paano mo iha handle ang friend mo na insecure sa'yo

[candid_girl]

pag over na ang insecurity to the point na nag popower trip siya pag gusto, try to ignore or ovoid her/him na lang.

[kiz_me1109]

Hindi ko sila pinapansin. I know I have friends (especially those na upto now they are still living in with their partners and hindi parin nakakasal) na naiinggit sakin. I just don't mind them. Kasi, kung totoong kaibigan ko sila, they should be happy for me and matanggap nila na iba iba din yung destiny ng tao.

[goddessjem]

kapag nasa mood ako ng good side ko, pinapakisamahan ko spa rin siya..para walang masabi sken kahit ibang tao..kapg hindi na ako makatiis, lalo kong pinapatunayan na I'm better with her. mamatay na alng sya sa inggit..imbes na matuwa siya para sa akin, iba ginagawa nya..poor little girl!

[red_one]

i have a college friend, nag-start yung insecurity nya when we took the board exam, I passed while she failed. From that parang di nya matanggap yun. pero sya naman yung lumayo. we stop communicating each other na when I noticed na parang lagi syang umiiwas. I decided na bigyan na lang sya ng space, since medyo na-[textspeak!]-hurt pa sya sa result ng exam nya. of course di ko naman kasalanan yun. after 3 yrs I think, yun saka lang sya nagparamdam uli. nakakalungkot kasi di na kami katulad nung dati.

[chinkywinky]

I had a friend that I avoided na dahil sa dami ng insecurities nya sa buhay. I want a beautiful, wonderful life so I erased those who give me negative vibes.

[pinkberries]

Though I only have one friend na insecure, but not to the point naman na envious who would do something bad like making up chismis.  I just don't want negative vibes, kaya I keep my distance.   If she starts to talk about her insecurities, slowly out na muna ako.  I just got tired of lifting up her spirit again and again.  hehe

[crazycoolchic19]

Just like what other said...keep your distance.

Mahirap magkaroon ng insecure na friend eh pati confidence mo sa sarile mo sisirain dahil lang sa gusto makaganti nung friend ko na insecure dahil sa comments sa knya na mataba sya which is true naririnig ko sa iba nyang barkada kung gano sya sabihan na mataba, abay gayahin ba naman ako sa kanya na ang lalake ng pata.ayoko ng mga negang tao kung lagi yan ang sasabihin nya sakin at wala na syang makitang maganda goodbye friendship! Tapos sya na sobrang feelingera gustong gusto nya sasabihan ko sya na mgagandang words.isipin ko na lang di sya nag exist sa buhay ko, napaka user talaga nya duh!

[megansmomma]

i have these 

i dont handle them, umpisa palang may banat sya i make it a point barahin agad di sopla sya

[stylishmomy]

Sad naman kasi BFF mo cya... I hope she will eventually talk it out with you sis kasi ganun naman talaga if BFF, you should be able to talk about everything. I had "friends" who were like this and I prefer to stay away... too much negativity and nakaka drain rin talaga if they always need that uplifting tapos nega parin, I dont feel sad about staying away and letting the friendship die kasi they aint my BFF naman.

[*nightdreamer*]

hmmm..in the first place, are they worth to be called friends kung may feeling of insecurity sa kanila? 

[goddessjem]

ito rin po ang tanong ko. kase may friend din akong ganito. kahit wala akong ginagawang masama sa kanya, obvious na insecure sya lalo na kung may compliment akong natatanggap. well, d nga sya dapat tawagin na kaibigan kung insecure sya..wala tayo magagawa sa ganung tao kase walang ibang magaling at tama sa kanya kundi sarili nya.

[xxmiakaxx]

hmmm..in the first place, are they worth to be called friends kung may feeling of insecurity sa kanila? 

tama ka   mahirap sabihin maging friend sa ganun  tao  ........ ang pag  handle siguro doon  umiwas nalang 

[Huntress Krystle]

you know what to do with an insecure friend? if you're truly a friend to her, be sensitive to her real needs. uplift her (in a subtle way of course). wag mashadong obvious at baka ma-offend or lalo ma-insecure pag na-feel nyang kinakaawaan sha. look at her positive points / traits, and verbalize / praise her on that aspects.  words have the power to cure or destroy.  heal her with your kind and sincere words.  ipakita mong love mo sha despite your success or kung ano mang "lamang" mo sa kanya na kina-i-insecure nya sa yo.  share your blessings to her.  ipa-feel mo na magka-level lang kayo, na pareho kayo ng pinanggalingan.

take it step by step and be patient with her.
in the long run, you will win her back and you will be happy that you have helped her uplift her esteem.

I completely agree. That's if she's worth it. Or kung matibay na yung foundation ng friendship nyo at mas na oovershadow ng good traits nya yung bad. If it's the other way around, keep your distance nalang.

[bluedanube]

if i consider her a true and dear friend, then i'll try to make an effort for her not to feel that way.
maybe showing some extra (and still sincere) kindness towards her,  making her see some of my faults and weaknesses,  basically make her feel that i care a lot about her and there's no reason for her to be insecured.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

i'll also make an effort not to feel that way. though i'll wonder bakit naman siya maiinsecure eh friends naman kami. i've never been insecure of my friends kasi...

[chicafabulosa]

Lam mo sis i have a friend na ganyan, but obviously she chose not to be friends with me anymore. So i just let jt go. You dont need stress now. People who cant be happy for your success are not worth your time and love. If she is a true friend, she should be happy for your success and support you all the way. But if she can't do that, you need to think twice.

Mas mahirap if you can still friends with her. You will never know what is she telling behind your back. Let's face it, once insecurity sets in, you cannot control her to tell things about her worst she can even tell your secret to destroy you. Of course once she feels that, she would do anything to be ahead of you. I maybe right or wrong but I amjust telling you all the possibilities.

You need to surround yourself with positive vibes and people. I know its hard specially you are considering her as your bestfriend, but reality wise, there are millions of people out there. You just need to be more careful in choosing who to trust so much.

[miss resilient]

insecure???

parang wala namang ganon,for me. ngayon ko lang naisip ha.

kasi kung totoong kaibigan mo ang isang tao..hindi mo iisipin na insecure sha sayo. or kung nararamdaman mo na something's wrong with her, puede mo naman siyang kausapin. para hindi tayo nakasandig lang sa "gut feeling" natin.

[rastagurl11]

Distance yourself or cut-ties depending on the severity of her insecurities. Let it go if she chooses to end the friendship, di lang naman siya ang pwede mong maging friend.  People really just come and go. Negativity and insecurity is the last thing one person needs esp if you have other priorities. And besides, if she is really a good friend, she should be happy with what you've achieved. You should be her inspiration, not another reason to feel bad.

This is reverse positional good. Instead of feeling happy while your friend is miserable, your friend is the one miserable because if your happiness 

[snikity]

I had a friend that I avoided na dahil sa dami ng insecurities nya sa buhay. I want a beautiful, wonderful life so I erased those who give me negative vibes.

same!

i agree with you...kung tunay ko siyang kaibigan, di siya dapat mainsecure saakin. dapat masaya siya for me!

yun lang. bow.

[lovely_chic]

Keep my distance. Yung mga taong insecure sayo eh nakikipagplastikan sayo eh ayaw ko sa mga ganun. Life is too short para makipag plastikan so iwasan na lang. Mas gugustohin ko pa na walang kaibigan kesa nakikipag plastikan lang sa akin.