Dating Someone na Hindi Pinoy --- Share Experiences

[junetwentythree]

^ Don't do this to yourself, sis. Do you really want a relationship with a man who's only sorta into you? You're bending over backwards for him and he hasn't lifted a finger! If you want to the go the U.S. to travel, that's fine and dandy but don't do it for him. He doesn't sound like he's worth it

[shopaholic18]

^^sad to say sis ganun din opinion ko, maganda na umpisa palang set things straight, gusto ka ba niya? why not open himself to the possibility of LDR? why did he had a gf?  interested ba siya sayo? in that way you'll know kung may inaantay ka ba o wala, kasi sabi mo lahat ng effort on your part, bakit sa kanya wala if he really is serious about you. weigh things first, di biro pumunta dun for nothing.

[little_princess]

^^^ sis, i do agree with the other posters here. if he really likes you and wants a relationship, he should have made it clear to you, made the effort to get to know you, and made the effort to see you. I don't know if you know it but US military men have this reputation so you better be careful.

and for you going to the states just to see him, i'm sorry but that is so low. why should you be the one to make the effort? military personnel have 60 days worth of leaves every year and can be carried on the following year. all he needs to do is file a leave form and wait for approval.

he's just going with the flow, if there was zero effort on his part, how will he take you seriously?

[the_dreamer]

thank you sisses for your comments... siguro pwede na ako gawan ng monumento sa pagiging martyr! to be honest, pressured na ko being single kaya siguro pinipilit kong i-work out ang isang friendship into a serious relationship... am already 30 and napag-iwanan na ko ng mga friends ko...! di naman ako pangit! may mga naging bf naman ako (filipino), yun nga lang hindi ako ang pinakasalan! kaya siguro ngayon foreigner naman gusto ko... so sad lang that you have so much love to give pero hindi mo lam kung kanino ibibigay

[shopaholic18]

^ sis darating din yun, i know gasgas na linya na yan. not all foreigners are like your friend, look for someone who deserves you, ang hirap kasi talaga yung mafafall ka sa someone that wouldn't catch you. let them fall for you first saka ka mag invest ng feelings and emotions sa kanila. get things straight sa umpisa palang para di nasasayang oras mo waiting for someone you're not destined to be with. goodluck in finding the right one, and by the way, love is a two way street, it has to be give and take hindi yung give ka lang ng give. love yourself din sis. everything need not to be rushed, it will happen in God's time.

[the_dreamer]

^ sis darating din yun, i know gasgas na linya na yan. not all foreigners are like your friend, look for someone who deserves you, ang hirap kasi talaga yung mafafall ka sa someone that wouldn't catch you. let them fall for you first saka ka mag invest ng feelings and emotions sa kanila. get things straight sa umpisa palang para di nasasayang oras mo waiting for someone you're not destined to be with. goodluck in finding the right one, and by the way, love is a two way street, it has to be give and take hindi yung give ka lang ng give. love yourself din sis. everything need not to be rushed, it will happen in God's time.

thank you sis... ka-chat ko sya ngayon. i asked him what if i get the visa and we meet, what's next? sabi nya "I think its important to see how we feel when we meet.. and I think we should be smart about it and not jump into anything unprepared you know?" may point naman sya... pero di kasi yun ang ini-expect kong sagot nya... i even asked if we can try a long distance relationship... hindi talaga sya naniniwala sa LDR...

yeah, right... hindi dapat nagmamadali... waaahhh, hanggang kelan kaya ako maghihintay? kulit ko no?

thank you sis...

[little_princess]

^ actually, he has a point. there are people talaga who would not want a LDR. After my last ex, ayaw ko na talaga ng LDR and would not entertain it much. May mga taong sigurista eh. So in your situation, I think you're the one who's into it more than him kaya you feel "desperate".

Tama din kasi, he isn't giving you any assurance  kasi nga he's not sure how it will be in real life. Pero that doesn't mean na you should be the one making the effort. He should.

Try to look at your other options, malay mo someone else is meant for you

[shopaholic18]

^^don't expect nalang sis kasi he's not giving enough proof na he's into you. kulang sa effort kumbaga, kaw kasi talo in the end eh. isipin mo nalang din pagpunta mo dun for vacation, not for him totally para if things don't work out well ok lang, no regrets.

[the_dreamer]

wish i have all the courage to let this one go napapagod na ko pero di ko naman ma-let go...

we had a misunderstanding awhile ago... since hindi nga sya super open about himself, so i did this stupid thing of trying to know more about him, especially about his past relationships... i just discovered that this one girl in his fb buddy list is his ex... inamin naman nya, but when i ask him if he still loves her, nagalit sya and told me that if he wants to share his past, sasabihin naman daw nya. he doesn't need someone daw to dig it for him... i know naman na mali yung ginawa ko. so stupid!

sana i have other options... pero wala eh. hindi naman kasi ako gumigimik to meet new friends... hindi rin ako lagi nagcha-chat. work-bahay lang... siguro kung sa manila ako working, hindi ganito lovelife ko... oh well...

thankful ako that i found this thread you guys made me feel better... thanks sisses...

