Lesson learned after the breakup

[Miss.Pancake]

^ haha, agree! ke guwapo, ke panget wala na, pare pareho lang talaga, babalik na lang ako ulit sa pogi 

Hahahaha! Tama sa pogi nalang para pag naloko ee nay K naman talaga. Hindi yun sa pangit na nga e nanloko pa. Kapal ng face. hahaha!

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Lesson Learned:
Know how to play your card.

[lady luck]

1. huwag masyadong maging close sa pamilya/relatives nya.. ang hirap kasi yung wala na nga kayo pero invited ka pa rin sa mga okasyon ng pamilya nila... tapos kapag di ka pumunta, sila pa ang magtatampo sayo.. 
2. huwag mag-pautang sa mga kamag-anak nya..ang hirap kayang maningil...ahahahaha!
 

[frappysabz]

wag sanayin na ikaw ang aamo or magsosorry sa asawa mo.

wag ipakita na sobrang mahal na mahal mo siya kasi pag nag away kayo iniisip niya hindi ko siya kayang iwan kaya okay lang na saktan ka.

hindi porket may anak na kayo at kasal na eh kakapit kana lang sa kanya lagi kahit alam mong siya ang may kasalanan. matutong mahalin ang sarili.

[Leenayomi]

Lesson learned - Do not give all ..magtira ng para sayo and mahalin Muna ang sarili bags ang Iba.

[estelle21]

1. maging understanding. lawakan pang unawa. wag TH or tamang hinala. learn to trust partner. make trust the "normal" mode. wag maging selosa.

2. wag paglalabasan ng rants si partner. kawawa naman. wag aalisin yung friend support at wag gagawing main support si partner kasi may mga sarili din problema yun baka hindi lang sinasabi sayo.

3. wag maging self-centered lalo na kung sobrang bait ng karelasyon. wag abushin kabaitan, patience, generosity ng karelasyon. tao yan. nasasawa. kahit gaano ka kamahal nyan, mapapagod.

4. wag maging prinsesa o prinsipe. wag laging nagpapatulong kahit sa maliliit na bagay. huwag yung hindi makapag desisyon. be decisive naman.

5. higit sa lahat , pag-isipan ng 100 ulit bago makipag break. dahil yung akala mo na pakikipag break mo para suyuin ka, pwedeng totohanin nya. akala mo yung mga pinagsisintir mo mabigat, yun pala mas mabigat pa yung kanya.

6. pag tinuturing kang kaibigan after break up, dont assume na magiging kayo ulit agad. know your limits. keep distance. dahil kapag kinulit mo yan at mapika yan, baka kahit friendship hindi na kayang ibigay sayo.

7. don't chase (lalo na sa babae). kung gusto makuha si ex, don't chase. lalong lalayo girls. lalong maiisip na needy ka, na hindi ka dependent. hindi ka magiigng attractive. magdidiminish yung worth mo if you keep on chasing.

8. improve yourself. pwersahin mo sarili mo mag move on. if you need to blog about love advices or post in forums like this to save your dignity para hindi ka sa friends mag rant o magkuwento, then do so.

9. forgive youself. forgive the ex.

10. life is short. be happy.

[pumpkin13]

Communication is really vital. The next thing I'd look for in a partner is knowing how to communicate, hindi yung kakwentuhan, as in yung marunong magcommunicate ng problem and magwork out with me.

The last relationship I've been in ended just barely a month ago. And it hurts a lot kasi magstart pa lang ako magmove on. What devastates me is matagal na pala nya nafefeel na we were drifting apart and may problem na sya sakin. Ako naman, all this time, akala ko nagiging comfortable lang kami and yung mga petty quarrels ay petty lang talaga. Pag kasi nagkaayos kami, iniisip ko talaga na okay na talaga. So I didn't know na parang nakikipag ayos lang sya for the sake na maayos lang. So I didn't know that we had a problem. Pag ako naman ang may issue sa kanya, kinakausap ko sya para di na maulit tapos tatanungin ko sya kung sya ba may issue sakin, wala naman daw. Ang labo lang.

Ang masakit pa neto, umabot sa point na may iba na sya nagustuhan sa office nila. Hindi ko din alam yun. Nalaman ko na during the breakup session, na kesyo daw may iba na sya gusto and iba na yung feelings nya sakin, tapos lumabas na yung mga issues nya na dati naman sabi nya wala. So ako naman parang, wait, anong nangyayari? Bakit nasisira na yung relationship ko na wala akong kaalam alam? And worst is I couldn't fight for it kasi pointless naman na daw.

Communication. Love. Honesty. Trust. Mahirap ba makuha lahat ng yan in just one person?

[gmarri]

Lesson learned: Leave some love for your self. (period) 

[psyche29]

^Aaaww sis. Sorry to hear about that. Tama ka talaga na communication one of the most important factor sa isang relationship. One day at a time sis. Nakakaasar lang yun mga ganyang guys na hindi man lang bigyan ng chance na maayos by telling na may problem. Dun pa lang parang sinuko na nila yun relationship e.

