how to deal with depression

[sakura30]

Hello!

It's comforting to know na meron palang ganitong thread sa GT.

I've been suffering from on and off depression since late 2014. Just like what some people have mentioned, there were days when thoughts of dying seem appealing. Thankfully, I never tried to take my life. Sa isip lang, ganun. I also feel empty some days and things that used to motivate me don't appeal to me any longer. I like being alone so much. I didn't tell it to my family. I tried to give hints but they can't relate to what I feel. Baka down lang daw ako or sad lang. But it's not the case. Iba ang depression eh. Nakaka-overwhelm yung sadness at emptiness.

I consulted a psychiatrist. She's a friend of a friend. She advised three things. Share ko dito and other people might find these helpful:

Stay away from things that could trigger depression like negative people and overly dramatic situation. However, she cautioned not to avoid reality. Yung mga unnecessary drama daw iwasan. Be with positive and like-minded people.

The other one is to recognize the symptoms of falling to depression and counter it. Ako ang number one symptom ko is pag ayaw kong lumabas ng room, ayaw ko sa tao. So pag nafifeel ko yun, I try to fight it and meet with people. Good thing na I'm married na so I have my husband to force me to deal with an actual person.

Last one she advised is to let it out. Meaning pag nadedepress ako, minsan mas okay na hayaan mo lang na madepress ka. Pero sabi niya limit it. Parang i-condition yung mind na today ka lang madedepress, bukas hindi na.

While being depressed, she helped me recognize anong acitivities ang nakakease ng depression. For me, writing and working out helps a lot. Nadidivert yung mind ko from my own depression. I suggest you also find an activity that can divert your thoughts.

Hope these help. It's okay to take our recovery one day at a time.

[DoraBelle]

Thanks @sakura30 for posting this information. Many will find it very useful on dealing with depression.

[britzm]

i've been dealing with depression and anxiety for more than a year na. i've tried psychiatrist but i want to stop. financially, its a burden. tbh, i only go there to get medicines. sometimes i'm okay, sometimes hindi. it's not helping that i don't want to share my case to people close to me. i don't like the feeling of pity... now i chose to stop seeing my psychiatrist. i don't think psychiatrist is a help at least for me. what i'm enjoying now is this app called vent. its like fb where people would like to vent. though you could do that in fb, there are some of us who would like to keep our mental health in private.

[fall2pieces]

I agree minsan may stigma din pag nalaman nila na nagpapatingin ka sa psychiatrist. I'm also depressed now and considering of doing it but I can't afford it at naisip ko makakadagdag lang sa stress ko yung gastos sa pagpapatingin sa psychiatrist. I think what I need is take a break from everything. Which is mahirap where will I get money for everyday... My depression is caused by my job, I want to quit this job because it makes me depressed but if I do it wala naman akong pera. My depression affects my job performance since I'm always absent from work. I don't have the drive to go to work anymore. Sometimes ayaw ko na rin bumangon at magkulong na lang sa kwarto and not talk to anyone.

I feel unhappy and frustrated with my career.. my friend left me for a shallow reason, and I feel alone at work and no one understands me. I hate the culture in the office and the gossiping there. I feel like I have very low self-esteem because I don't feel valued at my job. I guess a new environment will help but it's not that easy.. I've been here for more than a year and nothing's changed. I always dread the mornings and ang bigat ng feeling kapag papasok ako and thinking of the day ahead. I sometimes lose sleep with this. It causes me to overthink and feel like I'm losing my mind.   

[mysterioza_me]

^Sis ganyan na ganyan ako with my previous job. Halos umiyak ako at hilahin na lang sarili ko sa pagpasok kaya when I got an invitation for a job interview I grabbed the chance right away (nagrerender na ako ng 30day notice ko during that time). My ex-officemate referred me kasi sa current company ko. Luckily natanggap naman ako and signed a job offer in less than a week mula nung ma-unemployed ako. Now more than 3yrs na ako sa current company ko. Siguro sis try to apply or submit resume online, then take a leave lang kapag na-sked ka for interview. Once you get a job sa ibang company magresign ka na or habang nagrerender ka ng 30 days naghahanap ka na ng new job para di ka mabakante.

