efforts tapos in the end masaktan pa rin. How did you let go of your fear na itiwala ang lahat sa hubby mo? I really want to make my marriage work, gusto ko malagpasan din namin yung mga trials na dumadating sa relationship namin, ayoko din maging hindrance yung fear na nararamdaman ko para pumalpak sa role ko bilang asawa.
paano ko ba to i explain without crying?
you see, it wouldve been our 8th anniversary a few days ago.
I used to be selfish sa marriage namin, kaya hubby told me syempre guys have this defense mechanism din.
Basta nung nakita at naramdaman ng asawa ko na i trusted him with all, he worked hard din to be worthy of that trust. Many times during the early years of our marriage, i wanted na lahat ng time niya naka focus sa akin. Nagagalit ako pag palagi siya naglalaro ng Red alert, or lalo na pag tumitingin ng porn pics sa internet. The more I quarreled him about these things, the more na he would retreat from me.
So what I did was, Sinusuportahan ko siya sa lahat ng ginagawa niya, pag mali naman inaalalayan ko lang siya. BUT I wait for him to make the first move in showing that he needs my advice or my help sa isang bagay.
When he plays red alert, I make sure na may snacks siya sa tabi, or I would sometimes give him a massage. Pag tumitingin siya porn pics, I just keep quiet or minsan naman I give comments na maganda, or sexy...etc. Ang naging resulta? Magpapaalam na yan siya maglaro ng red alert, sasabihin niya, 1 hour lang ha. Tapos pagbibigyan niya ako sa lahat ng gusto ko. Then he stopped looking at porn pics. Tapos ang pinakamaganda pa dun, he would always reassure me na maganda ako, na although we both know the fact na im overweight, Im still the only woman for him. Mas naging madalas yung praises niya sa akin. I showed interest sa lahat ng mga hilig niya sa buhay, in return he tried his best to give me all I want in life. Naging LIFE PARTNER ko talaga siya in every sense of the word.
He felt that I respected him and loved him regardless of his shortcomings, and it made him want to be a better man for both me and our baby.
and mga sis, No i did not lose my identity. I said it felt like I was losing my identity at first pero in the end I found a better man, and had a very beautiful marriage. I was still the same girl he married. I was never a doormat, my hubby used to encourage me to pursue my passions in life, the same way I supported him sa mga gusto din niya. I just believe kasi the moment you marry someone, you become one with that person. Wala nang sa akin, sa kanya, but sa aming dalawa na. Life is easier and lovelier then kasi may KATUWANG ka na sa lahat ng bagay.
