Dating Someone na Hindi Pinoy --- Share Experiences

[potpotpo]

^ hi sis, im sad about your situation naman, my fiance is a muslim, egyptian to be exact. mahirap ang sitwasyon mo kasi hinde kayo magkasama at hinde man lang siya umuwi dyan para makita ka. Most muslims value their family so much sis, kung seryoso siya sayo even if you are million miles apart pa he will introduce you to his family kahit via web cam lang. My fiance and i are together, he introduced me to his whole family thru web cam since they are all in egypt at hinde kami inabot ng 1 year before nya ko introduce. Think think think sis.

[shopaholic18]

^^he must have the initiative to go here and see you sis, for me yun talaga sign na serious siya about you. for all we know its been almost 2 years now. tell him to go and see you, if he doesn't ditch him, mahirap naman yun maraming lies and suspicions tapos ayaw pa mah effort.

[f4y3]

we had an argument na naman kaninang morning. same issue. i accidentally found out his account sa isang social networking site na obviously pang-PETS lang.. but the thing is ang kalaro nya ng pets eh isang tao lang.. isang girl. parang exclusive lang silang naglalaro. pinagtalunan na namin yan before, at first he denied na kanya but all the pics are his. at eto pa. nagpaka-imbestigador ako..i found out her imikimi account and she cropped her face & my guy's na parang bagong kasal na naka-wedding gown pa si girl. shempre muntik ng magka-heart attack ang lola nyo! lolz  so i confronted him again and he admitted na he used to play pets w/ that girl pero matagal na daw clang di naguusap and he's no longer playing w/ her at yung account na un eh hindi na kay boylet.     *please bear w/ my kwento ha, mejo mahaba* so i monitored both of their accounts. at ang kinatataka ko lang eh how come halos sabay, or more often than not eh magkasunod lang sila magonline esp nung times na lagi kaming nagaaway.. parang mejo amoy isda. btw, his account started to move again (kasi parang matagal na walang movement yung acct) nung times nga na grabe yung away namin.. so i assumed na si bf ulit yung naglaro to spite me dahil alam nyang pinagiinitan ko yun.

eto na girls, sa sobrang inis ko nag-pm ako dun sa girl asking whats the real score bet her and my guy.  she said na nothing to worry about kasi nga wala na nga daw silang communication ni bf ko at friends lang cla at she's engaged na daw to someone. but she didnt say anything about who's playing the account. dinedma ko na lang since si bf eh nakipag-ayos na din (after akong hamunin ng breakup) w/o settling the issue at basta ang gusto nya lang eh kalimutan na lang daw yung mga nangyari.

so eto na, kagabi after namin magchat ni bf.. as in nung nagpaalam sya na papasok na kuno.. pag-dc nya sya sakin nakita ko may movement yung account nya and guess what, online pala si girl!! shempre halos magkasunod pala sila nagonline! i also monitored his other ym account and he's still online!  sobrang nakaka-sad lang na he's lying to my face.. pati [textspeak!] pinay na yun. pero i'm still hoping na mali ako kasi parang unfair naman din sa girl na yung if she's really telling the truth diba. 

so now he doesnt wanna talk to me again at parang gusto ko na din munang matahimik... im sick and tired of all these lies.

[f4y3]

i forgot to mention pala mga sis na the girl really have an access to that account. she finally admitted it pero parang ayoko maniwala kasi how can she play using both accounts ng sabay at pag nagbibilihan cla eh segundo lang ang pagitan nila *obvious bang nakatutok ako lolz*

at para daw maniwala ako na she's the one using it eh nilagyan nya ng pic nya yung account ni bf patawa diba? eh di parang mas lumabas na may relasyon sila since magkasama ang pix nila sa isang account!!!  at sabi ni bf she's the one who created that profile at hiningi lang nya kay bf yung mga pics na ginamit ni girl dun.. obvious na amoy isda diba?

haaayyy ang sakit ng puso ko

[potpotpo]

^ ang masasabi ko lang sis walang kakwenta kwentang lalaki ---> iwanan

you are not solving your problems, kasi hinde nyo naman pinaguusapan e, biglang ayus nalang, so ayun nauulit ng nauulit

[f4y3]

^feeling ko sis kaya ayaw nya pag-usapan kasi nga guilty sya.  aminado naman ako na i'm so makulit pero hindi naman ako siguro magdududa kung wala akong nakikita diba?  siguro i'll stop logging in to my IMs muna, in fact sinimulan ko na after nya ko patayan ng videocall namin kanina kasi nagalit nga at wala naman daw akong proofs sa mga sinasabi ko. patunayan ko daw muna lahat ng bintang ko before nya ko ulit kausapin. ang kapal diba?! grrrr!!!

[shopaholic18]

^ditch him, its been too long, super dami na niyang chances to prove his real intention pero wala. i'm so sorry to hear your story with that guy but sis move on, not all of them are like your bf, look for one who deserves you, you won't regret it.

