how to deal with depression

[faithfulnhappy]

Hi sis mysterioza_me and to all sisses out there who are dealing with depression, i just want to share this quote that I live by. Yung cute calendar na bigay sa akin way way back my teenage years, ganito nakasulat...

GOD said...
   My child, if you never felt pain, how would you know that I'm a Healer?
   If you never felt sadness, how would you know that I'm a Comforter?
   If life is perfect,would you still know Me?

Please wag tayong susuko kay God... My life has never been perfect- as a child, as a teen, even my married life, madaming ups and downs, madaming napagdaanan, but the more that we have to hold on to God. Kapit lang tayo. Siguro nga mahirap ma-depress,pero the more that we need to pray for His guidance and strength. Always think positive parin tayo, think happy. At wag natin tambayan si problem kahit gaano kalaki yan because we have a bigger God. 😊

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

GOD said...
   My child, if you never felt pain, how would you know that I'm a Healer?
   If you never felt sadness, how would you know that I'm a Comforter?
   If life is perfect,would you still know Me?

So beautiful, thanks for sharing. 

[mysterioza_me]

Pass muna ako kay God. Yung iba ang hiling pagalingin sila sa cancer, yumaman o kung anuman. Ako ang hiling ko lang tigilan na muna kabibigay ng pagsubok kasi suko na ako talaga, pagod na ako. Ilang years na yan lang ang hiling ko. Pero ayaw ako tigilan. Inano ko ba siya at parang G na G siya sa akin?! Nanunubok ba siya ng pasensya? O pwes sagad na ako.

[janachen]

Sobrang bigat ata pinagdadaanan mo sis. Yeah naiintindihan ko kung saan ka nanggagaling.

[kvandenhaak]

It sounds like you are really clinically depressed kasi yung mga dapat na nai-enjoy mo, nawalan ka na ng gana. And I heard energy draining daw talaga ang depression so gusto mo na lang mahiga. Yung nakakapagod na magdasal, understandable. Truth is whether you believe in a diety or not, may purpose tayo lahat kung bakit tayo andito. Just reach out, regardless of how. That is very important for people with depression or any kind of mental disease. I have anxiety disorder naman. Kakapagod din minsan talaga. Minsan ang ganda ganda ng araw mo tapos...PAK! Aatake na naman. Just hold on and think about the kids. We are going to win this war!

[kinkytinch]

how to deal nga ba with depression? or maybe life? or maybe the mud life throws at me? suicide has always been an option. There's still a string preventing me to finally do it though.
I feel useless. I can only muster fake strength (Fake it til you make, right?). People I've just started trusting again just showed me how low they think of my life right now.
I want to meet my friends again but I'm too scared of either dragging down them with me and my pains, or them judging how far below I've sunken from what I've achieved when I was younger.
Some say I'm arrogant at times but I think that's because I think that's all I have. I choose to not choose because of fear that by choosing that, I have accepted my fate - that I'm destined to be nothing. I'm destined to have no importance, have no use.

[three8one]

"all things work together for good" napaka effective sakin ng bible verse na yan sabay nuod ng mga inspirational movies. yan lang palagi ko iniisip at ginagawa pag feeling ko aatakihin ako ng depression. then mare reliaze ko kahit sobrang laki pa ng problema na binibato sa kin basta gawa lang ng tao yan, kayang kaya masolusyunan pala. kasi mas sobrang laki at sobrang daming solution sa mga problema ang binibigay satin ng Diyos. kailangan lang natin I open yung spiritual understandings natin, kasi yung mga mata natin may limitations lang ang mga nakikita pero kung gagamitin natin faith mas makikita natin lahat ng kasagutan. mas lalo rin hindi ako tumigil kaka dasal kay God, kasi gusto ko I priority nya yung prayers ko, feeling ko mas kailangan kailangan ko ng tulong Niya compare sa iba pero hindi, tumagal din bago talaga nasagot yung mga prayers ko, madami pa rin pala mas may nanganga ilangan ng kasagutan sa mga panalangin. after naman nun pakiramdam ko wala ng dumating na pagsubok sakin.

yung mga nagpapakamatay dahil sa problema sana hindi nila ginawa yun kasi mas lalo lang nawalan sila ng hope. feeling ko mga coward lang gumagawa noon mga tumatakas, mga ayaw mahirapan mga ayaw mag sakripisyo. kaya sa mga nagtatangka, wag nyo naisipin pa yun. dasal lang ng dasal. mas mainam naman yun kesa walang ginagawa naghihintay na lang maging miserable ang buhay. atlis thru prayer may pag asa. may hinihintay na tugon. yun ang nagpapakapit sa atin lumaban sa buhay kasi nga may hinihintay ka pa eh, pag napagod ka pwede magpahinga pero wag lang bibitaw dahil mas lalo ng mawawalan ng saysay kung bakit ka pa nabuhay sa mundo kung ikaw mismo mag tatapos sa pagasa at sagot sa mga panalangin mo.

