang tingin nila sa mga babaeng thailander karamihan daw 'pukpok'. 

siyempre medyo nainis ako sa ganung comment!  pero inisip ko din, hindi naman nila maiisip yun kung wala din silang pinagbabasehan dun. kung ako nga ay madaming observation sakanila, malamang sila ay madami din! respetuhan nalang ng opinyon, ika nga ng asawa ko. hehe.

may friend nga kami na retiree na sa service for 30 years ay may recent gf na pilipina na 20 y.o ,, sorry sa kamalditahan ko pero tumataas kilay ko kasi sa tulad nila na obvious kung anong hanap. kaya minsan bumaba tingin satin pilipina kapag ganyan.  kung true love yan eh,, eh sila na.

[t_r_i_s_h]

Very interesting thread, learned a lot from you girls. I haven't been in a relationship with a foreigner.

[shegie_285]

My husband is foreigner and I have loads of foreigner friends (from different countries).

On being kuripot, I actually take it as they are more marunong sa pera.  Based from experience, we Pinoys once may money gastos agad (guilty ako).  I actually think its because they learned the importance of money earlier than we do. Like they do summer jobs when they were in college to fund their travels, nightouts etc. Tayo generally hanggang college allowance lahat. Having said that, my hubby even though I call him kuripot (and he knows the meaning of the word), is actually very sweet and very generous to me Sa aming dalawa he's simple and practical, ako naman ang magastos. But now hindi na ako masyadong magastos, na-influence nya ako.

No food sa party and just puro alcohol and KKB - its a western culture talaga. I used to live in the Caribbean and ang daming iba't-ibang lahi doon. Our Western friends were impressed  with our parties because we prepared food. Although I noticed, my friends from Pakistan and India, they also cook food when they invite people so maybe its the difference between the East and the West.

First name basis - My hubby calls my mom 'tita' because dito first name basis nga sila. Wala ngang ate or kuya dito. I call my in-laws by their first names. Its their culture so that I have to respect. I feel if I call them mom or dad, I will invade their privacy. But I told my hubby he can't call my mom or dad by their first names dahil parang walang respeto. I don't think he's comfortable with mom or dad so tita and tito na lang. No issue with us or with my parents. I explain to my parents din their culture.

Generally mas older nga ang marrying age nila!  Hubby and I were together for six years before we got married (got engaged on our 5th year anniversary). He was 33 and I was 32 when we got married. Grabe tuloy ang anticipation ng mga friends ko sa kasal namin. Hehe.. I think the reason for that is because after college, normally they take masters or sometimes they travel first, so they get a proper job probably at 26.  Pero may mga lalaki naman talaga na hindi talaga gusto mag-settle. I have a friend who dated a guy na more than 35 years old pero ayaw mag-settle talaga, they broke up.

On dating foreigners - hubby and I started with a kiss (that was more than 7 years ago)!! I realised that's their culture. Hala kiss agad. pero tinuruan ko siya ng Filipino way of dating. haha. So after that kiss, he asked me for a date. Then he texted me, do I want to go for a drink or dinner daw. Of course I said dinner. Sa kanila ang date nila is generally drinks lang. This is part of our kwentuhan everytime we talk about differences. Niloloko ko kase na kuripot siya dahil drinks lang ang first date.   Oh he did pay for the bill on our first date, dapat lang, hindi ata ako naglabas ng wallet.  (and he kept the receipt and showed it to me years later - sentimental hubby ko and I find it sweet)

Dating a foreigner actually makes you more open-minded.  You need to appreciate each other's culture.

@lovemeagain30 Minsan hindi mo din ng masisisi ang mga impression nila sa Pilipino dahil sadly madami na ganun naman nga ang ginagawa.

[kwang sun]

hindi din cla platxt

[freeswan]

^ baliktad. my bf is palatext pero madalang lang makipag facetime. LDR kasi kami ngayon. pero nagfefacetime pa rin kami everyday pero minsan pag nauubusan na ng kwento, hang up ng phone. pero siya naman tong text ng text ng mga random things. hahaha minsa mga after 3 hours ko na narereplyan.

