how to deal with depression

[airish_2]

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[pinkadelic]

i've made choices in life and expected them to bring me some sort of happiness, but to no avail. i give up on things when i don't get that "happy" feeling i'm looking for. kaya tuloy i wasted time and many opportunities. i should be grateful for what i have right now, which i am, but i feel so empty. dagdagan pa ng complicated relationship with somebody, nawawalan na ko ng gana to carry on (wala na kami ngayon and it still breaks me). i try to think positive, motivate and cheer myself up but i end up thinking, "who am i kidding? truth is, i feel like crap." so after thinking the right thoughts, biglang balik to that empty feeling again. one minute i'd think i was successful in giving myself a pep talk, maya maya lang back to that walang gana feeling. i thought enrolling in a few subjects would make me happy or at least provide me with the distraction i needed. instead, my brain won't cooperate with me. it took me hours to get my homework done because half the time my mind was telling me, "this is so stupid and pointless." i skipped school yesterday because i didn't feel like getting up. i spent the day in bed then opted to go to the gym that afternoon instead. i'm thinking about dropping out. i'm taking pre-reqs for nursing, an occupation i've decided that i'll "resign" myself to. the goal is to be financially stable so that's just how i'm looking at it. i haven't made friends here and i don't trust people easily. i've always been on my own, siguro kasi i'm looking for the kind of friendship i had when i was still in the philippines. my family's there for me but they have problems of their own, and they don't really know how to help me, kasi kahit ako i don't know what i want. or alam ko what i want but i don't have the drive for it. i do keep in touch with my friend back back home, minsan i open up to her, minsan pinipigilan ko rin sarili ko kasi parang lagi na lang nega ang email ko sa kanya. i've also prayed a lot in the past. right now ang prayer ko na lang is, "Lord, please help me." nire-recite ko na lang, it's not heartfelt and i feel bad about it. i don't want to resort to meds though. feel ko mas lalo ako mababaliw. haay i needed to let all that out. 

[eight888]

hi mga sisses 

advice ko lang senyo makipag kaibigan kayo sa mga positive friends yung masasaya kasama and mag ayos din kayo sa sarili minsan kasi nakakadepress din pag nakikita nyo sa salamin na pumapangit na pala kayo hehe   try to make ayos to ur' self magpaganda kayo and try to do something new yung makakapag pasaya sa life nyo..  sports makakatulong din to, party party , bonding sa mga friends.. hanapin nyo kung anong hilig nyo at kung anong makakapagpasaya senyo wag kayong tumigil mag hanap .. search ng search kung nag break man kayo ng bf nyo edi hanap ka ng much better sanya huwag nyong hayaan na tumigil ang buhay nyo sa isang bagay lang.. Go Girls kaya nyo yan!  pray kayo ..

[Tintinnapay]

Hello po. I'm quite new here and I think I'm suffering from depression. I'm in Quezon City and I've been planning to go to a psychiatrist so I need recommendations po. I'm a student and lumalala po ata ako ever since I started college. Please PM me po if you know good psychiatrists near Diliman, Quezon City.

[Amina777]

Think like the depression is the chance you improve your self.
Every time you get over it, you'll be more like so sophisticated:)

[kinkytinch]

mga sis, what's the difference between the feeling of having a quarter life crisis and depression? naisip ko lang.. baka naman what some of us have is quarter life crisis thing

[gorgeousmama]

depresssion is sometimes caused of some triggers like fnancial, death, break-ups,,

kasi sometimes moving on, letting go, picking up the pieces  is the hardest thing to do

ACCEPTANCE also is the hardest part BUT if you can accept things that can't be altered then the road to recovery is possible

But if that is persistent therefore you need to seek medical help!!!!

meron naman because weak  ANG personality, like men /women who cannot accept that the girl or boy they love no longer love them or never like them commits suicide or people who sees their life as hopleess, POINTLESS WHO thought nasa  point of no return ,,, girls /boys na napagalitan lang ,,,,kahit bantayan mo yan she/he will committ suicide,,, mahirap talaga ,,,

But if there are no triggers or you got depressed for no reason at all then you have a CHEMICAL IMBALANCE THAT NEEDS A PSYCHIATRIST  and you have to take some meds to at least correct that imbalance 

one time i chance upon a woman in RENE Mariano's place, she told me a story that she  never imagined  that one day her husband will be unfaithful, she spent a fortune going to some psychic, fortune telller to find out if her husband fell in love with the woman and he is still seeing her, an assurance ,she wants to be validated ,,,,

