Child Support Thread

[gorgeousmama]

any update on those who filed for child support?

[kikaygimikera]

May child support agreement na kami ni ex hubby and yet hindi niya ito sinusunod on a monthly basis. Pahirapan pa ren mag "beg" sa kanya. Gusto ko sana may lawyer na between the two of us. Mga magkano ba aabutin neto? Umaabot ba sa 10k?

[longing]

I'm on the process of demanding for child and spousal support. 

He left us two months ago, nagde deposit naman sya for the past 3 pay days, however, the amount he gives is not enough for us, it's only 16% of his Net.  Nag send na ako sa kanya ng letter cc their baranggay and our baranggay via registered mail.

I invited him to talk personally but looks like ayaw nya coz may idea siya of how much I will demand (50% of his Net). If hindi siya sumagot within 10 calendar days as per my letter, I will file it in court na.  I'm just lucky na I have lawyer friends who can represent me in court, so bawas na siya sa stress ko.

[gorgeousmama]

^ sis lucky for you, in case of my friend her lawyer told her that  since her husband is supporting them, just like your situtation, insufficient, for their basic needs,, so their prayer will be for "additional support", hwever accg. to the lawyer smetimes the respondent will not give in to the demands easily thus the downside is he will prolong the case.. or if lucky he will bargain up to the extent that both of you has to : compromise..

good luck... 

[gorgeousmama]

May child support agreement na kami ni ex hubby and yet hindi niya ito sinusunod on a monthly basis. Pahirapan pa ren mag "beg" sa kanya. Gusto ko sana may lawyer na between the two of us. Mga magkano ba aabutin neto? Umaabot ba sa 10k?

it all depends on the lawyer sis, my friend who was referred by another friend has paid 15k for the acceptance fee alone and 3k for appearance fee, but actually the AF daw for these will cost you 3ok-50k,,

before i have a judge friend who gave it for 10k lang coz, friend ko yun wife, but diif. legal case yun sakin..
 before

[longing]

@gorgeousmama, it's ok lang naman sa akin. either he prolongs it or we end up sa compromise. what i want lang is "magulo" ang buhay nya ng konti. hahaha. i'm tired na ako na ang stressed lagi, i have to share stress sa kanya. not yung happy happy na lang siya lagi with his kabitchy.

[kikaygimikera]

Buti pa kayo sis may pera. Haaay ang hirap ng case ko wala akong pera pang file kaya sinabihan ako sa email ni exhusband na "Sige mag file ka ng magfile, tignan naten kung kaya mo. Diba mayaman ka naman? Dapat nag Law ka na lang para sumikat ka..."

grabe. alam niya kasing wala akong capacidad para magfile.

[gorgeousmama]

Buti pa kayo sis may pera. Haaay ang hirap ng case ko wala akong pera pang file kaya sinabihan ako sa email ni exhusband na "Sige mag file ka ng magfile, tignan naten kung kaya mo. Diba mayaman ka naman? Dapat nag Law ka na lang para sumikat ka..."

grabe. alam niya kasing wala akong capacidad para magfile.

haayy sis i wish i could help you  with that...
ng try ka na ba sa mga PAO?

kasi from what i heard you will go first sa womens desk where you reside, you will file a criminal case,   VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN'S AND CHILDREN    Walang bayad ang filing fee then afterwards saka ka mg hire ng lawyer,,yun sa PAO
KAhit panu you make the ist move, baka kahit panu mawindang mo sya..



offtopic 2 but wanna share this with you,, it might help

 i remember my niece was enrolled in A1 driving school when acccidentally she sideswiped a jeep, the stupid operator upon the instruction of the police, sued  my niece  instead ,mybe because they thought that she's a rich kid coz her surname was known to be well off in the town and she's studying in st. scholastica, at that time, my sis knew that the A1 SHOULD BE THE one responsible, so she refused to hire a lawyer they attended the hearing w/o a lawyer then when she was about to be inquest, my sis was coaching her, learning that no one is representing my niece  the fiscal automatically assigned a PAO lawyer then this lawyer wrote the A1, the AI COMPLIED AND PAID THE DAMAGES..,

i would suggest that you pray and ask GOD'S  guidance before making the step, i believe IF its GOD'S WILL, YOU will be guided to the right people...that will help and assist you..

[kikaygimikera]

Hindi pa. Hindi ko nga alam yon. Ive heard of it and a lot of people are telling me to file sa PAO pero what scares me now kasi may kaya sila at maipluwensha baka gumawa at magfile si ex dahil ako may boyfriend na ako ngayon. Gusto ko na lang mag move on at sabi ko sa sarili ko, hahayaan ko na lang sila ng kabit niya magsama, wag na lang niya ako guguluhin at kunin ang anak ko... So far di na nga nya nakikita yung anak namin. Ayokong makisama siya sa kabit ng asawa ko.

[phurple0515]

Question: Until what age pwede humingi ng Child support sa Husband?  Lifetime na ba ito or there is a limit din?

