Dating Someone na Hindi Pinoy --- Share Experiences

[Girltalker2]

^ Ako naman feeling ko mas okay sila kesa sa mga Pinoy. Hindi nga kasi maganda ang experience ko dito satin kasi parang ang daming babaero, sinungaling, pero pag kinonfront mo, duwag.

Tsaka konti lang health conscious sa mga Pinoy, panay malalaki ang tyan kaya ayoko din. Tapos they really have a tendency to wander around, ewan ko ba kung bakit.  I also find them shallow.  Pag hindi pa kayo, ang galing pumorma or mag promise nang kung ano ano. Pag kayo na, feeling hari na.

For foreigners naman, mas madali ko sila makasundo kasi mas open minded, our conversations can go on for hours, and as others have said na, they cherish you even more kung gf ka na nila. 

[Romina]

I know! That is so true. Marami ring batugan sa tabi tabi na kung dumiskarte sayo eh akala mo kung sino. I don't wanna marry someone who'll end up like my dad na may girls and kids sa labas. Usually foreigners, pag nainlove sila sa iba while kayo pa, they will break up with you or ask for a divorce. At least naman marunong silang humarap sa problems na nacreate nila

[little_princess]

agree with the points raised here. ang mga pinoy kasi magaling manligaw, best foot forward then after he gets you to be his gf or missus, he will change for the worse na.

[kwang sun]

^ Ako naman feeling ko mas okay sila kesa sa mga Pinoy. Hindi nga kasi maganda ang experience ko dito satin kasi parang ang daming babaero, sinungaling, pero pag kinonfront mo, duwag.

Tsaka konti lang health conscious sa mga Pinoy, panay malalaki ang tyan kaya ayoko din. Tapos they really have a tendency to wander around, ewan ko ba kung bakit.  I also find them shallow.  Pag hindi pa kayo, ang galing pumorma or mag promise nang kung ano ano. Pag kayo na, feeling hari na.

For foreigners naman, mas madali ko sila makasundo kasi mas open minded, our conversations can go on for hours, and as others have said na, they cherish you even more kung gf ka na nila. 

i respect your view sis pero iba naexperience ko.
may both positive at negative naman when you're dating a foreigner.. yun nga hindi sila BEST FOOT forward when it comes to panliligaw  pero jusko paminsan naman sana gumawa sila ng "effort" to make us feel good. eh sa sobrang hindi maka best foot forward eh parang i feel "neglected" . positive point "open minded nga  sila  , eh negative din yun kasi parang feeling ko open sa sila sa isang "open relationship" .. gusto din niya "live in muna" in the future hindi "marriage" muna.. eh no no sa akin yun pati sa family ko noh.. hayun . these are just my two cents. ex ko na siya ngaun haha

[little_princess]

I thing iba iba naman yung mga tao and they have their own personality and quirks.

living in is super normal for them and it's not really a big deal but when you are in a relationship, you have to talk out your differences. one of hubby's best friends has been living in with his gf for about 8 years na and they have been together 10+ years na. the guy just proposed this year and will get married next year.

[eukanuba]

Dated a [textspeak!] am raised in the US due to age gap we didnt get along so well. Hes possessive but was very charming at first. Now in a commitment with an ABC - american born chinese and im loving it. Ma effort and bait. sweet. Girls here are right. These americans dont say I love you when theu don't mean it. It takes time.

[ullala]

With regards sa pagsabi ng i love you, tama kayo it takes really some time. My boyfriend, who is Swedish-Swiss didn't say it kahit kami na. When we got together he just said that he thought I was a great girl. Ang tagal kung inantay, but when he finally said it, I knew he meant it. Mga Pinoy ang bilis, madaling magsabi ng kung [textspeak!]-ano pero parang often it lacks sincerity lalo na pag ang bilis ng flow of events. Not to discount the possibility of love at first sight, but generally speaking lang.

It also takes time before they integrate you in their environment. When my boyfriend introduced me to his mom i really felt special, kasi first girl ang akong pinakilala.

[purple_md]

Oo nga di sila nagsasabi agad ng i love you unlike pinoy gasgas na gasgas ang i love you. kahit minsan gustong gusto mong sabihin dapat sila pa rin mauna magsabi

[icantspellyou]

I actually liked dating non-Pinoys more. They're more independent and more upfront on what they want. They don't keep you guessing as much as Pinoys usually do.

They have a more casual approach to dating. That can be a plus or not. At the same time more serious when it comes to relationships.

They can be romantic too while not as cheesy/mushy compared to Pinoys. At least they don't attempt to carry your handbag while you're out on a date or whatever. Ew.

