Break ups after 3years in relationship

[Silkwood]

kami din, we broke up after 3 years and 1 month of being together..

[meldy17]

i am 3 years married and is really trying hard to work on this relationship.  just when a baby arrives, ngayon pa siya nagsabi na he needs space. i am so confused and hurt

[Silkwood]

^ grabe naman yan.. hayaan mo na lang muna sya, bigyan mo ng time na mag isip. Be strong for the baby..

[chengkii]

i am 3 years married and is really trying hard to work on this relationship.  just when a baby arrives, ngayon pa siya nagsabi na he needs space. i am so confused and hurt

Would you know kung meron trigger iyun request na iyun sis? Baka naman you 2 are always arguing/fighting.

[pink_hellokitty]

kami din 3 years and 2 months..we've been together in their house for 2 years..(parang live in na)..college bf ko sya..close na nga kami ng mom and dad nya..seperated kasi mom and dad nya at may iba family na din sila so 3 lang kami sa apartment na nirent ng dad nya w/ his younger brother..kulang na nga lang ikasal kami..pagpapasok kami sa school sabay kami pati pag uwi..pagluluto ko sya bago pumasok tapos nakaready na lahat pati uniform nya susuotin na [textspeak!] nya..after we graduated ako ang una nag work pero sa kanila pa din ako umuuwi..tapos sabi nya sakin namiss daw nya yung lagi kami magkasama sabi ko naman sa kanya kailangan ko magwork para naman hindi na ako hihingi ng allowance sa parents ko since graduate na ako nakakahiya naman kung manghihingi pa ako..months after ayun nabarkada na siya wala na din kami time sa isat isa pag uwi ko galing work kainuman na nya mga barkada nya..umiyak ako sa kanya sabi ko namiss ko na din yung dati at pag nag aaway kami hindi namin pinapatapos yung araw na yun na hindi kami nagbabati..hanggang sa paulit ulit na lang yung nagyayari kaya nagsawa na ako..na fall out of love ako..sabi ko sa kanya dati mahal na mahal ko siya at di ko kaya mawala sya pero ngayon kaya ko na kaya umuwi na ako samin at nag hiwalay kami..namiss ko din siya..wala kami formal break up as in nung nagalit na ako hindi na kami nag usap at hindi ko na sya kinausap...

[chengkii]

^ Sis pink_hellokitty, question lang. Wala pa rin trabaho si BF mo? Sana instead na nababarkada siya, naghahanap siya ng work.

[pink_hellokitty]

^ Sis pink_hellokitty, question lang. Wala pa rin trabaho si BF mo? Sana instead na nababarkada siya, naghahanap siya ng work.

may work na sya ngayon..narealize nya yta yun nung [textspeak!] na kami..pero tntxt nya ako...pero sa call center sya nagwork ngayon nursing graduate din kasi sya..umaasa lang kasi sya sa dad nya...sa allowance nya..

[chengkii]

^ Sis - wala na ba chance na magkabalikan kayo? May work na rin naman siya ngayon, so less worry na for you. At least, now will be a good time for the 2 of you to set aside some funds. For whatever it is you want to do in the future...pang out of town trips, mga ganoon. Baka pwede pa ma revive iyun relationship niyo.

[pink_hellokitty]

^ Sis - wala na ba chance na magkabalikan kayo? May work na rin naman siya ngayon, so less worry na for you. At least, now will be a good time for the 2 of you to set aside some funds. For whatever it is you want to do in the future...pang out of town trips, mga ganoon. Baka pwede pa ma revive iyun relationship niyo.

may bf na din kasi ako..but can't deny na wala na ako feelings para sa kanya..syempre we've been together for years..siya kasi yung type ng guy na hindi siya magsasalita na gusto niya kami magkabalikan..pero nag ttxt din kami..we're good friends biniro pa nga niya ako nung birthday ko..and sabi niya sakin uwi daw mom niya from states this july..punta daw ako sa bahay nila..

[yellowjice]

it's weird that previous gt posts here also broken up with someone after 3 years. in my case, 3 years and 1 month was the recent time with my new ex, and my ex way back, 3 years ++ din kami.

my new ex was hard to get by. it's been a month. i don't know why... he made promises about getting back with me someday, if there is a chance. things were great between us. but we chose to break up so we can deserve each other someday. i dont know... i guess i should forget about it now and move on. if getting back together will happen, then it will.

the fact that guys can move on easily? that's not possible kung matino ang guy. well, they seemed like moving on... but they are more fragile, that's why they choose na may kapalit agad. only to realize na they still love the person they left.

anyhoo.. case to case basis. basta, i believe that women can handle breakups better.

[angelliu]

If a relationship breaks up before marriage, consider yourself lucky.
Sure it is a heartbreak, but less of a disaster than a broken marriage.

IMO, it isn't the number of years that is the major heartbreak. 
It is the "cost" of the relationship that is the underlying issue of break-ups:   what you gave up, how far you compromised yourself, how you changed yourself... to keep that relationship going.

People who lose themselves, and have difficulty "recognizing" themselves after some time in a relationship (a month, a year, 50 years.. whatever...)  ... those who decreased their options/self empowerment in so many ways while in the relationship/marriage ... these have the bigger heartbreak, the harder time moving-on when the sh1t hits the fan.