[janachen]

May napanood ako  about sa suicide dahil sa sobrang depress nya. Tumalon sya sa Golden Gate Bridge. Sabi nga niya instant regret ang ginawa niya.

Mabuti at nabuhay, ngayon tumutulong sya sa mga taong nadedepress. Feeling ko yung mga nagsuisuicide or habang unti unting nawawala ang hiningi nila, nagsisisi sila.

Mayroon din kasi akong  kaboardmate dati, nakipagbreak ang jowa tapos naglaslas doon sa sementeryo sa puntod ng lolo. Noong nahanap nila, gusto niyang magpunta sa hosital habol na hininga. Kaso sa sobrang dami ng dugo ang nawala, too late na namatay sa daan.

[young_maiden]

Hindi naman ako clinically diagnosed pero matinding depression din pinagdaanan ko from year 2017 to 2018.

May pinagdaanan ako during those years na nagbago sa buhay ko. gusto ko magsuicide. gusto ko magpasagasa sa rumaragasang sasakyan sa gitna ng daan. hindi pera, lovelife, health o pamilya ang rason ha. iba. i cannot explain.

ang tindi ng insomnia ko noon. hindi ako makatulog. kung makatulog man, magigising ako sa madaling-araw at hindi na makakatulog ulit.

i had supportive family and friends during those times. they reached out to me kahit paulit-ulit ko sila tinulak palayo.

ngayon, hopefully tapos na iyong pagsubok na pinagdaanan ko. sana hindi na mangyari ulit sa akin. i am slowly recovering and gaining my old, positive self.

[fifi_girl]

"all things work together for good"

thanks for this Sis. Reading this quote has somehow enlightened me. While i was walking on my way to work kanina, parang pumapasok na sa isip ko na tapusin nalang ang buhay ko, so that i will never experience pain. Though wala pa naman ako sa suicidal stage. Pero naisip ko yung anak ko, kase habang buhay niya dadalhin yun. Napaka-selfish ko kung gagawin ko yun.

These past few days has been difficult for me. Full of rejection. Tapos ngayon, bigla kong naisip, eh [textspeak!] naman kung ayaw mo sa akin? Masakit pa din isipin na ganun, yung taong akala mong makakasama mo sa buhay, ni-re-reject ka ngayon kung kelan handa ka ng mag-sakripisyo para sa kanya. I even reached the point na parang nagagalit na ko kay God, kase parang hindi niya ko pinapansin. And i immediately asked for forgiveness with that. Nag-sorry ako kay God kase alam kong pinagdudahan ko kung anong kaya niya gawin sa buhay ko.

My faith will always be bigger than my rejections and disappointments. Sabi nga, "all things work together for the Good". We just have to wait, never let your faith run thin. When you feel overwhelmed with your problems, Breathe.

[hisana]

Just have to say, three8one, that you gave great advice (and that you are entitled to your opinion), but I don't agree with part of what you said. I don't think it's right to call the people who committed or attempted suicide as cowards. Any true sufferer of depression knows that there's nothing easy about it, imposible na hindi sila naghirap o hindi nagsakripisyo for some time in their lives. Matindi na nga yung pinagdaanan nila, they don't need to be insulted or judged about it.

[fall2pieces]

I guess those who commit suicide we never know what's going in their minds right at that moment so we shouldn't judge them. It's very personal and no one knows what it is and no one will ever understand it. I don't see them as cowards, instead sobrang tapang nila to kill themselves because everyone is afraid to die.

I admit I'm also depressed but I'm trying to make sense of it everyday. There's a reason for all our pain. Hindi mo pa lang narerealize ngayon but you will eventually.

[mysterioza_me]

Isali ninyo na lang muna ako sa prayers ninyo kasi hindi ko pa kayang magdasal para sa sarili ko. Ang pakiramdam ko kasi hinaharap ko yung kagalit ko at sinusumbatan ko siya.

