how do you discipline your kids?

[pinkpotato]

^ i think it would be better kung si hubby mo sasaway. at kung ikaw man sumayaw, in a nice way naman siguro kaya okay lang. nakikinig naman ba ang kids sayo?

my husband doesnt want to invite other people in our room din that includes kids. so when were in other people's house, he doesnt like me (when im asked to use the master's bedroom toilet, kasi sometimes mas malinis or mas maayos dun as per the owner) or my daughter going inside the couple's bedroom. may issue sya sa privacy so as much as possible di ko rin pinapalaro mga bata sa kwarto.

i normally just tell the kids to not go inside our room kasi magaglit si tito nila (my husband).

[beatrize zuri]

grumpybear- sis i like your approach, will try that to my kids 

[fairywinkle79122]

^^ maayos naman pagkasabi ko sis,pero seryosong mukha kasi short-tempered rin kasi ako lalo na dami bata sa paligid.ok naman sa akin kung medyo magulo pero mas okay sa akin kung turuan nila mga bata mag behave pag wala sa bahay nila.pansin ko kasi sa family ng hubby ko,porki bata,hinahayaan gawin lahat.kasi ang dahilan nila,bata yon.pero 4yrs old pataas na kasi mga bata na yon kaya pwede na pagsabihan nila..

anyway,nahihirapan naman ako mag discipline minsan sa 20 months old baby ko.kasi grabe makaiyak,talagang tumitili siya.sabi nga ng daddy niya para siyang chimpanzee,sa sobrang lakas ng tili niya..yung nabasa ko sa babycenter pag ganyang nag tantrums tapos parang may halong pagka kulit lang,iwanan mo muna siya,kasi nga di sila basta tatahan.ang ginagawa ko iniiwan ko muna,tapos ayon makikita ko naman siya busy-busyhan na sa mini kitchen set niya,masaya na uli.minsan dapat lang mahaba pasensya kasi yung ganyang papunta na ng 2 years old lumalabas na raw ang ugali niyan sabi ng pedia niya.

[twelvth_goddess]

my husband doesnt want to invite other people in our room din that includes kids. so when were in other people's house, he doesnt like me (when im asked to use the master's bedroom toilet, kasi sometimes mas malinis or mas maayos dun as per the owner) or my daughter going inside the couple's bedroom. may issue sya sa privacy so as much as possible di ko rin pinapalaro mga bata sa kwarto.

i normally just tell the kids to not go inside our room kasi magaglit si tito nila (my husband).

The same goes with us Haps. Ang bedrooms, particularly the master's bedroom, is off limits to visitors. Our room is super off-limits to everyone, kaya minsan kahit pinapapasok ko na yung nephew ko to play with my daughter, it feels awkward pa din for him and lumalabas kagad

[bea_wang]

I have been researching about this topic for awhile now kasi I have two boys that are 4 and 3 years old. Aside from the problem with discipline, nag-aaway sila lagi and it drives me nuts. Well some of the things, we've been trying now that I've found are: Establishing ground rules. I had our rules printed out and laminated. Then I explained it to them with corresponding consequences. No hitting anyone in the family, no throwing of food or toys, etc. Then I also read this book called Have a new kids by Friday.. Basically it says you're the parent. It's your job to supervise them, discipline them but also love them. Pag may discipline problem, do not be a fiend to your kid, that's not what he needs at the moment. You have to be an authoritative parent. No authoritarian or permissive. And one of the good advices there is "say it once, turn your back and walk away". No nagging, no negotiations, etc.

[ri-anne]

my daughters are ages 7 and 5. thank god madali naman silang sabihan. they still fight ocassionally over the same toy (kahit na andaming ibang toys sa paligid!) ...kailangan lang talaga maging consistent at explain-explain...i also tell them to talk things out with each other imbes na puro sumbong (mommy! ate did this! or mommy! G did that...blah blah blah)
pero i notice that they only start acting up when they're tired or hungry, or kulang sa attensyon...but otherwise, very sweet at mababait na kids sila...

[cerelina]

Hi paano kayo nag start mag discipline ng kids nyo my daughter just turned 1 she's very sweet sa daddy nya minsan sakin din but my issue with her kasi is that she's such a drama queen as young as she is marunong na sya mang ayaw pag meron sya gusto super tantrums and she's throwing things lalo na when she's sleepy na tapos meron sya gusto na hindi mabibigay agad magwawala na sya she's very clingy din sa daddy nya and na observe ko pag wala daddy nya mabait naman sya nakaintindi konti perp pag nanjan na si daddy ayan na artista nanaman kaaway ko nananaman sya 

[marose17]

^ I think the best way to stop the "drama" or antics is to ignore your daughter when she does those things.

