I am freshly widowed and would like to share this to all married women out there

[thebratinella]

thank you for sharing your story, sis. i feel so blessed to have a loving husband. talagang dapat hindi itake for granted ang mga important people sa buhay natin. yesterday, my husband and i argued over something trivial. maghapon kami magkaaway to think na we initially planned to spend the whole day bonding kasi he didn't have to work. after being angry for a few hours, natauhan ako at naisip ko na we wasted several hours feeling upset. naubos na yung time na dapat naenjoy na namin ang company ng isa't-isa. nakipagbati ako sa kanya. i apologized for the wrong things i did and said. dati, naghahanap ako ng masisisi just to make sure i end up being right pero natuto na ako tumanggap ng pagkakamali. it is futile to argue all the time. yung nawalang oras di na mababalik. sayang lang. natatakot ako na baka one day, too late na para marealize ko kung gaano siya kahalaga sa buhay ko. i can't live a day without him.

[pau16]

i had to find the courage pa to click on your thread, sis.  i'm so scared of tragic stories but then after reading your post, i said to myself, this isn't a tragedy at all, it's a beautiful love story.  i admire your strength and remember that many people wait forever to find their one true love but you, as young as you are now, just did.  keep the faith and God bless you and your daughter always.  thank you for sharing.

[miming]

im not yet married pero natouch ako sa story mo and at the same time na teary eyed ako on how your love life is.  so great at perfect example ng real & undconditional love.  mejo na goose bumps ako when you said nay our hubby died of brain aneurysm kasi my father's bf died also because of that.  eh medyo natakot lang ako na ( knock on wood ) pwede mangyari din sa kanya yun.  wag naman sana kahit not so perfect si bf love ko pa din siya.  your such a brave person kasi kaya mo siyang ikwento sa amin ng walang sadness instead eh full of inspiration pa.  may God always bless you and your baby

[belletee]

Sis you are still fortunate to have lived a life full of love.  Some say life is not fair and at times I agree, but generally what we should do is to focus on the good things life gave us.  Kasi most of the time we focus on the bad things.  It is ok to go back to the places that gave us so much beautiful memories but we must make sure those places will not hinder us from moving on, especially if you have responsibilities in life like your kid.

[monskie]

grabe.im so amazed and jealous also....im married..but i think im not happy....for all the wrong reasons....

[princessvhie]

sis nakakaiyak naman yung post mo, napanood pa naman namin ni hubby yung movie na "and i love you so".

Namiss ko tuloy c hubby ko he's currently out of the country right now, well i promise to love my hubby more and more everyday. 

[wookies]

sis, natouch at naiyak ako sa story mo...at the same time, natakot din kasi dependent ko kay hubby at di ko kayanin na mawala sya sakin. super bait pa naman si hubby kaya mahal na mahal ko talaga. thanks for sharing. God bless you. 

[Minakichu]

Your post and your blog made me cry. Such a beautiful kind of love that goes beyond time and space. I'm sure he is hugging you and little Gabrielle everynight from Above. You are touching many peoples lives with your story esp to women who are taking their partners for granted. May you continue to be an inspiration to all of us.

[hersmart4ever]

Nakaka-touch sis. That kind of relationship is worth remembering.

[chengkii]

Kaka-touch naman iyun story mo, sis.

Sana umabot din ako sa point na iyan. Almost similar kami ni vanillamist. Pero pareho kaming working ni hubby. Mas capable din ako to provide. Although wala pa naman kami baby. Siguro, pag naka-ipon na kami to start a business, I will lie low.

Thanks for sharing. Very inspirational iyun story mo. I will post it sa notes for sa FB. 

[nhess]

5 minutes before I read your post, I was confused about my feelings for my husband.. I was actually bragging these thoughts to a friend..then I clicked your post.. I feel like God used you to wake me up for this useless thoughts, you made me realized that My husband is really my best friend, my confidante.. sa kabila ng mga pagkukulang nya, like he's not friendly, aloof etc.. i know that he loves me more than I love him.. he's giving his all to make me happy.. I can feel your sadness and longing to Floren.. I also felt the same when he left me to work overseas, I was very dependent to him and don't know how to move on.. I was actually blaming him before kasi ako na ang mag babayad at pipila sa bank for the bills..those petty things..

Thank you sis.. Digital talaga ang pagsagot sa akin ni Lord 

God bless you and I am wishing you all the best in life.. God is with you..

[ymmat]

naiyak ako,, sbrang nkakalungkot nman sis gabrielle.. bilib ako s tapang mo kc bka pag ako d ko kyanin lalo n dependent ako mxado ke hubby. thanks for sharing ur story kc may ntutunan tlg ko.. prang gsto ko sis gayahin yung gnawa mong support n kahit s paglalaro lang ng red alert and pagtingin nya ng porn pics andun k prin todo suporta s knya.. god bless sis.. always remember binabantayan k plagi ni hubby mo anjan lang cya plagi s tabi mo, khit wala n cya his memories still remains..

