BOTO ba sa inyo ang parents/family ng bf/gf ninyo?

[kutingpie]

Boto ba sila sa  iyo?

If yes, wow, you are so lucky

if not, why and how did you know?

[andreanatividad]

ummm, di ko masabi kasi wala naman silang sinasabing directly na gusto nila ako

but they do invite me to family gatherings so i guess that says something na din

[isobel]

there's no boto or not boto with them eh. they're for whoever their son chooses to be with and whatever makes him happy. toward me, they're nice naman.

[shopaholic18]

actually whoever chooses their son ok sa kanila...in my experience they usually invite me with their family gatherings and very vocal sila sakin...close din kasi ako sa mommy nya kaya no worries...

[aquacharly]

1st BF -- everybody was neutral. Coz we were very, very young.  Tuta love lang daw, sabi ni yaya.

2nd BF -- everybody was botong botong boto with me, including the barangay of his Pampanga ancestral home.  I think his lola loved me as much as he did. 

The almost-3rd BF == botong boto the mom too, coz I made her son very happy.  unfortunately, before we could take off with our relationship... he got killed in Mindanao (he was a Marine officer, just out of the PMA)

Hubby, as my BF -- nobody liked me.  But they did not dare show that to me, except for a SIL who really had rude manners.  They thought coz I was much younger, I would just be a spoiled wife.  LOL  Now that they have seen how much of a working asset (not idle, not frozen asset nor just decorative) -- my MIL loves me to bits.. it drives that 1 dummy SIL nuts.  There, I have my continuing revenge. LOL

How did I know?  Actions speak louder than words, sabi nga ng lola ko.  Watch what they do or how they act towards you... no more, no less... do not read what is not there.

[anikalove]

sa tingin ko yun iba boto yun iba hinde..
kase 20 yearsage gap namen e.. so yun mom mejo intimidated kame sa isa't isa.. but the most important thing for me is yun 15 y/o daughter nya is boto naman sakin..

[kittenheels]

I don't know kung boto ang family ni current BF sa akin..they don't tell me outright, pero they invite me to lunch, or to family events. And pag may LQ kami ni BF, siya pa ang pinapagalitan ng mom niya 

..pero I think they're neutral kasi we're young, we're both just 20.

[tabularasa08]

i don't know if boto sila or hindi saken pero they are all nice naman saken and they do invite me din sa mga family occassions nila..

hopefully, wag mabago ang treatment nila saken since bf's salary is going directly to my bank account.. 

[ann-eiluj]

hmmm..yung akin na man..ewan..di ko talaga alam kasi di pa na man nila ako binastos (directly)..pero feeling ko di nila ako gusto..and they're secretly hoping na matau-han bro nila/anak, para hiwalayan ako..tsktsk..

i've been with my bf for more than a year now...his from a filipino-chinese family..he is the youngest of five siblings..2 of his bros and his only sister are married to filipino-chinese, and his other brother has a chinese gf.. so ako lang talaga yung walng lahi na chinese..
i was not necessarily introduced formally to the family kasi never niya akong pinakilala specifically as his gf, though alam ng lahat (dahil halata na man) na gf nya ako,
sumasa lang ako sa house nila, at first with friends then eventually ako nlang... i would say my "good morning/afternoon" to his sis or bro or dad and they would just smile tapos yun lang..then di na nla ako papapansinin..its always been that way, kahit sa family gatherings, greetings lang then di na papansinin..tapos pag magpapa-alam na, smile nalang uli.. i never had a conversation with any member of his immediate family.

and i would say talaga na di nila ako feel kasi iba treatment nila sa gf ng bro nya at sa akin...welcomed na welcomed yung girl eh, she sits with the the sis and the father, eh ako? sa pinakasulok na table..and there was one time na his sis told us na bilisan yung pagkain nmin ng dinner so we could offer our seats sa mga guests na paparating pa lang..

*nakaka-awa na man ako..

[wednesdei]

Yup, like ako ng family nya at like din siya ng family ko. 