[f4y3]

sisters, do u think the girl is telling me lies din? hindi kaya kay bf ko sya engaged at ayaw lang nilang malaman ng iba? or am i just imagining things? waaaaaaahhhhh!!!! nakakafrustrate lang na feeling ko eh sobrang naloko ako

[potpotpo]

^ i dont know about the girl, but may mga babaeng ganyang na natutuwa kapag mukha kang t**** at kapag napaparanoid ka , sis let him go, he's not worth it...ang tagal ng kayo pero parang chatmate lang kayo kasi kung mahal ka talaga nyan gagawa at gagawa yan ng paraan para patunayan nya na mahal ka nga nya talaga.

[shopaholic18]

^^sis sinakyan ka na niya by telling lies and lalo yung tungkol sa other girl, you need to wake up and love yourself more now, kung mahal ka niya humabol siya or iprove nya by going here if not let it go. makipag break ka na for good and see. pero don't expect anything just leave him, yun ultimate test kung ano ka nga sa kanya.

[little_princess]

sis, i think you know deep in your heart what is happening. i'm just going to say it out loud - he's just fooling around with you. don't waste your time anymore and just leave them. there are a lot more nicer guys out there to be stuck in a fake online relationship with someone who you really don't know and who doesn't care for you.

[f4y3]

thanks a lot, girls. hindi na ko nagoopen ng IMs ko lately. i'm sure he's waiting for me and expecting me na makipag-away ulit sa kanya.

[f4y3]

latest update: he sent me last night his chat log w/ the girl i was telling u about. kinausap sya nung girl about me. nagsumbong si girl na kinukulit ko daw sya about the account. and kung ano-ano ng lies pa ang idinugtong nya just to get his attention na parang nagpaapaawa kesyo na-stress daw sya sakin..  pinalabas nyang hinarass ko sya or inaway ko sya dun sa sumbong nya. what a b*tch!!!! maayos naman yung pagtatanong ko sa kanya! may slight hint of kakulitan oo, i admit that pero hindi ko sya inaway or hinarass! at she tried to flirt with him pa dun sa chat nila. she even said there na, "i can get u if i want to, right?"  testing the waters kung mag-oo si ex kaso hindi sya sinagot dun ni exboylet kc hindi sya type kahit sexy pa sya. lolz  yung girl na yun kasi eh may hd talaga kay ex eh, esp now na nakakita sya ng chance para pansinin sya nung guy at kausapin sya ulit. remember yung pic na inilusyon nyang kinasal sya kay ex.

yes, ex na. hindi nya nako ulit kinausap after that email. and he deleted me na from his list.  grabe, sobrang dinown nila ko dun sa chat nila.   sobrang galit na galit ako kagabi after reading that log.  btw, he sent me that chat log to prove to me siguro na hindi talaga sila naguusap before that nung girl na yun.. kasi nga diba ayaw ko maniwala.

i adimt na sobra akong naging selosa at nega. maybe i'm not really cut out for this LDR thing kc lagi akong nagdududa. posibleng mali nga ako. oh well.. hindi pa ko umiiyak or hindi pa ko makaiyak. i hope i'll get over this soon.

[shopaholic18]

^ok lang yan,don't think about it too much. actually it takes extra effort pag LDR, problem with your case is your guy who loves to fool around. look for someone better nalang, if ina aassure ka ni guy wala yang mga selos at nega na yan. 

[f4y3]

^thanx sis. but now i feel that i made a mistake for doubting him. tama nga siguro sya na luka-luka ako lolz  he's not the type na mahilig or marunong mag-pamper ng babae eh kaya siguro naging dudera ako kasi sa kanya pag nagselos ka or nagduda ka, bahala ka sa buhay mo, hindi ka nya aamuin.  this is my first time kasi to have a relationship w/ a foreigner so hindi ko alam how to handle them.. at hindi ako natuto sa more than a year namin kasi ang tigas ng ulo ko hahahaha

hayyyy.. ang sakit ng puso ko 

[shopaholic18]

^actually not so much of a difference din naman sakin yung foreigner bf, maybe because bf is half pinoy pero ang pinaka noticeable sa iba ha kasi hindi ganun si bf eh. yung iba di masyadong showy, sweet and ma i love you, di matext, lets you do your own thing, ayaw sa makulit, ayaw sa selosa, ayaw sa drama.what you see is what you get type sila, hindi sila best foot forward, ayaw din nila sa paligoy ligoy, straightforward mostly sa kanila. yun ang mga napansin ko, goodluck on your next bf mapa foreigner man or pinoy, pero for me, mas ok padin foreigner bf, i've only had one and yun nga bf ko and so far masaya ako. kaso pinoy din siya in some ways parang mix of both tuloy. 

