paano mo iha handle ang friend mo na insecure sa'yo

[megansmomma]

ewan ko ba, dito lang sa pinas meron nian! i don't stressed myself too much there are more things to do than grudging over those people who do not have their own happiness..

[snowflakes]

^ sis dito din sa US meron nyan, yun nga lang pilipino pa rin. rephrase ka lang yung post mo, pilipino lang ang ganyan! hahaha sorry ha.. kase sa experience ko dito mga pinay insecure at inggitera. kaibigan mo man or hinde. minsan iisipin mo nasa kanila na lahat, work, power, pera pero inggit pa rin sila sa akin. samantalang stay at home mom nga ako meaning wala ako pera. hehe

[dashgirl]

Ignore ko lang, as long as hindi nya ako pakialaman. Pwede nya akong sundin, wag lang nya akong galawin.

I dont post that often in fb kaya siguro napapansin nf mga tao pagnag post ako kasi nagllike sila. Onetime, sinabihan ako ng 'kaibigan' ko na sinasadya ko raw para may mag.llike na marami. I cant help it if walang nag llike sa mga pics and posts nya. Also, she never likes my posts and pictures. Pag may bago ako, bibili din sya at post galore kaagad. Lol

[KVsWahmmy]

I'll do to that person what I do when it's me who feels envious or 'insecure' about something or someone - I'll keep my distance. If that person I'm having that feeling towards is a friend or someone I like, then lilipas naman yon after some time.

Hindi naman maiiwasan ng tao makaramdam ng inggit, or ng insecurity at times. Even the seemingly happy and contented people feel that too. But what really matters is what people do about it. If si friend is insecure and I feel it lang, though she's not doing anything hurtful naman to me, I'd just put a little space between us. And then eventually, if she's a true friend, for sure, that feeling would be fleeting naman. And I as a friend din, will point out in the most subtle way (yung hindi halatang sinasadya.hehe) the great things about her life para maramdaman nya na what she has is just as wonderful.

If for example naman the friend does something hurtful and offensive as a result of these feelings, then ganon pa din, keep my distance. Pero siguro for a longer time - and literal na quiet lang talaga ko, no reaching out muna. Kasi if she acts like that because she was just insecure/envious means may deeper issues sya na kailangan isettle, maybe with herself, or perhaps between the two of us. But the space/distance will certainly help clear the air first for possible talks in the future about it. This is given that she's a true friend ha.

If we don't talk again ever, and she stays insecure for the longest time - well, alam na.

[happie]

Hindi talaga maiwasan yan so I normally avoid those people and restricted sila sa Facebook para hnd Rin nila alam what I'm doing.

[bluegintonic]

tama, stay away. Yan ang mali ko in-add ko pa rin sila sa FB ko for memory's sake. Ang mga taong hindi ka kayang i-accept at your best,not worth your time and attention talaga.Minsan din i-a-add ka lang kasi nacu-curious at manguusisa lang sa buhay mo.

[Red Rack 21]

insecure people are those with low self-esteem and i don't like them. if i can't uplift or help them, i avoid them period.

[jenny.babe]

^ i agree na dapat iwasan nalang. hindi maganda na may insecure ka na friend baka sinisiraan ka na niyan patalikod.

[estelle21]

i kicked her out of my life nung ginawan na ako ng kasamaan dahil insekyora sya. patalikod nya ginawa.
 
matagal na kaming hindi friends. tapos na. at hindi na magiging friends kahit kelan pa hahahahah 

[TysLolakins]

kung insecure siya sa akin,  it only means hindi ko siya talaga friend.  i'm a very accommodating and maasikaso na bestie,  i don't make any of my homies feel that i'm better or have more,  in fact, i have this habit of self-deprecating around them.  ngayon if after all my effort e insecure pa din siya,  then may malice and mean intention siya and i can sense that too. [size=78%]time to disengage myself from that person.[/size]

[monikka sun]

wag mo na lang pansinin sis, may ganyan din akong case. nakakainis kaso nakaka pangit kapag inintindi mo pa :)

[Cluelesschx]

relate ako dito at sobrang sad ako. magaganda advice , madami na nagsasabi layuan kasi hindi totoong friend. pero maganda din naman yung nasa 1st page na ihelp pa.

im just so sad kasi I really treat her as a very close friend.
 hindi naman siya insecure but she revels in my failures and problems. pag okay ang takbo ng buhay ko, iba siya. mas preferred niya na problemado ako ;(

[purple_leigh97]

Dedma. Bahala siya hehe

[molybdenumstudios]

Hindi ko siya papansinin. I don't think he/she deserves mah attention.

[amethyst028]

based on experience yung mga taong ganun sila yung mga hindi masaya sa buhay nila. para bang pag nakaka angat ka sa kanila e may mali sayo. and it's usually those friends whom you've known the longest. sometimes pa they will focus on what you don't have instead of feel supportive sa mga acheivements mo just to make you feel insecure.

yeah it's better to ignore people like that. they bring negative energy na hindi naman makakatulong sayo. accept that you've outgrown some people. it's not your fault na napag iwanan na sila.

one more thing din, ako kasi i don't flaunt what i have like i don't post sa fb ng mga material things i acquired, trips i went to, acheivements, etc. quiet lang ako and very private para wala rin mainggit or mag isip ng bad sa akin. i guess coz i know most of my friends medyo hirap sa buhay so i don''t want to rub it in their faces. kasi kahit na hindi naman pagyayabang ang intention mo minsan that's how it comes out sa ibang tao. ang tendency kasi iiwasan ka na nila and i don't want to lose them. basta alam ko sarili ko sino ako at ano meron sakin that's all that matters. no need to show it off.

[marose17]

Fortunately, this hasn't happened to me but if it does, I'd avoid them.  Life is too short to surround myself with toxic people.

[Reynamargallo]

for me, wala. seryoso. wala talaga kasi people na insecure bores me.

[17glut]

unang-una, yung mga ganyang tao nilalayuan ko kasi puro ka-negahan lang maaasahan mong lalabas sa bibig ng mga yan. pangalawa, hindi maituturing na kaibigan ang mga taong insecured sa yo kasi may tendency na sisiraan ka ng mga yan and they will never be happy for you. pangatlo, hindi ka rin matatahimik sa mga ganyang tao kasi merong masasabi hindi maganda ang yan kahit na ano pang gawin mo.

[hazelbrown_eyes27]

Wala, iwasan na lang. Mahirap pakisamahan ang taong insecure sa sarili eh, kasi kahit di mo naman pinapakitaan ng dapat na  kainsekyuran, maiinsecure pa rin yan. Innate na kumbaga! Kahit wala ka ginagawa, maiinsecure pa rin siya. Iwasan na lang.

May kilala ako na used to be gym buddy ko. She keeps on asking me how much my things are. Kunyari pupurihin niya " ang ganda ng shirt mo, saan mo nabili? MAGKANO? Halos lahat ah!

Tapos, malaman laman ko sa iba na ang yabang ko daw, kasi i announce pa daw the price of the stuff I buy, and kung saan ko nabili. Eh, she was the one asking me. Di alam ng pinagkukuwentuhan niya na tinatanong niya ako, kaya ko sinasabi. Ang yabang yabang ko na tuloy sa paningin ng iba. Ginawa ko,  iniwan ko sa gym na yun and I upgraded my membership. Grabe!! Ganun ka insecure!

[young_maiden]

Lalayuan ko siya. Hindi tunay na kaibigan ang taong hihilain ka pababa para lang umangat siya at maremedyohan insecurity niya sayo.