[kaiz]

been depressed for months na din, baka nga year na pero di ko lang napapansin. and kapag gusto ko makalimutan lahat, i turn to alcohol. wrong, i know. but gusto ko lang makatulog and hopefully wala na to when i wake up.

[fall2pieces]

^Sis ganyan na ganyan ako with my previous job. Halos umiyak ako at hilahin na lang sarili ko sa pagpasok kaya when I got an invitation for a job interview I grabbed the chance right away (nagrerender na ako ng 30day notice ko during that time). My ex-officemate referred me kasi sa current company ko. Luckily natanggap naman ako and signed a job offer in less than a week mula nung ma-unemployed ako. Now more than 3yrs na ako sa current company ko. Siguro sis try to apply or submit resume online, then take a leave lang kapag na-sked ka for interview. Once you get a job sa ibang company magresign ka na or habang nagrerender ka ng 30 days naghahanap ka na ng new job para di ka mabakante.

thanks sis but the problem is i'm lost like i don't even know where to apply. i don't want to transfer anymore since i've been through lots of companies and  it is tiring. parang natatakot ako magrisk pero ayaw ko na rin dito sa job ko. iniisip ko age ko at if may tatanggap pa ba sa akin. sana if may alam kayo guys na opening please send me a PM. thank you.

[rowenoh183]

meron po ba kayo kilala dito na dr na nag si cbt? i badly need help. I'm not sad or suicidal but I'm lacking motivation to do anything.i self medicate by binge eating .i can't do the simplest task, hygiene, going out,exercising,and even taking my vitamins.i was doing well pero natrigger ata ng pagkatalo ko sa online casino.now I'm back to my old habits, not taking care of myself, not eating healthy, not talking to anyone etc.

[Half_Lifer26]

thanks sis but the problem is i'm lost like i don't even know where to apply. i don't want to transfer anymore since i've been through lots of companies and  it is tiring. parang natatakot ako magrisk pero ayaw ko na rin dito sa job ko. iniisip ko age ko at if may tatanggap pa ba sa akin. sana if may alam kayo guys na opening please send me a PM. thank you.

Hi, halos ganyan din ang nararamdaman ko ngayon.. But the difference is I am unemployed for 3 months now and I don't know where to apply and I am losing my motivation too.. So mas matindi ang sakin.. I don't even know where to start and yes it is tiring.. I've also been with different companies na and I don't know kung may tatanggap din sakin kasi di ako tumatagal sa mga previous company ko kahit 1 year although may reason naman ako kung bakit..

Sabi nila just cling to hope and as long as you don't lose hope you should be okay..

[fall2pieces]

sis @Half_Lifer26 I've been unemployed before mas matagal pa nga. marami na rin ako company na napasukan and feeling ko din wala ng tatanggap sa akin kasi di rin ako tumatagal though umaabot naman ng years yung iba... parang nakakabawas din ng self-esteem.. pero isipin na lang natin na hindi naman forever ganun.  may tatanggap pa rin sayo at makakapagsimula ka ulit. ganyan din nafeel ko nun parang hopeless na. dami naman jobs pero karamihan di ko gusto or di swak sa experience ko. di sa pagigng choosy pero nakakapagod na rin kasi yung palipat lipat ng work.

[fall2pieces]

Is overthinking a side effect of depression? I'm a chronic overthinker.. How to overcome this?

[britzm]

^i think sa anxiety na siya sis..

[kvandenhaak]

^^Overthinking as in you always anticipate the worst in a situation?Anxiety disorder yan.

[fall2pieces]

^^ yes sisses... how to overcome anxiety? parang paranoid ba. lahat kasi winoworry ko, lahat iniisip ko. minsan di ako makatulog kakaisip. parang ayaw tumigil ng utak ko. pag meron akong desisyon na gagawin, ang tagal kasi lahat iniisip ko. mga what ifs ganun. pag meron akong sasabihin iniisip ko muna kung  tama ba. minsan sumasakit na ulo ko sa ganito.  parang wala akong peace of mind. kaya minsan hirap ako magfocus kasi parang ang dami ko laging iniisip. nakakastress yung ganito. dahil ba sa sobrang caffeine to? lol....

