Dating Someone na Hindi Pinoy --- Share Experiences

[little_princess]

sis carte lanche, i know how you feel. when bf and i first started dating, i would hardly get texts from him and i was "are you really into me?" but it's pretty normal for them to have their own lives and when you are together, it is different

maybe he is just pressured to find a job there.. the thing is, westerns are not as sensitive as filipinos. i think ha.. like if you text them, they won't feel so obliged to reply. if they don't want, they wont or answer curtly.

how long has it been since you last communicated and how long have you been seeing him?

[Carte Blanche]

^^Thanks sis, if I get the chance to see or speak with him again, I'll definitely clear things up. It's better that way, I mean everything is just so confusing. We don't communicate, but when we do, he seemsenjoying our talks as much as I do.

^So far when it's me who texts I always get a reply naman, same thing whenever I call him up. Parang ayaw naman nya ibaba yung phone. Actually we met at a coffee shop, exchanged numbers, since then we haven't really seen each other. It's only been more than a month, but the last time I spoke with him was exactly a week ago.

[muahmuahmuah]

lol ak ako naman yung parang sumusunod sayo...we're probably just on the same boat. it took a while before i got used to the not texting and calling that often, but whenever we do we're just like an old couple and later we sorted things of what kind of a relationship we have. its ok to go ask directly and however the conversation goes atleast you can figure it yourself if youre staying or going.

[shopaholic18]

^^but seriously western guys hindi talaga matext or call. my guy, nung una ayun sabi ko ano ba to, pag one day wala talagang message sakin, but then i've realized na may reason pala. ganun lang pala talaga yun. pero never na naulit yun, di man kami magtugma na online, lagi ng may offline message or email. i'm just lucky na hindi siya yung tipong western guy din kung mag isip, he just wants some space like i do but then yung konting space lang, ok lang naman sakin kasi he tells me everything naman, we are building trust by doing so din naman to the point na used ka na sa ganun kasi wala ka naman dapat ipag alala. maganda din yun kasi you get to have different worlds aside from building a world na kayong dalawa lang, di kasi healthy yun sa relationship, sa isang matured relationship.

[little_princess]

hmm maybe you should give it a break sis and see if he will make an effort to ask you out on a proper date

[chicgurl]

there's this Kiwi guy na umali aligid sakin hehe in fairness napaka consistent at PATIENT siya to think raised siya with western culture.. at eto pa inaaral niya talaga paano ang ligaw PINOY style hahaha ang kulit nga eh nakakatuwa siya

[shopaholic18]

^nakakatuwa talaga sila, although my guy is born and raised there since half pinoy siya he adapted some, hindi nga lang kasi courtship tawag sa kanila, dating but then hindi padin mawawala yung typical pinoy gestures like paying respect to gf parents and stuff like that. masaya naman, enjoy lang the moments sis.

[little_princess]

sis chicgurl, are you and the guy you're dating manila based?

[chicgurl]

^^ actually sis ito eh pure kiwi as in he is from NZ land down down under hehe but he grew up in europe & other western countries.. he's 7 yrs older than me.. well eto ata ang mga na attract ko now hehe oh well i'm 28 mas gusto ko na yung MATURE kesa sa ka age ko tapos IMMATURE haha he always asks me out to have dinner or brunch kaso ako lang talaga ang umaayaw di naman sa pakipot or what kaso i just got out of a long time relationship kasi (7yrs) alam niya yun so sabi niya he'll be patient and sabi ko for now ma ooffer ko lang is friendship. kung ok siya dun then we're good he said friendship is fine if that's the only way to have me hahaha he'll be patient. kaloka haha

^sis hindi wala kami sa manila he's based in abu dhabi i am based in dubai, he is a friend of my flatmate's bf that's the connection. actually since 2009 ko pa siya kilala or nakilala but it was dec last year lang siya nagparamdam or nagstart ng communication with me..

[Carte Blanche]

Hi girls, just a heads up, the guy disappeared together with whatever I felt then with him. I guess it's just not meant, it's good though while it's still early.

I'm seeing another guy, he's white (all American guy according to him if there's such thing!). We're poles apart when it comes to our likes, he's very adventurous, outdoorsy, while I'm very much--girly (maarte!lol). Oh and he's about 2 years younger, so I don't know. We'll see if it progresses into something.

[shopaholic18]

^goodluck sis

[LVoeDane]

My boyfriend is American and 2 years younger than me. Di niya alam yung ligaw so when he asked me out, sabi ko "im filipino, and If you want me, court me the filipino way!" haha! But yeah, he did for 2 months. Now we've been together for 6 months.

So far ok naman, kaso minsan nahihirapan ako makipagusap, but he is patient with me. Pag di ko maexpress yung gusto ko sabihin, sasabihin ko sa english na alam ko kahit mali hahaha! Pero pinipilit niya parin intindihin amd then he'd tell me how to say it. So he teaches me english and he tries to learn tagalog as well.

[angeleyes]

nakakatuwa....i can so relate with the no text and call....nasanay na rin ako...for me mas okay pa nga eh...para pag nagkita kayo may paguusapan kayo...as for me i can't define kung ano meron kami coz the guy is kinda scared to commit....so for me i'm dating him and i still have my doors open to meet other guys....

what i like about western guys is wala silang pa-macho effect unlike Pinoys...no offense meant sa mga Pinoys ha...kaya mas enjoy sila kasama....

[sheh-la22]

a guy i know from europe, very consistent sya sa texting,though hes a businessman, lagi syang may time to call and text..i only noticed lang sa kanila, lagi gusto nila live in muna and very straighforward sa feelings nila..problem, hirap kami magkaintindihan though he speaks english...

[shopaholic18]

yeah, they prefer live in but then i won't change my side on that one, good thing my guy knows that and respects it. he's like i still believe in how to do it properly, asking the parent for the hand of their daughter especially if she still lives with them so no worries na ako, he's so nice. used lang kasi siya sa ganun sa US but then iba kasi tayong mga pinay eh.

[little_princess]

sis Carte Blanche, goodluck with the new guy

LVoeDane, my bf is learning tagalog as well but no problem with us communicating in English. He just wants to assimilate with the Filipino culture. Why don't you try to recommend to him to buy a CD called Rosetta Stone, it's a language program and it's very effective

sis angeleyes, agree with the no macho effect. most pinoys analyze things para they look cool when thay say or do something but like my bf, anything goes 

sis sheh-la22, most europeans, living in is the norm. it's pretty usual for them and lots of couple live together for years before getting married. if you don't like the idea just tell him and he should respect it. mahirap na here in the philippines, still very conservative.

[sheh-la22]

^ thats true sis...mahirap ng konti kase nga may pagka conservative tayo at sa kanila normal na bagay lang.yung problem lang sa communication e iba yung way ng english nila. honestly iba yung grammar nila.. haha kaya di kami magkaintindihan

[little_princess]

sis, from which part of europe ba? my bf is british but is living here in manila. funny how we are able to pick up each other's words like CR for him and crikey for me. he also has a cute accent no problem in communicating naman.

[Zanta]

Hi mga sis! Anyone dating a Dutch guy here? Share naman your experiences. Will share mine as well! Thanks! 

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I dated an Argentinian guy. Sa experience ko napaka straightforward pero magalang naman. Galante - fine dining lagi at laging may gift. Mabulaklak ding magsalita. Ang inayawan ko lang, may pagka territorial type.

[chicgurl]

di pa pala talaga ako ready to see other guys. So i will not waste the time of this kiwi guy anymore.