Back to the topic, i learned that hindi mo kaya control nararamdaman ng ibang tao. Its up to them to appreciate what you do and its up to them to see your and the relationships value.

You are responsible to your own happiness. Hindi sya dapat naka attach sa tao or bagay. You decide if you want to be happy and to appreciate who you have than focus on someone who doesnt wanna be with you.

If youve done everything on your part, stop. Value and respect yourself. You cant make someone stay ifvthey dont want to. Everytime you give them what they want to make them stay, you lose yourself. Uulit ulitin lang nila ang paghingi but will always find reasons to leave. Will never be satisfied.

Love your family. Sila minsan una nababalewala if we start loving someone. Give them time pa rin. They love you unconditionally. May not support all your decisions but will not abandon you. Ever.

Lastly, jeremiah 29:11. Trust Him. He never gives you a problem na hindi kakayanin. Na pag may inalis Sya, laging may mas magandang kapalit. Lagi. Its how we view it. Hindi man another partner agad. Pero meron. And in time, pag alam Nya na handa ka na ulit and buo ka na ulit, hindi ka na magugulat na si brad pitt na pala yun binigay nya Sayo, or someone even better kasi kasal na si brad pitt. 

[Moonbeam17]

Love yourself

[Miss Taken]

It doesn't matter how long you two have been together, if your feelings have changed or fell out of love then it's the end.

We were in a relationship for 7 years then all of a sudden, I just felt that I don't love him like I used to before. I was in denial at first pero kahit ano pang gawin ko, wala na talaga. So yes naniniwala na ako na wala yan sa tagal ng relasyon. If you're not in love anymore then that's it.

[callmemissj]

Thank you for this thread. I have my own set of learning but hearing from other people some things I failed to realize makes it more enlightening. Pero one of the things that I learned the hard way? Self-respect and not depending on other people for happiness.

[lovely_carrot]

Some break ups are actually blessings in disguise..

[simang]

Breakups won't kill you.

You'll be fine, maybe in a week, or a month, a year, 10 years... however long it is, you'll be fine.

Holding on to toxic relationships keeps us from growing. (line from Adam, Girls)

[itsnikimendoza]

cliche but you have to believe on this: Everything happens for a reason.
It happened to teach us a lesson (maybe the hard way).

Kung andon ka sa situation na yun syempre mahirap maghold on dito, pero in God's perfect time, malalaman mo rin kung bakit nagkaganon. I had my share of heartaches before, and now I am perfectly happy with my husband and expecting a baby.

[Onang0329]

A man will never let you go, kung talagang mahal ka nya

[lovely_carrot]

This. http://elitedaily.com/dating/want-thank-first-partner/1099975/

[sweetashoney]

^Aaaww sis. Sorry to hear about that. Tama ka talaga na communication one of the most important factor sa isang relationship. One day at a time sis. Nakakaasar lang yun mga ganyang guys na hindi man lang bigyan ng chance na maayos by telling na may problem. Dun pa lang parang sinuko na nila yun relationship e.

Back to the topic, i learned that hindi mo kaya control nararamdaman ng ibang tao. Its up to them to appreciate what you do and its up to them to see your and the relationships value.

You are responsible to your own happiness. Hindi sya dapat naka attach sa tao or bagay. You decide if you want to be happy and to appreciate who you have than focus on someone who doesnt wanna be with you.

If youve done everything on your part, stop. Value and respect yourself. You cant make someone stay ifvthey dont want to. Everytime you give them what they want to make them stay, you lose yourself. Uulit ulitin lang nila ang paghingi but will always find reasons to leave. Will never be satisfied.

Love your family. Sila minsan una nababalewala if we start loving someone. Give them time pa rin. They love you unconditionally. May not support all your decisions but will not abandon you. Ever.

Lastly, jeremiah 29:11. Trust Him. He never gives you a problem na hindi kakayanin. Na pag may inalis Sya, laging may mas magandang kapalit. Lagi. Its how we view it. Hindi man another partner agad. Pero meron. And in time, pag alam Nya na handa ka na ulit and buo ka na ulit, hindi ka na magugulat na si brad pitt na pala yun binigay nya Sayo, or someone even better kasi kasal na si brad pitt. 

Very well said sis. I totally agree sa lahat ng sinabi mo esp sa love your family and trust God's plan/s for us

[Filipinasadhart]

marami ako natutunan sa yun nagbreak kame ng mga bf ko hahaha
ayoko ng isa isahin basta pag malungkot ako eto na lang ang lage ko iniisip

 I deserve the kind of love that makes me feel like I'm on top of the world. - filipinasadhart 

may bf o wala yan ang quote ko sa buhay....
thanks sa mga friends ko sa gt... you know who you are :-)

[TomHansen]

Love is not enough... 

[ashley_0713]

Babaan ang PRIDE/EGO