Westerners, at least the ones I dated, don't say I love you unless they meant it. "I love you" is a pretty big sentence for them. Unlike Pinoys na pumoporma pa lang sa 'yo umuulan na ng I love you. lol.

Don't get too attached while you're just dating. Pinays I've heard have a tendency to be too clingy, and too jealous. Just be your cool sexy self. That's what probably attracted them to you in the first place.

I totally agree with @summersong foreign men were much straight forward wala ng paligoy ligoy pa. If they like you. They will tell you unlike pinoy na magiisip ka pa why he's doing this & that.

[icantspellyou]

I used to date a singaporean man and a [textspeak!]-indonesian/american.. Well If im going to compare them. I like the one who is purely foreigner. Si Singaporean kasi yung isa he has pinoy men approach pa e. What I like about them is they were really straight forward sasabihin nila ano yung gusto nila sayo and bakit ka nila gusto, very appreciative din esp sa aten na mga Filipina. Unlike pinoy men, di sila machancing unless siguro if magpapakita ka ng motibo. Masarap sila kausap and syempre kapag kausap mo sila. You must have a good english din para at least you will have a good conversation.


Ok sila training ground for further enhancement ng communication skills hehe

[Hemicath]

Oo nga di sila nagsasabi agad ng i love you unlike pinoy gasgas na gasgas ang i love you. kahit minsan gustong gusto mong sabihin dapat sila pa rin mauna magsabi

Correct sis. Hehe. Before nung nagdadate pa lang kami ng boyfriend ko non, hindi talaga sya nagsasabi ng iloveyou, sasabihin na lang daw nya yun sa akin kung yun na nafefeel nya. Hehe. Once lang sya nagsabi sakin ng iloveyou na sya talaga unang nagsabi. Kakilig lang kasi ako lage una nagsasabi ng iloveyou noon, hehe 

[molybdenumstudios]

One more thing. Most foreign guys do not care whether you're a virgin or not. It's only these conservative and conservative-kuno guys who were raised as spoiled brats (lol) or 'yung ma-pride na Pinoy guys who are actually taught not to respect women who are no longer virgins.

[little_princess]

^ have to agree, it's not really a big deal and they do respect your past more compared to local guys who will quiz on on each of your ex's.

[molybdenumstudios]

Well, though I have to say that I am one of the boys, lemme tell you why dating a foreign dude has its own pros more than cons...

On Pinoy guys

1.) They really care if you're a virgin or not.
2.) Most of them do not like the concept of a girl doing the first move.
3.) Superficial. No need to explain further.

Not all Pinoy guy are like this, but you'll only find a few of them who are very serious.

On foreign guys

1.) They're more open-minded, straightforward and gives you more confidence.
2.) Courtship is non-existent in their vocabs.
3.) Not so superficial. For them, attitude speaks louder than looks.

For them, being in a relationship should be with mutual respect and understanding.

I hate sounding sooooo blunt, but that's from my own personal experience. Hihi.

[kwang sun]

they are a bit weird on expressing how they feel about you

[Lady Blue]

^^
Agree much, sis molybdenumstudios. Ganyan din experience ko. Kaya ayoko na now ng Pinoys. Pwera na lang kung kasama sya sa mga iilan na ok naman.
I'm not saying na bad lahat ng Pinoys ha. Based from experience lang naman.

Before hindi ako ganun ka confident, di rin naman shy. Tama lang. Pero now halos everyone says na very strong ang personality ko. I exude intelligence and confidence daw. Nadevelop masyado dahil sa ex kong American.

[molybdenumstudios]

Sis Lady Blue,

Lalo na kapag outspoken ang babae, Filipino guys will feel inferior. They think girls/women should stay submissive and meek/demure because they want to maintain their ego. For their part, natatapakan ang pride/ego nila kapag ang babae ay domineering. No wonder, people like me won't ever date someone who has those traits.

There are some who still insist that they'd rather date a Filipino guy. Well, given that a Filipino is carinyoso, but that's it.

[Lady Blue]

^ true.

[Pink_Sugar]

yung best friend ko nag migrate sila sa NZ after college with her family and ka lived in nya ngayon ay German. Sobrang matipid daw at hindi galante at walang plans na pakasalan at mag ka anak sila as of now, 2-3 yrs na silang magka relasyon. Bawal daw syang tumaba kaya super workout palagi ang best friend ko. I dont know if she's happy or for the sake na may bf sya. She's 30 y/o and the guy is 35 y/o.

[Lady Blue]

^ Usually ganung age ng guys eh career driven pa talaga. Yung tipong magpayaman muna. Lalo na German, medyo achiever mga yan.

Just my two cents.