[gorgeousmama]

Question: Until what age pwede humingi ng Child support sa Husband?  Lifetime na ba ito or there is a limit din?

first and foremost sis it depends on the capacity of your husband, the court will decide depending on the father's income AND HIS FINANCIAL CAPABILITY and the needs of the child..

it will depends on the father if he is willing, but UNDER the law me  limit

[gorgeousmama]

Hindi pa. Hindi ko nga alam yon. Ive heard of it and a lot of people are telling me to file sa PAO pero what scares me now kasi may kaya sila at maipluwensha baka gumawa at magfile si ex dahil ako may boyfriend na ako ngayon. Gusto ko na lang mag move on at sabi ko sa sarili ko, hahayaan ko na lang sila ng kabit niya magsama, wag na lang niya ako guguluhin at kunin ang anak ko... So far di na nga nya nakikita yung anak namin. Ayokong makisama siya sa kabit ng asawa ko.

sis your'e right MOVE ON  ka na lang, anyways you have a bf na, kasi if you wikll pursue the support case ,it will be more complicated your bf will be use against you, double standard
ang batas and besides your child is with you naman

so try to make it on your own, let karma take its course,
for the meantime enjoy your son and your family,,,
that way di ka pa ma stress,

[phurple0515]

^^ thanks sis gorgeousmama. 

[høtlipz]

sana may sumagot sakin.

me and my ex is not married. yung daughter ko is 3 y.o now. before when i was pregnant,  nagpapadala siya ng money though minsan pumapalya talaga. nung nanganak ako, CS kasi ako so mejo malaki talaga nagastos namin sa hospital, i remember 14k lang binigay nya kasama na dun yung mga gamit ng anak ko. then nung nanganak na ako siguro mga 1st 3 months nagpapadala siya pang gatas and diaper, tapos natigil kasi may nanira sakin. tapos nakapag-usap nanaman kami na sustentuhan niya yung bata tapos natigil nanaman kasi gusto ng family niya ipa-DNA test. gusto kong basagin mukha nung ex ko kasi sobrang kamukhang kamukha niya anak ko tatapos sasabihin nila na ipa-dna? grabe. wala nga siyang pangsustento ng maayos sa anak ko makukuha ba nila ipa-dna? nanggigigil talaga ako dun sa dad ng anak ko sobra. pag nireremind ko siya, siya pa ang galit. kapal ng mukha sobra! bakla siya. gusto ko sana mag-file ng legal action against him hindi ko lang alam kung valid kasi hindi kami kasal. sana may makatulong sakin dito. please let me know.

[moonie]

Pwede mong habulin for support. Pa-DNA test niya para wala nang pagdududa kung siya ang kailangan magbigay ng suporta sa bata.

[mihaihere]

sis nakasign ba na sha ang father nung bata? kung oo, you can file for support. at kung hindi takutin mo ng criminal case base on RA 9262

sadly asking support from a man is like asking him to cut his penis off

[singlemommie]

please HELP!!! can anyone please send me a sample of a demand letter for child support.

thanks much 

[Hesterliness]

Anyone of you who knows what to do if ur husband is earning well and does not declare his real earnings to avoid paying taxes and avoiding responsibilities?I do and a lot of us do.
First,my husband whom I left 3 years ago is a solid liar and mandarambong.We had two kids,the eldest is with me and my son who is 9 yrs old comes to my apartment depending to his daddy's mood swing.Sometimes he brings my son to me specially if he has a date with her gf(doesn't matter anyway)so I could babysit him.He still lives with his mother along with his nephew and stepfather.Nobody is actually taking care of my son so he learned to take care of himself alone which I am so guilty of.My misery is that I know that letting my son living with them is like another "monster" in the making because of the people around him.They are all crazy,disrespectful,lacks  education,blabbermouth and hopeless so even if I try to correct my son when I see "those people's" attitude in him makes me unworthy of a mother because I couldn't take him out on that jungle.The reason for this is that I can not afford to get him from his father.
I believe that Child support is only a paper and a law that doesn't work for us pinoy.Paying around 15 to 20K for child support agreement which will only be valid for a certain period of time because of the uprising prices of the children's necessities is like flushing money in the toilet.If husband ignores his monthly support then you have to spend another thousand of peso for filing another complain.Hopeless,endless,tiring,isn't it?If I take my son with me I perfectly assumed that he will be good on providing from the start and nothing to the next month.What shall we do to this irresponsible "clueless to Karma" people?Are they generally evil?
I miss my son everyday and it pricks my heart when I see and smell him dirty.I feel like a sinking boat when he talks like "them".His mind can not comprehend yet what tuition fee I was talking about when I am trying to explain why I couldn't get him from her ferocious nagging Lola and Daddy who is so focused to her very much immature gf.I do not know what to say and do when he ask me if he could stay like her Ate because he doesn't want to go back to my inlaws.
It's summer and my son is with me,he never mind of calling his father because he doesn't miss him.I am afraid that his daddy had a plan of giving all the responsibilities to me because my daughter said that her Lola notices that the gf is pregnant.Husband is always telling alibis that he couldn't send our son to school because he had lots of expenses this year and he is helping her gf.He is asking me if Icould take both of the kids and support them as well without his help.Can he hear his self?Of course not.Natuluyan na sa pagka buwang.
I feel so helpless na talaga..The bonus part is kapag bilog ang buwan tumatawag para mambwisit,scary but true walang palya yan.He kept talking 3 hrs staight pag binabaan mo sa celfone tatawag pa rin endlessly.Nun magkasama pa kami kahit hanggan umaga!My goodness talaga..ang sakit sakit sa panga este sa dibdib.Panu va eetoh

[mfs0220]

any ideas on how i will be able to file a demand letter for a child support for an ofw ex-husband in POEA or OWWA? Any NGO's who gives assistance to women for free? I don't know kasi where to start, my ex-husband is here in the Philippines for a vacation but will be leaving again 1st week of June. Thanks...

[wandergirlC]

^ sis if you're within Metro Manila, go to UP Office of Legal Aid in Diliman. Pwede ka din patulong sa PAO, meron ding free legal assitance ang IBP (Julia Vargas in Ortigas ang office) and San Sebastian College of Law.