How would you like to be Courted?

[kutingpie]

Do you still prefer the traditional way? or anything goes?

[luisacart]

i would love to be courted the traditional way unfortunately i don't have the patience for it. my mom used to tell me stories about how she was courted by her suitors when she was young and i've always thought the old ways is really romantic. ahh.. to be serenaded by your crush! wouldn't that be romantic?

[babyjapnurse01]

anything goes for me. pero just like what sis luisacart mentioned, nakakainggit whenever my mom makes kuwentos about how her suitors courted her back in the kopong-kopong days haha.

in fairness, meron padin naman guys na nanghaharana nowadays, di nga lang the traditional way na pag silip mo sa window andun sha singing with matching gitara and backups. harr!

pero i would appreciate it much if a guy is willing na ligawan even my mom, parang somehow it shows how sincere he is.. besides, mom looks intimidating lang naman, pero she doesnt bite, in fact, shes super nice pa nga, except to those guys na di niya feel ang aura. hehe

[honey_iya]

Paanong traditional ba yung hinaharana? corny na yata nun ngayon

Ako medyo conservative padin ng konti, gusto ko sa bahay talaga. Pero si hubby nakapunta ng bahay nung BF ko na sya kasi naman parang walang ligawang nangyari haha.

Naalala ko nung college days ko, nag bakasyon ako sa province...may umakyat ng ligaw sa akin, naglabas ng itak lolo ko (RIP)

[babyjapnurse01]

^ whats your idea ba sis of the word "harana" sa panahon ngayon?

i find it sweet if the guy would sing me a song, not the typical harana from the olden days ha, counted padin naman as harana yung kinakantahan ka diba? and i dont find it corny at all. sweet pa nga eh haha!

[Purple_Power]

^^Meaning naman ng traditional way is yung simple like punta sa bahay yung lalake then magbibigay ng rose or any other gifts. Not necessarily na Harana. For me pwedeng Harana rin pero they can do it in innovative way na hindi mukhang corny if they want instead of using the usual guitar they could use the electric guitar  and use any other songs na related sa courtship na pwedeng rock type 

Honestly I don't like the concept of courting I mean good thing I've never experienced this kasi I could really imagine na sobrang maiilang ako sa guy lalo naman kung hindi ko siya type. Iba pa rin talaga for me ang nadevelop na lang ako at nainlove atleast naging comfortable ako. The concept of courting to me kasi is like a formality and courtesy as well. Another thing na I don't like this lalo na't hindi mo pa kilala ng buo yung guy it is because puro positive aspect lang ang ipapakita niya hanggang sa parang ka niyang sinesales talk. Ayaw ko pa man din sa tao na parang too good to be true kung magsalita na nairereflect mo na sa pagkatao niya.

If ever na maranasan ko ang traditional well ito naiisip ko na gusto ko I will really make it creative or in innovative way

Kakanta siya na mala Michael Jackson at kung may back up man dapat lahat sila sumasayaw. Gusto ko rin silang makitang magbreakdance. Gawin nilang paghaharana like Jabawookeez type (I dunno the right spelling) yung tipong sabay rin sila magwave habang yung suitor sumasayaw na kumakanta. Sana makita ko rin siyang magsplit ng 180 degrees. Sabay wave niya ang paper (Can I court you?)
Ang ayoko lang na gawin ng suitor ay gagawin niya yung kanta into rap dahil napakaconstant lang naman ng tono nun. Kung hindi naman niya hilig sumayaw kung buhay pa Piano namin gusto ko tutugtog siya habang kumakanta at kung gusto niya back up of course gusto ko may Tenor, baritone at bass (tama ba? yung sa choir). Kung walang any other source or instrument then do it in Acapella manner lalo na kung magback up pa siya pero kailangan maayos. Pwede ring may violin tapos Viva La Vida ang tone ng kanta niya about appreciation meaning hindi niya kakantahin ang lyrics ng Viva La Vida kundi parang yung love letter niya ang kakantahin niya. Acapella can do. Another thing pwede ring Everything She Does is Magic yung may kaunting revision sa lyrics nito. Acapella or with instrument can do.

Regarding gifts I would appreciate flowers but I want it colorful. Balloons as well or stuff toys. As much as possible I don't like chocolates kasi ang dami rito nun sa bahay and every month meron kami nun. Other than that sasakit lang lalamunan ko. Ayoko rin sanang bigyan niya ako ng love letter kasi gusto ko mag express siya ng appreciation to me in person or vocal. Yun nga lang as much as possible ayoko nung sobrang bango ng mga ginagamit niyang salita na parang na siyang nagsesales talk at ayoko rin ng pangako. At kung comfortable na ako sa nanliligaw sa akin marami akong maitatanong sa kanya like... Bakit mo ako nililigawan? Bakit ako ang pinili mo para mahalin mo ako? Sa palagay mo ba kaya mong ihandle ang pagiging isang ako? How would you handle our problems during relationship or how do you want to settle it do you have any idea on what to do? What are your insecurities? I would tell mine as well. How many exes that you have and what made you decide to break up with them?