[potpotpo]

^^ sis i think he sent you thouse chat logs to turn the tables, tulad ngayon, o diba parang pakiramdam mo kasalanan mo na.. Buti naman hiniwalayan mo na, kasi wala talaga yang kwenta, kung mahal ka talaga nya dapat may effort lalo na long distance. Kahit foreigner or hinde, pag mahal ka ng lalake umeeffort. Iba iba ng way pero umeeffort

[shopaholic18]

^true, extra effort lang talaga LDR pero wala namang super hirap gawin, just alot time and communication is the key, yun lang meron kayo so open your lines all the time.

[onefineapril]

hi sisses... just want to share lang my recent encounter with a prospect sana....

this brit guy is a friend of my girl friend... healing-a-broken-heart ang drama ng guy so he asked my friend kung may maipapadate daw sya (girl friend) sa kanya (brit guy).... ako ang naisip ng friend ko na ireto... nung pinakita ni friend ang fb pic ko sa guy...  naging interesado naman ang mokong at pinilit si friend na ipag date nga kami.... so when my friend asked me kung ok daw ba sa akin na makipag date agad... I said no... siguro, hindi lang talaga ako comfy na makipag date sa total stranger... so I suggested na bakit hindi  muna kami i-introduce with a group then we'll see... 3 weeks after, we got a chance to meet.... sports activity with my friend's group of friends (including the guy).... he didn't know the darating ako

eto ang drama... hindi na muna ako pinakilala agad ni friend sa guy... hinayaan lang namin kung mag eeffort si guy para magpakilala.... and hindi naman kami nagkamali.... after ng ilang mga panakaw na sulyap sa akin... at pagpapapansin.... lumapit sya... kinausap ang friend ko... at syempre... pinakilala na rin ako... from that moment hanggang matapos ang activity... nagkuwentuhan lang kami ng guy... medyo na-off lang ako ng konti kasi... super nagkwento na sya about himself... i mean... yung break up nya... kung ano ang mga pinagkakaabalahan nya sa buhay.... na tipong mala-slum book ba  hobbies.. religion... etc... and in between... madalas feeling ko parang nababara ko sya... hehe... feeling ko kasi may pag ka echosero e LOL!!!

eto ang siste... after that meeting... wala na... I mean... walang follow up... walang ni-ho ni-ha...  I got fustrated in a way... feeling ko naman we got along well nung nagkausap kami... kahit papano may "connection"...  but since he never even bother to add me man lang sa fb or kumustahin ako sa friend ko... I therefore conclude na he's no longer interested at all

masyado yata akong nagpakatotoo at natakot sa kin nung first meeting pa lang hehe.... 
few days after, in-add ko sya sa fb... he accepted naman pero hindi pa rin nangumusta... pero ok lang.. at least even before a date, nagka-amuyan na kami hehe...

sensya na mga sisses... ginanahang magkwento...

[the_dreamer]

hello sisses... just want to share something and siguro ask na rin ng advise. don't know kung tama ba na dito ako magpost

am not dating a foreigner, but i have this online friend from the US. almost one year na kaming friends and still getting to know each other pa rin. hindi naman kasi kami laging nag-uusap. thru YM, FB and text ang communication namin... I started to like him, hindi ko matandaan kung kelan. basta i like him, or sabihin na natin na in-love na ko sa kanya to the point na pinadalhan ko sya ng gift nung birthday nya, christmas and valentine's day... kaya lang he's the type of guy na parang ang hirap intindinhin ng ugali. minsan sweet sya, most of the time parang suplado... ganun ba talaga mga americans? single sya, walang girlfriend sa ngayon... pag nag-usap kami, parang bf-gf... pero hindi laging ganun. ako lagi ang nag-iinitiate ng conversation... so most of the time feeling ko he's not interested 

dapat punta sya dito sa philippines this july kaya lang biglang meron syang training sa North Carolina, he's a US army. so di sya matutuloy... ako naman ang magta-try punta sa US. sana hindi ako ma-deny sa tourist visa application ko. so kung ma-grant ako ng visa, i'll stay with him... yun ang usapan namin. and if we like each other daw, we'll make it official... sabi naman nya he likes me... kaya lang ayaw nya ng long distance relationship kasi in the end, hindi rin daw magwowork... ang sa kin naman, bakit hindi namin i-try di ba? kaya lang hindi naman ata tama na ako ang magsabi sa kanya and pilitin ko syang pumayag sa long distance relationship... minsan napapagod na rin ako kasi parang ako lagi ang may effort... so tinitiis ko na di sya kausapin ng ilang araw. lalo na nung biglang meron na syang girlfriend. kala ko matitiis ko talaga... nung mag-break sila, kinausap ko na sya ulit hehe... sa ngayon, okay naman kami... looking forward sa visa application ko... wala pa ko sched ng interview sa embassy pero sana makakuha ako ng slot before september.

hmm, yun lang naman... sorry ha kung medyo magulo kwento ko hehe...