[younis]

^^tama si sis marose, effective yun for me, that's what I always do with my daughter kapag nasa "theatrics" mode ang anak ko.

dati pa nga, kapag sya na yung nananakit sa akin, kunwari hahampasin ako ng kamay nya. I will tell her not to talk to me. kalaunan aamuin ako at magsosorry.

then pag kalmado na sya, that's the time I will explain to her kung anong mali ang ginawa nya and that she should not do it again.

[simplykristine08]

Makikisali na din ako dito. Turning 4 this April na ang anak ko.

Grabe ang tantrums ng batang to. He was not like this nung nasa Pinas pa kameng 2. Naspoiled siguro sya ng daddy at mga ninongs nya. Tuwing may gusto sya na hindi masusunod, iiyak at magwawala. Kahit nasa mall kame for example, biglang may gusto syang gawin na hindi nya magawa, hihiga sya sa lapag. Ako, hinahayaan ko lang, hanggang sa tumayo sya ng kusa nya. Everytime yung housemate namin na bata may new toys, gusto nya meron din sya. Kapag sinasaway naman, hindi na saamin nakikinig. Hindi ko na alam ang gagawin kong disiplina

Sobrang kulit, harot. Parang may kitikiti sa katawan ang anak ko. Napapalo ko na nga at nasisigawan, minsan napapagod na ko kasi bihirang bihira na makinig saakin at kay hubby.

[m_lim]

normal ba na pinapalo ang sarili niyang ulo pag galit or hindi binigay ang gusto? minsan kinakalmot rin niya cheeks niya.

she's 1year 1month.

nakakatakot baka maging brat ang anak ko!

[GMGravity]

^tingin ko sis, way niya iyon para makuha attention mo. Napansin ko kasi noong nasa ganyang age pa lang iyong isang apo ng bienan ko na sila nag-aalaga, sinusundot naman niya ng daliri niya lalamunan niya para maduwal siya kapag hindi binibigay gusto niya. Effective kasi kaya siguro inuulit ulit nila. I just don't know if anong effect nito sa bata, pero super tigas ng ulo niya ngayon mag 4 na siya. Nagsisigaw kapag hindi mo binigay gusto, hagis dito, hagis doon, buti nga hindi na yata nandudura ngayon kapag sinita mo.

[kirohanz29]

Ako i'm really having such a hard time with my 2kids. Halos magkasunod kasi sila. My eldest is a girl , and next is boy.
Super kulit nila as in.
Ang prob ko sa girl ko is she is super Drama Queen.
She has her way of makig papansin. Example,nasa kitchen ako preparing their food and i'll tell her na wag pumunta dun, she'll shout na "Mommy kiss". Ipipilit nya na ikiss ko sya habang naka pout sya sa malayo. Then i have no choice na pumayag kasi i can't resist naman yung kiss nya.
Then minsan naman she'll say "mommy wee". That's her way of saying she has to pee. Ulit ulit nya sasabihin yun para lang makapunta sa kitchen kasi banda rin dun yung cr. Minsan nga hindi kame naniniwala na mag wiwi sya dahil minsan paraan lang nya para magpapansin.
Kapag naman sinasabihan biglang iiyak sasabihin nya "mommy wawa(while pointing to any parts of her body) kahit naman walang nangyari.
She's very smart to the point na nauubusan na ko ng ways to discipline her. Kasi kada pagbabawalan ko sya nkakagawa sya ng way.
I tried to spank her narin. Though natatakot sya, kaso minsan kasi pag nakikita nyang yung lil bro nya yung nagpapasaway and may ginagawa ako, papaluin nya. That's why as much as possible ayoko sya paluin kasi ginagaya nya.
Minsan naman sumusunod sila pero super paghirapan talaga.
Samahan pa ng youngest ko na super likot rin and lahat ng hawakan nya derecho sa bibig

[wrtr_mom]

Makikisali!

11years na only child ang firstborn ko so lahat ng attention naming magasawa, especially ako, ay nasa kanya. First 3 years of her life e stay-at-home ako, hands-on (no yaya) kaya ako talaga ang nagdisiplina sa kanya.