[sexykha]

they are just the same as pinoys
the only difference is the language and the culture..
well - enjoy naman ang experience kasi you tend to learn about their country, their culture, how different they do things from us..
something like that

and it makes you fluent in English :0 sabi nga nila practice makes perfect.. hehe

I've dated an indian, pakitani, and Egyptian before

[saltandpepper001]

Hello. ^^

May indian na nanliligaw sakin. Ayaw ko sakanya pero di sya tumitigil. Tuwing uuwi sya galing SG (dun kasi sya nakatira) lagi syang may dalang perfume,chocolates, mga damit. Tas pinakabonggang gift nya is yung necklace na white gold na may set ng 2 pendants na may diamonds. :O Tas nagpapadala ng roses from island rose. Todo effort talaga. di ko parin sya kinakausap that time. Lol Yung mama saka sister ko chinachat nya sa fb. Di ko nga kasi sya type nun. Tinatamad ako kausapin sya. Ako naman si tanggap ng mga regalo nya. (Ang maldita ko) haha. Sayang naman noh. Wala naman syang ibang pagbibigyan non. Haha. hnggang sa kung ano ano na binibigay nya sakin saka sa pamilya ko. Niligawan nya din sila. Tas laging nasa labas nagaantay sakin after ng gig ko. Late na yun ha, mga 4am na kami ntatapos. Imagine his effort. (Vocalist kasi ako ng banda, at dun kami nagkakilala sa tinutugtugan ko) kaya yun after nun napasagot nya din ako. At kumuha sya agad ng apartment para samin. Di na talaga ako pinakawalan. Hehe. Ayun, after 1 year nagkababy kami na super pogi. Ang ganda ng lahi nya. Gusto ko pa humirit ng baby girl. Kaso ayaw na nya. Ang malungkot lang after namin magkababy, nagiba sya, naging cold sakin, uuwi sya parang walang nakita. Di man lang naeexcite pag nakikita nya ko. Simula nabuntis ako, nagiba sya. Di narin kami madalas mag do. Pag inaway ko sya saka lang sya magbibigay. Mukha daw akong sex. Grabe ha. Normal lang naman sa asawa yung mag demand ha. Once in a blue moon na nga lang kami mag do kasi wala naman sya lagi dito. Wala ng spark yung relationship namin. Ang boring na. Lagi lang kamig nagaaway tuwing uuwi sya dito. Di ko alam kung san papunta relasyon namin since lagi naman kaming magkalayo.ang hirap ng ldr. Di ko alam kung hanggang kelan ko to kayang tiisin. Though good provider naman sya, he works in a software company as a gen manager so wala kaming problema pagdating sa mga gastusin. Pero di na kami masaya as a couple.


Masasabi ko lang sa mga indians: according din sa land lady namin na may ex na indian nung nagrerent pa lang kami.
Grabe magmahal. Pag gusto ka nila, talagang ikaw lang. Wala ng iba. Faithful. Saka grabe yung patience nila. Unlimited. Kaya di ko sya maiwan iwan. Sya lang talaga yung taong makakaintindi sa ugali ko.

[sweetpot]

mostly ng mga naging bf ko ibang lahi... meron isang pinoy kinilig ako talaga pero wala na yun... akala ko its more of a cultural thing until I met this guy na Canadian, mas kinikilig ako sa kanya ngayon... parang everything is new. Ganon din naman wala naman sa lahi lahi yan. Basta nagkakaintindihan kayo.

[etucsai]

I have an Indian ex...
he is kinda galante... parang pilipino din..
everytime we go out. he is the one paying.. though i offer most of the times..
he doesn't want to..

he is also sweet... parang pinoy lang din talaga..

[LeallianFaye]

Mine's French, pero Filipino sya by flesh, parents nya both Filipino pero sa Paris sya pinanganak so dumadaloy na sa dugo nya yung culture ng European.

He's 2 years older than me
He can speak tagalog { thank you, lord! } kahit paminsan nawawala ang H nya, tawagan pa naman namin Mahal. Pag sya nag sasabi nagiging Maal. Haha. Meron paring accent na French.

Kahit na both parents nya ay Pinoy yung kultura ng French yung nakuha nya, sa attitude sa pananalita sa pagkain, sa lahat. Yun lang yung mahirap pag iba ang kultura na nilakihan nyo dun kayo paminsan magkakaiba and sa language paminsan may barrier, pero sabi nga nila pag mahal mo talaga ang tao hindi na masyadong importante yang mga yan kasi na-ooversee mo naman.

Paminsan dun kami hindi nagkakasundo ni boyfie sa ugali nya, ugaling french, mabilis uminit ang ulo at more vocal sila pero hanggang dun lang sila. Haha.

[Romina]

^not just French, most Europeans are hot-headed lol

[LeallianFaye]

^not just French, most Europeans are hot-headed lol

Ay Truelaloo sis! Natakot na ako pumunta ng Europe dahil halos bulyawan daw sila doon pag may di gusto sayo o pag may mali ka. Hahaha! Prangka daw sila talaga.