Dating Someone na Hindi Pinoy --- Share Experiences

[oshiawase]

ang saya ko na nahanap ko tong thread na ito!

Wala akong bf na foreigner but I would love to date a British guy.

Anyway, question lang. Ano ba ang "date" when it comes to American culture?

Kasi, when I was studying abroad, I met an American guy. We were both students. I was 19 then but he was 24 (or 26?). Anyway, so one day, we were just walking to the dorm (we were not yet really close then) and then I told him i have to go ahead since I have to catch the bus to the mall since I have to go to the bank coz i am broke and i need cash. When he heard this, he was like, "oh yeah, I have to go to the mall to to buy...socks". And I was like, "cool" and he asked me if he can go with me and I was fine with it.

So yeah, we went to the mall. We did not go straight to the bank but went sight seeing. Which is weird. Then afterwards he would ask me if i want to go with him and his all-male friends to somewhere, eat somewhere, watch something, go ghost hunting, go fishing, etc. I declined all his offers.

Then one time, we went to karaoke with a few of his friends and a few of my own friends. Then he became close to one of my friends. Days after, sila na.

Now, I dunno what to make of his actions then. Was that a "date"? Was he ever interested in me romantically? Kasi nung sa friend ko, ang bilis eh. Super open din kasi nung friend ko na yun kahit may bf siya that time.

Not that I am interested now. I just want to know.

Thank you for the advice!

[junetwentythree]

To answer the question once and for all, if you've always dated Filipinos, then you're in for a culture shock if you date a foreigner. Aggressive? I don't think so. But it's all subjective of course.

@oshiawase He may have been interested but if you didn't reciprocate and Americans aren't much for playing hard to get, then he moved on to your friend.

[oshiawase]

Hello mga sis! Musta na ang mga date nyo? Lumevel up na ba?

I'm still dating the Turkish guy. More than 2months na kaming magkakilala pero still wala pa din major progress. Eto yung mga progress namin:

-I spend the night in his place for a movie bonding. Hindi nya ko kiniss ni hawakan ang kamay ko wala. He treated me like a princess talaga and he was extremely nice to me. He let me sleep on his bed while he sleep on the couch. The following day, he took me out for breakfast and bought me A LOT of plants.

After that movie date, ang tagal na namin hindi nagkita kase he is really busy. He constantly send me sms, email, and call me.

-Almost a month after, he took me out of the country. I was really surprise. He is so busy that he couldn't even visit me at home and yet he took me out of the country. We slept this time in one bed. Still, nothing happens. May progress kasi now may kulitan portion na kami, may hawakan na sa arms, may kulitan pero still walng sign na may something.

Sinabi nya yung preferred nya sa gf and all qualifications, pasok ako. I'm confuse kung ano ba talaga status namin.

HELP!

WOW! Swerte mo! Parang bihira lang ang lalaki na makakatulog kayo in one bed without having sex! Grabe control nya ah!

[_ania_]

so lucky to have a bf na sobra ang self control. we were sleeping in one bed too, na walang sex. so lucky
to have him. sinabi ko na from the very start no hanky panky for us. and he agreed:)

[chicgurl]

kami nung fiance ko never kami nag physical contact nung "dating" pa lang kami.. test ko din kasi yun sa kanya.. if totoo at pure ang intentions niya sakin.. so blessed we are tying the knot soon tee hee!

[kwang sun]

^ nice .. matry nga yan lol . it's my first time to date na hindi pinoy eh..

[chicgurl]

^ we were dating for 8mos bago naging kami officially.. dalagang pilipina lang..

[kwang sun]

^ counted ba yung hindi ba kayo nagme-meet ever? naging kami online.. may plano nga sana kami mag out of the country siya raw magbabayad excited na kami pareho eh kaso kelangan pala ng visa dun sa pupuntahan namin lol  wala pa akong visa eh haha

[little_princess]

Dapat you meet up first, see if the sparks are real or not. Anyone can adapt a character in the internet so a lot of people have gotten and will get duped.

I'm married to an englishman, known each other a total of 3 years and he's been very consistent with his personality, values and morals. Swerte lang ako that i met a nice, even conservative to a certain extent and sweet guy. There are like in any cultures, mga g**o and manloloko. You really have to filter that out. Kilalanin mo muna yang guy thoroughly in real life hold out if you want but it wasn't ever an issue with us.

[kwang sun]

^What if sis we've been talking online since last year pa up to now ? Can someone really fake their character that long? 

[little_princess]

Yeah, there are a lot of creeps and con artists online. I'm not saying your boyfriend is but you have to be careful abd protect yourself first and foremost. And you really cant tell if there is spark or not if you dont meet in real life. There are a lot of situations in real life that you dont experience online.

[kwang sun]

Ganun ba sis.. hmm. I'll think I'll bring some pepper spray when we'll meet lol.. just to be safe haha

[oshiawase]

^ make sure your family knows where you will be and who you will meet. Give them details about this guy too. Just to be safe.

[kwang sun]

^matagal na naming plano mag meet sis and nung naging kami na I told him about yung common dating style ng pinoy like meeting the parents etc. .. few months from now magkikita na kami.. siya pa nga palagi yung nagsasabi na kinakabahan na siya mameet parents ko LOL  , so yea he's gonna meet my parents first    he's trying so hard to speak tagalog lol

[karlita123]

I'm dating a German guy. I would say he is perfect... or maybe I just accepted his flaws na. Kasi sometimes na-iinis ako kasi masyadong intelligent tong taong to. and feel ko na intelligent din ako so di ako nagpapatalo. haha! But he's very good-looking (some girls just cant help but stare at him and even steal pictures of him  ) and has a toned body. He always makes me feel secure even if sometimes na iinsecure na ako. He takes care of me. More practical than romantic. Haha!

[tough_guy]

Sorry, but matanong ko lang mga sis, ano ba reason kung bakit ang ibang pinay ay may relasyon sa isang foreigner?

sabihin na lang natin na, oo nanliligaw yung mga foreigner, pero  may mga pinay na gusto mapangasawa ng ibang lahi. siguro nga sa buhay ngayon dapat practical na dapat. tama ba? true love?

[little_princess]

^ i think you answered your question kasi nga a lot of people especially those who are in search for financial stability would go for the practical route as these foreign men are richer than the locals even if they have the same job title.

this may be the obvious, glaring reason but there are a lot of couples and relationships that is not based on that. true love comes in all shapes and sizes

i would say that my relationship with my hubby is not for practicality's sake. we're not even the old guy-young girl couple. and financially wise, we are of equal standing when we got married.

[karlita123]

I met him in the university and he is a year older than me. Yes, i think it is true love for some, but for others it could be for security reasons.

[tough_guy]

@little_princess aw. so practical route lang pala yung mga foreign men. alam ko matagal nang issue ito sa states na magpapakasal sa isang "other" citizen,  then after processing acquired citizenship for more than a couple a year there a lot of women intend to leave their husbands.

Im not against you i believe that marami pa rin ang babaeng tulad mo ay true love pagdating sa ganyan. Im just saying what i know and encountered a lot other's experiences like sa mga kakilala ko si Maria may long time bf i think for how many years, then suddenly ikakasal na kay hapon. Si Elena may fiance na ikakasal na within a month pero kay kano ikinasal sa ibang bansa kahit senior na yung guy. im just shared a random names, no offense to others a like such names

[kwang sun]

^ depende lang sa tao..pero ang importante lang talaga when dating a foreigner is to know where you stand in your relationship , kundi kawawa ang bf/gf ..girl's may think they've found "the one" pero sometimes mas wise pa yung mga foreigner kesa sa atin.lol. just saying