Saka wag na natin husgahan yung mga nagsuicide, patay na sila. Hindi natin maiintindihan yung sakit na pinagdaanan nila at kung paano nila nilabanan yun bago tinapos ang lahat. Sa totoo lang naiinggit ako sa kanila kasi ang lakas ng loob nila na ginawa nila yun. Kasi ako gusto ko pero di ko pa kaya. Hindi ninyo alam kung gaano kahirap bumangon araw-araw at makisalamuha sa ibang tao. Yung tatawa, makikipagkwentuhan na parang wala lang. Ako takot na takot ako kapag oras na ng tulog kasi yun yung time na mag-isa ka sa room, mahihiga, naka-off na ang lights pero di makatulog kasi andaming pumapasok sa isip mo. Kapag nakatulog ako parang hindi din ako nakapahinga kasi nananaginip. So parang andami kong itinulog pero kulang at pagod na pagod pa din ako. Nahihirapan ako kasi wala akong mapagkwentuhan at hindi ko din talaga alam anong ikkwento ko. Nagtry ako mag-open sa iba tungkol sa nararamdaman ko pero hindi ko maramdaman na inaacknowledge yung nararamdaman ko. Hindi nila pinagdadaanan so kaya di nila alam. Siguro I just need a good cry para gumaan pero hindi ko pa din kayang umiyak.

[three8one]

@ fifi_girl, guy po ako ma'am.. laban lang tayo sa buhay. nanjan lang palagi ang Diyos kasama natin sa lahat laban. minsan pa nga di natin alam Siya na yung nakikipag laban para sa atin, kung dumedepende lang kasi tayo sa sarili natin baka wala na, bumigay na talaga tayo. pero as long as andito pa tayo lumalaban proof yun na kasama natin ang Diyos.

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@ sis hisana im referring to those who already committed suicide, hindi naman lahat nang nag uundergo sa depressions. maaaring wrong choice of word, my bad. pasensya na. pero ano ba pwede tawag sa kanila? and im not judging them (mga may depression) kasi minsan na din ako napunta sa ganyan sitwasyon. tipong kahit kaluskos lang at tipong kala mo lagi may nakatingin sakin, takot na takot ako. tendency lagi lang ako nagkukulong sa bahay. alam ko kung ano mga pinag dadaanan nila/ninyo kasi isa ako sa dumaan dun, at minsan ko na din tinawag na duwag sarili ko na harapin yang pagsubok na yan. sa habag ng Diyos at patuloy na pananalangin napagtagumpayan ko iyon kasi na realized ko hindi ako nagiisa, at narealized ko din prayer is my greatest weapon and God is my greatest Fighter. again, pasensya na sa choice of word.

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@ sis mysterioza, parati kita sinasama sa mga panalangin ko. kaya mo yan, mas madami ka nang mga mas mabibigat na laban na pinag daanan kumpara jan na napagtagumpayan mo na.

[young_maiden]

^^ sis, i will pray for you. sana malampasan mo kung ano man iyang pinagdadaanan mo.

[fifi_girl]

There's a reason for all our pain. Hindi mo pa lang narerealize ngayon but you will eventually.

This is what keeps me from giving up. That there is a reason for everything. That things will get better in time. The reason might not be revealed in one circumstance, but in different situations. Maybe a part of it was already revealed to me, but i was too busy looking for other things that i did not see it. We just have to have Faith in God that he is doing something for us, though we don't know what it is.

[mysterioza_me]

^Thanks sis. And pray for yourself na din, na iiwas ka sa magulo. Wag ka ng lumapit sa problema. Ako nga na wala naman dapat na pinoproblema ang bigat-bigat ng nararamdaman ko. Kaya ikaw wag ka ng matukso na lumapit sa apoy baka madepress ka kapag yung end result na gusto mo e hindi mangyari.

[young_maiden]

^ noted, sis. ready na ako sa consequences. be strong dyan sa pinagdadaanan mo.

[fall2pieces]

This is what keeps me from giving up. That there is a reason for everything. That things will get better in time. The reason might not be revealed in one circumstance, but in different situations. Maybe a part of it was already revealed to me, but i was too busy looking for other things that i did not see it. We just have to have Faith in God that he is doing something for us, though we don't know what it is.

It's faith that keeps us going. I have lost faith in God for awhile, I have very little faith in Him. I got tired of praying. Pero narealize ko, everything really happens for a reason especially the painful ones. And you may not believe it now, pero malalaman mo lang yung reason kapag okay ka na. Saka mo lang makikita yung purpose ng pain na yun sa buhay mo.

 If you just believe, you will realize what happened to you made you who you are now. It made you a stronger and better person.

We should accept life as it is. Minsan masaya, minsan malungkot. We just have to keep thinking that both happiness and pain won't last forever. If you're in pain now, it won't last either.

[janachen]

This thread makes me cry.  Parang nakakatuwa na everyone gusto nating matulungan at gustong magtulungan. And yeah actually lahat tayo may pinagdadaanan sa buhay.

Minsan ang sakit sa dibdib na sasabihan kang nasa isip mo lang yan, hindi nila naintindihan yung mga taong may ganito.

Mga sis laban.