[Gabrielle Andre]

sis ymmat, ang totoo  hindi ko tlaga gusto yung bisyo niya about the porn thing... but he told me he wanted to get over that vice pero nahihirapan siya. napansin ko kasi before if I nag him about it, parang feeling nya wala na talaga siya kwenta. Soi just kept quiet about it but sometimes i would ask him kung sino ang pinaka maganda at sexy hehe... when he realized that i stopped being insecure of his love for me...yun nawalan na ng gana sa porn thing nya...BUT I know it was because din nagkaroon siya ng personal relationship with the Lord, nagkaroon siya ng takot sa Diyos.

Ive been widowed for 10months now, and it still hurts a lot. Before my husband got sick, I also believed na hindi ko talaga kaya mabuhay na wala siya... but God is indeed wonderful. Every day is a miracle for me now.

HIndi natin kaaway ang mga asawa natin, they are supposed to be our "katuwang" in life...our life partner and bestfriend. You should both be on the same side, hindi magka kumpetensiya but magkakampi sa lahat ng bagay.

Share ko lang mga sis...if you have the time read the book "LET ME BE A WOMAN" by Elisabeth Elliot (you can find it in Christian bookstores). You will really be blessed by it....

[ymmat]

pro sis bilib tlg ko syo.. ideal wife and mother k for me.. bihira nlng kc ata ang ktulad mo ngyon.. n-feel ko yung sacrifice and love mo for the family..

[pompz]

waaaaaah nakakaiyak naman sis- you're so braved, God blessed you a good husband, a lovable daughter and good a heart sis, your story gave me more reason to love more each day, spent quality time, ako pa naman sis lagi ko naiisip paano kung mawawala sa akin si hubby paano na ko, matapang ako in some way pero sa ganon hindi ko kaya, lalo na totally orphaned na ako even my lolo's and lola's wala na din, whom can I turned to, that's why I always pray to God, takot ako mawala si hubby, but sabi nga , there is a reason why God put you in that situation He has a plan for you and for your baby. thanks sis for inspiring us.

[honey-ecclaire]

pareho tayo sis,,all i have is my own family bro and sis,and inlaws since my mom and dad passed away that early...
i don't know what will happen to me if this will happen...

i know sis gab is in uae now,she has many things to fix..keep fighting sis!

[lizzie]

thanks for sharing your story with us...kakaiyak cya but at the same time daming ma rerealize after reading it. ur very brave and strong talaga. it let me realize how fortunate i am to have a very loving and understanding hubby kahit na minsan he felt na medyo nababalewala ko cya. bilib talaga ako sa tapang mo.

God Bless you and your little girl...

[Gabrielle Andre]

sis honey,

am back in the philippines now. no plans yet of going back to the UAE pa but I really want to because I was happy there. It was where we had our life together.

share ko lang...you married a man with imperfections...so dont expect him to be perfect. You married a man so dont expect him to understand you totally.

madalas natin reklamo kasi sa mga asawa natin is hindi siya masyado showy sa love, or hindi malambing, or minsan parang deadma... it's not because hindi nila tayo mahal, but because ganyan lang talaga sila... if you feel bad about it, talk to him and tell him what you feel... do it gently, don't nag...don't go accusing him kasi tataas na agad defenses niya and hindi mo na yan makakausap ng matino...
wag magdadabog or biglang naka quiet mode or iiyak and expect na maiintindihan nila yun kasi as what my hubby used to tell me " hindi ako mind reader" and as a guy, iba pagkaintindi nila sa signals that we give so ang labas is a misunderstanding and "away" sa marriage...

yes I was blessed ( and still am )... na realize ko na hubby ko nagturo sa akin how to be a good wife... he tells me things from a man's point of view... na yun nga magkakampi kami sa lahat ng bagay, we are partners and iisa lang ang goal namin in our marriage.... and since it was really my desire to be a good wife, talagang nilagay ko sa puso ko yung mga sinabi niya sa akin. But I was still me, hindi naman ako binago ni hubby kasi he married me nga daw for what ZI am... everything just flowed out from the love and desire to make the marriage really work and most of all, from placing God in the center of our marriage.

[vanillamist]

^ thanks sis for always inspiring us with your reply.. i hope i can be like you when it comes to your relationship to your husband. ako talagang matigas kase ang ulo ko. mga sinasabi nya hindi ko pinapakinggan and parang hindi nagsisink in yung mga yun sakin.. thanks for reminding me this:


"you married a man with imperfections...so dont expect him to be perfect. You married a man so dont expect him to understand you totally."

lately kase im always thinking and questioning kung bakit ganon sya.. ang dami-daming mga bagay na naiisip ko na parang dahil sa mga yon eh mejo nagiging distant ako sa kanya... it's not he's fault naman, kase i can see na he's doing his best naman (may financial problem kase kami ngayon).. pero madalas kase iniisip ko bakit hindi na lang sya ganito,bakit di na lang sya ganyan... hindi ko rin naman ma-open sa kanya kase baka ma-hurt ego nya...

[honey-ecclaire]

i thought you will fix some things pa sa uae yun yung last post mo di ba?..

Anyway mabuti at magkasama ulit kayo ni baby mo…

Sobrang thanks for sharing..minsan kasi naiisip ko na he’s overpowering me,alam ko naman na sya ang boss sa amin minsan may mga opinions ako na parang kontra sya palagi..minsan naiinis na lang ako sa kanya dahil dun sounds so childish bago pa lang kase kami…