 I just told her this I think REne Mariano will advise her to see a psychiatrist not bec she is crazy but she needs help and gave her my cel# and she   text me if Rene would advise her to do what I suggested and VOILA..ganun nga sinabi ni Rene,sa kanya!!!!,,,,

obviously she was hurt and she cannot ACCEPT the fact that one day her husband would do that,,, so she was in denial

SO she needed help coz she refused to accept the fact that it happened and she no longer trust her husband that's why she is seeking validation from these people

SIMPLE DI BA? THE KEY IS ACCEPTANCE  FORGIVENESS AND TRUSTING AGAIN, moving on !!!

easier said than done !!!! but again she needs HELP !!!!, not only from the psychiatrist but she need to help herself, she needs HEALING FROM THE PAIN HER HUSBAND INFLICTED on her

I'm not an authority on the subject,, I'd been reading lot of books, attending seminars

I hope I  can reach out and help those people who ARE DEPRESSED  needs A LISTENER, COMFORTER,,,TO AT LEAST LEsSEN THEIR BURDENS,,,, to know that someone still cares!!!!
and seeher/his worth and life is still beautiful and worth living ,,,

[narstin]

my two cents here.. very important to hang out with friends na di magsasawa makinig at makipag usap.. do what you enjoy doing and sympre pray.. go to salon and magpaganda:) kailangan lage ka may kausap... develop new interest:) aliwin ang sarili

[jazzyfish]

I feel like maybe I'm starting to get depressed rin. Yung parang it's a struggle na kumilos in the morning, get ready for work, or to do anything. Tapos pag nagtatrabaho, parang walang gana mag work. Pag nakakakita ng mga friends sa FB out on their nights out na hindi ako kasama, nalulungkot. Self doubt. Second guessing. Parang in a funk lang yung feeling.

Please continue handing out tips to manage this. I've read na St. John's Wort supplements are a good natural way to ease depression, saka daw Omega 3 Fish Oils.  Thanks all!

[whitesheep]

hay naku, yang FB (and Twitter/IG) malakas maka-depress yan hahaha. esp. if you will compare your life with your succesful friends/classmates/neighbors/relatives.

haha this is so true!

[kaice]

i have chronic depression but stopped drinking meds. so far im surviivng but there are down days... hirap mag work parnag naglu lurk lang ako. pero nadedepress ako pag di ako productive. hay...

[snix]

I don't know if what i'm feeling is depression or just going through a certain phase in life. i have analyzed myself and have finally admitted that i have a lot of issues in life right now starting with self-esteem and insecurities. I don't know if i need counseling or really talk to a professional. My life is still normal and I haven't thought about suicide..

Hindi ko rin naman kasi afford but i badly need to talk to someone right now.. not my friends or anyone i know.. i might get worse

[arnz5858]

I also need help. Grabe na yung nararamdaman ko. Wala naman suicidal thoughts hindi ko na alam kung ano ba talaga nararamdaman ko pero kelangan ko talaga ng makakausap..

[shanmar]

Hi mga sis meron ba sainyo naka experience ng panic attack or diagnosed with it?its like your heart is beating fast para kang mag kaka heart attack sa bilis parang ma lose control ka thinking about what if you have this or you have that condition and that your going to die?

[Prunella]

^^^Hi. I was diagnosed with panic disorder (along with clinical depression). On bad days, I faint. I experience palpitation, breathing difficulties, paranoia, chest pain, blurred vision, hot flashes, nausea, etc... I was given Xanax and it made things easier for me.