You're not married to him and he left? 
Look at it this way:  you can always find better.
You're married to him and he left?
Look at it this way:  you can always do better.
He left, before or after marriage -- look at it this way:  You can always be happier.

so inspiring!
super like... 
naalala ko tuloy c ex..
sis i'll include this sa notes ko sa account ko huh.. thnx!

[KIn0928]

If a relationship breaks up before marriage, consider yourself lucky.
Sure it is a heartbreak, but less of a disaster than a broken marriage.

IMO, it isn't the number of years that is the major heartbreak. 
It is the "cost" of the relationship that is the underlying issue of break-ups:   what you gave up, how far you compromised yourself, how you changed yourself... to keep that relationship going.

People who lose themselves, and have difficulty "recognizing" themselves after some time in a relationship (a month, a year, 50 years.. whatever...)  ... those who decreased their options/self empowerment in so many ways while in the relationship/marriage ... these have the bigger heartbreak, the harder time moving-on when the sh1t hits the fan.

You're not married to him and he left? 
Look at it this way:  you can always find better.
You're married to him and he left?
Look at it this way:  you can always do better.
He left, before or after marriage -- look at it this way:  You can always be happier.

this is sooo true sis, me and my ex broke up 3 months before our 4rth year anniversary....

.... and now I am married. me and my new man just got married last Sunday.

kaya mu yan sis, pakita mu sa ex mu cya yung nawalan hindi ikaw.
cheer up sis 

[chuvaeklavu]

Ako, i broke up with my 3yrs and 7mos relationship....
pero walang third party. it just that sobrang nagsawa na ko sa pagiging introvert niya and some other things... pero after 1 month and di siya masyado nagpaparamdam sakin... Im missing him so much... pero i need na pigilin [textspeak!] feelings ko...

for sure we all know whats the best for our life kaya lang we are so blinded sa love natin sa tao....

well, my pain is still here... and still i miss him and wanted to kiss him... hehe.... pero gusto ko na mag move on... ayoko na kumuha ng new bf na sakit lang sa ulo...

Im getting old, and Im preparing myself for a happy married life...

I do believe mr. right will come in the right time....

[_AiaH_]

^ nice one sis. with the right attitude, one day you'll wake up and realize the storm has passed na. life has new and better plans and it's already presenting itself right in front of you.

[chuvaeklavu]

sis Aiah, i am so bless sa mga nageencourage sakin sa thread to move on... cos this is my first time makipagbreak sa taong mahal ko ng walang kapalit...
before i used to na dapat may kapalit para hindi masyado masakit...
pero it always end up choosing the wrong guy....

and now, i realize na should give myself first to the Lord and ask the right man for me...

This is difficult but time heals all wound... I thank God for keeping me until now...

[Myealexis21]

If a relationship breaks up before marriage, consider yourself lucky.
Sure it is a heartbreak, but less of a disaster than a broken marriage.

IMO, it isn't the number of years that is the major heartbreak. 
It is the "cost" of the relationship that is the underlying issue of break-ups:   what you gave up, how far you compromised yourself, how you changed yourself... to keep that relationship going.

People who lose themselves, and have difficulty "recognizing" themselves after some time in a relationship (a month, a year, 50 years.. whatever...)  ... those who decreased their options/self empowerment in so many ways while in the relationship/marriage ... these have the bigger heartbreak, the harder time moving-on when the sh1t hits the fan.

You're not married to him and he left? 
Look at it this way:  you can always find better.
You're married to him and he left?
Look at it this way:  you can always do better.
He left, before or after marriage -- look at it this way:  You can always be happier.

Exactly! I so loved how you wrote this Aquacharly! Very nicely written.

[pepperpotts]

we've been together for 3 years too, the last few months were really difficult for both of us (frequent arguments, blaming the other party etc) to the point that were no longer happy. He wanted space, he wanted to 'enjoy' life - he wanted a 'single' life. He got what he wanted. I still love him but after that I never exerted an effort to reconnect with him, puro sya lang tong hi! Hello! sa fb ko pero puro ganon lang. It's been a year since our official break-up - pareho pa rin kaming single. If you will ask me, I know we're both better people now than more than a year ago. A lot has happened. If given a chance, I still want to be with him in the end if it's meant to be.

[chuvaeklavu]

sis, baka nga naman may chance pa diba... bakit wala pa din siyang GF hanggang ngayon? baka sabi lang niya yun??

buti nga sayo ganun eh [textspeak!] akin kahit mahal na mahal ako and faithful sakin for almost 4yrs eh nag JOWA kaagad... kakainis isipin pero ok lang...

[pepperpotts]

sis, confirmed naman na he's still single kasi close din naman sakin mga cousins nya and yun din nakaindicate sa FB info nya. Right now, I really have no idea what's in store for us. I can just pray and hope for the best.

Ok lang yan sis chuvaeklavu, what's important is finding the right man for you. Advance Merry Xmas to you and sa mga sisters natin dito! : )

[mollybabes829]

di ako kasali sa mga nakipagbreak sa boyfriend pero may apat ako na friends na ganito ang case.. pag dating ng ika third year nila naghiwalay sila ng mga jowa nila.. hmm. ang alam ko may 7year itch.. not sure kung may 3 year na ngayon..