[britzm]

^the simplest method i know is breathing exercise sis... meditation din... most importantly sleep at least 10hrs a day. yung sa tulog, hindi nawawala yan sa paalala ng mga dr, depression or anxiety man.
but if you think nakakasagabal na siya sa daily function ng buhay, we need to seek help from psychiatrist. something about hormones kaya need ng medications.

[kvandenhaak]

^^I have anxiety disorder so I know exactly how you feel. It's really difficult kasi, you tend to overdo things just to make sure na maayos lahat. It can suck the joy in your life. It took me awhile but I learned coping by accepting that whatever we have here on earth is really temporary. All I can do is enjoy the now. I accepted that it won't be perfect so just be thankful of what's given to me. And most importantly, I learned to really trust when God said, "Fear not. I will never leave you or forsake you!"

If you don't have a doctor or a therapist, I suggest you get one if you can afford it. Malaking tulong din sa akin. They will teach you proper breathing exercises, how to distract yourself, etc.

Eh kagabi nga, nagsusulat lang ako sa journal biglang nag-tense ang throat ko na feeling ko magsasara at hindi ako makahinga. It can be scary pero kailangan i-relax talaga ang isip that there's nothing wrong with me. It's all in my brain. So, naglakad kami ng anak ko sa building to use up the adrenalin released by my body. Oh and btw, exercise is helps a lot. I do not take any medication. I tried to stay away from it. Pero I filled the prescription in case na dumating yung time na kailangan ko na talaga. So far, I am managing. Just hang on there. It can get better!

[fall2pieces]

@britzm Siguro nga dahil madalas kulang ako sa tulog din. Kasi nga parang ang tagal magshutdown ng brain ko kaya lagi akong puyat.  Feeling ko laging kulang yung oras, parang ang dami dami kong gustong gawin. I need to learn how to slow down and let go of things I can't control..

Sana nga maovercome na natin ito mga sis..

[fashtag]

^  You really are depress.  Yan ang usual na sinasabi ng mga taong depress.  So many things to do, so little time.  Sabi nga nila, spend time with your friends and find your pacing.

I feel the same way sometimes pero I really have no choice but to try and be positive, whatever decisions I make will affect the people around me so positive thinking lang.

[britzm]

^^one step at a time sis. kaya naten to. simulan sa sleep. yung overthinking, actually problem ko pa rin to. now i read articles about minimalist lifestyle. the point is to lessen yung decision-related stress. somehow nababawasan kasi unti unti ko inaapply.
 
minsan nagpapanic attack ako pag maraming tao. i do breathing exercise.

i also have this book titled "simple" by capt padilla. maliit lang siya at madali basahin. received it 5 years ago. natulungan niya ako imanage yung stress or anxiety. i'll post from time to time mga entries sa libro niya then see for yourself kung makakatulong...

[Half_Lifer26]

@fall2pieces
Hi Sis! Thanks sa mga advice..I hope may tumanggap pa din sa akin kahit na madami akong gaps..  It's really good to know that there are people who feel the same.. Ganyan din ako minsan, may mga days na di ako makatulog sa kakaisip ng kung ano ano, nagkaka insomnia na ako and nalaman ko na part to ng anxiety attacks ko and depression. Minsan naman sobrang antukin ko at napapasobra tulog ko tapos pag-gising ko parang kulang pa din ako sa tulog.. Hypersomnia naman and vice versa.. Pag nangyari sakin yun I know na inaatake na naman ako ng anxiety..

Actually Sis, I'm a guy pero karamihan ng mga nakakaranas ng ganito and yung mga nagpopost dito is mostly girls.. Sabi din dati nung nagpatingin ako sa psych is mas common ito sa mga women pero nangyayari din naman sa mga guys.. Kaya ako minsan kahit gusto kong umiyak tinatago ko na lang kasi kasi ayokong mag-alala pa sa akin yung ibang tao and yung mga friends ko, di ko pinapakita sa kanila yung nararamdaman ko na ganito since I'm a guy but boys do cry..