[khat]

^ sis do you have headache as well? or something you feel in your head that you can't even explain? sa Psychiatrist ba dapat mag punta in able na mabigyan ng medicine? I feel i'm suffering with depression kasi but don't have the gut yet to see a doctor, Ano ano ba ang itatanong nila sayo or kailangan mo lang sabihin ba sa kanila how you feel para makita nila kung ano klase ng depression meron ka?or if you even suffering from depression? hay pasensiya na,dami ko tanong, urong sulong kasi ako kung need ko na ba magpa tingin or what, may days kasi na i feel better naman,kaya lang may days na parang I'm so down, i easily get upset/mad at certain things kasi lalo na if i don't agree, and wala ako masyado pasensiya ngayon, and dami ko iniisip na pwede naman hindi isipin, even my closest friends eh ayun hindi ko masyado kinikibo,naka tampuhan ko pa yung isa sa kanila,which is so un-usual na mangyari sakin,kasi hindi ako pikon, at hindi ko binibig deal yung mga maliliiit na bagay na pwede naman palipasin,but now it seems different talaga, parang hanggat maaari ayoko ng conversation na alam kong ma u-upset ako, kasi ayun ma stress na naman ako, meron pang time na parang na fi-feel ko na failure ako, and namimiss ko yung maging masaya, basta ganun na fi-feel ko, pag na stress ako parang may na fi-feel ako sa head ko,hindi naman headache basta something weird lang, dati i feel na may panic/nervous attack ako,pero feel ko na manage ko na yun, at di ko na nararamdaman ulit, do you think I'm suffering with depression mga sis? TIA

[Amina777]

In these days, when I feel awful depression, I feel headache and FBS in my throad and can't swallow easily..
It cause all from stress so I have to get over the problem but it needs more and more time and
I'm getting so tired of it.

[alexsy]

Hindi ko alam kung depression ito o katamaran lang. wala kasi akong gana sa kahit na ano. Parang tamad na tamad na kong mabuhay. Naiisip ko din magpakamatay kaya lang parang sayang naman kasi problema pa sa mga maiiwan. Ipapalibing pa tapos di naman covered ng insurance ang suicide. So wag na lang. pagkagising ko sa umaga, naiisip ko “hay umaga na naman”. sa gabi naman, “ isang araw na naman ang nasayang”. Literal na sayang kasi wala akong ginagawa. Online lang ako, nood ng anything, forum. Wala akong makausap kasi ang mga kaibigan ko may sariling buhay. At busy sila ha, parang lahat may direksyon, ako lang ang wala. 1Direction and wa direction.

Baka sabihin nyo, ako lang din ang makakagawa ng direksyon sa life ko. Parang hindi e. ang daming factors na hindi umaayon so paano ka naman aaksyon. Iniisip ko nga evil queen ba ko nung past life ko at ngayon ko pinagbabayaran? Inapi ko ba si snow white? Ang nega nega ko, galit ako sa lahat, patol ako sa lahat. Ano ba naman to. Nakakainis yung ganito pero wala naman akong magawa. Ang sad lang 

Napanood ko nga yung i-witness ba yon or reporters notebook. Yung  mga katutubo nagsisikap mag aral magbasa at magsulat para come election time, alam daw nilang isulat ang names ng kandidato na iboboto nila. Kasi daw ang laging nangyayari, hinahakot lang sila sa voting center tapos thumbmark sa balota. Ayan, boto na. this year daw, gusto nilang iboto yung feeling nila e makakapagbigay ng kanilang kahilingan. Ang gusto nila, malinis na tubig. So sa baryo pala nila, wala pang linya ng nawasa. Ang sad di ba. Tapos naiisip ko, buti pa ako, may gripo, may tubig. Pero di ba dapat lang naman na may tubig dito sa bahay kasi nasa city naman ako hello. Ayan, ganyan ako ka nega tapos naisip ko din parang useless naman ang pagsisikap nilang magsulat at magbasa kasi kahit na maiboto nila yung gusto nila, magkakadayaan din yan sa bilangan. So anong silbi? E di wala din. See. Pati tv show pinapatulan ko.

at hindi lang tv show, pati movie! Lahat nagandahan sa it takes a man and a woman, ako lang yata ang hindi. Kasi naman ang wig, ang continuity. Tapos napakabilis naman makapag abroad ng nanay ni Laida. Di naman ganyan sa totoong buhay (e kaya nga movie, hindi naman real life). E pero di ba, kung gagawa ng movie, sana yung medyo mukhang totoo naman para makarelate ang viewers. (baka naman may 10-year multiple entry ang nanay ni Laida). Ok baka nga. Sige na lang.