Since girl ang firstborn ko, tingin ko madali. Although masungit din kasi akong nanay. My philosophy is ako ang magulang so dapat magpakamagulang ako. I made it a point na may structure, routine sya and dapat sundin yun. Ang mga bawal, bawal talaga. Hirap, but I have to be firm. Kasi ang hubby ko soft sa bata so ako yung disciplinarian. Though masungit ako, lenient din naman at times. Noong early years nya, we play together at kasama ko kahit saan.

Tinry ko ang time-outs when she was little, hanggang toddler and post-toddler years. Effective naman sa kanya. Yung length ng time-outs naman kasi corresponds to her age so nung 3 years old, 3minutes ang time-out. Then kakausapin ko iexplain ko ang reason why she got it. When she got a little older, kausap na lang talaga in a firm, serious tone.

Nung medyo malaki na, around gradeschool years na, mga 7-8 years old sya, ayun napipingot ko at napapalo sa bum nya pag talagang napipikon ako. Pero ginagawa ko lang yun pag kaming dalawa. Pumapasok kami sa kwarto para walang ibang nakakakita.

I also used to threaten her na itatapon ko ang books nya (treasured items nya) or whatever pero na-realize ko hindi talaga nagwo-work. Best pa rin kausapin sya nang maayos. Mahirap lang pag I'm out of wits.

Awa ng Diyos, naging mabait naman. Never nag-throw ng tantrum whether sa public places or sa bahay. Ngayong malaki na sya, I let her do her own thing. Mas relaxed na rin ako sa kanya kasi malaki na. Yung na-establish naming routine sa bahay, nafa-follow nya kahit di ko sabihin especially sa paggawa ng homework. There was a time na kaming mag-asawa we take turns in tutoring her as soon as we get home or may super reminders for her to check her bags and notes for homework. Ngayon, she does it by herself na lang mula nang kausapin sya nang masinsinan ng father nya na kung hindi nya aayusin ang studies nya, possible na maging repeater sya and dahil it's a reality, nagkaroon sya ng kusa.

[tiggerlily]

@fairywinkle79122: your house, your rules. when outside, your kid, your rules.

I don't like kids/guests in the rooms. Unless they are really close to the owner of the room. Parang nakakabastos naman sa may-ari ng room kung di mo kilala yung mga pumapasok.

We discipline (as much as possible) calmly. Yung kinakausap lang. Since 1yo ganun na kami. And always always (as much as possible) possitive reinforcement. No branding or name calling.

Respect out of love and not out of fear. Kapag out of fear kasi nakakalimutan na ang rules once tumalikod ang parents. But if out of love, hindi nawawala yung obedience kapag nakatalikod ka na.

Parents should also be models. Dapat kung ano yung binabawal sa kids, hindi nyo rin ginagawa. Excessive TV, fighting, spanking, etc. They are always watching us and copying us kaya be careful with what you do.

My kid is not perfect. So sometimes he makes mistakes and we are always there to correct him and show him the right way. He is God fearing so there are times that I ask him if what he did will make God happy and he knows the right answer naman. So far so good.

[pinkpotato]

I also used to threaten her na itatapon ko ang books nya (treasured items nya) or whatever pero na-realize ko hindi talaga nagwo-work. Best pa rin kausapin sya nang maayos. Mahirap lang pag I'm out of wits.

I do this. Mali ba to? There was a time before that when I arrived home, my daughter was in the floor crying. she was i think 5 yo then. all her toys were scattered. The maid said nag wild daw because inayos na nya ang ibang kalat which are the toys she's still playing. ayaw nya kasi pinapaki alaman gamit nya especially if she set it up herself. naguluhan na siguro si yaya kaya inayos. I calmly talked to my daughter and pinagsabihan din si yaya kasi nga bat pinaki alaman, rule of thumb na yun sa house, hanggat nilalaro pa ng bata, wag maki-alam. ikaw kaya, ayusin ang gamit mo na di ka pa tapos? But I guess my daughter was really disappointed that moment. Napuno na din ako i gave her time to calm herself pero pagbalik ko ganun pa din and worst gulo lalo. I took a trash bin and I told her Ill clean her kalat myself, derecho sa basurahan. grabe lalo iyak.  But I didnt stop hanggat hindi naayos.

Those are my littlest petshop na toys, MLP. imagine an liliit nun and their accessories.