[shopaholic18]

^hay sis super complicated ng situation mo, i know mahirap sila intindihin aminado ako dun at times i don't understand my bf but then i need to adapt the same way as he does so we could meet halfway. it takes two to tango, hindi kaya ng one way not unless you just do the things you do without expecting something in return but that would be ridiculous and impractical since pag ginawa mo yun ikaw masasaktan in the end. try not to get too attached, keep distance and let him pursue you, wag ka muna mag effort, let him prove your worth in his life for awhile, if he doesn't think twice girl, mahirap maging martyr, baka kakahabol mo diyan namimiss mo si mr right. he's not the only guy sis, there will always be someone out there for everyone.

[muahmuahmuah]

^^i think the only person without an option is the one sealed in a box buried 6feet under. there are a lot of better things to do than think of a guy who isn't worth an iota of your thoughts.

[the_dreamer]

right now, ayaw ako kausapin... kasi nga galit sya. parang ang laki ng kasalanan ko ah! oh well, i'm really tired of these things! fed up na ko

@shopaholic18: you're right sis... i'm keeping my distance na. hindi rin naman nya kasi masabi kung ano ba ako sa kanya... and since meron pa silang communication ng ex-gf nya, possible na maging okay sila ulit... so ako na naman ang kawawa. and pag nagka-problem na naman sya sa lovelife nya, ako na naman ang to the rescue! hay, nakakasawa na!

letting go... moving on... sana madali lang gawin 'to.

[shopaholic18]

^sis i know hindi but open yourself to other guys. i know mahirap pero ganito kasi ko mag isip eh,i won't fall for a guy who doesn't love me back, he has to make the first move and effort to make me fall for him. he has to lay his intentions and interests first before ako, actually personal point of view ko lang naman yun and yun ina apply ko sa sarili ko, nakakatakot na kasi masaktan lalo na kung sa umpisa palang alam mo na na ikaw lang pala inlove. it would really be nice if i can say na your guy across the miles is inlove with you but then try to take time to comprehend his signals, tell you the truth, my guy and his ex are still friends, pero civil lang ha, and it doesn't bother me now. i know their story and i know its over and it will never bring back their past, assurance from my guy nadin. having this LDR made me mature, made me tougher, made me trust and made me realize a lot of things. now we're in the process of making things work for us and hopefully be together soon.

[little_princess]

sis dreamer, where are you located ba? you know, you cant meet people anytime, everywhere. hindi lang sa chat kasi there are a lot of posers there and people generally not take each other seriously there.

actually, a lot of westerners don't like people digging into their lives, they will want to say what they want in their own time. they have a bigger personal bubble than asians kasi.

re online relationships, my stance kasi is that you really need to meet the person first to be able to say what you really feel about them. kahit na 10 years na kayong 24/7 skype buddies, you will never know the real personality of a person. so in fairness to him, he really can't say but all i can say is that he doesnt like you enough to explore that possibility with you.

[the_dreamer]

@shopaholic18: the problem with me sis, madali akong ma-fall. sana same mo rin akong mag-isip... siguro naman in time matututunan ko rin yan. nung magsabog ng kamartiran sa mundo, nasalo ko na ata lahat. kaya yung 2 past relationships ko i end up crying lang... kala ko kasi pag nagstay ako and ipaglaban ko yung feelings ko, happy ending... hindi rin pala. this one ako na naman ang hurt. hindi rin happy ending.

@little princess: sis am from batangas pero dito ako sa sta.rosa laguna nagi-stay. simula ng magwork ako, wala na akong social life... work lang ng work kahit weekends.

[little_princess]

^ sis, ganyan din sabi ko before but it's all about priorities din and making time to do other things. you can join a gym or a club of interest based in sta rosa, go out with your office mates, pick up a hobby. maraming ways pag gusto

there is a stereotype among military been, i've been around them and i can say this one isn't really serious. for all you he has multiple chat friends like you.

[the_dreamer]

@little princess: am starting not to communicate with him anymore. it's not that easy pero kelangan kong gawin. siguro hindi na lang talaga ako mag-expect that this is going to work...

i'm into running nowadays with my office mates... single din sila... though hindi naman regular but we make sure na nakaka-join kami sa mga marathons and fun runs at least once a month... ang theme "running for love"

[little_princess]

yeah, it may be far off but then he might realize he wants you but don't expect that na lang.

running and joining marathons is good! you can meet lots of people there kaya mo yan, and you will meet the right guy for you.

[the_dreamer]

yeah, it may be far off but then he might realize he wants you but don't expect that na lang.

running and joining marathons is good! you can meet lots of people there kaya mo yan, and you will meet the right guy for you.

thank you sis...

[shopaholic18]

^effective yung di pakikipag communicate, like ako i don't miss a day na hindi ko siya tetext, from morning til bago matulog yun ah, one time i tried not to kasi ang alam ko punta siya sa beach, aba bago ako matulog kinulit ako at tumawag pa, di kasi sanay yun na di kami nakakapag communicate sa isang araw but then i give him space, they don't like to be bothered all the time, actually me too lalo na if i'm busy with work, sometimes i go to work 16 hours shift sa hospital and siya naman on call so minsan talaga compromise nalang kaming dalawa. sana things work out well sa inyo ng guy mo. basta bottomline effective pagpapapansin para sakin. hope that will be the same with your case.