[stameygirl]

hmmm..yung akin na man..ewan..di ko talaga alam kasi di pa na man nila ako binastos (directly)..pero feeling ko di nila ako gusto..and they're secretly hoping na matau-han bro nila/anak, para hiwalayan ako..tsktsk..

i've been with my bf for more than a year now...his from a filipino-chinese family..he is the youngest of five siblings..2 of his bros and his only sister are married to filipino-chinese, and his other brother has a chinese gf.. so ako lang talaga yung walng lahi na chinese..
i was not necessarily introduced formally to the family kasi never niya akong pinakilala specifically as his gf, though alam ng lahat (dahil halata na man) na gf nya ako,
sumasa lang ako sa house nila, at first with friends then eventually ako nlang... i would say my "good morning/afternoon" to his sis or bro or dad and they would just smile tapos yun lang..then di na nla ako papapansinin..its always been that way, kahit sa family gatherings, greetings lang then di na papansinin..tapos pag magpapa-alam na, smile nalang uli.. i never had a conversation with any member of his immediate family.

and i would say talaga na di nila ako feel kasi iba treatment nila sa gf ng bro nya at sa akin...welcomed na welcomed yung girl eh, she sits with the the sis and the father, eh ako? sa pinakasulok na table..and there was one time na his sis told us na bilisan yung pagkain nmin ng dinner so we could offer our seats sa mga guests na paparating pa lang..

*nakaka-awa na man ako..

Clarification lang sis. Pure chinese ba ang family ng bf mo? Kasi you refer to them as "filipino-chinese" and to the gf of the brother as "chinese".

[Chinita Princess]

sis ann-eiluj, medyo harsh naman nga sila sayo. In time siguro, magiging close din kayo. Just hope and pray

Sa case ko, gusto naman ako ng parents ni bf. Problema yung mom and mga kuya ko, di nila gusto si bf As in, sinasabi talaga nila at alam ni bf na ayaw sa kanya ng family ko kaya naiipit ako sa sitwasyon namin Lagi nga ako nagpra-pray na sana dumating yung time na maging happy naman family ko for me. Hay.

I mean, isa lang naman ang reason why nila di magustuhan si bf. Wala naman syang bisyo, di rin sya nambabae. Kaya di ko alam if I have to let go na lang para wag na pahirapan pa both sides

[aMz]

I think it is a YES.  Bf would always tell me that his mom likes me.   But there's a conflict with the ill-mannered SIL pero I'm not affected naman as in I don't care.  Insecure lang siguro because bf's mom always talks with me and not with her.

[FOURever]

yung first, yes. sobra. until now, sinasabi na gusto ako.

yung present, yung lola niya at mga tita, before oo. ewan ko lang now kasi di na ako nagpupunta sa kanila kasi di ko trip yung trip ng mga pinsan niya.nasa isang compound lang kasi sila. tapos nag passed away na lola niya. yung mommy niya, at first, ok lang kahit sino tapos naging gusto ako. tapos nung nagkaproblem kami ni bf, sinabi na maghiwalay na lang kami. kinausap ko through email kasi wala sa pinas. ayun, di sumagot. pero nung nagpadala, may package din for me. hehe!

[forumera]

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[acy]

PLEASE NEED YOUR COMMENTS GUYS!

[st_upid]

I know for a fact na kung may ibang choice yung anak nila, mas gugustuhin nila na iba na lang or yung ex na lang ng partner ko ang makatuluyan niya. We're civil naman pag nagpupunta ako sa kanila. Di naman ako harap harapan na binastos. Saka, love na love nila yung anak ko, hehe.subukan nilang pakitaan ako ng masama, di ko pakita yung apo nila sa kanila.

[ann-eiluj]

Clarification lang sis. Pure chinese ba ang family ng bf mo? Kasi you refer to them as "filipino-chinese" and to the gf of the brother as "chinese".

yung family ni bf, filipino-chinese since pure yung dad nla and half lang yung mom, yung gf [textspeak!] ng other bro is from a traditional chinese family, super OP ako kasi [textspeak!] di ko alam language nla, hangang numbers lang alam ko..

~~still with the boyfie..and tries to be close with the family, at least now di nlang yung aso nya at yung maid nla yung masaayang makita ako, just recently got close with his sisters-in-law..its a start..

[dYusILicious]

i don't  know pero sa tingin ko di sila boto saken kase his mom still sinasabe na magpakasal na lang sya sa states yung girl na nirereto ng tita nya, kinikwento ni bf yun saken so ouch lang, i don't know if i should continue pa with this relationship, i don't think I'm part of his future. help!

[FOURever]

ex ko, botong boto sa akin kaya yata ayaw sa gf ni ex. now, naghiwalay sila. nalulungkot ako for them