So many questions to think pero antok na ako kaya edit ko na lang 

to be serenaded by your crush! wouldn't that be romantic?

I am not really into courtship pero siguro kung sa akin ito nangyari I would be really flattered at siempre siya lang ang kaya kong maitotolerate to court me kasi gusto ko siya eh! so hindi ako maiilang.

[rckgypsy]

just tell me and my parents about it.

[ms_balugz]

ligaw an muna mga kapatid ko, kapag approve at type ko siya, then sasagutin ko siya

[moonstar_004]

i'm not much for formal courting. tamang friends muna, hang out, start dating. i find it more comfortable e.

i'm seeing someone now, exclusively. it really helps that we were friends for a year, before he made a move. i like that he finds ways to make typical cheesy moments, funny. and he usually does little stuff that makes me happy.

and the best line that he said to me so far was: IF EVER, we'll be together eventually, i'd still court you everyday.

[sugardrop]

I don't believe in courtship in a sense that I think it's something that should go on and on and on and not just on the initial stage of "getting to know each other". Chances are both of you will just put your best feet forward so instead of getting to really know each other, you only get to know the "good" side of the other person. Whereas if you just go out, chill, take it easy and just have fun and talk, no pressure, you get to know each other better. Hopefully, even the not so impressive things about them. Well, I dunno but I guess meron pa din na konting pa-impress with that. Ako pa naman, medyo may katangahan sa ganyan, di ko alam na nanliligaw na pala until nasabihan ako na bato daw ba ako. Parang if you like each other, go out. No pressure to jump into a relationship.

[babypowder99]

^^ same here, not that formal courting stuff, pwedeng mag start as friends muna din let's see kung comatible kami but mostly guys na nakikilala ko bakit puro physical thingy ang gustong gusto nilang topic what i eman about "s**" ganun kaya kaka turn off parang lahat na lang ng guys na nakikilala ko i thought ok na pero at the end yun lang pala after nila parang hirap na ata makahanap ng guy na truely mamahalin ka not only sa part na ganun

[miss resilient]

gusto ko ay yung hinaharana....

[hazelbrown_eyes27]

traditional. Ayoko yung kung saan saan nakikipag kita. He can date me but,Iam going to make sure na nanligaw muna siya sa house bago niya ako i date sa labas.Pero, syempre, susunduin at ihahatid pa rin niya ako sa house

[hazelbrown_eyes27]

traditional. Ayoko yung kung saan saan nakikipag kita. He can date me but,Iam going to make sure na nanligaw muna siya sa house bago niya ako i date sa labas.Pero, syempre, susunduin at ihahatid pa rin niya ako sa house

[galadriel]

traditional way pa rin. this way can better prove if a guy is really sincere.

[Ishasophia]

kahit hindi traditional basta sincere yung guy.. simple text or tawag just to check if im ok..ihahatid ako once in a while kahit hindi araw araw.

[isobel]

i've been pursued in different ways by different guys. i've been showered with gifts, serenaded, asked point-blank, hounded by texts/calls, asked on dates-disguised-as-something-else-like-group-dates-wherein-everybody-else-mysteriously-cancels (geez), etc., but when it came down to it, i didn't need any courting pala. all i needed to know was that i'm in love with the person who's madly in love with me.

although i'm kind of glad my boyfriend has already done the courting when we were younger so i know he'd do it for me, hehe.

[shopaholic18]

personally i want to be courted traditional way and gusto ko din courtship palang papakita na niya yung real siya...i don't want guys setting their best foot forward when their courting tapos pag kayo na iba na ugali nya...i know there are only a few that does this, one of which is my current bf...can you imagine nanliligaw palang nag clash na talaga yung ugali namin and that made us know each other better and we learned how to compromise since then...

[hersmart4ever]

Gusto ko tulad nung napapanood ko sa mga old movies. Where in napaka-gentleman ng nanliligaw.

[rainbow11]

i prefer the traditional way... although magpapakabait talaga yung suitor on this stage, mas ok na yun kesa naman sa idadaan lang sa pagtetext or pa-cute lang. dun ko rin kasi matetest yung perseverance ng guy e.