Di ko naman tinapon, nag arte lang akong itatapon. hehe.

tapos now pag makalat sya and I tell her to fix her stuff tapos no reaction, I give her time, pagbalik ko dapat maayos na ha alam mo na san pupunta mga yan pag magulo pa rin. Ayun pagbalik ko maayos naman na.

Pero we let her play, okay magulo, makalat, minsan bumabaha pa ng tubig ang play area nya, those are fine basta ba after you play we clean up, if ayaw mo pa i-keep mga toys, just make it look neat at least. put on the side. And she does it herself, pag masyadong makalat, we help out. Esp now she has a baby sister who likes putting anything in her mouth, doble ingat kami and the Ate knows naman that. Minsan ganun lang talaga siguro bata kasi.

[tiggerlily]

^threats are okay as long as they are not empty threats at kapag hindi sila sumunod kailangan kaya mo gawin yung sinabi mo. kaya iniiwasan ko magsabi na itatapon ang toys. sinasabi ko lang itatago ko na pero di mo na makikita. hindi ko kasi kayang itapon talaga. kapag nahalata nila na hindi mo gagawin yung threat mo, hindi na sila makikinig sa yo. matatalino ang mga bata.

and as much as possible yung consequence na binibigay ko e may connection with what they shouldn't be doing. like with my son, he is always playing with his earphones. ang resulta, nasisira. ang consequence, kapag nasira yan hindi ko papalitan. kailangan yan pa rin ang gamitin nya especially kapag lumalabas kami. di naman pwedeng todo ang volume kung hindi nya marinig. so now, dahil nasira nya yung isang side ng earphones, tyaga tyaga sya.

I also want him to be responsible for himself. hindi ko chinacharge yung tablet nya. alam nya na kung paano magcharge kaya kapag nalobat, sya na ang nagchacharge. minsan nagrereklams kasi lobat na daw. so tinatanong ko sya asan na yung charger at i-charge nya. ginagawa nya naman.

[chasiderwin]

grabe na din ang mga kids now, di na tulad nung araw na tingin pa lang alam na ang ibig sabihin, now patid na ang litid at pasensya wala pa rin sa kanila, just like my son 4 year old, grabe na ang sutil, may cousin kasi din siya na only child, lahat ng gusto noon nasusunod, grabe ang iyak pag di masunod, pero kawawa naman sa palo ng ama kapag matigas ang ulo, still brat pa rin ang ugali ng bata. Lahat ng di magandang ginagawa ng cousin ng anak ko ginagaya ng anak ko, sumisigaw, nanunontok, buti na lang hindi ginagaya ng anak ko ang pagmumura... Kanina lang sinasabihan ko na wag umakyat sa itaas ng trysikel but still ginawa pa rin, tapos di na makababa, nung ibinaba ng mister ko nagalit pa sa akin at minura ko... naku nakakapang init ng ulo. nagalit si hubby, sinabihan ko na hindi na makikipaglaro sa kanya ang 2 boys ko kasi bad yung ginagawa nya.... hayz talaga

[PINKAHOLIC]

10 months palang ang anak ko pero bakas na ang pagiging sumpungin/ sutil haist.

[wifey_mommy]

I have 2boys. Eldest is 7 and yung bunso is 4yrs old. Honestly wala akong mabibigay na tip dahil lahat ng ginagawa ko di talaga nila pinapansin. We are living with MIL at the moment at I feel na yun ang reason why my kids ate very pasaway. Sobrang mag spoiled ang mga inlaws ko. One time nasa toystore kami out of the country kame nun at bibili sila ng toys before going home, yung kuya nakapili na and wants to rest na, yung bunso walang mahanap na gusto nya at nagsusumpong sya sa store, so sabi ko wag na lang ibili since wala naman gustong laruan at nagtatantrums lang. Ipinilit pa rin nilang ibili ng toy almoat 1hr pinipilit pa rin nila. Ayoko na lang talagang magka conflict with them kaya hinayaan ko na lang. Nadedepressed talaga ako kasi my kids are very ungrateful dahil lahat ng gusto nila binibigay sknla wether mabait or sumpong sila. Hindu narere enforce ang magandang attitude..hay! Right now me and hubby are both working kaya di ko masyadong nararanasan ang paghihirap sa discipline sknla by feb next yr mag stay at home na ako kase finally lilipat na kami sa sariling bahay namin. Im really hoping na hindi pa huli para maayos ko yung ugali ng mga anak ko. Nobela na to. Nagvent na ko ng bongga Thanks for reading