Yung show ni jodi at ser chief. Walang dating sa kin. Parang mag ama, mag tiyuhin. mag ninong. Ano ba naman. Si jodi batang bata. Si ser chief, ang tanda. Oh well, baka bitterness lang ako kasi wala akong ser chief. E di naman ako naghahanap at di ako naghahangad. See, lahat ayoko.  Pati si kris aquino ayoko, si boy abunda, ang boses ni sweet lapus na garalgal. Dati naman dedma lang ako sa kanila. Ngayon galit ako sa buong mundo. Lahat na lang including the ryza maeeeee showwwww (with matching kumpas kumpas ng kamay).  Pati bata pinatulan.

Kanina dinidiscuss ko ang bills dito sa bahay. Hindi ako pinapansin ng roommate ko. Sabi ko, “ihahampas ko sa pader yang laptop mo”. At ang scary part, gusto ko ngang ihampas!!! E kasi naman, maghapon kong kinwenta, pinaglaanan ko ng time. di ba nga ayokong kumilos so para magawa ko yon, grabeng pilit sa sarili.  tapos nung pag uusapan na, ayaw akong pansinin.

Baka iniisip nyo bad timing.  Hindi kaya. Naka dinner na kami. Nakaligpit na ng hugasin. Nanonood lang kami ng tv at sya nagf facebook. So nung sinabi ko, “eto na yung for this month chuva chuva chuva”, aba pa ok ok lang tapos nagbubutingting pa sa laptop. Pero di naman kami nag away. Kasi after kong sabihin na ihahampas ko yung laptop nya, inilayo nya at nakipag discuss na sa kin LOL.

So ayan ang life ko. Lifeless. Eto pag tulog na ang lahat at maingay ang pusa ng kapitbahay, nagfoforum na lang ako. Walang makausap e. At ayoko din makipag usap. Kasi kumustahan yan, e ano namang update ang sasabihin ko, wala. at sino ba naman ang gaganahang kumausap sa kin aber. Parang wala. Pag nakahiga ako, iniisip ko sana makatulog ako ng matagal na matagal (parang snow white lang) tapos pagkagising ko ayos na ang lahat. e pagkagising ko, ganon pa din. Walang pinagbago. Ang nagbago lang, instead na pusa ang maingay e mga manok na tumitilaok.  Ok,  ok ang pagbabago ay magmumula sa akin. Ako ang kikilos para sa sarili ko. Pero naman, paano?

Nabaliw na lol. Kung nagbabasa ka pa din hanggang dito, salamat. Pa end na ang monolog ko. Paulit ulit lang e. ktnxbye

[virtualmarnie]

hello ladies,

naglurk ako dito sa thread last May due to extreme depression. there was a question about affordable mental health care and i want to share the place i'd been going to.

CEFAM (Center for family Ministries)
Ateneo de Manila University Campus
Loyola Heights, Quezon City
426-4289
426-4285
426-4292

It's run on donations. They have counsellors and psychiatrists. I have tried talking to a priest counsellor but then I transitioned to a psychiatrist who can prescribe meds. They are a lifesaver because of the excellent and affordable care.

[khaytie]

Mga sis share ko lang, ako i've been suffering depression and anxiety for a few years now and last year lang ako nagpunta sa psychiatrist. Yung una hind ko hiyang yung gamot 8 months ko ininom, my improvement naman pero nung nagtagal wala nang epekto kaya nitong april nagtry ako puntahan c Randy Dellosa, siya yung resident psychologist sa PBB, na curious kasi ako at chineck ko background niya at mukhang ok kaya nagpunta ko nitong april bale 1,500 yung fee for 1 hour. apat na gamot yung pagpipilian ko if ever hindi ako hiyang dun sa isa atleast my tatlo pa kong pag pipilian pero ewan ko ba parang wala hiyang saken laging sumasakit ulo ko kapag umiinom ako. Nkailang retake na ko ng pag inom eh. Pero tinake ko ulit yung unang gamot nakaka 1 week na ko so, observe ko pa ng 1 week pag medyo ok na. Pero pag hindi parin mukhang kailangan ko ulit bumalik sakanya para ma resetahan ng gamot. But hopefully maging ok at hiyang na ko dito sa iniinom ko ngayon, next sked ko kasi sakanya after 3 weeks na tuloy tuloy yung pag inom ko. Sana mga sis mka survive tayo, ang hirap kasi kapag ganito condition hindi lahat makakaintindi. Mahirap humanap ng hindi ka ijujudge.